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When your child simply is not a reader and probably never will be
Here we go again: assigment from school - reading. I have been through this since my son started kindergarten. Kids shall read, read and read. I never grew up being pressured to read like this and I don't mind it at all, have not suffered because I did not read every day at all. Why is it that this is such a strong assignment in schools and why do they make it so superior important? I don't have a clear answer until this day.
While it is great if you enjoy reading, why enforce it on every single child as if they are all the same and have the same interest etc. It is not one hat fits all. My son and reading was a nightmare and I stopped pushing for it after several trial and fail attempts. He never really was a great book fan.
Already at the age of 2-3 I noticed the lack of interest. While I sat down with my kids and they were interested in listening. He was the one who wandered off, did not even look at the book. Later I don't know how many books I bought....none of them ever was touched by him. I tried to read them to him...with very little success. I addressed it with the teacher and she gave me all kind of suggestions....tried them all. No positive result. I asked friends what to do as well and tried their ideas as well. I took him with me to choose a book - the books were never read. I gave up and if there was an assignment to read - I tried but not hard, either he did it or not.
I let the teachers know clearly that he simply hates reading. He hates it. Like other kids hate writing or math....he hates reading. Period! That's him and that is how he is and I felt the more I pushed for it, the more I pushed him away and I got aggravated and desperate - why? Just because the school insist on each and every child to be a reader. When will they understand that they are not all the same?
My son is in 11th grade now...one more year of school, luckily not that much pressure on reading anymore, but now and then, especially during summer break they usually get the project to read a book! Why can't they come up with a different assignment? My son remembers that ugly assignment maybe a week before school starts and then I have to find a way to get the book within a day! He waits until last minute...maybe he's hoping it goes away....
Why have all the other skills been forgotten, only reading matters? Schools should give other choices and be more open to the different types of students as an individual. They should give the children choices and not a daily task of reading. Imagine you shall do something that you don't like every day? Does that make your child looking forward to school? - All there is about school is a lot of nightmares getting his reading assignments done, giving me headache and lots of books were bought and given away again untouched.
I had my share of this and we need to turn around and find other good assignments than just reading - there is more to teaching than just reading! How about research assignment? How about collecting something? How about a creative task? Give options instead of force and creating more dislike than there already is.