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Falsely Accused of Child Abuse

Updated on February 11, 2013

Child Abuse

Have You Been Falsely Accused of Child Abuse?

It is illegal for anyone to file a false report of child abuse, but unfortunately, it happens everyday. Even though 60% percent of reported abuse cases are false, this offense has the highest conviction rate of all felony crimes. The law is written to protect the children first, so even though you may be completely innocent, you could face long, expensive legal battles or even worse, you may possibly lose your children forever.

Don’t Sink into Denial

If you get caught in this nightmare, even though you are completely innocent, the first thing you must do is acknowledge the seriousness of the charges. If you feel you do not need to worry because they could not possibly have a case against you, you are placing yourself in danger. It is amazing how quickly these situations can get out of control. The consequences for a conviction of this crime can be horrific, so protect yourself and your children immediately. You should obtain a lawyer experienced with these types of charges. Don't speak to any officials except your attorney about the case. Even if you have not been officially charged, you need to be prepared in case you are eventually arrested.

Do Not Confront your Accuser

At first, you may not even know who has made this terrifying accusation. The accuser does not have to be revealed unless there is a court order to do so. If you suspect or find out who it is, however, you should keep your distance. Do not go to see them, do not call them, do not have any contact with them whatsoever $6.

Be You Own Advocate

Learn everything you can about being falsely accused. Read books, internet articles or anything you can find on the subject. Discuss your findings with your attorney. Get involved with other people who have been falsely accused of similar crimes and learn from their experience. You will be amazed by how many people have been in your position. Build a support group of trusted family and friends around you. Ask them if they will be character witnesses for you if you need them.

Don’t Console Yourself with Alcohol or Drugs

Though this may well be the most stressful and depressing time of your life, do not give in to the temptation to blur the pain with alcohol or drugs. It could have the reverse effect and actually enhance the depression. It is also very important that you stay strictly within the confines of the law at this time. You could be asked to submit to a drug test or the court could call witnesses to testify that they had seen you impaired. It simply isn't worth the risk.

This is a very scary time in your life, but do not panic. You need to keep your mind focused on contributing to your defense and finding the best way to protect yourself and your family from more damage. Most importantly, do not go through this allow. Retain a good lawyer and let your attorney help you. Take his advice and be prepared to wage the fight of your life. Your future is at stake.


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      rick 7 years ago

      Yeap, Kids are out of girlfriends daughter said I choked her....I have never ever touched her..... what a joke the system is, Something needs to be done about these type of kids..

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      patricia cleary 7 years ago

      I was falsly accused of child abuse. with out a shread of evidence ; without proper investagation with no proff i was a danger to my son i was not given a drug test but ordered to complete a 6 month program my problem was i was homeless and living on my sons income from ssa waiting to be approved by social security disability i allowed my son to stay with a so called friend for 300.00 a month the next month this bitch wanted custody of my son and his whole check in the amount of 1.100.00 she called dcfs and made all these false allegations. dcfs never helped me with my real problem and that was homelness i was in a drug program 4 months and testing clean 2x a week and the social worker tells me that's great ypur in a program but your never going to get your kid back you don't have an income or a home i was broken hearted they never once tryed to help me with my real problems my ex daughter in law got guardianship of my son my case closed in july2008 my parental rights were not terminated i have a home now and a income now im trying to find out how i go about going back to court to terminate guardianship and regain custody of my son he is 14 years old now any advice will help thank you for letting me share my story

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      venus 7 years ago

      Last month I was falsely accused of child abuse, maltreatment, and neglect....I am soooo outraged at the fact that social services came to my home at around 9:30 in the evening when my fiancée and I were winding down from a long day at work and my 4 year old son was just about to fall asleep. They asked my son to remove his shirt lift his pants.....for what!!!!! Do they honestly think my son is oblivious to the fact that his mother and father had no idea who these two people were? My poor son must be traumatized by this! I felt violated! Who would create such a lie?

      I've been in court for about a 1.5 years paying an attorney to keep my apartment. Could the people in my building stoop to this level? What upsets me the most is all the children who are really being abused. Social services waste their time coming to homes that have no abuse and never make it to the homes where children are in need of help.

      Does anyone have a good attorney who works pro bono? I can barely pay my bills with one attorney on the payroll I definitely cannot afford another.

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      Anonymous 7 years ago

      This was a really helpful article. Currently, my boyfriend and I are going through false accusations made by my ex-husband and my mother, which were conveniently made amidst a court battle for me to relocate one state over. They stated that my boyfriend was the perpetrator, and was physically abusing my son. He is currently seeking legal counsel, at least for advice on how to handle his situation. Children and Youth became involved, and this has cause such disruption and drama in our lives, and the caller (I already have a strong feeling as to who made one of the calls) has dragged my son into a situation that I have been trying to protect him from. What angers me, is there is actual abuse going on in my family, and while people are focusing on something that is not going on, they are failing to help out the family member who is actually being abused. It sickens me that people do this to be spiteful, and it almost makes them as bad as people who actually see abuse happening and fail to report. Does anyone know of any free resources that we can tap into to further prove his innocence? I know this will all be brought up during the relocation hearing.

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      Lynne 7 years ago

      Childrens services is coming to my home tomorrow to investigate false charges that I abuse my children. What should I expect of these people?

      The person who called DCS was uspset because I wont let my daughter hang out around her daughter because I don't like the values they instill in their family. I am a Christian and I do have high standards.

      Will they want to strip search my kids, I have 12 yr. old twins, will they want to go thru draws and things?

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      michaelk 7 years ago

      Hi Lynne,

      Child services will not strip search your children. They will check the home to see that each child has a bed, and that only same sex children sleep in the same room. They may look to make sure there is food in the home. They may ask what the rules are for bedtimes, having friends, and homework routines.

      Good luck and let us know how everything went.

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      Lynne 7 years ago

      Thank You very much, I will let you know how it goes.

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      RtNJ 7 years ago

      On Saturday we had the un-welcomed visit from DYFS, Nj's DCS. We found out that the night before at 11:30 pm someone put a call that my wife and I were neglecting our 2 lil boys, by not feeding all the time, not bathing, not changing diapers in a timely matter and that the kids had east access to alcohol. After interviewing my wife, then having her strip them down to nothing and inspecting them, then interviewing me, then going on a tour of our home to see it is baby proofed from head to toe, they asked if we had any enemies, because faulse accusations usually are made.

      They acted like there was nothing wrong with it. I asked what rights we had as parents who were falsely accused and basically told we have none. However, though they will be "throwing" this case out, my wife and I would now be on file for being accused.

      We have an idea as to who may have done it, we have not spoken to this person in 1.5 months, but because they under investigation for robbing us, we feel they are going after us. We contacted our investigator to let them know of what has happened and who we feel may be behind it. As of now, it is just frustrating to feel like there is absolutely nothing we can do to prevent someone from falsely accusing us in the future.

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      Heather Nickless 7 years ago from England

      I wish they would stop with these false accusations and save real children. I was abused for years and no one ever helped. Social services wasn't even called. For all of you that are being falsely accused, I am so sorry you have to deal with that.

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      DEBR 7 years ago

      My Son was falsely accused because he was babysit for his Godborther he would babysitting about three day out our week that last day that my son was babysitting the baby stopping breathing and my son had to give the baby C.P.R he didn't know how to give the baby C.P.R HE DID THE BEST HE COULD TO SAVE THE BABY LIFE.but the police Department didn't ask anyone else who was wish the baby.grantmother. mother. father,uncle.aunt,girlfriend,the roommate all these people was wish this baby at some point of time. but secent my son was the last preson with the baby that who that are accused for all the injuries to the baby. the new release was nothing but lie that why i don,t beliver in the in D.A.are these lie as law they are not out to help you they just want to get payed that all.i hate this damn country. wear is the right in this world at the bottom of hold. i hate D.C.S

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      a mother 7 years ago

      My husband was falsely accused of sodomy on a child under 14. He has gone threw his trial and won. The child told them that her grandma made her lie about it. Can my husband sue them because all these things were false?

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      Wow 7 years ago

      You know, some people are weird. Back in the day when I used to drive a school bus, I was accused of being a pedophile because I wouldn't put the music channel on that the kids wanted to listen to. The mom told other people but thankfully, the administrating people knew me and of my character and squashed that mom's accusations.

      You have to be very very careful these days. People are sue happy and some are so weird. I stayed on the route and they weren't going to intimidate me with their false accusations.

      I knew one school bus driver who told a kid to sit down or he won't be riding the bus. The parents forced the school district to have the driver removed from driving. He was one of the greatest drivers out there.

      In this world, your dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. But I strongly believe that people will pay their price on judgment day.

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      Accused Mom 7 years ago

      My fiancé and I have been fasley acccussed of abuse by my fourteen year old daughter and I have lost my other two childern, been thrown in jail and put through hell and yet has anyone even bothered to yet take a statement from us.Whatever happened to innocent until proven guilty.Wow I am amazed at how DCS of virginia has treated us where is the justice for parents.The real treat is my oldest daughter and her foster parent breaks into my house a week later steals pretty much whatever they wanted and I am not even allowed to file a report with the police department. I do know this system definitely needs to change and any advice anyone could share I would greatly appreciate.

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      Star  7 years ago

      My partner and I live in Australia. In July 2008 we were falsly accused of abusing/neglecting our four boys by the school principal. Not only were we falsely accused but we have now lost our children until they each attain the age of 18. We are permitted to see them once a month under supervision and the children are constantly asking when they can come home. Their foster parents are spoiling them by getting them whatever they want. If they want an xbox, they get it, a playstation, they get it. We can't afford (and never could) to buy them what they wanted when they wanted it but we kept them well fed, clothed and kept a roof over their head. In 2006 we were in a house fire, the corroner ruled it an electrical fault then in Nov 2007 a plumber changing the hot water system set fire to the roof. My kids have been through enough hell and now DoCS (as they are known in NSW) have taken away the only thing that ever meant anything to me. I was abused as a child and DoCS only stepped in after they had removed my sister. They left me there for 3 years with the rapist and did nothing in that time. In court they brought up the time I ran away from home at 14 and blamed it all on my mother, the rape, the running away, the fact she couldn't keep her kids together. Now I am being accused of hereditary neglect, basically meaning, because my grandmother neglected my mother, my mother neglected me, then I must have neglected my boys. Not only all that, the officers lied in court trying to introduce false evidence but when it came time for our proof we didn't neglect our children, even the judge didn't want to know. People who report other people because they are seeking revenge need to realise, they are pulling the officers away from the children who need the help, the ones who are being bashed and dying in their parents care. All I want now is my babies back and life to go back to normal but I know this will never happen. I have to live with knowing I am labelled a bad mother for the rest of my life and my kids will grow up also knowing my partner and I did nothing wrong but the dribble that DoCS are putting into their heads on a weekly basis. DoCs have a huge problem also with mothers who breastfeed their children for longer than 12 months. My youngest boy was breastfed for almost 5 years. I tried everything to ween him but was told by NMAA that he will ween when he is ready. Apparently that's wrong. I am supposed to stop feeding my child at 12 months and waste money on formula when breastmilk is supposed to be best.

      I am sorry to hear all these stories and am saddened even still that I have now become one. Nothing will ever fix what has happened and nothing will ever be the same for any of us in this position. All we can do is our best and hope that gets us our kids back in the end. Good luck to you all.

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      scheng1 7 years ago

      It's sad that society generally condemns the wrongly-accused party. This adds to the hurt of the wrongly-accused.

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      Tami 7 years ago

      Last friday the Denver cops showed up at my door and handed me a piece of paper stating that my fiancé was being investigated for child abuse. They questioned my 7 year old and 5 year old at school. From what I am gathering from my kids the cops were the first ones to talk to them. and then the social worker showed up. We met with an investigator on Monday and he gave my fiancé a ticket for harming a minor x's 2. The reason they got involved was because my oldest does have a scratch on his nose from ruff housing with my fiancé and my youngest had a bruise on his cheek.. The bruise on the cheek happened at school and my son has told 4 people the same story. We are going through this on only one income and we have to get an attorney so that we don't lose custody of the boys or my fiancé goes to jail or worst prison. Is there anyone out there that has some information for us...

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      stressed!!! 7 years ago

      Recently my boyfriend whom lives with me was acused by his sons mother of abusing his sons.. now i have a daughter by him and another daughter by another man but my boyfriend is all shes ever know and that she calls daddy.. his 2 boys also live with us.. now the mother is in and out of jail, on drugs, cant keep a job.. n called cps on us well it clear the case was dropped.. but now she filed a interjunction and they took the boys until our court date...he cant even go near the school his son goes to.. if he was abusing his kids in my home i wouldn't be with him and wouldn't he beat the others??? wouldn't i report it..?! shes just mad cuz she cant handle them like we can and that we have a family... she has taken them..well stole them from us number of times and she always gives them back cuz she cant do it... she wants the food stamps and the childsupport that's all.. what to do?? what do we do for court and what do we say?? HELP!

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      UNKNOW 7 years ago

      My husband has been accused of hitting our son in Colorado. It is so scare I don't want anything to happen to my family!

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      Laura A. 7 years ago

      I was accused of child abuse a couple of days ago, I have been in a 5 year legal custody battle with my ex-husband. He is the one who takes me to court, has called child protection, the police dept. and has even had a private investigator follow me around. In the five years he has never found anything to use against me. A couple of days ago I was served to appear in court for alleged child abuse. The document claims that ALL the scars on my 7 year old son, I made. My son is an avid soccer player and my ex-husband fails to note that. He also failed to inform CPS of our 5 year custody battle, etc. I was awarded primary residental custody since our divorce, and we are in trial ex-husband tried to have our oldest son claim abuse against me, but my son never said what daddy wanted him to say..anywho, several doctor visits later and therapists later...our youngest son now comes out of the shadows and says that mommy hits him. My youngest son has also said that he says that because daddy makes him say these things and if he doesn't he will hit him and will get very mad at him. Anywho, I wish I could say that I have faith in the system BUT that light seems to dim more and more each day. My ex-husband currently was awarded for his access to be extended until further investigation. It's been two dreadful, surreal, sad, weeks since I last had my boys. How can someone just say the word abuse and everyone jump??? I miss my boys with all my heart and I will continue to fight (with my attorney)for my boys because they have been put in the hands of the man who has mentallty & emotionally abused them and hope that the system sees the truth.

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      falsely accused 3 times 7 years ago

      I was falsely accused of child abuse on my children. My daughter's father accused me thinking that my kids were automatically going to be taken away to be given to him, since i have full custody of them, due to his past usage of alcoholic problems and Marijuana. The investigation went on by interviewing my children, myself, and by visiting my home, etc.. The Case was closed after that. Then he called cps a second time now falsely accusing me of drug abuse i offered myself to be drug tested and cooperated with them to proof my innocense, case was also closed. This was a very hard time for me, he is now fighting for custody and going to use this against me as well as some police reports he filed against me without me knowing. I also recently had an argument with my brother's girlfriend.(They have a child together)that sadly ended in a fist fight,i defended myself from her that day, something she doesn't expect from anyone. Well as revenge: since she knows about my recent problems with the father of my kids she has now accused me of child abuse not only to my children but to my two year old niece also. Somehow she took pictures of her baby with a bruise on her forehead two days after the argument. Took them to police. No where in this world am i known as a bad or abusive person; Im not one to do any of this! I'm now being charged for this,a felony 3 and being investigated for the third time by CPS. This is by far the worst thing to happen to me in my life and all because of lies! Im currently trying to fix this in court with my attorney and having a hard time proving my innocense. The worst part of all is that when you're accused your automatically seen as guilty. Any advise anyone? Do you know if i will go to jail for this false accusation?...This has taken away so many nights of sleep, and the depression is kicking in hard. :-(

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      Totally Shocked!! 7 years ago

      Recently I was falsely accused and charged with abuse of a child, namely my step daughter. I have 3 children of my own, and a step son and step daughter who live with their father. (my SS moved 3 years ago, and my SD moved 18 months ago - after we grounded her from Army Cadets one evening for her continual rude, disrespectful behaviour towards us her parents)

      Now I am to move from the family home, only have surpervised access to my children, not be at pools, schools, etc.

      This comes after a year of much stress over the twice changed mind of my wife to move, and take up the offer of her father to put her up in a new house. My wife wanted to share custody of our 3, when it suited her work schedule. After my wife decided to remain in the relationship, my SD increasingly became irrational and emotional. Recently the CAS was called on her father, as a result of an anonymous complaint regarding her fathers' alcoholism, neglect etc. As it turns our there has been embellishment, and lies by both the SS and SD regarding their father. My SD wanted to move away from him, and be with her mother, but was not interested in returning to our rural, somewhat isolated home, as she was hoping to move with her mother into a new home, close to her school, and in town, so she wouldn't have to rely on getting driven around (she is very social) I also would confess our home isn't the nicest, as it is still be finished, a project we took on when we purchased the home, and has been delayed, by the number of children we have.

      I can see why she doesn't want to move here as well because she thought she would get her own room built right away, without due consideration to the other higher priority jobs that required completion. Also I don't approve of her continual weekend long sleepovers with her boyfriend either. Her boyfriend lives almost 2 hours from our location. Her mother considered moving close to her work which is halfway.

