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Why and When Should You go to a Counsellor or Therapist

Updated on September 22, 2017
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Chitrangada has keen interest in Alternative therapies.As a parent and teacher she shares her real life experiences for benefit of readers.

Consulting a psychotherapist doesn't mean you are insane!!
Consulting a psychotherapist doesn't mean you are insane!! | Source

When Should You Consult A Counsellor or Therapist?

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  • In the fast paced life of today, there are times when you are confused, or lost, unable to take a decision or you are facing some relationship problems.
  • There is a cut throat competition, whether you talk of education or jobs.
  • Young people need guidance and direction or at least some assurance or a friendly hug.
  • There are times when you just 'Need to talk' to a friend, to share your 'worries' and you have no one who can give a patient hearing.
  • Even a slight 'emotional disturbance' can affect our peace of mind.
  • Moreover some people are better at coping with 'minor emotional disturbances', while others cannot deal with it.


Keep Calm and believe in yourself
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Going To A Trained Therapist Does Not Mean, You Are 'Insane'!

♦ In earlier times, when someone went to a psychotherapist to seek professional help, it was considered by people, that 'that' person is 'mad.'

Not any more!

Many young persons aged 20+ or 30+ do now believe, that going to a therapist is in fact a positive step towards living life in a better way.

The visit to a counsellor and the subsequent sessions with the psychotherapists may help you out of the confusion or dilemma and you may feel happier and content after that.

Lack of support from family or rather fading away of joint family system, is also responsible, why the youngsters need professional guidance, if they are facing emotional crises.

It is still not a widely accepted solution in society and those who take these counselling sessions, have a tendency to hide it from others, which is not necessary.

“All you need is one safe anchor to keep you grounded when the rest of your life spins out of control”

― Katie Kacvinsky

Counseling
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How To Decide, As To When You Really Need A Counsellor?

Ask Yourself The Following Questions?

  • Do I know myself?
  • Am I struggling in a relationship, whether personal or professional?
  • Am I aware of my strengths as well as my weaknesses?
  • Am I trapped with my past--pleasant or unpleasant?
  • Am I dying to have 'That emotional support?'
  • Am I making the 'same' mistakes again?
  • How can I come over my repeated failures?
  • Where has the 'love' vanished, after marriage?
  • How can I keep a balance between work and home?


These are just some of the common, issues which trouble the youth, male or female.

But there can be many other highly complex issues, such as depression, anxiety, sexual dissatisfaction, lack of communication with the spouse, divorce, break down, trauma etc. for which professional guidance is required.

