Fake and Damaging First Impressions
The First Impression: Valuable or not?
How true is the proverb 'First impression is the last impression?'
'True or false' aside, it is certainly worthy of a second thought.
- 'It takes SEVEN seconds for you to make a first impression on another human being.'
- 'People decide your trustworthiness within a tenth of a second.'
Now that's very unfair even if true.
When the research results are so incomprehensible, don't you think we must distrust the first impression?
To develop true belief and honest opinion, shouldn't the impression hold substantial value?
It must be as solid as concrete to make no error of judgment.
How can anyone possibly rate a person so quickly then?
Our past experiences might help us conclude opinions. But not all human beings are same.
As all are unique, impressions must match their personalities.
Below are the reasons why the first impression is fake.
10 Shortcomings Of The First Impression:
- It's made quickly
The saying 'It's in our nature to judge, correctly applies to the first impression. If you have formed a view on a person or thing by meeting just once, you have decided instantly.
Don't you think that's inappropriate?
- It's made in a rush
Deciding too soon is too immature. Opinions made in a hurry fail because they never get the proper attention.
- It's emotional, not practical
Your initial decision is the outcome of the emotions you feel about a person or thing. You form such a decision because you have only your emotions to count on. When sufficient time is spent with an individual and considerable time is given to a matter, the decision you make is a practical one. Otherwise, it's just emotional.
- It's not from adequate knowledge
Conclusions made in the beginning lack the required knowledge and are incomplete. Decisions are right when made comprehensively, that's certainly not the case with first impressions.
- You can't be sure
At first, You think you are right just because of a gut feeling. It's a hint that can sway in the wrong way. You can't be certain, so the impression can be untrue.
- Affects concentration
Because you jump to conclusions quickly, you give matters a short span of time and attention. As a result, your ability to concentrate becomes less. Your concentration gets affected largely.
- It affects wisdom
Your mind becomes bias due to false thinking. As you continue to think unfairly, your thoughts become rigid and narrow. The wisdom that can help you take the right decisions gets impaired due to biasness you firmly hold.
- It can't change if it's firm
If you are a person strong in belief, you won't change your first thoughts on individuals or situations. You will believe your impressions are genuine and unchangeable.
- It can make a habit
First impressions make you form judgments quickly. You think it saves you time. You make it a habit of judging. Sadly, it is not a good habit. It's a sign of an unhealthy lifestyle.
- It can develop more wrong notions
The first notion implanted can influence your mind to have similar kind of thoughts about the affected person on the rest of the matters too. So, it builds an entirely different picture.
13 Damages First Impressions Do!
- Spreads negativity
When a start is negative, it has already obstructed the possibility of a positive future. We all know how damaging negative thoughts are.
- Makes you stubborn
Forming first impressions as a regular practice can make you stubborn, especially when you learn 'you were wrong' and your ego won't let you rectify the mistake.
- You become Dismissive
As your attention span is too brief, you make up your mind fast. That makes you suspend matters related to people and situations promptly. You become dismissive by nature.
- You form false predictions
Everybody you meet and anything you do go through unnecessary predictions (false) that you form on the basis of a short encounter.
- You won't let the person finish
You meet a person; you form a first impression of him. You find that sufficient not to move further. As the conversation is already over for you, you don't let the person finish. Isn't that rude?
- You become pushy
You push dealings to finish as soon as possible.
You might not care for the whole story and miss some important facts.
- You damage a potential bond
The possibility of a healthy relationship that can prove effective to the both of you gets damaged because of the false first impression. You are unable to manage people effectively.
- You don't meet the person next
If your judgment says you will dislike the person and that both of you are not a match, believing that you will avoid meeting the person next.
Will you be doing the right thing?
- You might corrupt other people too
As your first impression is the only impression for you, when people whom you associate with ask you advice or suggestions, you will pass the wrong information that might influence those people too. They may form wrong first impressions.
- You become socially clumsy
As you judge a lot, your mind will always follow that pattern. As a result, your socializing skills will become inept. Would anybody prefer that?
- You could face social discomfort
Because you judge swiftly, you always have a fixed belief. Any difference in views or anything not in line with your thoughts might create social discomfort among concerned parties.
- You could offend others
Since you always judge, you might say something or behave in a way that might offend others. You might get frustrated as people hardly impress you. That may lead people to not like you.
- You might get embarrassed later
Later, when you learn your opinion was wrong and how ridiculously you had judged a person or situation, you will be flustered to admit the error of your judgment. You will feel awkward to face the person again.
The Fake First Impression!
Impression matters. It sharpens our confidence. From the wide array of numerous options, it helps us choose what suits best. People become likeable or unlikeable as our impression gains confidence. That's why we select a particular thing over another, and like one person more than the other.
But when impressions are false, they present a 'fake' picture of both an individual or a situation. That makes us judge the wrong way.
The twenty-three factors ( ten shortcomings and thirteen damages) mentioned above, perpetrate in forming a 'fake' image of a person or a circumstance.
It is 'fake' because 'You Fake It' through idle judgment.
The first impression becomes the first step to taking improper decisions.
That is why 'the first impression' is fake as it forms false notions. That is also the reason why you should give a second chance.
© 2017 Imran Khan