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Why Only Children Are Nicer And Truer People
NEVER Having to Face Dethronement Nor Sibling Competition
How Parental Closeness With Their Only Children INFLUENCE Future Relationships
Not Having to ENDURE Sibling Manipulation & Other Forms of Game Playing
Being SINCERE, Even TOTALLY Unpretentious in Relationships
Truer, More Sincere, Even Refreshing Friendships & Relationships
Only Children are NEVER Dethroned Nor Face Sibling Rivalry
The familial world that only children inhabit is unique and wonderful indeed. When they were born, they were doted on by their parents and considered to be special since they are the latter's first child. However, unlike the majority of firstborns, they will never experience nor fear being dethroned nor displaced by the births of succedent siblings. They are and will be the center of their parents' universe. They also never have to compete with siblings to curry parental favor or attention.
Only children have individualized and undivided time with their parents. They view their parents as companions they can talk to freely and easily. In their purview, their parents are not distant but readily accessible, even approachable. They consider their parents as human, not "the other" which is how children with siblings oftentimes view their parents.
How Only Children's Closeness With Their Parents INFLUENCE Future Relationships
Only children have very close relationships with their parents. Their parents are the main people they interact with and relate to. Because of this, the early familial environment of only children makes them appreciate intense relationships whether it is platonic or more romantic in nature. They are more comfortable with very few true and intense friendships than with a large number of mere acquaintances and casual friends. They are also more monogamous in outlook and personality than children from multichild families.
Not Being Subjected to Sibling Manipulation and Game Playing
Only children are not exposed to one-upmanship, emotional, mental, and psychological manipulations that children in multichild families regularly engage in and/or exposed to. Only children's primary relationship is with their parents. As a result of that relationship, they develop adult and mature behavior and mannerism quite early in life. Being in an adult environment makes them more mature and better behaved than children who grew up in multichild environments where their primary exposure was to other siblings.
Only Children are Unpretentious in Relationships
Only children because they were not exposed to backstabbing and other forms of underhanded behavior practiced by children with siblings, approach others with sincerity and respect. They tend to value and appreciate relationships. They take others at face value and will never use disreputable means to order to enter into and maintain friendships and relationships. They find such behavior to be totally dishonest, even reprehensible. They believe in being honest and upfront with others because that is what they have experienced in their familial relationship with their parents.
Based upon only children's adult outlook and perspectives, they find such game playing and one-upmanship to be signs of immaturity. They maintain that mature, intelligent children say what they have to say without resorting to mindless, childish games. They are of the school that those who play games are untrustworthy or worse in character. They even go as far to conclude that some children have something to hide or they would not be so underhanded and devious in their dealings with others.
Having Truer, More Sincere Friendships and Relationships
Only children are truer in their friendships and relationships. In their relationships, there is a marked absence of manipulative, backstabbing, and other forms of insincere behavior. They intensely value their friendships and relationships. They have a very mature and refreshing approach and outlook as far as friendships and relationships go.
Only children view their friends as family to be cherished and respected. Many times only children remark that their friends are extended siblings, even family members whom they love and admire. They furthermore place a very high value on people. They do not and refuse to view people as disposable and to simply be used as a passing and convenient fancy. It is a very rare only child who is very manipulative and catty regarding friendships and relationships.
Another reason why only children have truer friendships and relationships is that they were not subjected to hierarchical structure in their familial environment unlike children in multichild families who have a very demarcated and strict hierarchical structure. Only children tend to view people as equal and approach them that way. Children with siblings consistently play power games in their friendships and relationships because they have been exposed to and live in an environment based upon hierarchical roles and structure which strongly influence and determine how they are to be treated accordingly for either positive or negative.
In conclusion, only children have truer relationships with their friends and significant others than children who grew up in multichild families. Only children because they did not have siblings were not subjected to the daily game playing and manipulations that children with siblings are subjected to. Only children do not have to compete with siblings to obtain parental favor. Only children are oftentimes accepted by their parents for who they are. This results in only children having no pretense as to who they are and in turn, they are able to accept and respect people for the individuals they are.
© 2011 Grace Marguerite Williams