      I am appalled at how this can happen. My wife just doesn't know what to believe. She is mainly believing her daughter, but she also can't believe I would do anything like this.

      Just on the say so of a melodramatic, embellishing, extrovert of a child, A family is ruined.

      My son is absolutely devastated. He is very angry. All my children ages, 3, 6, 10, are acting out. It is so disheartening to witness. On top of everything, I have home-schooled my children, my son the longest at five years. He is very involved in sports, swimming, karate, soccer, gymnastics, etc. Not shy at all to get up in front of a large group to demonstrate katas, in karate, loves soccer, and is an avid computer enthusiast who has recently taken to programming adjustments to his favourite pc games. My daughter the artist, asked who was going to be her new daddy, because my wife and in-laws have told her I am going to jail. My little 3 year old son with most charming smile is just becoming aggressive and intolerant. AhhhhhhhhhhhhH!!!!!!!! I have been their primary care giver, and now, ....

      Than I hear from my wife, my SD doesn't want me to be apart from my kids, nor does she want me to go to jail. This from the 16 SD who has made such absolutely horrid allegations. What did she think, Mom would just finally choose to leave me with no question as to her ability to get full custody (increased government financial assistance, an issue she often raised over the past year when considering separating.) How can anyone be so socio-pathic to make incredibly bogus allegations?

      Ahhhhhhh!! Stupid punk kid. Stupid misguided child. And to think on top of all of this BS, she has been recently taking birth control pills, that have their warnings of all manner of emotional instability. Do ya think, DUH!!

      Even the cop who arrested me couldn't look me straight in the eye.

      So much BS. What happens when I am cleared? What a pretty letter of apology for what she has done? Worse, what if I am not cleared? Her word against mine. She is a great actress too.

      I am so frustrated. The only thing holding me together, is the commitment to my wonderful children who need me. I love them, and am furious over the harm, this one selfish, unstable child is causing. How dare she.

      Even despite after interviews, with my 3 children, and 2 stepchildren, there was no corroboration by any other child, apparently according to my wife the CAS worker stated that I have our 3 kids so brainwashed, that they wouldn't speak out against me even if I had assaulted them.

      So not only do I have a false allegation, I have some CAS worker, denying the honesty of my children, and trying to convince the world, I assaulted them as well. No proof, this after 20 minute or less interviews. What is wrong with people, do they not see the damage they are doing?

      I hope that anyone out there considering to lie like my SD has, please, please reconsider.

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      me 7 years ago

      heather kirkwood does pro bono...she is a harvard grad google her!

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      me 7 years ago

      she is in wash state or oregon, but if you google her she will come up...she is wonderful

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      me 7 years ago

      she is in wash state or oregon, but if you google her she will come up...she is wonderful

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      crystal 7 years ago

      i was falsely accused two weeks ago. i had an incident with an ex friend and she then called dcfs. i am still waiting for the case to be closed. the social worker did tell us that after a report is unfounded that anyone who tries to report you again for 7 years will have to leave their name. they cant make an anonymous report. that means that you can press charges on the person for making a false report.

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      Desperate Wife 7 years ago

      My husband is being falsely accused of sexually abusing his children,(two different mothers)It all started because the weekend b4 we took her son she was gonna leave her oldest son home alone, my hubby said don't do that, just bring him up here. So she did and said she would be back on the next day to get the oldest son. She never did until the day after that until she came and got both boys. She stated the two kids called and asked her to come get them, the very next weekend she was calling us to take her son for the weekend. We said we had plans. After 3 calls that day, his son hung up on him cause we weren't gonna take him. Monday comes along and we were waiting for his daughter to come home and she didn't. Come to find out Dss went to the school and took her. The mother with the son took him to a councelor and he said his dad did bad things to him and his step sister. Long story short, He is sitting in jail for something he didn't do, has a court appointed attorny who isn't doing much for him. Our lives have deffinately changed for the worse! I would like to discuss this further with a pro bono lawyer, in Massachusetts. If anyone knows of one could you please let me know?? I'm desperate to help him prove his innocents! They even moved his trial back 9 months. So he will be sitting there for 2 years b4 it even goes to trial..Hope someone out there is interested in hearing my husbands story and is willing to help him! Thanks!

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      jaime/fla 7 years ago

      i live in fla and someone made a call on me. On 1/16/10 there was an officer and SS investigator waiting on me at my daughters school. The report said i had hit her in the jaw and chest and they did a drug test on me. I don't even drink. Now they want my daughter, which will be 10 in a few days, to go have a psychological evaluation.they already have ben by my house and seen that we live nicely and that she has everything that a child needs plus.only thing that i can think of is that someone must be upset with me and this is there revenge.SICK!it seems that dcf wants to keep digging to hopefully mske a case.SICK!what they don't relize is they are making nothing into somethink ands its the child and only the mother who suffers.dose anyone have any advice on how to get this chip of our bach? is enough.yes i understand sometimes that they don't do a well enough job,but sometimes they do go way to far.this case needs to be closed cause there is no case here

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      mom in pain 7 years ago

      i have a sick week old daughter my third child i have a 3 year old son and a 4 year old son i took my daugter to the hospital becaue she cryed when i moved her arm on friday january 22 2010 and i was never seen they took to long and i had her another appoinment so i went ahead and took her to the dr appoinment there the doctor twist and turnered her arm aleast 3 times up and down and then sent her for xrays after the xray the arm swoll up and then they diagnosed her with a spiral fracture to her humerus they investigated all my other children me and my husband and they removed her from the home. they left the other children. the doctor has stated that she do not know how this happened and she says that she can see that it has been broken for the most 14 days and with that sayed they will not allow my family any custody because they don't know if any of them has had custody in the last 14 days. i don't know how her arm was broken. this is really unfair my daughter is in the care of some people i don't even know and i cant even get visit what did i do so wrong. they are treating me like i brought in a battered infant. by the way my other children have never been in the hospital with any suspect sistuation.

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      hurting for two years 7 years ago

      mom in pain

      i know your pain, my daughter had the exact same problem, she had a broken arm, and we were accused of abuse its been almost two years now, and we finnally prooved she was sick, our pain is almost over...please call lawyer heather kirkwood, google her she will help

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      bella 7 years ago

      On thanks giving weekend I was arrested by my childrens father, he told them i had been threatening him, and i was trying to take my children away, then last week I had child protection workers come to my home, because we worked out our differences started counselling for the both of us and our children, they said Iam and abusive spouse, and that they did not want us together, im 125lb 56" he is 230lb 5 11" i don't think i could hurt him, but ss thinks i can. they said they were going to close our file, but then they went to our childrens school and interogated them, she coerced my son to say that i stabbed there dad in the stomach and he had to get stitches in his belly. the truth was there dad donated a kidney to his brother and of course he came home with stitches on his stomach small enough to look like a stab wound. the children knew there dad donated a kidney, but they a had told us that this woman came into the room had pop and candy waiting for them and as she was interogating them she was "really nice to us" my son said and that is why they told her what she wanted to hear, so now Im afraid they are going to take my children away from me, they have been trying for years but they never had a reason to take them away they managed to take all of my family members that live in the same city away from them, and when that started they were constantly at my door with new accusations and Im afraid now that my children had told them this lie that they will succeed in there witch hunt

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      TJ 7 years ago

      My ex was falsely accused of sexual abuse 5 months ago. He was released on bond and one of the conditions is that he cannot have any contact with anyone under 18. My children were interviewed prior to his arrest and they adamently deny any innapropriate actions by their father (the older two are now adults). I do understand the stipulations of his bond yet I do not understand why the D.A. will not approve SUPERVISED visitation for our minor children. I've pleaded on behalf of my children yet my pleas fall on deaf ears. Does anyone know what I can do??? My children have never gone more than 3 days without seeing their father and they are truly suffering.

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      anonymous55 7 years ago

      My child's school sent DYFUS saying I abused her. Ridiculous and downright insane. The social workers saw that there was just no evidence of any kind of neglect towards any of my four children. They plan to close the file. However, I am mortified that anyone can just call and make such unfounded accusations. I was told the case will be closed but is there more that I need to worry about here? What rights do I have? I am not allowed to confront them because technically they're anonymous but can a lawyer investigate this matter for me, or a PI or someone who can look into this and prove the school incompetent and reckless?

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      Confused! 7 years ago

      I have a friend that is being falsely accused of child abuse and was wondering if her name gets put on the Registry List what does that mean, how bad will it hurt her and her future. She doesn't have the money to fight with a lawyer, so wondering what to tell her on how this will effect her life, and her two children she has custody of.

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      nathancandy 7 years ago

      A couple months ago my six year old step-daughter acussed my five year old of sexuall abuse. Long story kinda short She told the ER doctors, the police and ss that my five year old held her down and shoved something up her butt but when the Drs examined her there was no evidince. When the ss and police asked her to draw the object he useed she drew a cat. SS told me that they belived my son after talking to him. When they talked to him they came into my house before my son came home from school so they knew that i had no chance of talking to him. When my husband took his daughter home the mother had half an hour to talk to her daughter. The mother of my step-daughter has made false acusations before and has made my life a living hell for the five and a half years. When she was acussing me i let go of it and dealt with it but when she started on my five year old there has to be something to do. We don't have much money to do anything we have five children together. If there is anyone that had some advise please let me know it would be greatly apreciated and used.

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      Confused, frustrated, irritated 7 years ago

      I have been accussed of abusing a child at my job not once but twice within a span of two and a half weeks. I only have been working there for a month and a half. I am very passionate when it comes to working with kids and what they fail to realize is this is not only going to affect my employment but my entire career that I have taken the time to build for years.

      Now I have loans in a field that doe not protect me and may or may not be able to obtain a position in it. Regardless of working in this field I must still pay my loans. Why????????? would a person do this, is it jealousy? I am praying everyday that I can get through this crisis.

      I pray that employers find away to properly protect their employees from such accusations because this is no game or joke, people take this very seriously. I will be praying for everyone who may be going throughthe same thing. God Bless!!!

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      Help...Please 7 years ago

      I have 4 children my youngest is 5 weeks my sis 23 was watching the kids, well she fell asleep with the baby on her chest she said she woke up and he was on the floor crying(his arm is broke) we rushed him to the hospital and cps was called I understand this people have a job to do but they are say she did the to him. My sis ironically is in school for social work I am going to school for nursing. this whole thing has been a nightmare!!! I know with everything in me she would never hurt my kids...They have her taking a lie detector test soon. I don't know what to do. We never even considered this would happen to us in a million years. All I can do is pray right now, does anyone have anymore advise for me? I am freaking out!!!!

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      impervious 7 years ago

      So I stumbled across this page while searching for advice on where in my custody/dissolution trial I can bring up the 6 false abuse allegations that my husband has placed on me (which were all dismissed for finding no abuse present). He was charged with terroristic threats and two assault charges when he threatened to kill everyone in the house (our two boys 3 & 4 were present), beat another person badly, and dislocated my jaw. He was only convicted of domestic and an assault and spent 8 days in jail. Now I am trying to prepare myself for this trail and its me against his lawyer... if anyone has any advice, please share it. Also, pray for me and my boys who have already been through so much.

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      Hopeless 7 years ago

      I have been falsely accused of child abuse against my son that I have raised for the past 3 years. My ex husband is accusing me of child abuse to hurt me and has made false allegations about me to the asst state attorney. They have no evidence and my ex husband has no proof of his allegations. I went four months with no contact with my son. Now I have had only 4 visits with my son for one hour at a time with a doctor present in the room and my ex husband has managed to have to courts enact a stay-away order against me. I cannot call my son, see him, go to visit him at school, or send any gifts. I can only write to him but he is not able to read yet and that means I must rely on my ex husband to read him letters. I raised my son for the first year on my own while my ex husband was overseas, and spent the past two years being separated from my ex husband, raising my son while he partied. I finally filed for divorce and walked away from the marriage thinking it would be quick and easy as I asked for nothing. When I started dating, problems began. Now, I'm being accused of child abuse with no evidence or history, and I have had my son taken away from me. I have not been able to have my son home since July 2009. I am in such pain and don't know what to do. My attorney has asked for another continuance (3 now), meanwhile my ex husband is brain washing my son and I am losing time with my baby boy. I don't know what to do anymore. I have taken and passed a polygraph, two pyschological evaluations, and have had great positive visits and reports by the doctor with my son. My ex husband and his father know a few people in power and my life has been taken away fom me. I have been outcasted in town and feel like a prisoner in my own home. Please help me. I'm desperate, sad, and frustrated.

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      anne 7 years ago

      i found out through social work records that my x partners sister has been maken annonymouse phone calls and accusations,my x partner phones them and asks updates after accusen me hitten my youngest son,which his dad admitted to social work was his siter and called it tit for tat,all accusations are kept on record as maliciouse calls so why are they not prosecuted and charged for it,seems be the main parent with mental illness is held responsible for everything wrong in a childs life,we are failed to be heard or have rights comes to seeing social work records kept on us unless done through courts

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      JJ 7 years ago

      I wound up in Jail during trial, for 8 months, with shit and piss being thrown at me at all hours of the day or night. I am a big guy and so no one wanted to confront me physically. But I knew if convicted I would be living in hell in prison. I became my own advocate. I requested copies of all documents accusing me and transcripts of every court proceeding. I made my notes on them so I could help with my defense. It was the only thing that kept me alive, especially knowing that in this type of crime no evidence is needed, only the accusers testimony.

      Like I said before I am a big guy, and during that time I was dealing drugs and it was one of my clients who did it to me because I would not give him free drugs. I am also fairly good looking and have had numerous women lovers. This knowledge was the only thing that kept some incarcerated friends from kicking my ass or worse. The Dickerson brothers were bigger than me and notorious for going to jail once a month for a bar brawl. The older brother even warned me that if I got convicted that I should hang myself in the courtroom rather than come back into the jail.

      The following is a little explicit:

      The kicker in the whole accusation (the accuser was a boy of 6 coached by his father) was that the boy was asked how did he know I had penetrated him and he replied because he looked back and saw it. This was in every document. I couldn't believe that the accusation went so far. I had even asked the prosecutor, when in her office, if she had ever had anal sex and if that is the way she knew she was penetrated. I offered to pull down my pants and get an erection to see if she could handle my 8 inch and thick penis. That I had no problem showing it to her or anyone she appointed. Because if she had my penis in her ass she would know it before full penetration just as he would have screamed bloody murder if I had done it to him.

      But the only thing that got me off was I did my due diligence. I had a public defender who, as we all know, don't do much but make deals. I don't think he would have figured anything out without my help. So if you are innocent, do your own due diligence. There are too many innocent people in prison (25% +-). And that is injustice. Our court system doesn't care whether you are right or wrong, its all about who has the better argument. Justice is blind to many things, but the truth is number one.

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      Annonymous 7 years ago

      My kids dad and I are going through a recent nightmare. Two weeks ago thursday a lady came over and said she was from DCFS. She told me an annonymous person called in and said my kids dad sexually abused our daughter and what she said was an exaggerated lie. I do not know what to do!! My daughter is in daycare 5 times a week monday through friday 9am-5:30pm and when she is not at daycare she is at home with me. I cannot believe people can get away with calling DCFS and make up lies. I NEED HELP WHAT R WE TO DO?? THEY WANT TO DO A LIE DETECTOR TEST ON MY KIDS DAD PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE OR IF YOU CAN HELP PLEASE LET ME KNOW MY E-MAIL ADDRESS IS BUTTERFLYGRL54303US@YAHOO.COM ALL UNDERCASE PLEASE SEND ME AN E-MAIL IF YOU HAVE ADVICE OR YOU CAN HELP WE CANT EVEN AFFORD AN ATTORNEY

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      Nicole 7 years ago

      My boyfriend was falsely accused of child abuse...he and his daughter were playing and "rough housing" as he has always done with his daughter and my 3 year old daughter and all his nephews, his 6 year old daughter claimed he hurt her intentionally. She told his mother this because she kept pressuring her the child first told the grandmother they was really playing and he didn't try to hurt her but because she had gotten a bruise on her arm and a scratch on her face the grandmother kept asking repeatadly and as any young child will do she said what she knew would get her attention the most... Any ways his mother went to the police and the cps got involved, well by the time the child, who has previously had a problem with being a habitual liar and had been previously diagnosed with odd(obsessive defiant disorder), told the truth that they really was just playing to law enforcement it was to late. we talked to many lawyers around and no one would take the case for less that 10,000 and we didn't have that kind of money laying around so he was stuck with a public defender who said this was his first case like this (not really something we wanted to hear) he was offered a plea of 20 years with serving 15 in federal prison we didn't take it then he was offered 15 serving 10 we declined this offer also, he then voluntarily with the help of the decision of his public defender took a lie detector test which was admisitered 3 times he passed every time... so he passed the lie detector and the child admitted she lied but neither mattered. The test couldn't be used as evidence because the district attorney didn't want it used. His lawyer even wanted to use character witnesses for my boyfriend and that was denied. So 3 days befor court he was offered a plea of 10 years 3 suspended 5 probation and serve 2 in prison... he was advised by his public defender it would be smart to take it because we couldn't prove his innocence and even if they was playing the way the statue reads on child abuse in mississippi temporary dismemberment(a bruise) qualifies as child abuse even if you are playing with your child and he or she gets a bruise its child abuse...if you spank your child and a red mark shows its child abuse.. how are you supposed to discipline your child.. the laws are so messed up to "protect the child" that nothing can protect a parent... No wonder so many children are into drugs and running around your pretty much not allowed to discipline your child.. Pretty much your houseing government property. My boyfriend was told if he didn't take the plea and he went to court there was a great chance it wouldn't turn out well and he would be looking at 20 to life.. although it deemed him guilty he and family decided it would probally be the best because of the fact that if he went to court and lost that his 8 month old son could possibly be 25 when he was free or the 3 year old 28 and the 6 year old 31... So he was told by his grandfather that sometimes a wise man knows when to back down, so he did now he is sitting in jail for 2 years and will be on probation for 5 and will be a convicted felon for the rest of his life... i don't know if that's the worst thing or the fact that the 6 year old child is off scotch free and has the power to do this again and she will i believe because now she knows what to do to get her way and get attention... How are we supposed to be comfortable around our children with the laws so messed up. what's worse is there are children out there abused every day and the abusers are free.... My boyfriends family and i are going to try to make lie detector test admissable in court for future cases where the innocent are guilty.. if you have a case like this or know some one who has please email me the story at Thanks Nicole in Mississippi

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      Mrs.JULIE BURANY 7 years ago

      Dear Counsel,

      My name is Mrs.JULIE BURANY . I am contacting your firm in regards to a divorce settlement with my ex husband ( Mr Scott Burany) who resides in your jurisdiction. We had an out of court Agreement (Collaborative Law Agreement) for him to pay $796,500.00 plus legal fees. He has only paid me $82,000 since.

