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When your child simply is not a reader and probably never will be

Updated on March 4, 2012
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Here we go again: assigment from school - reading. I have been through this since my son started kindergarten. Kids shall read, read and read. I never grew up being pressured to read like this and I don't mind it at all, have not suffered because I did not read every day at all. Why is it that this is such a strong assignment in schools and why do they make it so superior important? I don't have a clear answer until this day.

While it is great if you enjoy reading, why enforce it on every single child as if they are all the same and have the same interest etc. It is not one hat fits all. My son and reading was a nightmare and I stopped pushing for it after several trial and fail attempts. He never really was a great book fan.

Already at the age of 2-3 I noticed the lack of interest. While I sat down with my kids and they were interested in listening. He was the one who wandered off, did not even look at the book. Later I don't know how many books I bought....none of them ever was touched by him. I tried to read them to him...with very little success. I addressed it with the teacher and she gave me all kind of suggestions....tried them all. No positive result. I asked friends what to do as well and tried their ideas as well. I took him with me to choose a book - the books were never read. I gave up and if there was an assignment to read - I tried but not hard, either he did it or not.

I let the teachers know clearly that he simply hates reading. He hates it. Like other kids hate writing or math....he hates reading. Period! That's him and that is how he is and I felt the more I pushed for it, the more I pushed him away and I got aggravated and desperate - why? Just because the school insist on each and every child to be a reader. When will they understand that they are not all the same?

My son is in 11th grade now...one more year of school, luckily not that much pressure on reading anymore, but now and then, especially during summer break they usually get the project to read a book! Why can't they come up with a different assignment? My son remembers that ugly assignment maybe a week before school starts and then I have to find a way to get the book within a day! He waits until last minute...maybe he's hoping it goes away....

Why have all the other skills been forgotten, only reading matters? Schools should give other choices and be more open to the different types of students as an individual. They should give the children choices and not a daily task of reading. Imagine you shall do something that you don't like every day? Does that make your child looking forward to school? - All there is about school is a lot of nightmares getting his reading assignments done, giving me headache and lots of books were bought and given away again untouched.

I had my share of this and we need to turn around and find other good assignments than just reading - there is more to teaching than just reading! How about research assignment? How about collecting something? How about a creative task? Give options instead of force and creating more dislike than there already is.


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      beadreamer247 5 years ago from Zephyrhills, FL

      HI dahoglund,

      well, sometimes that's true...just don't see it ever happen to my son....no matter what. If it does happen I will announce it in public! :-)It will be made a private Holiday!

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      Don A. Hoglund 5 years ago from Wisconsin Rapids

      Hi Beadreamer,I think that everyone reaches these interests at different stages. My daughter has always been a reader but my son seems to have little interest in books. He does read technical material and other material on line and seems well informed.(they are both middle age people now)I had very little interest in reading myself until a fifth grad teacher introduced me to books that interested me.

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      beadreamer247 5 years ago from Zephyrhills, FL

      Yes, you don't just need reading to be successful in life - there is a lot more to it. And I really think the school have to learn and stop being just focused on reading. Maybe REALLY teaching....instead of moaning.

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      Galih Indra 5 years ago

      Yeah that's school. And that's why i don't really like school (but i need it). All we can do is try hard and hope the best. Not every great peoples have a best school experience.

      Many peoples that don't have a better school experience, but now have become a great people. I hope your children too.

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      beadreamer247 5 years ago from Zephyrhills, FL

      I am not pushing for anything - he's 17 1/2 already. He has to make his own choices to read or not to read. I've tried my share and felt the frustration coming from the pressure that school put on him (and me). But schools should realize that they are not always doing the child a "favor" with their reading craze mania.

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      Galih Indra 5 years ago

      Yeah i totally agree with you, if reading is not the only way to learn something. And reading is not the only way to "read" the book. There's also audio book that you can try. Audio book is become popular for peoples who don't like "reading" book.

      Hope you can find the best solution for your kid.

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      beadreamer247 5 years ago from Zephyrhills, FL

      Galih Indra, thank you for your comments. I agree that being able to read is important, and my son can read. The issue is not about being able to read, it is the fact that schools have such a mania-like behavior towards reading and want to enforce it on each and every child way too much. There is no consideration that not everybody is a reader. I also had mentioned that I tried everything including taking my son with me to pick books of his interest - did not work either. The books were never read.

      I also disagree that you cannot learn without reading. How do the tribes teach their children? There are no books, they don't even know what that is. Sure, they are not getting our knowledge of the world, but they learn everything they need from their parents and tribe. They also learn by sharing stories told by mouth. Reading is not the only means of learning. We have people in the US, who don't know how to read and write, adults, who have their own ways of learning.

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      Galih Indra 5 years ago

      That's a common trouble for many kids.

      Well, i think you should find your kid's interest and contribute him to improve his skill.

      Actually reading is a must-do activity by everyone. If you can't read, then how you can learn something new ?. Perhaps, you can buy for a him a book that relate with his interest and persuade him to read it.

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      Greg Schweizer 5 years ago from Corona, California.

      Hi again, I just know that everyone is not the same. I know also that some people seem to think that everyone thinks and acts the same. There are reasons when someone like your son may not like to read. Try to pinpoint that reason and you can make everyone else understand. Here I go again. Sorry, Greg

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      beadreamer247 5 years ago from Zephyrhills, FL

      Hi Gregas,

      I am glad to hear others who feel the same way as my son about reading and that it is not the end of the world, but schools nowadays make it sound as if it is the most important thing in the world - it is not!

      Thank you for sharing your personal experience and showing that even without reading you can be just fine!

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      Greg Schweizer 5 years ago from Corona, California.

      Hi Beadreamer, I associate with your sons problem. I am almost 65 years old now. I never did like to read. After about 45 years I came to the conclusion that there are at least a few reasons I (still) don't like to read. Reason number one, I get bored because I don't read fast enough to keep my interest. Reason number two, a book is like a sleeping pill for me, I pick up a book and I fall asleep. Reason number three, my short term memory is very bad and what I read doesn't stay with me unless I take notes.

      I actually read more now, since I started writing on hubs, than I think I ever did in my life. I have to read the hubs and I have to read in order to research the hubs.

      That was a question here on hubs, "Do people need to be good readers in order to write?" I have never been a good reader or even liked to read, but I do a fair to middlin' job on my writing. I am even working on a couple of books of my own. Once I write them I will probably never read them. Anyway, I've spouted off enough. Your son will read when he wants to or has to for work when he gets into the "real world". Greg