Why, and When Should You Go to a Counsellor, or a Therapist
When should you consult a a counsellor or a therapist?
In the fast paced life of today, there may be times when you are totally confused, or feeling lost. You may be unable to take a decision or you may be facing some relationship problems.
There is a cut throat competition, whether you talk of education or jobs. Young people need expert guidance and direction, or at least some assurance or a friendly hug.
There are times, when you just 'Need to talk' to a friend, to share your worries and you have no one, who can give a patient hearing.
Even a slight emotional disturbance, can affect our peace of mind. Moreover, some people are better at coping with minor emotional disturbances, while others cannot deal with it.
It is at this time that you must visit and consult a psychotherapist, to overcome the emotional disturbances, occurring in your life.
Going to a trained therapist, does not mean, You are insane!
In earlier times, when someone went to a psychotherapist, to seek professional help, it was considered by people, that 'that' person is 'mad.'
Not any more!
Many young persons in their twenties or thirties, do now believe, that going to a therapist, is in fact a positive step, towards living life in a better way.
The visit to a counsellor and the subsequent sessions, with the psychotherapists may help you, out of the confusion or dilemma, and you may feel happier and content after that.
Lack of support from the family or rather fading away of the joint family system, is also responsible, as to why the youngsters need professional guidance, if they are facing emotional crises.
It is still not a widely accepted solution in society and those who take these counselling sessions, have a tendency to hide it from others, which is not necessary.
“All you need is one safe anchor to keep you grounded when the rest of your life spins out of control”
― Katie Kacvinsky
How to decide, as to when you really need a counsellor?
Ask yourself the following questions?
- Do I know myself?
- Am I struggling in a relationship, whether personal or professional?
- Am I aware of my strengths as well as my weaknesses?
- Am I trapped with my past--pleasant or unpleasant?
- Am I dying to have ‘that‘ emotional support?
- Am I making the 'same' mistakes again?
- How can I come over my repeated failures?
- Where has the 'love' vanished, after marriage?
- How can I keep a balance, between work and home?
These are just some of the common issues, which trouble the parent day youth, male or female.
But there can be many other highly complex issues, such as depression, anxiety, sexual dissatisfaction, lack of communication with the spouse, divorce, emotional break down, trauma etc. for which professional guidance is required.
Sometimes, just the act of venting is helpful. Counseling provides a safe haven for precisely that kind of free-ranging release: You can say things in the therapist's office, with the therapist present, that would be incendiary or hurtful in your living room.
Does the Psychotherapy really help?
Counselling by a psychotherapist, is not some kind of magic. But it can help a person rediscover himself or herself.
It helps the person affected, to believe, that there are 'options'.
It helps them to understand, that everything is not beyond control.
It makes them, persons with positive thoughts and emotions, and helps them do away with negative thoughts and behaviour.
It helps them to control anger, frustration, hurt and they learn slowly to deal with them.
They are no longer slaves of their negative emotions and reactions.
By bringing positive changes in their lives and thinking, they begin to live happily and they act differently to the same situations, which was troubling them before the counselling sessions.
Alternative Therapy works, only if you let it work.
How well the therapy works, depends upon the client and the therapist.
- The former should cooperate, with all the strength required, and the therapist should sincerely work to resolve the problem, (not only thinking about the money).
- The client should be very clear and open with the therapist and must make him aware of every small detail and expectations from the therapist. In other words, no facts or nothing should be hidden from the therapist.
- The therapist should be compassionate, and give patient hearing.
- The therapist should not be judgemental, overpowering or disrespectful. The therapist should also maintain confidentiality.
- If the counselling sessions are helpful, you may feel the difference in few sessions itself.
- You can ask your family doctor, a close friend or browse the Internet to find the best counsellors in your city.
Do you believe counseling sessions can help an emotionally disturbed person?
Benefits of counseling for PTSD, source: You tube
Counseling Adolescents, source: You tube
© 2014 Chitrangada Sharan