      I have been on sick bed over a protracted espionage long cancer. I am presently in London hospital recuperating.

      I am hereby seeking your firm to assist in collecting the balance from him as he has agreed already to pay me the balance by next week as long as the payment is going into my legal counsel's trust account who will also act as witness to this transaction.

      I want Your Firm to help me collect this payment from him or litigate this matter if he fails to pay as promised as i am urgently in need of the money for my treatment and my children general well being. Kindly Reply to my Private email address:



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      cannot reveal my name for legal pruposes sorry!!=( 7 years ago

      I need advice. I have a 17 month old little girl and 3 month old son. well around 2:30 am just after easter my son woke up crying for a bottle and a diaper change. I awoke but by the time i got awake enough to be able to know what i was doing my boyfriend got up and took care of him. So i laid back down thinking thank you omg sleep. so i turned my back to them closed my eyes and tried to go back to bed. Well my son was screaming which he normally does when he has to be burped or needs a diaper my boy friend tended to all of this. well he couldn't calm him down so he asked for my help. my boyfriend had my son on his back and had it to where my son was grasping his fingers. he noticed that my sons left arm was non responsive. We didn't know what it could be and really didn't think of what could have happened for it to be non responsive we woke his dad and my daughter up. we all got ready and rushed to the hospital. upon arrival we couldn't explain what was wrong all we knew was that something was severly wrong and every time you touched or even moved my sons arm he would scream bloody murder. they took us back and we waited as they poked around on him. well they did an x-ray and found that his arm had a spiral fracture. i didn't know what a spiral fracture was just that a fracture was a broke arm almost. well we were freaking out trying to come up with scenerios on how this could have happened to my baby. the hospital called dcf and reported it. they came out and talked to us seperatly this dick head cop interigated us seperatly and because we couldn't tell them an exact story of what had happened it looks really bad. well the dcf worker said we know ur concerened and worried but we are not going to take your baby. we were releived she said they would put us through parenting classes and counseling and we were more than willing to comply with there demands. well 3 hours later she comes in with a car seat and says shes taking my baby. we freaked out we were running on lack of sleep we are still worried and we were histerical. i was in dcf all of my life and abused also so i know the pain. now they are trying to use the fact that i was abused against me trying to make it seem like i am crazy and is thinking abuse is ok well i am 110% against any form of abuse. They have ripped up our family my daughter is so confused the person watching my children while the caregiver is working is not sticking to my sons diet plan to help him gain weight because he was 3 weeks premature and breech when he was born and had a sensitive stomache so he was on soy formula. she is not feeding him the way he needs to be fed to help continue his weight gain and i cant stand this girl. They wont let my boyfriend see the kids they are making him look like some kind of monster. if my boyfriend handled im wrong when he went to care for him and it happened then then we both know it was an honest to god accident. my boyfriend has gotten to the point where he wont co-operate with them unless he has an attorney present i passed a u.a and they are coming out monday to inspect the home. i just visited with my beautiful little angels today and it went well still hard on any mother to be able to see her children for a time limit and have them taken again from you. We have already found so many things that dcf has done wrong they didn't u.a either of us when they took the kids they took my son back to the hospital for his hand swelling from the fracture and didn't notify me AT ALL!!! and im still pissed about that i want to know what happens to my kids whether its a paper cut or a bug bite i want to know. they never finger printed the caregiver within 24 hours of placing them in there care. and the caregivers family has been running there mouth about everything and were being slandered all over myspace. these people are making him out to seem like a monster me seem like im some piece of shit mother whos sum luv sick puppy and im tired of it. i want my children home where they belng so we never have to look back. so when we think of it its just a bad memory. please help

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      Dan 7 years ago

      To all you who have gone through this, and I have been wrongfully accused as well. If you go to this site if can save you a host of un-needed drama. Especially if you have just been falsely accused. It is a horrific situation when people that you once loved could act in such evil and destructive ways. May God have mercy on their soul.

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      Rocky 7 years ago


      Reason: Falsely accused of Child Molestation

      I have been falsely accused of molestation. this has been going on for around 2-3 years. Lately, I've been Removed from South Charleston Taco bell (accuser's ex husband's workplace) because of this matter. He had told me not to talk to or even look at his son. I moved to another table quietly like nothing was said. Another employee had addressed us and gave us a take out bag told us (my girlfriends Step-Mother and myself) that I had to leave but she could stay. This happened recently at the beginning of April. We did leave the store quietly, just very aggravated. being publicly humiliated for no reason. I had broke down and cried over all of this, being accused over something I didn't do.Angie(girlfriend's Step-Mother)drove to my friends house to calm down I was so depressed about all of this. i just couldn't handle it.

      Am I eligible of emotional Damages?

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      crissy2010 7 years ago

      Me and my feonce are being falsely accused of child abuse ATM. Almost 3 weeks ago we woke up from a nap to find our 4 month old had his leg stuck in the crib so i paniced and pulled him out. well he seemed like he was ok so we didn't worry about it till the next day. The day after it had happened he started acting like he couldn't move it so then we started to get a little worried. So we layed him on his tummy and he was using it a little better than on his back so we felt a little better about it. Then comes day 3 we had takin him out to my feonce's mothers house to get time to our selves for a night and she calls us at 11pm at night saying that its starting to swell and he is crying more. He had an appointment with a doctor the next day so we had them look at it then to make sure it wasn't broken and they sent us down to the ER for them to X-ray it and it came back as ok. Then they wanted to do a full body X-ray that consists of 27 diff. X-rays. Then they come back telling us that there were 9 fracture's on him 4 being spiral. We flipped out and i was in shock wondering what was going on. We had left to go to the house and get clothes because they said they were ganna keep him overnight because before they got all those results back they had just thought that there was a bacteria in the bone causeing it to swell. So we had gotten a call while at home then not even 20min. later a cop, detective, and social worker shows up at our door to take our kids, because i have a 2 year old too. They took my 2 year old into the hospital to examine him and do a full body scan X-ray on him he came out clean. Now there trying to charge us with felony child abuse which is 15-20 years locked up. My baby was born 4 months early, stillbirth took then 20min. to rececitate him but he made it and was in a mercy hospital for almost 3 months before we even got to bring him home. I don't know what to do because they are trying there hardest to pin this on us. We think that it could have possible happened while he was in the hospital for the 3 months. Needless to say we are going through some major hell right now and they have him in protective custody and were anly aloud to see him once a week supervised visits. We also have to take a phsyciatric evaluation to see if we are capable of doing something like this. I cant eat i cant sleep, all i want is my baby back but they are going to drag this out for another 2 moths possably. So i know how people are feeling being falsely accused of something that they haven't done. I'm just hoping that they actually open there eyes and see that we didn't do this and love our kids with all our hearts. And all i know is when this is all over, and have my baby back im going to be leary with who has him and the way they are handling him. I also want to say that i can understand what the lady said 4 days ago about her baby and the spiral fracture well they are pointing fingers at me like they are at your boyfriend and im the mother for crying out loud. they were trying to judge my man on his past with a false assult charge on him and i told them you don't even be lookin at him for this he is a perfect father in every way shape and form. so now they are pointing at me. So i understand chick trust me. And good luck on yours. Just make sure you have a lawyer presant during any questioning and do not under and surcomstances answer any with out him presant because they can come back and say he said she said. And you don't want that so your boyfriend is doing the right thing when it comes to that. Just do not get snappy with them or irritated at anytime. you don't want them to have that on you.

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      Confused, IN 7 years ago

      Are you kidding me... Being accuse of something even little can ruin someone's life... If I am found guilty of this stupid and not true accuisation... I can lose my privelages of being a health care worker!!! LIes hurt peoples lively hood and not sure why someone would make something up .. it's cruel!!! And Not only Not only It isn't fair but I wasn't nice not rude but just... I don't know confused and caught off guard, and was defensive to the worker, who just showed up out of no place!!! So I look guilty right? or can I just still be in shock...

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      hurt and angry couple in ga. 7 years ago

      To say this last year was easy woulod be the biggest lie i ever told .my husband was accused of abuseing our children . My father and new wife wants my children for their money . My kids have said that they told them what to say, and how and when to say it . dfacs came into my home , and checked our house . They had the police search my home 2 times . when they found nothing they still screamed he did this. I've asked for proof they say i have to trust them, but the fact is they have none. They said i have to trust them , but how can i trust them when they got on the stand all they did was lie. About everything . They said my children wouldn't have known anything about sex. My kids are 13 and 16 . They teach them about sex in school, and if they are telling the truth and my father and his chick did tell them what to say ... well wouldn't adults know what sex is ? no one listens . Everyone here in our town knows . we have no privacy ,and worst of oall they are letting my father and her get away with it . They never even asked them about it . And worse they are tring to put my kids in their home. My father is a drunken abusive butthead . He had a child removed from his home for almost 2 years . But none of that matters. It's a bad nightmare and doesn't seem to be ending soon. I've neve had anything against me.But they tell me they r worried about me. And about the safety of my kids.Yet they want to put them in the hands of a drunk , mean abuseive man .I don't get it .Can Anybody give me some help? thank you .

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      Tina Davenport 7 years ago

      Crissy2010 I understand what your saying, my son and his girlfriend has two children, both premature. It wasn't his arm it was his leg, and all of us are going through the same thing. I have went and hired them an attorney, but the CFS, and the rest are wanting to know what they are preparing for the hearing. I informed the kids not to talk to them about the case, without their attorney present. Also, He got his leg caught in the babybed as well. They only took one child into protective custody, and informed them that they might have to pay child support to this foster parent whom was late getting the child to a visit. Did they say something to her, NO. It just cut the time down for the visit.

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      Karyme 7 years ago

      My wife (along with our 17 month daughter) abandoned our home and went to a womens shelter. She accuses me of emotional abuse. This is false, as she just wants out and wants me to support her habit.

      Should I change the locks at my home because I am afraid that if she returns, she may up the ante and accuse me of something that will get me arrested. The police don't seem concerned about my concerns.

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      parental rights needs to be enforced!  7 years ago

      I'm a mother of two awesome children. Unfortunately, my fiancé was falsely accused of child abuse towards my daughter who is 11.

      Let me begin by saying that first of all I would not be with a man who I thought was abusive. If I had any doubts in my mind that he was we would NOT be together. I've known this man for over 9 years now. Longer than my first marriage with my ex-husband (which lasted 5 years). My fiancé and I are planning to be married next near.

      My daughter decided to go to the school's principle in the afternoon to report that my fiancé hit her across the face.....Not true and here is why.

      1st of all I put my children on the bus every morning and there was no red mark on her face if there was my fiancé would have left that same morning!

      2ndly, my son didn't say a thing or notice, and neither did my daughters teacher for that matter, or any of my daughters friends.

      3rdly, my daughter waited till the afternoon to report a story because she didn't want to listen that morning. When she reported it I was unaware of the report! I'm the emergency contact for her school "don't you think they would have called me?" Rather they didn't, and called the father instead (which I found out later). My ex-husband in return (a school teacher in our town, not the same school as my daughters) hands me a piece of paper ordering EMERGENCY TEMPORARY CUSTODY OF MY KIDS! And hands it to me as he was picking up the kids for the weekend! This is how I found out.

      My ex then after handing me the paper proceeds to tell me that my daughter had a mark on her face, and the principle stated the same thing. I find this amusing because firstly, there was no mark, it was filed as a non-emergency with DSS apparently, and in the report 51b it was filed as non-emergency. Why didn't my daughter go to the nurse? If there was a mark there would have been a report filed by the nurse "would there not?" however, there wasn't. Is it me or does this to you begin to sound like a conspiracy going on inside the school working with my ex-husband because he has some sort of influence as a teacher? Think about that one.

      If I had a student with a mark, bruise whatever, I would have sent that kid right away to the nurse and they would have not been coming home that day back to the abusers house....but guess what, the school sent both my children home that same day it was reported....still unaware anything was falsely said or filed....until that weekend my ex was having our children over.

      As frustating as this is, and how disappointed I am of my daughter for making such a lie. I can't blame her because well lets face it when kids don't get their way, they will say or do anything for either negative attention, or because they don't like the rules and regulations in a home. Have we all not done this people as kids....hello!

      To make matters worse I'm put in a report for excuse me on what have no evidence to back up this, and you're basing it off hearsay. Not to mention you are dealing with a divorced families, and like most divorced families that are not easy, kids are unfortunately put in the middle, or can play sides.

      I have always been fair with my ex not going through DOR working with him for the sake of the kids but this time he's gone too far and I'm not putting up with it. Thanks to him, I've lost my job and college education for now, because of dealing with false alligations. It's not a pretty picture.

      Now DSS, the social worker I got has blown off three appointments with my fiancé and I, is completely biased of us both and has zero intrest in listening to anything other than what the kids are saying. She not to mention completely screwed me in court by saying that it needs to be further investigated! to these people not have common sense? My fiancé and I have a house, 5 bedrooms, 2 full baths, and over a half an acre of land. The kids have their own rooms, he has provided more for my kids than their biological father, who is mind you divorced twice, has 4 kids, and is on his third about a red flag there! And to top it all off he is a teacher in my kids same school system and lives an hour away, and my kids behavior did a 360 since he started working there! The list goes on and this is only a small percentage of the crap I've had to encounter with him.

      My daughter like most girls, is a daddies girl (I have zero problem with that!) I'm glad he is a part of my kids lives....but it's to the point it's an obsession and it needs to stop. I've never taken this man to court for a damn thing and stayed out of his personal life giving him the benefit of the doubt because he needs to live too. I get that. But when you cross the line to take my kids away from me with false alligations and get the school to back you up or Social workers "without proof" biased, and take my kids away even when he has them every other weekend and two days during the week....which is more than what most fathers have, you've crossed the line by not only putting the kids in a bad situation by getting them to lie just to live with you, or make things up that are untrue, you've crossed the line in my opinion. Even the mandatory councelor that Social Services Implimented agrees with me 110% and doesn't understand why this is being dragged out or why when I requested for a new worker are they still using her to go to my ex-husbands house, and sending a different one here! IT'S FILED AS NON-EMERGENCY AND THEY ARE MAKING IT OUT TO BE EMERGENCY! Not to mention neither myself or my fiancé have a criminal record!

      In a nutshell, I'm tired of this, disappointed, and can't believe this is happening to my family. It's time that the governement looks as to how Social Services is abusing their SERVICES, and put PARENTAL RIGHTS BACK INTO EFFECT! I'm sorry but it's cases like these that make parents fear to even say anything to their children! And what then, pay taxes out of pocket for higher crime rates, and early pregnency in kids.....there is zero respect for parents today and not enough credit being given to those who do a wonderful job! I'm sick of Social Services thinking they control and have the final say. I'll be damned if someone tells me I'm a neglectful mother! Especially when I nor my fiancé did a damn thing!

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      Fed up 7 years ago

      I was falsely accused of fracturing my four year old's (now five) clavicle last year. The irony of the situation is that this was an accident, witnessed by at least two teachers at his preschool, while i was not even present! My accuser? A jealous mom. She hates me because of the way I look. Watch out people! These false accusations are easy to make but have devastating effects on families. The false accusers will receive no punishment whatsoever but they hold the power in their hands. It is completely unfair and ridiculous that they can get away with this. The laws must be changed to punish false accusers and set an example for others. I would never condone child abuse of any kind but as parents we are too vulnerable to the mentally ill individuals who know how to work the system. In my case, this jealous mom is a social worker. After she realized that her claims about my son were unfounded, she attempted to coerce my daughter into talking with her about " what was wrong". I still have to see this deranged woman on a regular basis and live in fear that the next time one of my kids gets hurt, she will be watching and waiting for her opportunity.

