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What teachers wish they could tell parents

Updated on May 9, 2013

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If only teachers could be frank with parents


There are so many valuable things that teachers can impart to parents if only they would listen. Being a teacher of children is a lot like being a parent. You do not get paid what you are worth. Children are the greatest asset of any country; they can break or make our future. When your child is not with you who are they spending most of their time with? More than likely they are in some educator's or care givers care. For that reason, parents should realize the importance of great communication. Parents pay attention to your child, so that you can tell if something is wrong. There are so many child abusers who look for every opportunity to hurt kids when parents are not looking. I have taught kids who would say the strangest things and act in appropriately. So many kids have working parents and or single parents who rely on help for getting their kids home, after school care and extracurricular activities. Nevertheless, you have to do all you can do to protect your kids. Even if it is just spending 30 minutes, you have to also spend time, daily with your child to help them grow up properly. Even if you have to work crazy hours you have to put time in with your little people. Do not feel intimidated by educators. A lot of people have had bad experiences with school and teachers when they were children and find themselves straying away from expressing their concerns to teachers. Ask questions, as many as you like. Offer to volunteer. Make it known that you care and even if you can not be around at the school all the time, email the teacher any concerns. Understand that teachers, especially in public schools are expected to do massive amounts of work that means that they might not get back with you right away. Give the teacher a few days and then try again. Please try to resolve problems with teachers before involving the administration team (principals). Why? Because good teachers are professional and they value their job and understand how important it is to resolve situations involving students. Most districts train their staff to be able to handle problems at the teacher level. Often teachers have more than a few students, and they are mainly concern about the learning and safety of all the children than they are concern about anything else. Juggling the needs of several children can be overwhelming, when other less important happenings need attention.

Parents be real with yourself


If you know your child has a behavioral problem, blaming the teacher or throwing the problem off on him or her is not the solution. Admit to the truth is the first step in the right direction. I have seen parents who live in denial. "You are the problem" they say, and then I see the child disrespect their parent right in front of me. Avoiding your child's behavior problem only hurts them more. Children want you to correct them and set them straight. If they know they can manipulate their parents they will do it. Giving your child their way is not love. Love is correcting them when they are wrong. Putting children in school is making a statement to teachers that you trust in the system to work. Children can not come to the system and try to run it like they might run their homes. If they do well then catering to their every distraction takes away from their actual learning time. It really is simple, self discipline should be taught at home so that school time can be about learning. Teachers should be backing parents, reinforcing values that should start at home. Children need you, first. Being a parent is hard and takes a lot of dedication, being a real parent means that you do not lie for your kids and you make them face consequences now so that they can avoid lasting consequences when they grow up.

Parents STOP!

  • Doing your kids homework, Guide them instead, and feel free to meet with their teacher to discuss the best way to help your child get the most out of homework.
  • Sending sick kids to school, Of course, we want perfect attendance, however, the child's health is important and the health of fellow classmates in our classroom family.
  • Judge before hearing both sides of the story, Please be passionate about your child always, but realize that children need you to check out their stories. Sometimes children are crying out for help and we fail to here other times they avoid telling the truth to stay out of punishment. We as parents have to be wise and forever vigilant in hearing our children and in knowing what is occurring. When we discover that our little ones dare to lie to us we must teach our children the importance of honesty.
  • Praising bad behavior, I have seen parents who seem proud of their child like it is a rite of passage to win a first fight or to get caught kissing another student during school. Not making it clear that you disapprove of behavior that distracts from learning feeds that behavior.
  • Let your kids be idol at home all the time, television, for example, can be a great tool for learning. However, it can also keep hurt children by causing them to be unhealthy or uninterested in active movement and discovery. Children need great learning experiences at home as much as they do at school. Find easy activities for you to put together for them, ask the teacher for support and lets keep our children active learners.

How do you know your child has a good teacher?

I will be the first to say as a teacher, that there are great teachers and horrible teachers in the school systems. Here are some tips to guide a parent in figuring out what type your child has:

1) A good teacher is willing to meet with you and is observant of your child

2) Your child should bring graded work home often,

3) A record should be kept on your child, that shows progress and needs.

4) great activities and suggestions should be offered to parents to help reinforce learning at home, especially if the child has learning disabilities.

5) Good teachers are polite and professional

If we are doing are job we expect parents to do their job as well. When parents and teachers communicate with respect for one another's roles, the child benefits. People are different and have different personalities, so it is fair to say you might not like the teacher, but judge them based on professionalism and not personality. All respectable adults should receive respect from children. This makes it easy to train children when they respect authority.

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