Sometimes, just the act of venting is helpful. Counseling provides a safe haven for precisely that kind of free-ranging release: You can say things in the therapist's office, with the therapist present, that would be incendiary or hurtful in your living room.

~~~Laura Wasser

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Does The Therapy Really Help?

Counselling by a psychotherapist is not some kind of magic. But it can help a person rediscover himself/ herself.

ξ It helps the person affected, to believe that there are 'options'.

ξ It helps them to understand that everything is not beyond control.

ξ It makes them persons with positive thoughts and emotions and helps them do away with negative thoughts and behavior.

ξ It helps them to control anger, frustration, hurt and they learn slowly to deal with them.

ξ They are no longer slaves of their negative emotions and reactions.

ξ By bringing positive changes in their lives and thinking, they begin to live happily and they act differently to the same situations, which was troubling them before the counselling sessions.

Alternative Therapy Works Only If You Let It Work:

# How well the therapy works depends upon the client and the therapist.

# The former should cooperate with all the strength required and the therapist should sincerely work to resolve the problem, (not only thinking about the money).

# The client should be very clear and open with the therapist and must make him aware of every small detail and expectations from the therapist.

# The therapist should be compassionate and give patient hearing.

# The therapist should not be judgemental, overpowering or disrespectful. The therapist should also maintain confidentiality.

# If the counselling sessions are helpful. you may feel the difference in few sessions itself.

You can ask your family doctor, a close friend or browse the Internet to find the best counselors in your city.

© Chitrangada Sharan 19th Nov. 2014

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks Dianna for your positive comments! It's good to hear from you after a long time!

      Yes the perception of people has changed for the better. Sometimes I feel the younger generation is much progressive and wiser now. They don't make an issue of everything and always believe in moving forward. They are not ashamed of their shortcomings but they face it like a challenge and try to correct it.

      Thanks again and a very good day to you!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 months ago

      I remember hearing the negative comments on therapy when I was a child. Today, the views have changed for the better as people are experiencing positive results. Great advice for those considering therapy.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 8 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks MsDora for your insightful comments!

      You are right--A little compassion, few comforting words are all that is needed if someone is suffering from depression or under stress.

      Appreciate your visit and comments!

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      Dora Weithers 8 months ago from The Caribbean

      Very useful article. We run to the physician as soon as there is a physical ache, but we ignore the mental aches you mention, instead of seeking help. We need therapeutic remedies sometimes.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 19 months ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Nithya, for appreciating the hub!

      Yes you are right --going to a therapist is still looked down upon. Whereas I have seen many people benefitting immensely by visiting the counsellor or therapist.

      Thanks again for your valuable feedback.

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      Nithya Venkat 19 months ago from Dubai

      Even today some people believe that you are insane if you go to a therapist, and that is sad. Going to a therapist will help make life better. A great valuable hub.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      ----And I agree with your opinion. In fact that is the purpose of writing this hub. I have seen people recovering from their problems after consultation sessions. So it really helps!

      I am thrilled to have your feedback on my hubs. Thank you so much! And have a good day.

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      Paula 2 years ago

      I don't know why people see the visit at the therapist as admitting they are insane, it only means you understand there is a problem which you want to fix and have a great life afterwards. My opinion.

      Have a nice day :)

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Kylyssa, for your kind visit and comment!

      Glad you liked the hub and thanks for sharing your thoughts. Better late than never! Sometimes an expert counseling is very much beneficial for peace of mind and positive approach towards life.

      Thanks!

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      Kylyssa Shay 2 years ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

      Excellent advice.

      I wish I'd tried therapy much younger. It really does help because it often takes a trained person to recognize and identify the ways in which a person is emotionally treating herself poorly and explain them in an understandable way.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you misterhollywood, for your kind visit and comment!

      It's a pleasure to know that you liked the hub. Thanks for the follow as well.

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      John Hollywood 2 years ago from Hollywood, CA

      Very informative hub!! Voted up!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you suzettenaples, for your kind visit and insightful comments!

      I agree with you that there should not be any feeling of embarrassment to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist, if there is need to do so.

      Rather it is so nice that nowadays expert and professional help can be obtained and people can come out of their gloom and frustration and lead a happy life.

      Thanks for your appreciation of the hub, votes and support!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks aviannovice, for your visit and comments!

      I hope your friend listens to your suggestion. Sometimes it is very helpful and it brings a very positive change in life.

      Have a good day!

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      Suzette Walker 2 years ago from Taos, NM

      Very interesting and informative hub, Chitrangada. I am a firm believer in counseling either with a psychologist or psychiatrist. There have been times in my life that I have needed to talk out with a psychologist. It helps to get me over the rough spots or the bumps on my journey through life. No one should be embarrassed by counseling today. With our lives so stressed and with the economy the way it is, I bet there are many out there who are in counseling. You give some great tips and suggestions and I enjoyed reading this. Voted up+ and shared.

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      Deb Hirt 2 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      I know someone very troubled that I could convince to do this, but I know that it won't happen.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you denise.w.anderson, for reading this hub and commenting!

      That's the reason why your hubs regarding emotional health are so valuable and helpful. You have 'been there' and come out of that and thus you provide sound advice to those who really need it.

      Thanks again for your support!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you dilipchandraji, for reading and appreciating!

      Same is true with me-- I also keep my calm in such situations. But I think I belong to a different generation. Many things have changed over the years.

      Thanks again for voting up!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you Ericdierker, for your visit, support and comments!

      I liked your line, 'Denial of problems is one of the biggest problems.'

      For dealing with this 'crazy world', people are discovering new ways and they are fine with it.

      Thanks again!

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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Seeing a psychologist, or therapist was the best thing I ever did. It helped me to work through the issues that were leading to my anger and depression and set some boundaries for myself. I learned much about my own distorted thought processes, what was causing them, and how I could change them.

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      Dilip Chandra 2 years ago from India

      So well made hub this is with a very important topic. I always try to think and figure out a solution with patience. Good hub my friend :) Voted Up...

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I think it is a "no brainer", young people should seek out professionals to help them deal with this crazy world. And I do not think you need a big problem to do it. Denial of problems is one of the biggest problems we all face and accepting that help is really important. Great hub.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thanks Devika, for reading and commenting!

      I agree with you that it depends on the individual. I have never gone to a therapist and perhaps never will. But I find many young people consulting therapists these days, whether for a solution regarding relationships, or academics, or admissions, or addictions, or depressions etc.

      Many thanks for your support!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you travmaj, for your visit and insightful comments!

      I believe problems faced by today's children have increased, as compared to the times, when I was younger.

      No doubt the facilities have increased, making life somewhat easier. But people are becoming isolated and thus there is bound to be emotional disturbance.

      Thanks and have a good day!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you word55, for your kind visit and positive feedback!

      You are right that family and friend can provide help. I agree completely, but everyone is not so fortunate. Some people are very lonely, with no one to share their worries. Due to the fading away of joint family system and increase in work pressure, both at home and at office, the emotional issues are ever on the rise.

      Thanks again!

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      I don't think going to a therapist really helps. It all depends on the individual. You made good points. Sometimes people feel therapy is the way to go.

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      travmaj 2 years ago from australia

      Very sound advice. I imagine sometimes it is difficult to take that first step in reaching out. I think most of us need that help at some stage or another.

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      Chitrangada Sharan 2 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Thank you billybuc, for reading and commenting!

      You are right, there is no shame in reaching out for help. Thanks again!

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      Word 2 years ago from Chicago

      This was very useful. People should let the problem out instead of keeping it in. A counselor or therapist will more likely help resolve the problem. Sometimes, a trusted family member or friend can help as well. Thank you for sharing this wonderful hub ChitrangadaSharan.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      All useful and valuable information. I'm a big believer in getting help when needed. There is no shame in reaching out.