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      hathor bateman 7 years ago

      in 1995 and for neary 5 yearsi was acussed of mistreating my son ifirst heard about this of a small note in my mailbox fom there it snow ball into more trouble for my family my son then through this in more trouble with his mates and police eventunly welefare found out it wasn't me involed and the folled me for 4 years stalking me where ever i went my son bashsd his sister and handicaped brother plus his dad years later welfare knew about but did nothing about it i lost my marriage through all this and hy xhusband never blieved me at the time welfare said sorry i wouldn't accept it at all my son with all the counsling he got over the years made him worse he is now going to court this month for stabing another person his a voilent man and i should have being giving awwritten appolgy a long time ago for what happen my xhusband had cancer last few years abd i been sick from all this tell me what you think about this hathor

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      lost 7 years ago

      i am currently being accused of putting my 20 month old stepsons foot into hot water causing him to obtain 2nd degree burns. i was running a bath for him and my son and i left him alone near the bathroom. i never in a million years thought that he would get into the bath himself. i was in the living room when i heard the scream and i ran in there and saw he had his foot under the running water. i rushed him to the er. CPS now believes i submerged his foot into hot water. my husbands family has been saying horrible lies about me. my son and daughter have been taken away from me and are with my mother in law (which is not an ideal situation but better then foster care). this is a horrible experience and its just beginning. i want it to be over i want my children back.

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      unknown 7 years ago

      my husband's father's girlfriend, a breast cancer survivor, was reported because she was (supposedly) seen smoking pot on her front porch. they sent over HR to do a surprise investigation sunday morning. her daughter was dressed for church playing xbox while she was cooking breakfast. the HR investigator asked some questions and was intelligent enough to let it go.

      on another separate incident,

      my husband and i were called in to HR once because my x-husband had spanked our then 8yr child old on a weekend visit. they didn't even call in the right people!

      when they told us about what happened. we were confused why they had called us in. we knew of the exact incident because his father called us to let us know he was riding his bike out in the street where it was dangerous. and he had taken a twig or something from the yard and spanked him with it. he didn't get many spankings very often so we remember most of them and what they were for.

      i never spanked with switches (my mom used a spoon) but his father grew up that way. and that's how he spanked him. he didn't spank him hard enough to leave any marks and we had our son back at our house the following week.

      our son told his counselor about the spanking the following year.

      like others here i couldn't believe that they were waisting there time on a spanking that happened over a year ago!

      it also was dropped.

      like the people are saying it appears anyone can cry wolf and they are all over it.

      the most painful thing i see for the parents above is that they will miss so many special moments with their children that they can never get back. a first word, a first step, first game. just the overall bond you get to form over the years with your child.

      its awful that this happens to people, people that cant afford the protection they need.

      and also once you are accused it is ALWAYS with you.

      even if you are proved innocent. i know cause im to blame for looking at people this way in the past, celebrities, etc and thinking maybe they are guilty even though they were proved innocent.

      its devastating to hear all of these stories. its sad for the parents accused and for their children, because the kids are dependent on CPS to be sure they are not breaking apart loving families by mistake.

      i am hopeful that there is a place for people to share. i pray that all of the innocent people here are reunited with their loved ones. and that the CPS will take this seriously enough to change how they do things.

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      Rehan 7 years ago

      i have falsely accoused 2 weeks ago from my ex wife that i was sexually touching my step daughter when my ex wife was at work 4 years ago, this allegation made after when i applied for divorce.

      Now i have to go to police station in next 2 week to know if the charged me or not.

      i am confused and angry but hopping for good.

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      Pj 7 years ago

      These stories are horrible. There is something wrong with the system.

      My husband and I were reported to CPS, get this. FOR A BLISTER ON OUR CHILDS FOOT. The worker closed the case immediately, but it is troubling when a teacher can report a petty issue, when I am sure there are many children that are being beat, raped, tortured you name it. When they wasted there time and resources on us they could have been helping a child in need.

      We are considering a lawsuit, as the teacher questioned our daughter after the conversation with CPS, she did not follow proper procedures..the conversation was private.

      Any comments

      And Gob Bless the innocent families

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      praying is all i can do 7 years ago

      Reading this brings tears to my eyes ,,my feiance has been in jailwaiting trail for almost 6 months ,we have a 2 year old and now a 4 month old , when i frist started dating him his x girlfriend was very jelouse, she had a little girl(3) who thought of my man as a dad and even know they broke up we would have her (babysit ) alot her mom was on drugs and the little girl always wanted to come to are house ... well right after i had my son these false lies started coming out bout my man rapping her .. FROM THE 1ST time it came to are attention we told his x to take her to the doctor . well she never did and we never heard from her or the lil one for over a year ,well all the sudden a hole year latter he is being chargeed , and pretty much just cause that little girl said it means he did it ... i mean all they doctors reports say she has never been raped but some one has convinced the lil one in to thinking this shit happened to her .. so i am praying that god lets the truth come out cause i cant loose my babys dad over a lie my youngest has never even got to touch her daddy , I am so upset and the worst part is thatlil girl is for the rest of her life gonna think he did this to her!!1 man i am scared but shit he didn't do anything to desever all thus

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      lost and confused 7 years ago

      Last night CPS came to my house. Since my husband and I had just finalized a step-parent adoption to my son, I assumed she was there to do a follow-up.

      I was wrong. She was there to investigate a report of abuse.

      My son had at some point, in some manner, told his teacher or nurse that his dad (speaking of my husband)had punch him in the head and knocked him out...

      When she questioned him, my son went on to tell her that I abuse him. I yell and spank and push him down, and throw him across the room, and he gets sent to his room for weeks. All for the tiniest of infractions.

      When it was my turn to be questioned I was all sorts of confused, and distraught. I explained that my 9 year old is extremely sensitive. He often feels that the world is out to get him. He has had a lot of trouble with bullying at school and no one seems to want to listen. His side of the story is always "they punched me, they kicked me for no reason. and when i tell the teacher, they run up and tell her it was me. so i get in trouble and they get away with it." (his teacher apparently told him she was tired of the tattling and if there was no blood or guts she didn't want to hear about it.

      I also told her of an incident a few days earlier when my son came home with all his notebooks and had cleaned out his desk. I was looking through his work, seeing what they do, and came across a journal entry dated months before. "My dad punched me. I don't know why. It really hurt. For no reason." When I questioned my son, he said he was "improvising". That he was writing a story and was making it interesting for his readers. O.O

      I continued on with how I try my best to raise him. I was abused as a child and try very hard to not let any of that take place in my own home.

      Then my husband's turn came. I didn't hear most of their conversation, as I wasn't supposed to. But he did inform the woman that (and he has a much better memory than I do) he remembers an incident a few weeks back where my son came to him crying that I had hit his head off a chair. And when asked to further explain, it came out that I had given his a swat on the back of his head and he turned so quickly to get away from it that he knocked his head on the dining room chair.

      I am so lost right now. I don't understand why my son is so upset. I love him. I hug him everyday. He is well taken care of.

      I don't know how to explain the difference of abuse vs discipline to him. I tried. I told him a story of once, when I was about 15, my dad was so mad at me that he beat me with a wooden spatula for 20 minutes. Leaving black, and I mean black, bruises on my arms and back the size of grapefruits. I explained that there are families that don't all sit down to dinner together. Families that don't have food. I didn't want to scare him, or get his pity.

      I need so desperately for him to understand the difference. And the consequences of what could happen from the story he told.

      When I explained to him that he could be taken away, he didn't seem all that bothered. But tears streamed down his face when I informed him that my husband and I could also go to jail.

      Why does he think his life is so terrible?

      He has everything he needs. I would say "spoiled" but that always has bad connotations with it. Before now, I just thought he was privileged... Maybe his is spoiled.

      Any help or tips on how to get him to understand?

      And ideas on what to expect with CPS?

      It still hasn't sunk in. How likely is it that I could lose my child?

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      No way 7 years ago

      Child abuse a very serious crime I got very I'll and sacrificed my marriage trying to defend a false allegation of the same when my son started your school. Let's hope I don't have to do it again with his younger brother.

      So by the 3rd social worker and just about everybody refusing to make a phone call to my sons scout leader who was the only person I had any support from a mental health worker who wanted to take him into care on the strength of a pastoral log (teachers notes) before she even met him I lost the plot with them all put together a number of recordings I had made that proved my innocience and their incopentance, took it to the head of the prior school who it would seem sorted things out.

      School head who's staff led my autistic son into making the allegation wrote to me unsure what he would be apologising for.

      My advice to anybody ever slightly worried about being in the firing line is to put up some cameras record every meeting and put everything you need anybody to do in writing. 

      Then put it together on a cd send it to the in this case the head of the school and advise him/her you might put it on the web then they will treat you with some respect. They don't talk over my head now. 

      Beleive me I was a lucky one who saw it coming in time to do something about it a lesson any abuse victim will tell you they might wish they had done as a child.

      Abused becomes abuser not always true some of us learn from our experiences and do our best to protect our own children from the same. Just google berrow wood school. (now closed by the authorities)           

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      maryuk 7 years ago

      my partners ex is accusing me of smacking and pinching her son! she has alo said that when we used to have him overnight and my partner went to work she said i burnt him with cigarettes.. i cant believe the lies that people would make up about their own chidren being harmed, i am a care worker and i have 2 beautiful daughters, i just need to know what is going to happen next, she says she is going to see her solicitor so he cant come to our house anymore because she says he is at risk of harm from me. am i going to lose my girls? im so scared iv been crying myself to sleep at the thought of losing them. please can someone give me some advice because i really don't know what to do

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      don't want to be indentified  7 years ago

      I have two kids one is 6 and the other is 9 the littlest one pees her pants alot and she has premature altisum. I was called on to youth and county services last year in 2009 by my school saying my kid smelt like urine.

      I told the case worker that she has a problem holding her pee that we get her good nights and she washes 2 times a day there is food in the house and they wash daily and clean clothes. They sent me a letter saying the case was closed and now in 2010 i moved to a new area in my county but the same county services they came out to my door on 6-10-2010 saying i was reported of child neglect they told me my child smelt of pee and not clean.

      I told them the same thing she washes 2 times a day she wears good nights to bed there is food in the house to eat she is not beaten or neglected she has a bedtime and she is loved and cared for they told me i will be receiving a letter of exucution of cancelation letter and he told me that the case is closed.

      The first time he just showed up to my door un exspected i left them in to see the house and the kids and this time they called me i was surprised he told me the same report was made.

      but he talked to the kids and i was close by and asked them questions like do you go to school and eat and have a bed time they told them yes and that is when he told me that no more investagtion is going to be made should i be worried about this or no.

      My 6 year old she had accidents at night time and she pees i told them that she has a inconsadence problem and that she pees at night time. He told me that was understandable. what should i do after the letter shows up to my house.

      please let me know what i need to do to get my self in the right path?

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      DoNotGiveUp 7 years ago

      I was chraged with two sodomies of a child under twelve and rape of two children. I finally proed my innocence when the state attorney generals office dropped the charges. I was unable to get discovery in the case until the tenth month of incarceration. The therapist in all of this drove my kids mother to child protective services in order to get me. I also had two sister in laws who are drug addicts who want me and my childrens mother to break up. They spoke ill of me. I do not want them to have contact with me or my kids because of their lifestyle. I am still fighting child protective services. They labeled me indicated even though the state attorney generals office refused to prosecute the case.

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      michele bovard 7 years ago

      My brother has been serving time for child molestation, when no proper investigation of any kind was performed and the supposed victims father had even said his daughter had been lying to get attention. There was no physical evidence of any sort at the hospital and I know for a fact her own father had laid naked in bed with her, I witnessed this myself. I'm so angry that my brothers life is ruined and the truth doesn't seem to matter one bit. The police of Gwinnett County doesn't care that he's innocent, no one seems to besides his family. This is ridiculous, that so many people can lose their children and their lives because people assume if a child says something happened , it's automatically true. I would think by now in the USA people would understand things aren't always as they seem and enough people would want the right thing as opposed to a knee-jerk reaction thing. The frustration with the law and with ignorant people I feel far surpasses anything I ever thought possible. I would love to know and understand why the same laws that apply to murderers, real rapists and serious drug dealers don't to supposed child molesters. In this Country they are suppose to,period. This BS about a 1,000 feet is just that, BS. Where in God's name are these people on the list suppose to live? They should be able to live like any one else in this great Country of ours! I don't think we are so great any longer, we have thrown out what made us great for hysteria. We should all feel real good about that! If I sound bitter, angry, cynical.........whatever, I am! Wades lawyer was pathetic, all he cared about was getting through it, since as he pointed out, he could make a lot more money on someone that had money. He didn't even try as soon as the prosecution made an offer he advised Wade to take it, what the hell? In my opinion since they came out with the offer immediately,I would have told them to F off, my client wasn't taking it, since they knew they had nothing otherwise why make the offer right off the bat? No physical evidence, her own father saying she had been lying for attention, no proper investigation and yet my brother rots, wow..............what a great place we live!

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      Rey Quinones 7 years ago

      I was wrongly accused of child abuse and this is being on my record ever scence this happened and is affecting me greatly and I would like to sue the people who did this to me and after i get the money i would gladly pay any lawyer who would help me settle this immidietly.

      ok I was leaving with my wife and her kids 3 adults and 1 kid this adult one have hated me for years i have being with them for 9 years and then it happened one of the adult doughter of my wife who also wanted me out of the house for reason I know not ( because i never gave them any reason to hate me )and i was never alone with any of her kids never. so I think they saw no other way to get me that by telling my wife's grand doughter to lie to the teacher in school and say to the teacher that I was having sex with her jesus a 3 year old whom i grue to see as my own anyways the girl was taken to the doctors and she was given a full check up with regular doc and feranciscs they found nothing at all neither of them and i mean nothing anyways i was arrested and while all this investigation was going on i was in a cell waiting for the results until morning the next day when the police officers let me go for lack of evidence i did not even go in front of the judge, yet I have this on my records iwas devestadated, humiliated , shamed . now my wife the mother of this individual who did this to me is still with me because my wife believed me and know that i would have never done or do anything like this i tried to talk to the da and he would not and he would not want me to go to court the da let the case open for as long as he could to get pay from it i think i even had lawyers talk to him and after that the same lawyers didn' want to help me I need help please anyone who can help me get this of my back so i can go on with my life please help me I want to sue this people and clear my name from all this and i know that a law suite is in order i will pay gladly after i get this money but i need a lawyer 559 w 191 St Apt 21 nyc,ny 10040 /1917-529-6110 please help me some one please.

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      ken 6 years ago

      I am a physical therapist I was accused to have touched a child inappropriately during one of my session. We operate in a very open area and there is hardly any close and confined space that this event could have happened. All the time I was with other people while seeing the child. I don't know what the child has said to his parent but they have contacted the administrator and filed a case against me. I don't know what to expect and i don't know what to do. I only saw the child 4 times. One is together with his parent. need help..

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      confused 6 years ago

      Im from Ohio. My wifes family has been against us being together ever since we got together. Her mom wants her living with her and hates that she moved in with me an hour south. When we got married, childrens services were called about an hour after we said I do. So they came and told my wife she had to place the kids somewhere, which was with her mom. She went down to be with them till after the investigation. Well, they found it unsustainable but within the first couple weeks of being at her moms, my wife got with her x husband while she was pregnant with my child. I filed for divorce. When she broke up with him, she wanted me to drop the divorce, this is mainly due to the fact she wasn't going to be able to get full custody. I didn't take her back. But 7 months later, my son was born, my heart melted and I took her and all the kids back. I dropped the divorce 5 months later and the same month on our anniversary, children services were knocking on our door again. She signed to let the kids go to her moms again, went to be with the kids again, and now a couple weeks after being there, she is dating another guy.... again.... Well needless to say I don't trust her or her family or the situation at all. I obtained a lawyer. The investigator said that all she needs to do is talk to me, get my side of the story and she could close the case. I wanted to talk to her cause I have nothing to hide but my lawyer doesn't want me to talk to her until he has a better understanding of what was said. They were checked out to be physically fine but whatever the kids grandmother put in their heads has dragged this investigation out for 45 days now. My lawyer sent letters to all who are involved but he hasn't gotten anything back yet. I have to file for divorce agagin. I feel like she has the most to gain. Its like she got back with me just to have me drop the divorce, used the alligation as an escape route and a way to sway the custody in her favor. She called me wanting me to talk to them and get it over. She said the investigatior told her all they are doing is waiting to talk to me to get this over. My lawyer wants to file something in court to have them take jurisdiction and attempt to shut the safety plan down because I haven't seen my son in 45 days and it is killing me. But I don't want this to go to court. The kid that Im being accused of whatever with is 4. I'd like to just talk to the investigator and get it over with. If you don't have anything to hide why not talk to them.

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      Kelly 6 years ago

      I just had a CNS worker show up at my house two days ago with accusations that I smoke pot and drink with my 15 year old son, who i might add is currently on probation and testing clean for the last 2 years. SMH if my son had tested clean for 2 years straight now how is it possible that he is doing drugs with his mother.

