15 Reasons Why People Lie? Science and the Truth About Lies
Science: Why People Lie?
Lying is not unknown to you, so let's get straight to the science.
Human Brain has four lobes:
Frontal, Parietal, Temporal, and Occipital.
Telling lies is connected with 'the frontal lobe.'
Your brain, a small organ, can surprise and astonish you by its power and function. If you think you are not good at multitasking, think twice. Your brain will prove you wrong quickly. That's because, when you tell lies, your mind not only hides the truth, but also covers it with false stories and let you escape the situations by making your expressions, body language, and lies believable. At one go, you do all these (mentioned above).
The frontal lobe of the brain is the master of assessment. It is also the decision maker.
The frontal lobe thinks and calculates the consequences of your current acts.
It also determines how those acts will affect your future. When it gauges issues, the factors that can cause harm become conspicuous.
Truth involves confrontation, but it has outcomes as well. Fibbing, on the other hand, seems comfortable. So if you have to escape the situation, you end up lying.
Here is what the frontal lobe of a human brain controls:
- Problem Solving
That's how the front of your head works and frames the decisions on 'Truth' and 'Lies.'
A Parenting Tip
When a child lies, a parent/guardian can catch them most of the times. Detect the maximum lies you can and counsel the child on how truth, honesty, and transparency will make him/her brave, courageous, confident, and strong.
Boys love to relate to strength and bravery.
Whereas Girls to confidence (like, a strong, brave women)
Coach them in this way.
Fifteen Reasons Why People Lie
Below are reasons to lie regularly.
- To flatter or praise falsely or excessively for a gain.
- To confuse stubborn people who won't change their obstinate thoughts otherwise.
- To cover-up your inability, laziness, or lack of will in doing a task.
- To hide your forgetfulness of doing something.
- To win your side of the argument.
- To prove your point when facts are less impactful.
- To bluff for no reason.
- To match up to the level of others who are above you.
- To simply show the society that you are important and not to be disregarded.
- To show you hold command, authority, and control.
- To show you are capable regardless of whether you truly are.
- To quieten furious, angry, disappointed parents, siblings, lovers, spouse, friends, colleagues, bosses or anyone who is authoritative, or personally close to you.
- To impress people through trickery.
- To put a stop to the questions and curiosity of prying people.
- To save yourselves from troubles.
These are just a few points.
Listing all the reasons is difficult as lying is situational and continuous too.
A new situation may give rise to a new, unique lie.
If the exact reasons are too many, what is it that can singularly stand out?
If you have to narrow down the causes to one, you can say you lie as you get some 'benefit' that makes a situation bend in your favor.
Lying Attributes: Men Vs Women
Lie more frequently
Lie lesser to men
Are not very guilty after lying
Can get guilty
Lie mostly to brag about strength, power, boldness, superiority.
lie mostly on emotional grounds
Are young and mostly unmarried
Are young and mostly married
Lie to maximize and Inflate characteristics about them.
Lie to minimize attributes about them. (Hiding correct age, weight ETC)
Three Most Triggering Ideas/Causes Behind Lying
Men and women lie for numerous reasons. Telling lies may differ from person to person. The extent to which an individual can stoop depends on the morality and loyalty of the liar.
The most common reasons are:
1) To cover the truth:
Truth, as it is, is sour and of consequences. You can very well face the outcomes if the truth is made apparent. But you don't want to, so you slacken it with false versions and less damaging facts. As you understand that truth is curt, you also understand how the comfort of a lie can make ways to rescue. Thus, you cover the truth with lies.
2) People are afraid to hurt someone:
Human beings brag of honesty, prudence, transparency all their lives, but during the times of vulnerability, they keep their actual knowledge of those as subjective. The mind, which otherwise doesn't care, especially when lying, suddenly thinks of hurting the concerned person should the truth expose. So people fabricate stories, and save the person from getting hurt - at least that's what all confirm to themselves. Again a lie though.
Note: If you keep covering the truth that way, people won't like you anymore.
3) You are casual:
You don't want to disrupt how things are going on. Why dredge up matters and dig your own grave? 'you escaped once.' 'Very well.' 'Let it never see the surface,' are the assuring words you keep saying to yourself. Sadly, it only results in lying for a more longer time.
Casual behavior increases dishonesty, laziness, and cowardice. As a result you tell more lies.
In short, Human Beings are producers of fiction who design lies for reasons of make-believe. First, we invent a lofty, never-heard-before lie, then we try to justify the matter by fooling with subconscious reasonings.
How It Develops Into a Habit!
Anything that has proof is undeniable.
You lied before; It worked well. That's become proof for you to believe in it and follow too.
Secondly, your mind loves habit. There is always a pattern that your mind want to follow. When you do something for the first time, your mind puts much concentration, effort, and energy to do the thing. When you do the same thing next, the mind observes that the task is repeating, and finds it easier to do it by referring to the past. And when the work gets repetitive, your brain implements the same pattern thereby forming a habit.
That's what happens to lies:
When you are new at lying, you struggle to make excuses as your conscience knows it is wrong to do so. You hate lies and liars.
But when you choose not to act guilty, your conscience desensitizes to shame and guilt.
When you continue to lie, you become bolder and less conscious. Your mind, at this time, is still observing your repetitive action of lying.
And when you lie more, your brain has already adapted that telling lies is a pattern you follow to handle situations.
Lying is then considered as one of your regular characteristics.
A lie once, a lie twice, lying continues and converts into a habit.
The Truth About Lies As We Age:
Lying in childhood is naive but wrong:
- A child has no conscience.
- That doesn't mean the lies children say are right.
- It is still wrong to lie, and if not expertly coached and rectified through supervision, It will harm the child
Lying in teenage or before the age of 18 is wild yet wrong:
- As teenagers, we are most unstable and unpredictable.
- Conscience, by then, has its say which teens can easily choose to disregard.
- Lies cannot become right ever. Control through education, guidance, and caution is still crucial.
- Youngsters who lie excessively, harm their moral and civil life.
Lying as an adult is a choice made in proper senses but still incorrect.
- Adults are mature, and their conscience is sensible.
- Lying as a grown-up is a deliberate step chosen to avoid facing the truth.
- Adult liars don't set good examples to younger generation who look up to them.
These are signs of an unhealthy lifestyle.
Truth About Lies for Children, Teenagers, and Adults.
Truth about childhood lies
Truth about teenage lies
Truth about adulthood lies
Lies are voluntary, but liars are naive
lies are voluntary and liars are wild, and rebellious
Lies are voluntary - A choice made in senses
Needs supervision for prevention and stoppage
Needs guidance and awareness for conscience to mature
Needs self-control and responsibility to own up
Marches to become liars in teenage if not stopped
Marches to become lying adults if not controlled
Become compulsive liars at first and then pathological liars who can run out of control
Gruesome Truth About Lies!
Lying is dangerous.
First, it can turn you compulsive, then pathological.
The most gruesome fact is 'you won't feel guilty.'
It will strip you off of shame and guilt.
Lies mislead us ---> We mislead others ---> Others mislead us.
In the end, someone gets hurt. If not sooner then certainly later.
We must never let it overpower us.
Hence, a person must control telling lies before lies control him.
Scientific explanation on lying.
© 2017 Imran Khan