      I am currently going to school studying criminal justice and plan to enter the next police academy class so why would I be doing any type of drugs.

      I had informed the worker that currently I am going through a bad break up and that my ex left and left me with a mountain of bills and back rent already owed and now I am stuck on unemployment trying to pay these off.

      Fortunately I had lots of food in my fridge as I had just gone food shopping, my house was clean and I grabbed the cup from her right then and there and submitted a sample for a drug test.

      The question I have is with all the proof of no possible drug abuse in the home how long can they keep this case open.

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      smith999 6 years ago

      My son was convicted of child abuse in 2009,a class 5 felony. He is currently serving a 1 1/2 yr sentence do to a 5 yr prior drug felony. He and his wife were forced by CPS to divorce. The mother was accused by CPS " failure to protect her children". She was not home at the time the baby was injured. Her mother(grandma) made sure to lie about the relationship of the two. CPS is on the side of the grandma! Grandma has her two children. During the court hearings (which took 2 yrs of hell and $$$) the couple had another baby. The grandma does not know of this child( She suspects there is something going on). Mom is a good mother to her children with no doubt , the grandma has guardianship of the two children. Mom gets visits every weekend.! I have no idea if my son is aloud to see his new baby in prison. The mom was told by her attorney she heard a rumor of her having a baby. She is not on good terms with the attorney. She owes $$ and is bankrupt from this whole situation. My worries now is Can CPS come in and take this baby? The baby is not in harms way. Can anyone give me their feed back?

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      angela 6 years ago

      its been almost 2yrs since my children have been gone. i have an 8yr old daughter and a 3 yr old son and a 16 month old all 3 are in foster care. my daughters school notifyed dss about her being sexually abused the day that this was reported i had just taken my daughter to a doctors appointment the school was complaining she had redness between her legs come to find out she had an infection due to getting a bubble bath she was examined down there there was nothing pointing to x husbands also in the picture he pays child support and we have joint custody of her. he doesn't care about our daughter hes always yelling and screaming at her. the day it was reported is the day i lost my children i was also 5 months pregant carrying my boyfriend child.i took my daughter to cac to get interviewed and iwaited there it seemed like hours finally i got answers they said your daughter accused your boyfriend and her father and some other people of abusing her they told me since i couldn't protect her shes being placed in foster care then they said there taking my son to who was 15 months old at the time. after my children were taken they came to the house and did a forencic investagation collected everything even took the computer well almost immedantly we hired a lawyer to get our kids back he cost a fortune. a week later my boyfriend took a poly test and passed then her father took one and failed her father admitted having sexual dreams about his child but he was never arrested for it. to this day they cant find any evidence pointing that she was abused by us. and the most screwed up thing of all is the state is giving her father full custody and trying to terminate my rights as a parent so they can adopt my 2 boys. i have spent over thousands of dollars and delt with heartach especially just to see your children for 1 hr a week. these people have ruined my childrens lives just for there own greed. ill never stop fighting for my children i will prove my innocence and that this system is corrupted.

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      the pink umbrella 6 years ago from the darkened forest deep within me.

      here's the thing. My boyfriend is a drug addict currently recovering in a rehab facility. He has been there for 3 weeks, and dyfus is now focused on me for some weird reason. The person who called (spencers mother) Dyfus, told them that i am an amazing mother, and that they just wanted spencer to get help and that i never put my child in danger. I always have food in the house, diapers, and my child is happy and healthy and progressing normally. So do i have any rights? I mean, i purposly skipped an in home appointment today because im so tired of this. Why do they want to come by once a month? Not only is it infuriating to me that they come here and scrutinize everything saying the baby runs on his toes (which he dosnt) and should be drinking from a cup right now (my decision) but i don't like the neighbors seeing a dyfus van pull up, its embarassing. Spencer was the problem, and he went to rehab on his own, no one made him, and hes is not here and wont be here for 45 days, so why am i in question now? I seriously don't want anything more to do with dyfus, and i called today and left a message that someone call me with a reason a legal reason why this needs to be kept up, because i said im not interested in participating in these visits any longer, and i stated that i was going to search for my legal rights online...does anyone know where i can find them because im looking, and i cant find anything.

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      the pink umbrella 6 years ago from the darkened forest deep within me.

      by the way, i left dyfus a message tuesday night, and its thursday night...i havnt had a call since. I don't know weather to be relieved or worried. i keep imagining police knocking my door down in the midle of the night and yanking adon from my home.

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      Unknown girl  6 years ago

      One time I watched my little cousin for my uncle and when he came back. My three year old cousin out of know where started crying. She wouldn't stop crying so he accused me of abusing his daughter. I'm still hurt over it because I would never do anything like that to a person.

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      Rod 6 years ago

      Well, it looks like Im an a big truble. After reading these story it look like hell is waiting for me. My step douther acuse me of molesting her, and the whole familie is on her side. But Im inocent, and the go a fight on their hand.

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      aime 6 years ago

      i am really scared me and my mom fight just like any other teen and mom sunday she threw a salt shaker at me and it hit me in the nose social services went to my skool to talk to me this is the second time in 5 yrs that my mammaw has accused my mom of child abuse im fourteen and fear that i may be taken away from my mom and put into a foster home what should i do

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      Tina 6 years ago

      Hi my son is 7 years old and he is being accused of assult against my boyfriends 3 year old daughter she is saying that he touched her bits down below my son has two sister's aged 6 and 4 my son would never do anything like this how do i go about it? iam do worried my kids maybe taken away :(

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      MESSEDLIFE 6 years ago

      This was a nighmare, to make a very long story short. I had 3 kids by the time I was 19 my ex husband was in the navy. My 1 month old was hurt bad. I had just put the kids to bed for a nap well thought it would be okay to take one of my pain pills for the c section I had that just would not close. I feel asleep, woke up to my 1 month old crying and went to see what was wrong she had bruises all over her face. I picked her up and rushed her to my neighbors to get a ride. Bottom line is my 2 year old did it. When asked he stated he was playing with her. Well they did not believe that. And stated that I did it and stop trying to blame my son. They wanted me to take a polygraph my lawyer said not to because of my cp. So I ended up jail for 3 months my kids get taken from me I was never in trouble before not even a traffic ticket and could not even get a OR from the courts. I wanted to take it to trial being 19 and scared my defense lawyer told me it was a supid move and that I could await up to a year before going to trial. So I asked him what I should do? he said take the plea bargin and you will be out today. So I see my son 16 years latter and he said he tried to tell them the truth and they still would not believe him. My daughter that was hurt turned out great she is smart and pretty and I guess I have to be happy with that, then I am. To the people out there accussed of an injustice do not cop out like I did because I did not know the system. Fight and try to get yourself a paid lawyer money will and always talks.

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      she is my blood 6 years ago

      hello i just had my fourth kid she has down syndrome and now my boyfriend is in jail because of my sister. she said he was molesting and bearting my kids so i got my kids takin away and lost them to the one who called! it is costing his family 30,000. and mine 15,000. She even called the police and dhs and told them she lied and they don't care! please pray for my family

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      Frecj 6 years ago

      As I scroll down the page reading story after story about how DCF has broken up homes and invents child abuse cases to justify their existence, I realise parents need to ban together and fight this destruction. An Anonymous phone call was made to DCF (coincidentally on the same day I filed contempt of court charges against my ex). This retched person was making police reports while I was at work, planting evidence in my bedroom, and poisoning my child's mind against me. The caseworker assigned seemed to take pleasure in saying things to me like "your daughter wants nothing to do with you", and you have an alcohol and drug problem, you'll never see your child again unless you take a drug test, which of course she never ordered, but I always submitted to. You are not innocent until proven guilty when you are falsely accused, it is a broken sick system where anyone can make any kind of accusations against anyone, no investigation into the truth is needed. This dispicable caseworker lied to me about almost everything and failed to cooperate with me in anyway. There was not a shread of evidence to anything I was accused of. I haven't seen my daughter in over a month and don't expect to for a long time since the court granted the "real child abuser" custody, just because he claims I hit him and my daughter, of course there being no prior accusations for the almost 16 years he was out of her life, and to this day I have to fight with everybody for telling the truth, no-one believes you. I don't know if this will help, but I filed a complaint with the Inspection Generals office for Florida, against the caseworker for unprofessionalism, lying, and for downright incompetence. I hope this gets me somewhere and I would encourage all of you to do the same in your state. This is a nightmare no good parent that loves their child should ever go thru. The real crime that is being committed here is the system that endangers children is the very one that is suppose to protect them.

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      Ward 6 years ago

      I am going through this battle.I split with my ex-husband back in may and he has been after me since then.Well my current boyfriend had to leave home because my ex husband told cops that my boyfriend sexually abused my daughter. but the thing is he has not been around for weeks or even spoken to the kids.Now we are in different counties and the kids are grieving and depressed.My daughter even told us he did not do anything to her. all the tests come back negative. But the state is taking their time and destroying us even more. I hope the father goes to jail for the suffering we have been through. I think its bull crap that we have to go through this we all most had everything we ever wanted but now my boyfriend lost his job and really depressed because he can't be around us.I don't think no one should have to go through this.

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      Janice 6 years ago

      My daughter and our family is currently going through a nightmare in the RI Family court system due to my grandchildrens' doctor and her staff to set appropriate appointments and to humanly understand that right before a holiday that people close "shop" early and felt the need to call DCYF on my daughter because my daughter didn't do as instructed (because of an enlarged abdomen with my granddaughter...which after a battery of test have no conclusion as to why this occurred). The doc sent my daughter to an x-ray lab that closed early the day before Thanksgiving. My daughter called the office to make them aware of this and the docs office said Friday would be fine...I guess the doc had 2nd thoughts, called DCYF and sent a rescue to my daughters' house where they transported her to the hospital. I took my grandson that night while all this was going on. While my daughter was being "prosecuted" by the hospital staff, they ran a battery of test on my granddaughter. They found that she had 3 previously broken ribs, and a previously fractured leg. We suspect that the ribs was caused by a television set falling on her 5 months previously that my daughter took her to the hospital and they NEVER did an x-ray (mind you she was a year and a half old and the TV set was a 19" older television (about 43 lbs-my daughter weighed it)She had it on a nightstand in their playroom and my grandson knocked it over. Also my granddaughter fell down a flight of stairs a month previously due to a faulty door latch on her apartment door. Her landlady who lived down stairs heard her fall and went to her. My daughter and her checked her out and she seemed ok laughing and playing but favored her knee the next day and was ok after bruising, running around playing and eating like all children do. My grandchildren are now in foster care. My daughter and her ex boyfriend settled the civil suit with DCYF and is undergoing the re-unification process. But the AG's office is still pushing to send them to jail and for them to NEVER see there kids again! They were NEVER arrested for any abuse! They pleaded nolo to simple neglect because she had missed 4 previous doctors appointments in the civil case. This is a travesty of mega porportions! I have clearance to get my grandkids into my custody but at the time my daughter was on welfare, lost her welfare, so she lost her apartment because of over-due rent and has been living with me and trying to work a full time job, night school, drug test (court ordered), and visitation once every other week. To me, and I know my daugter and her ex boyfriend, if the state knew me, they would know that If I EVER witnessed my daughter or her ex EVER harmed these kids, that the wrath of me would be far worse than any court could provide. This is such a waste of taxpayers money on accidental coincidences that I have ever seen! We go to trial in November she's supposed to get the kids back in December...I don't forsee that happening...

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      Wow 6 years ago

      What to do...this is very common to be guilty of this and have to be proving yourself innocent. Nuts.

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      Janiem 6 years ago

      My sister-in-law Laura, falsely accused her father George Martin of raping her when she was a child. She had 'recovered memories and stopped speaking to the family for seven years. Now she says she lied and wants a relationship with him again. But she is currently accusing her brother and his wife of sexually abusing their children. Why are narcissistic drama queens allowed to commit crimes like this and not be prosecuted?

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      anon 6 years ago


      I just wanted to say that I myself have been a victim of child abuse, and reading all your stories about being falsly accused is horifying and it is sick to make a false statement the authorities are doing the best to protect all children, I myself am persuing a man through court who groomed me and assulted me but i have very little evidence, this man is a serial actacker and no body has stopped him yet so I just wanted to say that although you and your families have been hurt by these isck people making the claims please just keep in mind that the police are there to protect the kids at the end of the day


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      Lynda 6 years ago

      On September 24th of this year my stepson, in front of witnesses, strangled my dog and almost killed it if not for my daughter interveening. I proceeded to spank him on the butt for his actions. This is a kid that constantly gets into fights with other kids and is constanly bruised from it. On Sept,28th an officer and cps worker came to my house because a woman at his school saw a bruise on his arm and stripped searched him in class and found bruises on his back. Now I have been accused of abuse and my stepson and husband ( his legal father) are not allowed to live with me. My husband was told that if he brings his son around me then he will be taken away from him. My life is in total disarray and I have been arrested from this accusation, almost lost my job, my family had to bail me out and I am completely humiliated in front of my community. Where is the justice for the parents wrongly accused. This kid has school documentation of severe behavioral problems and prior to living with me had no structure or discipline. So now what happens if I am found not guilty, are the cops gonna say," oops,my bad" The damage has already been done and my family is split apart. Does anyone have any suggestions. I live in New York State.

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      leia 6 years ago

      on may 26 2010 my daughters father who had just recently came back in to my life was visiting his daughter who at the time was 9 months old i have 2 older children sons 13 and now 11 the us marshalls BROKE IN TO MY HOUSE WITHOUT A WARRANT OR TELLING ME WHO THEY WERE THEY HELD GUNS AT ME AND MY DAUGHTER TRYED TO MAKE ME LIE DOWN ON THE FLOOR LIKE A DOG MY DAUGHTERS FATHER HAD WARRANTS FROM ANOTHER STATE THAT WERE NOT FILED UNTIL 2010 BUT THEY SAY IT HAPPEN IN 2003 THE US MARSHALLS WENT UPSTAIRS HELD A GUN AT MY 65 YR OLD MOTHER AND ORDERED HER DOWNSTAIRS THEY THEN WENT TO MY SONS ROOM KICKED IN THEIR DOOR AND WOKE THEM UP WITH HOLDING GUNS AT THEIR FACES AND YELLING AT THEM TO GET DOWN STAIRS my younger son is austic and has a hard time understanding people esp when you wake him from a dead sleep my daughters father was arrested and taken away 4 hours later they came back and arrested me i left my children with my mom and brother and my daughter went to stay with her other grandma they were being cared for they had food clothes and a place to sleep they were clean 2 hours before i was to be released from that hell hole dcs came to see me they told me the kids had been placed with my brother all the kids they said my mother nor i could go home why ? because i had been taken away from my mom for a short time back in 1983 i was not allowed to see my children i had been in there 8 days and the only thing i could think of was seeing my children holding my baby girl close to me the next day we went to dcs that was the first time i had seen my children in 9 days i didn't hardly get to talk to them i was watched like i was some kind of monster and i entered in to a perm plan they took my children from my brother placed them with another family member then they were placed in a family in another town about 2 hours away from me as to date i have completed the perm plan and i am not allowed to see my children my daughter is now 14 months old i have been told that my children were sexuraly abused and i knew about it my mother knew about it and my brother the problem being is that part of the perm plan was that i went to all my childrens doctors appts i asked the doctors to check and make sure nothing had happen just because of my daughters fathers charges i just wanted to be sure and i didn't trust dcs so i wanted proof the reports all say that no signs of sexural abuse happen when i said this to dcs guess what i was told oh there wouldn't be any evidence really ? there wouldn't be i am sure i am not giving up the fight but i am told that they may charge me on the failure to protect law bring it on you already put me in jail took my children what else can you liars do to me

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      dpinoy13 6 years ago from Antipolo, Philippines

      This is why Children should research about Child abuse and child rights before secretly acusing their parents

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      Found Not Guilty 6 years ago

      i was accused of aggravated criminal sexual abuse in the state of Illinois, my step-daughter made accusations that i had gone into her bedroom and put her hand on my penis. I was arrested at work, my wife left me and my own 2 yr old and 3 yr old sons were away with their mother for almost two months. My wife came back to me on Christmas of last year once she received certain evidence. She says she didn't beleive it at all but had to support her daughter.

      Well i was charged, arrested, i had to hire an attorney for about $8000.00, the DA has made a couple of offers to us over the last year and myself and my attorney said hell no, this is going to trial. I was ordered out of the home i pay for and to have no contact of any kind with my kids. I am a very loving father that gives everything i have for my family. And come to find out my 13 year old step-daughter was sleeping with a 20 year old man at the time of this accusation and clearly wanted me out of the picture. Long story short i went to trial with a 7 man 5 woman jury to find me not guilty it only took the jury 15 mins to deliberate. I still have a ways to go though, as DCFS has found me indicated of this no matter what the State Court can this be??? How can they without even talking to me or questioning me or being at the trial pass this kind of judgement?? I was tried and found NOT GUILTY!!! I have lost 30 lbs in the last year just due to stress....This whole DCFS system is the most terrible system i have ever dealt with. I would never touch any kid in any appropiate way...this still baffles me that i can be found not guilty in a court of law by a jury and yet indicated by DCFS. My wife and I and my two little boys do live happily together nowm, but i need to know how i can go about getting DCFS indication un-indicated. What a bunch of hose shit...

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      Elaine 6 years ago

      My step daugher was mad because I didn't want her boyfriend over that weekend. Just because I thought she needed to spend some time with her friends. She told her mother horrible lies. Her mother told her to report it to the school. I blame the mother for she knows us very well and should have spoken to us first. CS came and found nothing and apparently step daughters story changed several times and she said it was a year ago her father hit her. How long does it take to get a letter from them letting you know it was unfounded? The caseworker said it was unfounded. It it over yet or will we keep having to deal with this?

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      Rachel 6 years ago

      Hello, i was in a custody battle in 2008 for my son, his grandparents had an emergency order of protection put against me using false accusations , they were able to take temporary custody of my son and i could not see or contact him. it took me one month to obtain a lawyer to have it dismissed and some form of visitation established, i then filed to get my custody back Feb 18, a deposition was set for the following April 24 and our actual court date for may 8th but at the desposition there whole case fell apart and they wanted to settle everything and not have the court date so i agreed that they could have visitation every weekend and a few weeks in the summer, I was awarded with sole custody care control and education of my child. i fear they will try and do this again, are they able to do such things and what can i do to stop them.

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      innocent 6 years ago

      In April I was falsely accused of 8 felony counts 6 related to sexual things with a minor and 2 related to furnishing alcohol. I was asked to come talk to a sheriff for an investigation which was a joke because he only talked to me for about 4 minutes. 2 weeks after that I was arrested. Spent a day in jail before my family got me a lawyer and bailed out. After we got the arrest warrant it states a friend of ours son who was there the night this supposedly happened as the kids witness. This person was never questioned even though I told them he was and they could have easily asked him and had it all cleared up. So far the case has not gone anywhere but it looks like this month it will be taken to trial. The D.A. tried to offer a horrible deal where I would accept the 2 lowest felonys. The lawyer and I agreed it was ridiculous and I certainly would not accept guilt for something I didn't do. What makes us all mad is that besides talking to me all of 4 minutes there was no investigation. There is no medical or physical evidence and I have witnesses saying it didn't happen. My lawyer says sadly this happens a lot in this state which is Kansas. If it weren't for my friends and family and church family I don't know how I would be getting through this. After I go to trial and this kids lies are proven we plan on suing. They can never give me back my dignity and I have anxiety attacks and depression because of this. I want them to know lying is not acceptable.

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      WorriedMamma 6 years ago

      I think my step son's preschool teacher might try and accuse me of abuse. I have 2 boys one is 2 and half and the other (which is my step son) is 4yrs. They play rough as all boys do. While they were playing in the morning, my oldest fell on this big toy truck that they have. He told me he had jumped off his bed and landed on it, he even gave a full on demo of what happened. It did leave a reddish bruise on his lower neck. When I picked him from school the teacher was questioning me about it and I told her what he had told me, (obviously I wasn't standing in the room when he got hurt). After we got in the car he told me that they are going to take a picture of it when he goes to school tomorrow. Now I'm worried that they are going to try and accuse me of child abuse. I don't know what will happen, will social services show up, are they going to try and take my kids??? I don't know what all happens with a first time report so to speak?? I live in colorado, does anyone have an idea at what I might be dealing with?? Please Help

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      Elaine 6 years ago


      I can't imagine them taking your kids for a mark on the neck. Just be honest with them, don't stress. They have to deal with real issues like starving kids and abused kids. Don't even worry about the teacher or whatever she is. Make sure you tell her that photographing your child without your permission is against the law!!!!

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      LonelyDad 6 years ago

      Dyfs has been in my families lives for the past 2 years due to an anonymous phone call saying i was on drugs and my wife was going to kill our kids. Two quick drug tests for me and a psych evaluation for her and everything should have been over because we proved the call to be false. So they began to pick anything they could to stay involved. The house is messy, the kids aren't respectful, they need us to give them counseling. whatever they wanted to say just to not close the case. Well finally i screwed up and kicked my son in the butt when he refused to get ready for school for the second day in a row. I immediately regretted it and knew i shouldn't have done it. In the two years we had been dealing with them there hadn't been any abuse accusations. But this one mistake has ruined my life and i would say ruined my families too but i have not been allowed to see or talk to them in the past 15 days. Dyfs put my kids and wife in a safe house. They called the county prosecutor and had him have his office arrest me and charge me with child abuse. when they took them they told my father-in-law that it would be less then a week until we would bee in family court. Well up to 15 days and they still haven't even filed with the court yet and at on point they tried to tell me that there was going to be no court because dyfs would decide. I fought that and supposedly now they will take this to court but when is the big question. I tried to start therapy at the place dyfs told me to go but since i told them i didn't want them to pay, they refused to tell me or my therapist what direction they want us to take the therapy. almost like they want me to fail. I finally agreed to let them pay because i wont be able to afford it as often as i need it and they wont let me see the therapist that i'm comfortable with even though he works for the office they are sending me too. i have to see the one that they want me to see. Sounds like they really want to help me get better, doesn't it? haha. And now the latest thing that i have heard from someone that did talk to my wife is that they have already tried to talk her into divorcing me, and when she flat out said no to that, they are now telling her that she has to file in court for full custody and that if she refuses to do that they are going to remove the kids from her too. Maybe im dumb, but that doesn't seem right to me. and not just from a moral standpoint but from a legal one to. i don't see how that could standup in court if it came out. maybe someone who reads this will be offer some advice or explain that to me. when they first took my family i called them to find out what they want me to do to get my family back and they listed three different types of counseling. I started the one on my own (the one who is now no good) and the other two i have made calls to try to get into. Im willing to do what it takes, but now im wondering if its all useless? Are they going to push through whatever they want without caring how hard anyone is trying, and with out caring that every individual person in my family is saying that we want to be together? Dyfs has become way to powerful and seems to do have no problem doing what they want no matter who it hurts. I understand that in theory dyfs is a very good idea. Having an organization who looks out for our young who cant defend themselves. in practice though they seem to have gotten away from helping families and at least in my situation seems to be more of a witch-hunt for me instead of helping my kids or helping our family.

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      pete ross 6 years ago

      charged with a crime i did not commit

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      pete ross 6 years ago

      falsely charged and convicted now i have to register as a tier 2 sex offender for something i absolutely did not do. i got divorced and became very succesful. my ex wife got very jealous,she had my daughter and stepdaughter make up a story saying i rubbed my penis up against my stepdaughter. i cant even wrap my mind around such a heinous and disgusting act,it makes me wanna puke.

      i got a visit from detectives,blew me away,agreed to talk to them(mistake) they distorted my story to a point of lieing. NEW HAMPSHIRE POLICE HAVE NO INTEGRITY! they wanted me to take a lie detector,if i passed i'd be cleared, i readily agreed knowing i'm innocent. in the meantime i contacted an attorney, he said absolutely do not take the lie detector,they are in no way accurate and are subject to the administrators interpretation. in other words if the police are allowed to give you a lie detector test it is gaurnteed to come back deceptive. POLICE LIE always have a third party administer the test. anyways i had a third party give me the test twice and passed both times. hired a lawyer,private detective. cost me 30,000 bucks for a crime i never comitted, this drug out for over 2 years all the time im wondering how my daughter whom i use to love so much could do this to me and if i was gonna go to jail for a heinous crime i never did. trial date was coming up--- at the court date right before trial the prosecuter offered me a plea bargain. drop the charge of felonious sexual assault and plead guilty to indecent exposure and lewdness,have to register as a sex offender for 10 years and 3 years probation--no jail time. i literally had 20 minutes to make the decision to take the deal. my spendy lawyer said it was a "VERY TRYABLE CASE" but he also said i was in control of my future right now---take the deal and know for a fact i wont go to prison --or put my life and future in the hands of 12 strangers in the jury trial. i had no clue of the ramifications that go along with being a falsely charged sex offender. i wanna puke. i took the deal because i know our justice system is corrupt. now 8 years later they change classifications on sex offenders and instead of registering for 10 years,like my sentence said, they say i have to register for the rest of my life. so they changed my sentence on me randomly. I WILL FIGHT THIS WHEN MY 10 YEARS TO REGISTER IS UP, my daughter has since turned 18 and has yet to come clean and tell the truth,i don't think she would get in trouble because she was a minor when she was forced to lie by her mother. i have lost my daughter,jobs,friends,family over this false charge. THE PEOPLE WHO KNOW ME KNOW IM NOT THE GUY THE SEX OFFENDER REGISTRY MAKES ME OUT TO BE

      How can someone live with telling such a lie,how can they look in the mirror and like themselves?? I HAVE NOT LET THIS BEAT ME AND I NEVER WILL CUZ I'M NOT THAT GUY. i am still very successful and my family is very well off. It's a shame my daughter doesn't get the chance to live this lifestyle people dream about. KARMA IS REAL OH IT IS the people responsible for this false charge will get theirs---oh they will someday

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      Lucy Jones 6 years ago

      I had my two children before marriage and theres no father on their birth certificates and two weeks ago my husband soon to be ex, after being away in a different country for a year shows up at my front door with cutody papers from a local judge and took my children. I haven't been able to see them in two weeks and went to court and showed the judge the petitions were written with wrong ( the last names and middle names were wrong for the children) and gave him the birth certificates as proof he made a mistake. my husband still has the kids and they want to arrest me for contempt of court for fighting for my children to stay with me.I'm heartbroken,angry and need help. I have no power. I have police reports of abuse and live at the dv office. I want my children back, help!

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      David Jones 6 years ago

      I was arrested for donestic abuse of 2 kids:my 12 and 15

      year old grand daughters. I had been hit,kicked,had heavy

      objects threw at me my them.Been cussed by them.I have told

      them many times to stop hurting me and to leave my home.

      They would not mind.I was taking Paxil,and have been for a very long time,I fought back against them and as I said was

      arrested.I am out of jail on bail and am having a hard time

      getting a lawyer.Please I am a 68 year old man who needs

      help.Can anyone help me?

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      Protectchildren 6 years ago

      NJ DYFS is the slowest way to protect your children , they do not look in to facts i know this I reported the mother of my children for abuse { one was her splitting the head of my 7 yr old child open with a brush } they did nothing , not until I myself filed charges on the mother , why did dyfs do not a thing , the mother had filed for and got a FRO on me and in DYFS eyes no judge would grant a FRO to a good man ,, BULL CRAP the system takes in womens lies and lets good fathers and the children suffer , now that things are getting in to the courts the truth will be told and many witness,s will prove it . in the end why did the judge grant a FRO ? he simply asked the woman { are you scared of him } poof the beinging of the childrens and my nightmares , the mother then kept the children for 6 months even though there was a court order for every weekend parent time , and the court just warned her , now her lies are catching up to her. one thing i can say is NEVER give up on your children and always keep records of everything you do . people cant hide from lies they do catch up to you .what did the mother get sofar from her lies , her son dont talk to her , her older daughter dont talk to her , and the 7 yr old is almost out of the house to her fathers where she will be safe . and the mother will only be left with her new drug addict criminal husband who owes over 100k in back child support .

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      HS 6 years ago

      All you people wrongly accused - - get a good attorney. They cost about 3,000.00 up but are worth your family not being split apart. Do not go with a court appointed attorney! They really don't care because they don't get paid much and they are forced by the judge to take the case they are assigned.

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      Dwater 6 years ago

      I could give a link for this if you wish, but I commented on an anonymous forum about a girl who claims she hates her autistic brother, I commented to someone who wrote a hateful comment that they do not understand her (I also have an autistic sibling) and it is very frustrating having an autistic brother (I did not state anything about child abuse, I would never hurt my autistic brother) but another person who calls themselves "concerned citizen" claims that they've reported me to the department of homeland security and that they will subpoena my isp, I don't live in the USA. But I stress the fact that I did not say anything about harming my brother, only that he makes me frustrated sometimes. Anyway please reply to me and inform me of what could happen, I'm 18 I live at home with my mother, father and autistic brother, we are very poor. Please help me.

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      Confused and Hurt 6 years ago

      My father has been accused of child molestation by my daughters, I am in the middle of this because part of me has to believe it but the other part doesn't believe it. They show NO signs of it, they are NOT afraid to be left alone with him, they ask him to take them places alone, they spend time with him alone, and no matter what site I go on those are all signs, I feel they are lying, they act as if it is all a joke, one talks about boys all day, she's on the phone/internet being a tenager, the other is dancng, singing & playing as if nothing happend and it "happend" 4 days ago to her and the other said nothing happend to her but when asked by the detectives, she said it did, but since she lies about everything I don't believe her, but when she got out of the interview one of my daughters asked her what she said and she said she told them he did do something to her but she was laughing about it..... so as you can all see, it's hard for me to believe them. I have benn around him my whole life and he has NEVER touched my wrong in any way.... What should I do?

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      bamacwgirl 6 years ago

      i am also going through hell. i lost visitation to my 6 yr old daughter, because my ex husbands new wife cant hace any more kids and wants mine, plus his mom brain washed my child. they can not charge me with anything, there are no criminal charges pending, and my child has told everyone she lie and that her grandmother she calles (mimi) made her do it. but its funny every counceling session, doctors appointment, and etc. her step mother and mimi took her they were the ones talking to all the therapist and doctors, not her dad, or my family and never did they call me and interview me for anything. But according to everyone there is nothing i can do but go with the flow and wait until she gets older.

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      Alexandra Harris 6 years ago

      I just lost my baby boy he is 4mo. old, My partner and I we accused of abuse. I'm doing all I can to reach out for help, I read all I can I've called all supports but DHHS and the Detectives are out for blood.I'am just as upset to how these injuries happend.My child has special needs and my partner has had to perform baby CPR on him but I know I didnt do this,and I know this was completly unintentional,I know his heart.If there is ANYONE out their who can help me please do.I will do whatever I have to to make sure my child is safe and this NEVER takes place again. I'm also in recovery I'm 20mo. sober and this is the hardest thing I will ever do.If anyone is out there I need your help!

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      HELP 6 years ago

      I have a little girl and my fiance and we had just moved in together. My mother who has always been a very jealous person had my daughter for the weekend and when it came time for me to pick her up i found that they were at DHS awaiting me to make a statement about my fiance sexually and physically abusing my child!?! I was ordered to move in with my mother and to keep my daughter from any contact with him for the next 30 days while this is investigated. They have talked to my child without me there, they have taken her to the doctor without me having any idea as to what was going on. They have shamed my fiance's name. I know in my heart he didnt do this. My daughter is in love with this man and he planned on adopting her. My world is falling apart. The DHS caseworker made a comment to my mother today that if the allegations came back true, which they probably would, The protection order would be indefinite. I love my daughter and would stand up for her til the very end. They are now making me look to be this horrible mother that is only worried about losing her boyfriend. This is not true at all! I know these allegations are false! I just do! All the websites I have looked at say that he needs a good lawyer...we do not have that kind of money!?! I dont know what else to do??? PLEASE HELP!!! Any advise will be greatly appreciated.

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      Tasia 6 years ago

      almost 3 yrs ago my boyfriend was accused of molesting his son. he since has had charges dropped and passed a lie dection test. we have had many people,including cops, attorneys, and judges say that this was just a way to take custody of his son, which he had full. but he still cant see his son what should we do??

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      Ty 6 years ago

      My brother recently got custody of his two daughters, 4 and 6 years old, with the help of a couple who were his "friends." He offerred guardianship if anything were to happen to him they would take the girls. They proceeded to then invite him to live in their home with his kids while he got his situation sorted out. Only a week later their 13 year old accuses him of inappropriate touching. He was arrested the same day, fri 7 january, and his daughters remained in the couples custody. His bail hearing was that sunday, and bail set at $25000. The couple refused to let our mom see the girls, and lied about taking them back to their mother. They also claim they can't find the guardianship papers. No one in our family has any assets, or means to hire a lawyer. My brother worked so hard to get his kids, and things were finally looking up for him. He would never do the things he's been accused of. He is a good person, and not in the sense that he pretends to be good, but a genuinely good hearted person. He has never had any charges, or convictions even remotely related yet he seems to be classified as guilty without any evidence, or witnesses. I have stooped to even begging lawyers, and all I get is replies stating fees in excess of $12,500. I would sell everything I own if I thought it would even come close to that amount. Now his daughters are living with strange people who they'd only visited a few times, and having their minds poisoned by these lies about their dad. We need a miracle, and at the very least those girls should be with family, people who they know and who love them. With very little hope I'm leaving my email

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      Jan 6 years ago

      Well I was hoping to hear some good news but guess that's hard to come by in these situations. Amazing what adults will stoop to in order to hurt an ex.

      My daughter has three children, the youngest of which has a different father. My daughter and this man are estranged, and went to court and parenting allocation time was decided.

      However, the father continually accusses other children of abusing this little girl. It's a ploy to get complete custody, I live with my daughter and grandsons, I'm here all the time, and this little girl is well treated. But, her half brothers are contantly accussed of abusing her by the father. This is so painful because we know that it hurting this little girl, she's only 5 and this has been going on for years. Social services are called in and of course the accusations...everthing from sexual molestation to the entire family living in a barn, antoher time living in one room with all the beds shoved together, another child visiting molesting the little girl...all these things are documented as unfounded (because they are) but they never stop.

      We can only hope that ALL of the children are not messed up for the rest of their lives because of the paranoid delusions of this man. No one will help. Like many here, it appears that the only recourse is to hire a lawyer for a lot of money, and we don't have that.


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      Rose 6 years ago

      I have been accused of sexual abuse of my six year old child. The other day he told his carer at vacation care that I'd made him touch my private parts. It is not true and never would be. He is not allowed to touch me on my breasts, private parts and he can only give me a quick kiss on the cheek or lips. They reported me to the authorities. Then he admitted he had made the whole thing up. But the report is still there, and my lawyer tells me I could be arrested. It is totally unfair. Where are the checks and balances. Whatever happened to being innocent until proven guilty. It has totally ruined my life and my relationship with my child. When asked why he said it he said "for fun". It certainly is not fun for me.

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      Tash 6 years ago

      All these stories are so sad! I was doing some research on whether or not there was a case against an ex who was trying to gain full custody of our son, but lost, then turn around and say I was hurting my son.

      I would like to share my story for others as well, and although it is a long one, I will make it as short as possible.

      I was 3 months pregnant when I left my ex because he would tell me and his 'buddys' that he didn't want us. I would wake up every morning (during the winter) frozen to my blankets. We also didn't have food in the house and he would take off to the bars every night...sometimes I would be his DD (for him and his buddies)... anyway... long story short, I turned to my best friend.

      We lived together, both went to school, I had the baby. When my son was 3 months old, I got an email from an attourney at law looking for a DNA test from my son, myself and my ex.

      I have been in and out of the court since... first DNA test, then full-custody, then for the fact that he didn't want to pay child support.... so, you want full custody of your son, but you do not want to pay child support?!

      I forgot to mention my ex owns his own business. He has been able to take us to court as much as he pleases, however, I am just a stay-at-home mom and a full-time student, while my best friend (now my fiance) just finished school and started working at a local plant.

      So.... my ex got the DNA test, did not gain full-custody (we have shared custody- he gets 3 weekends a month)and did not get out of paying child support... he turns around and has DHS take my son out of my home because there was a bruise on his arm. I noticed the bruise on his arm earlier that week.. however, he is 17 months old and climbs, falls, plays in my kitchen cupboards... so on and so on. Hence his nickname monkey. hehe ;)

      CPS took him out until the investigation was over... which lasted 2 days... sickest, saddest 2 days of my life!!! When the investigation was over, there was no sign of neglect. However, a few weeks later, I got a knock on my door.. it was CPS again. I figured they were just going a "check up", but they were there because my ex had called again about a "cigarette burn". The CPS took a look and said it looked nothing like a burn, but eczema (which my son has had since he was born). oiye... I really don't need to put up with this every time there's a spot or a scratch on him.

      The worse of it all is that I am constantly on edge.. if my son is running/playing outside and falls, my heart just drops! I think: omg! if he gets an "owie" I'll lose him forever!!!

      We should not have to live like this. I have an adventurous one year old who is going to fall, and although his bumps and bruises will more-than-likely be ruled out as neglect, CPS still has to take the child out of the house until the full investigation is over! Shouldn't they see that my ex is calling wolf each time?

      oh, and also, when they take my son out of my home, they ask me if it is okay that he stays at his fathers until the investigation is over... I say YES, because my son is more comfortable there than he would be in a home!

      I feel I am the only one who is fighting for my son's best interest. Good luck to all of you. and sorry for those who weren't so lucky. I understand what you are all feeling. God bless!!!!!!

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      star 6 years ago

      my boyfriend was falsley accussed of touching his ex girlfriends daughter when he was in jail. he got put in prison on no evidence. but the one who should of went to prison for it was the mother of the child. she was on meth and was making it in the home with the children there. she had different men in and out of the home. but when she was arrested for this drugs in the home they never arrested her for child abuse or neglect. in fact it was her who had done this. but they lied on my boyfriend and said it happened twice the week he was in jail for driving on suspended the week i moved back in with him. the mother forced the girl to lie about it. when in fact the mothers boyfreind is the one who done it. but he seems to be able to get out of trouble because his father is in with the judges as their best freind. whata person to do when you are sentence to prison for what someone else did

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      yesterday something horrible happened to me , i and my 4 yr old daughter laid down at 230 -245 , we were going to take a nap like we do almost everyday , i woke up at 315 i called out to her , she said iam laying on the floor mommy , i said get up here and lay down . at 330 she started screaming bloody murrder i flew up out of the bed , i said what is wrong with u mya , she i want the baloons the lady outside has , starting this week she has started calling out the windows to people who walk by and throwing fits to play with stangers dosent matter if the windows are opened or not , well anyways at about 345 she was asleep , so i fell asleep alo at 10 till 5 fireman broke into my home , and had taken my daughter out of my home , they had me go outside and please keep in mind i just woke up so i def in shock i had know idea as what was going on , the asked me if i was on drugs i said no , they said are u alright i said yes but of course i wasnt , they said my daughter was telling people thru the window all day she was alone and cant breathe , and she wanted to play with a little boy that was outside ,she was standing with a woman i had no clue who she was , so i found the manger of the apt called this in i also noticed that manger left work early before the fireman and the police showed up . and what made things even worse , is when i told mya to come to me , she said she was scared of me , i couldnt belive what was going on , so i walked over and picked her up and told her you are not allowed to play with your toys for 1 day , i also told her this is why you dont lie mya .. after the fireman walked away , 10 min later 4 cops showed up , they asked me to come out side , i thought oh my god there going to arrest . my daughter started screaming dont take mommy to jail , i told her mya please go inside and wait for me , so a officer went into my apt . he said oh this is such a nice place , i was thinking what in the world did they expect to find crack hanging from the ceilings ? so they also asked me if i was on drugs , i said no , they asked me if i was ever in trouble with the law , which no i havent been , i told them its as simple as this we laid down to take a nap she woke up before me , and that she has started to scream out the windows to people she dosent even know , and lying alot which she has been , than they asked me if i was here all day with her alone i said yes iam monday thru friday .. than my husbamd ishome on the weekends . so they took my name , and hers , but they told my husband that they dont see a problem here , but iam thinking CPS will be called now , i have done wrong so now i terrifed of what will happen . this was a horrifying i have never had anything that happened like this ....

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      kk68718 6 years ago

      This might give some people hope that their situation is not totally lost.

      A couple of years ago, my ex began to make accusations of abuse against me on our two young daughters. It was her attempt to limit my time with them. She began coercing the girls to tell mandated reporters that I was hitting them and locking them in a dark room. DCFS became involved in 8 different occasions and every time the determination was that the allegations were "unfounded", but that did not deter her from taking advantage of a bruise on my youngest's rear end that occurred at her mother's house. This time I was interviewed by the police SVU and by DCFS and a charge was initiated against me because the girls said that I had hit them.

      In Dependency Court, the judge ordered an evaluation, since the bruise was not consistent with me striking my daughter, but I already knew that, since I had never laid a hand on either of them. After a month of investigations and interviews with numerous people, the evaluator contacted the judge and recommended that the girls be removed from their MOTHER immediately, since she posed an imminent threat to the safety of the two girls, since she was actively abusing them emotionally and psychologically and they could not risk the safety of the girls once the real truth came out. Needless to say, it was great to hear the judge say that all charges against me are being dropped and their mother was being charged with Emotional and Psychological abuse for forcing the girls to falsely accuse me. The charges were substantiated against her and I was awarded SOLE Legal and SOLE Physical custody. They still get to see their mom, but they now understand the consequences of not telling the truth.

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      druhepkins 6 years ago

      Thanks for your hub. Luckily I'm not involved with anything like this but I'm in Law School because I'd like to fight many injustices such as these cases.

      Their are so many very sick, conscienceless people out there who have no problem destroying someone's life and doing things out of spite. We need to increase laws and punitive action against people with the audacity to lie about something like this as soon as the lie is exposed. The courts also need to start listening to the children a little more and stop ignoring them when they refute the charges on their own accord.

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      jay r 6 years ago

      This lady that i have pressed charges aagianst for assault is very upset with me because she could go to jail. she knows that me and my daughters father is not on good terms so she emailed him and told him that i abuse my daughter he took the email and got a protective order for me to stay away from my daughter the police came to my house at 2am and took my daughter and gave her to him giving him temporary full custody til our court date. the social worker called and she said she saw my daughter and she didnt see no signs of abuse and she seems happy and like a regular 3 yr old. our court date is wed i also have a son by some1 else but they didnt take him. if im being accused of abuse y they take 1 and nit the other. the social worker said that they dont need to rush to see my son they will see him after the court date but y? will i get my daughter back wed? i never been through this

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      youth minister 6 years ago

      Someone advise me!

      I am a youth minister and since January, rumors have been whispered by someone that on our January ski trip, I slept in the same bed between 2 of my 8th grade guys. (I am male)

      The students and their parents both VERY openly state that it is complete nonsense! My senior pastor knows me and believes me, but then 2 weeks ago someone sent an email to my pastors governing authority in the church with the same anonymous claims. The email account was anonymous as well. My pastor explained to him that it had been investigated and nothing was found which satisfied him. but NOW someone sent the same accusations to DHR and I have been put on paid leave until it is resolved. DHR is investigating and interviewing the students allegedly involved, their parents, my pastors, and although it has been almost a week and I have yet to receive ANY contact or official statement that I am being investigated, I can only imagine they will interview me as well. With both alleged "victims" and their parents completely denying anything adamantly it seems like it should be a case closed....

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      taraavery 6 years ago

      I have been falsely accused of child abuse!!!

      my 13 year old bully of a daughter saeid I hit Hey in the head with a closed fist. They came to my house AND arrested me, took my 8 year old son and gave him to his father who has actually been charged with battery. .. I don't get it how can they Do THIS they haven't even interviewed my son...He is now doth my mom who IV lived with for 5 Yeats AND She knows I don't hit my kids!! I have a lot of people on my side AND I'm not getting anywhere..on being visited 1 a week by social service, EVEN the guardian at litem said this is all wrong..I'm in criminal Cort that has a no contact order AND I'm in juvenile court that says I should have supervised visits.. I can't afford a lawyer I'm disabled help my son wants to come home so bad I'm not an abuser... NY daughters father is a bad man if u knew how insane he really was u would be scared. I know some things about him AND he doing g THIS to discri

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      worriedmom 6 years ago

      I was acused by my step daughters mom of hitting her... she said the time she was with me I hit her and didn't feed her. She also had some scratches I wasn't aware of. My step daughter says she scratched herself which I don't believe but mom is acussing me. She's stating my step daughter is saying this...I'm not sure if its jelousy because she has been calling me mommy. I have two younger daughters as well. I love all 3 girls. When my step daughter is with me she is ok and then she goes to her moms and is brained washed. I don't know what to do. Nobody has contacted me yet. My husband asked my step daughter if I hit her and she said no, but supposebly she said she's scared of me because hit her. The mom stated first doctor was one that called dcfs then that it was the school.

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      cinderella40 6 years ago


      I am so glad this site is here to air my frustration over false allegations and could do with some advise. My son was one of 4 lads in the frame for the father of the little girl, so he had a DNA test for speed and he was the dad, he left the army to be a good father. In the mean time the mother was binge drinking and smoking pot and eventually was evicted from her home. He had no home he lived with us, he applied for housing so he could take the little girl, whom the mother had begged him to, as the grandmother would not allow her to see the little girl and would not even speak the mother. In the mean time he got a house we all chipped in and got it nice, the little girl was handed over but reluctantly so that she made a false residency for the little girl claiming abandonment until services realised she was not the mother but the grandmother, the mother had designs of setting up home with my son and he put her right explaining they still could be good parents splitting 50/50 responsibility and went to court and done so. She was fine but still had an obsession about the 2 of them, so she moved back in with her mam, then it all started, non return, back to court, warned by the judge, even admitted she took drugs, the judge was not impressed and nearly awarded full residency to my son, until she turned round and said I get my drugs of him, so judge back his own arse by telling my son he had to leave it at 50/50 but gave her a stern warning, she snatched her in broad daylight with her mother in a car, back to court and days stipulated and last warning, he had his days and she had hers, he informed her he was getting services to do a drugs test on him so she had better beware he will prove her allegations, and hey ho she did not return the little girl, she refused his phone call he called police who went round and then phoned us to say they would be leaving her there due to the allegations of sexual touching, for crying out loud how sick is that, stooping so low so as not to return the little girl that has been a parcel passed around over the last year. so she made this allegation, even social services had done a check on son and closed case that they were happy with their findings of how settled and happy the little girl was the home is immaculate and she had no concerns. I feel her and the nana have threw violence, then drugs and now the last step to keep the little girl and the dad away which was the nana's intention from get go, oh god even the solicitor and social services were shocked, my son is upset but says he has done nothing and has nothing to hide from these sick allegations, but what happens now do they just beleive the mother even with the history they have, this is so unfair, mothers dont get this over little boys so why is is always aimed at fathers, i hated my ex but would not even had a thought in my head to say such filth. Can anyone help? Advise or tell me what happens now my son is saying he wants to go to the papers cos its disgusting when mothers can falsely accuse just to stop a fathers rights, the solicitor who should have taken it back to an emergency hearing said she is shocked and she is digging herself a hole, the police the social worker said the same but solicitor does not know what to do, how bad and where does that leave my son when a mother who was unfit, abandoned her, the nana falsely tried to claim residency and stop a DNA saying you dont need a man we can raise her alone. my son could have just walked away and left like many other fathers but he stepped up and said I cannot sit back and wait for her to come to me and people know I never had anything to do with her, I have a conscience, and now he is being branded to stop his rights, oh god this is so unfair where do we go from here, fathers are so unfairly treated when a woman is scorned and then used the child for a pawn in the game of war against a fathe

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      sue 6 years ago

      My son was accused of looking at Porn almost four years ago. He was never arrested or charged with a crime until he received court papers now. He has to go to court in May. My husband and I are 100% convinced that his ex-wife put child porn on his computer and on discs. Their entire family moved into our home until his ex-wife was kicked out two months later for being abusive to me. My husband, son and myself were at work all day while his ex-wife was staying all day in our home. Every time we ever saw her she was on the computers. We were wondering what she was doing while we were at work. She did absolutely nothing to help with the family chores while she was here. There were several times while in our home we heard quite a few lies. One was when she told her daughter that I told her to take her dog, which we couldn't have in our home with the addition of the four of them. Her mother told our granddaughter that I told her to take in out and let it run loose. I acturally told her she needed to take her dog to the pound. She said she couldn't afford it, I don't like lying however, I told her to go and call the pound and tell them she found it. That if she let it loose it would die. I found outlater from her son that she had let their other dogs out to run away. Very little that comes out of her mouth is the truth. We are actually more than 100% sure she framed him. SHe told the police that she found a disc in her son's drawer looked at it saw porn (this was in 2001) put it away and then she lost it. My son and grandchildren live with us and we have never seen anything what she says at all. If we did he would have been kicked our of our home and the police called. Our children are doing extremely well. My son is in school again learning to become a welder. She has continued to lie and abandoned her children. She has made numerous lies about my son. She said that we were harrassing her, which is odd, since we have never known her phone number or address. The children don't even know them. She said her common law husband wasn't in trouble wih the law, when in fact he has been wanted in four states. He has four alias and the bounty hunter came to our home looking for him because he skipped bail. She took her current husband across several states to hide him and he was finally apprehended and was fighting extradiction, He was finally retuned with no bond. While in the other state he was on a quarter of a million dollar bond. This is a person who is an outstanding citizen without a felon. Her daughter who lives with us. Showed me a facebook that her mother founder on and told me that her mother continues to lie and that she is a poor example of a mother.

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      Christina 6 years ago

      The school made false accusations against me. I have a seven year old who needs help. He has the mentality of a 3 year old. Problem is I'm poor and can't get help for him. Well, he is constantly ruining and staining his clothes. The school is saying I send him to school in dirty clothes, that I don't feed him Abd said that I didn't come pick him uo from school when he was sick when my husband picked him up from school because I was sick. Can I file charges against the school? I live in Alabama. The whole thing is absolutely ridiculous and has made me lose all faith in the school systems. No one cares about the children who are actually abused and neglected. What do I need to do. My kids ages are 9,7,4. Two boys one girl. They all have to share a room because my sister lives with me and my husband. Will I get in trouble for that??

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      GiGi67 6 years ago

      My partner has just been accused of molesting his step daughter when she was younger, (she is 19), even her mother (my partner's ex-wife) did not totally agree with it all and now he has to be interviewed by the detectives, it is completely untrue and all these resources are being wasted on us instead of saving and protecting real victims. She does not want to work, does not want to take responsibility for her life and wants to completely destroy his life, like she is so jealous of the other kids (3 more, 1 with special needs) and yet, he has treated her like daughter with no preference between her and the others. Even when we first met he told me he had 4 kids and was so enthusiastic about them all, I had no idea until about 6 months or so after we met that she is actually his stepdaughter. And that is ok,I loved the fact he considered her his daughter. He never "groomed" her, never gave her anything special, worked really long hours and actually was not at home alone very often or at all with the kids when they were married because his ex-wife never worked a day in her life, we are scared of the consequences of this, the ramifications on our life and also his relationship with his other children, (his youngest daughter is 7 and we have never had a problem taking her for the day etc - even he has had her on his own since the divorce) so why now after all these years? and why did his ex-wide (mother of girl) not know about it? She has trusted him and us to take all kids whenever. What is she after and what is it we need to do to protect ourselves?

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      forcechange 6 years ago

      False allegations are a epidemic that destroys a person entire life and dreams. Once accused of sexual allegations against a child, ones life is forever changed. Ruthless individuals do this and usually the accused will become wrongly convicted for the rest of their lives. THE ONLY WAY TO STOP THIS is to get the word out to the people of our country. Telling lawmakers will NEVER accomplish anything. The chld abuse industry is too big of a money maker for lawmakers to ever want to go backwards, so we as the people must do it. Every single person who knows what its like to be falsely accused of any crime against a child should be telling everyone they can about the abuses our government is handing down. Our government has found a way to be a tyrant and get the majority of the population to agree with it. Slowly but surely the abuses by our government is being found out. Peace out.

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      Ashley, ME 6 years ago

      I brought my son to the ER because of a bruise on his ear and a scratch on the back of his ear. my father, who is the kindest man ive ever met had babysat for me that afternoon and when i returned my son was taking a nap, my father went home and when my 2 1/2 y/o woke up from his nap, i seen the bruise! i asked my father and he couldnt explain what would of caused it. My son has vision problems and has no depth perception (cant see distance) and does fall and bruise himself constantly. i just wanted to make sure the injury didnt cause a cuncusion or something, i panic alot. I walked into the ER and was told that his injury was consistent with child abuse! My son was taken away from me while in the ER, they said he wasnt safe with me and untill i got home i didnt even realize that her accusation was that i physically abused him, he means the world to me and his grandfather and this is outrageous! now i have to defend myself against something that i know was an accident and in no way am being treated as innocent till proven guilty! something really does need to be done about this system!

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      Shelly 6 years ago

      My son is 10 years old and handicapped. I have put my entire life on hold taking care of him. Gavyn is a wonderful little boy and I take him to extra therapies, pay for anything and everything that I am told can help him overcome some of his problems... here is the issue Gavyn goes to a school here in Florida that teaches handicapped children, Gavyn loves his school. Someone keeps reporting me to DCF from the school! Gavyn goes to the hospital 2x a week for blood draws and testing, he bruises easy at the site of the needle marks plus the hospital restrains him sometimes because he is such a hard stick... He had a bruse at the elbow, next day Gavyn keeps pointing to go "out" which means school so I take him... DCF shows up the same day at my house scaring the crap out of all 4 of our children.. They make Gavyn undergo all this testing then decide. Yep you guys did nothing wrong it was the hospital blood draw that caused the bruse... DUH people so I took Gavyn back to school.. Everything fine until DCF shows up again because Gavyn had a slight odor of "diaper" on his hands... He has the mentality of a 2 year old and he is autistic so yes he does reach in his diaper alot to check himself... DCF comes and Gavyn is just getting out of the car and the worker says that he sees nothing wrong, etc etc again so he says the case will be closed nothing to worry about... (Just to inject here Gavyn loves the water so dang much I put him in the big tub 3x a day to let him play and laugh.. Water bill is freakin $165 a month, I pay it with a smile because it makes his day brighter).. Okay another of Gavyns loves is animals so I take him outside to let him play with the dog, kittens and the 2 older cats that are outside. We keep the animals all outside this way the house stays clean of any debris, etc. So Gavyn pets the animals and gives them all hugs then gets into the car and we go to the school... DCF shows up again because someone called and said they saw a ONE FLEA in gavyns hair!!!! ARE you freakin kidding me I am sooooooooo angry right now I am still shaking! Wtf am I suppose to do? Do I give my son a happy fun laugh filled day or put him in a isolation room with nothing????? Gavyns disorders could end his life anytime with really no warning so I am trying to give him all of the best memories and love I can but right now I jsut feel really violated because it is getting to the point that I am a nervous wreck. So of course DCF said they would close the case again but it is so STUPID and a TOTAL WASTE Of time and money to send out a DCF worker at 6pm at night to check on a child becuase they were outside and got ONE flea in their hair! Really seriously people I want to go into that dang school and just scream at them to let Gavyn be a happy little boy and stop all this crap but I know that would not end anything.. What should I do? Lost and feeling angry here in Florida

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      anonymous 6 years ago

      I was arrested the day after babysiting for my wife's ex bestfriend's son (7yrs old) he stayed upstairs and we stayed downstairs with our 3month old son . we would often babysit for him as his mum wanted to go out and get drunk and use drugs and we thaught it was unfair for him to be pushed around to total strangers. we had no problems all night and none in the morning. he asked me to take him to school so i did. i then walked home and enjoied the day with my family as i don't work as i am very deppresed. at about 8pm there was a knock at the door i got up and opened it it was 1 Detective and 2 police in uniform the detective said do you know why we are here? i said yes as i thaught they were at my door to take a statment as there were 4 cars broken into the week before and i had seen the person do it.i let them in as anyone would the detective then said do you know (the childs name) i said yes we babysat for him last night they said we know you did. they then said i am arresting you for rape of a child under the age of 14. i was in pure shock i didn't know what to do they put me in the back of a police van and took me to a local station. were they took my picture and DNA and swobs from inside and outside my penius iand also they took my clothes as i had not changed since the day before . i was questioned for hours and i didn't want a solicitor. after a few hours in a cell i had a call from my wife saying she had got me a solicitor and not to say another word until i had spoken to them. so i did the next day my solicitor arrived and i was told to say no comment to all questions because i gave all my statment in the first interview.i was told that the child was collected from school by his mother and he said to her that i had gone into the bed with him and pulled down his pj's then put my willy into his bum. his mum told him to stop lieing as he often lied about things a 7yrs old shouldn't even know about. but he didn't stop he said he was saying the trooth. so she phoned the police and they took 4hrs to arrest me. i never touched him in any way. i was releced on bail and returned as my bail stated on a certan date and i was charged with sexual touching of a boy under 14. i was releced on bail to attened court and was told that the CPS had found semen on the inside front of the boys boxers (underwere) and a very small cut on his backside (0.0001 of a milermeter) the semen on the front inside of his boxers was not a strong mach to my DNA. i have now been to court 3 times and they have always put it back to a later date i have been away from my wife and son for well over a year. and i have started to have pannic attacks. i am in court very soon and it is going to be a 4day trial i do not know what is going to happen. i am innosent and would not ever touch a child i am happily married and i am the proudest dad in the world my son can now walk and talk and i have missed it all. the boy who made these false allagations of abuse is probobly at home now having fun with his family and has probobly forgotten about making it all up and ruining me life and my familys life no one seems to think of the affect on my family they all seem to be worried about evryone else . my wife and son have had social services all over there lives saying things like it is my wifes fult that the boy got raped because she was there. the boy was never raped or even touched. they are also saying that i can not come home and that they will be in there lives forever. HELP PLEASE !!!!!!!!!!!

      me and my wife are still talking evry day and have never fallen out of love . i love my wife and son more than anything in the world we need HELP and please could someone let us know that to do ??????????????? PLEASE COMMENT !!!!!!!!!!!!!

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      Darren 6 years ago

      I was accused of abusing my son when he started secondary school at age 11.

      I knew what he was like if led in the right direction, His mother knew but would not defend me so I turned to his scout leader and the church but the school and the social worker would not even phone them.

      Child and mental healthcare without even meeting him were talking about taking him into care.

      I started recording meetings here and there it was obvious the staff had made up their minds so I took my son to a children’s ambassador (Kiddy shrink) who told me my son was playing up because he was lonely. He was lonely because he was in a new school and had not even been introduced to other students, just thrown in the deep end.

      I put my recordings together and took them to the head of his prior school. I told them I have the church, my own kiddy shrinks, his scout leader and others ready to come into school. I told them they were incompetent refusing to make a simple phone call and I would take the matter higher make up a website etc. with my recordings on it and tell the whole world.

      I used the freedom of information act to get a copy of teacher’s notes and school file as well as access to his social care file. I wrote to the head of the school telling him he owes me and my son an apology he wrote back stating “At no time did the school make an abuse allegation” But I had recordings that show this is not true. But what’s the point that will cause more harm than good now. I just record meetings in school now and they leave me alone.

      The mental healthcare people tell me he is autistic but that is not what my own kiddy shrink and the church think.

      Unfortunately I proved my wife to be a poor mother and she did a runner.

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      monty j jordan 6 years ago

      my wife got a d.u.i. with my daughter in the car, my daughter has been sick with throwing up all her life. the state blames it on her home life and also they said she has an eating disorder and she does not . which they found out after they took her from my home and made her go to a clinic of their choosing and they said she does not have an eating disorder, they still have my child and now they are trying to say that she has mental problems and she does not. the latest diagnosis was she had and adjustment disorder, never told us why they took her and still has not in the state of nebraska lincoln, involved is kvc whom is training to get nationally accredited and in the state of nebraska, i am a 100% disable veteran and just really at my end of understanding how you can take someone child for no good reason at all even after finding out what they wanted to know. i need any help as to how to fight lancaster county court, lincoln,ne please any advice... the doctor that initially diagnosed her even they proved she malpractice my child, and now they have file charges against me stating that if i can't admit she has an eating disorder then i am neglectful of her health which is crap i have been taking my daughter to the doctor since she was born. any help would be nice. thanks again thanks any advice please

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      Meredith 6 years ago

      My husband and I were also falsely accused of shaking our son. During the ALJ trial it came out that the state did not know if he was even abused, how, whom or when. This was three years ago and we are still paying off the lawyer bill. It is now to the point where we would like to fight back. Is it to late? Do we have a chance? How do we even go about starting?

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      A father 6 years ago

      I have been divorced for nearly a year now and have recently met a wonderful woman who is fantastic with my daughter. My ex being jealous as she is has tried her upmost to cause problems and now has said that my behaviour with HER daughter during the marriage was wrong - i never touched her daughter i didn't even discipline her daughter she did - all i did was go to work and support her 3 children from her previous relationship as their father didn't pay anything for the maintenance of his kids. 10 years i supported them for when the eldest was in trouble with the police it was me who went to the police station and dealt with it all. i feel sick with the thought that her lies could cost me my daughter - amazingly she has only said this to my mother and not the police - i'm sorry but if my daughter was abused in ANY way at all i'd immediately call in the police without any hesitation! In Britain the punishment is too lenient for false accusations - most never get any sentence whilst destroying someone elses life - justice???? i think not :(

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      rabid 5 years ago

      My boyfriend and I have been falsely accused of child abuse by the mother of his daughter. It's very upsetting to have these bogus accusations against us and we are being investigated by CPS. Even their daughter has been coached and brainwashed into believing and saying that I have pushed her and called her ugly names. I love her and would never do such a thing nor would her father. The real tragedy here is that her mother is the one that is psychologically and emotionally harming her child by putting her through this and making her believe that her father doesn't love her. Naturally my boyfriend has less rights as the non-custodial parent and we're having to deal with all the obstacles this woman puts in our way. We need to protect ourselves from these false accusations because we along with their daughter are the real victims here! What can we do to protect ourselves from this???

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      Loving Parents 5 years ago

      Our nightmare began when one morning our precious 2 month old woke up and would not eat. Then I noticed her head felt soft and swollen. Immediately we took her to the doctors. They did some testing on her and concluded everything was okay that day. They wanted to recheck her the next day and reccommended x-rays. They saw a possible fracture and she was sent for a catscan. She had a small linear skull fracture and from a bone scan 1 healing rib and 2 chips on the corner of her longbones. We were in total shock. How could this have happened to her? They removed both of our children from our home for the investigation. We truly believe she has a bone disorder like brittle bones disease. Last week she had labwork done to test for deficiencies and it came back normal. It required a lot of blood. We tried to take her for the bone testing, and 2 labs said it is just too much blood for an infant and could be harmful. So we are not pursuing to do the test at this time. She also had previously had her 2 month vaccinations, which i've researched a lot about that causing bone fragility due to the mixing of toxins causing a decrease of vitamin c and tylenol can decrease it also. I am very scared to vaccinate her again because of all the horror stories i've been reading about these poor infants even dying after vaccines. They call it a "well-visit" but here we are injecting them with multiple toxins claimed to protect them could actually be harmful to them. The worst part is we have no idea how this could've happened. If she has the disease it can be from normal everyday handling. We are great, hard-working, loving parents torn apart by something we cannot explain. I feel sorry for everyone innocent in our situation. We have since hired 2 attorneys to work for us, but it is such a financial burden. Unfortunitely it's all about the money, the more children they remove from homes the more money they are funded by the government. This society is all wrong and innocent families are being torn apart. We know we did no wrong, and will fight this to the end no matter what the cost, our children are worth it all. You know we took her to the doctors and now are being punished for it. Our children have been to every checkup and appointment needed. We will definitely be looking into ways of sueing after this is all done. It is not right the emotional distress they put the whole family through. Our advice to everyone: get a great lawyer or two( if you can't afford one rack up a credit card or take out a home equity line of credit) and fight until the end!

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      sara 5 years ago

      my brother has been falsey accused of child abuse of a minor the police put my family through hell they were abusive and rascist! my brother has been charged on 3 accounts of rape and is sitting in prison awaiting his trial, now the girl has admited to making the whole thing up please give me some advice x

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      vjimenez 5 years ago

      I had my 4 yr old son taken from his father about almost 4 months ago in Texas. He accused me and boy friend at time of abbusing my son. He called CPS and they investigated us and we cleared. But then he found out that he would have to give me my son back he left with him to California. He told me I will never see my son. I had US Marshals on his ass with out him knowing after 4 months gone they caught my ex with my son. But because my son had been brain wash by his father when they turned him into DCPS in California they said that Im being charged with neglect. So now I cant see my son I had to drived from Texas to California and go to court cause my son had been brain washed. In the mean while my son is with a foster parent. Any body know what can I do.

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      sibemom 5 years ago

      We have a situation that is very confusing. My husbands grandaughter which I will refer to as OUR grandaughter, was taken away from her mother, this is our son's daughter, on alleged child abuse charges. We were not informed of this until over 1 month after the fact by my husbands ex wife. We were never allowed to go to any of the custody hearings because we were never informed that they were going on. My step son is in prison and he was never married to this young woman, but we have always had liberal visitation with our GD. My husbands ex wife called last weekend to inform us of what had happened and that she will have our GD for an undertermined period of time. I called the courts CPS etc... and they had advised me to go talk to the mother of our GD. She was in jail because of a failure to appear warrent.I went to see her and asked her what was going on. She said someone called CPS and said she was abusing her girls, so they came and took them away. But what confuses me is if she is the alleged abuser then how can she have visitation even supervised twice a week before this goes to trial? She insists that she did not do this, and that she feels like she is being set up by my husbands ex. I don't know but I found it rediculous that my husband and I were not informed and were going crazy not being able to get in touch with her! This is the state of Michigan and we live in Wisconsin but on the border so we are only a few miles away from where she lived with our GD. I thought each biological grandparent had to be informed and given the chance to have the child in their temporary custody? I am not sure that these charges are founded, there was no physical evedence that she had ever abused either one of her kids. So I am very confused. There is a jury trial set fo Aug 23 and I suppose we will find out more then but if anyone has any insight on this please comment.

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      Randy 5 years ago

      American Dream is not for illegal immigrants.

      Victoria’s story is one of heartbreak, she thought the American Dream was to come here and work hard, make money to help her family and have a family of her own. Yes, both her and Jennifer are illegal; however, this does not mean that they are not human beings. Instead of the “American Dream” they have gotten the “American Nightmare”. Victoria has been bullied, DCF stole her sister and her nieces, she wants her family but they say because she is illegal she can not have them, she can not even see them. This is not true and we have asked for this law and it has not been produced. She wants her family. And Ms. Jensen, lawyer for DCF, has taken both of these children and her sister and removed them not only from their family but their culture to give them to the “American” family she feels is more appropriate, the legal, white family. These children are wanted by family. Because she is illegal and Hispanic her civil liberties are worth nothing. I guess this is one way to stop illegal immigration, steal their children.

      I have proof of lies and lots of corruption within DCF.


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      GM 5 years ago

      Why should illegals get better treatment than we legals do at the hands of CPS? Why would being in the US illegally make them exempt from any unpleasantness but able to partake of the benefits? I feel for them, but being illegal doesn't give them more rights, as Randy is suggesting it should.

      I've fought off accusations of child abuse, and my advice is that you should be willing to give up everything you have to do so. The "authorities" do corrupt interviews that traumatized the kids, and they don't expose the brainwashing. An excellent (not the cheapest) lawyer can get the head of CPS to do a real interview that exposes the brainwashing. If you have any resources, be willing to spend them on your defense. If you don't have any money or retirement set aside you can tap, then you are at the mercy at the public defender. Start pulling together a network of people who are willing to make statements in your defense. You want quantity and quality. I had a doctor, specialist who was very confident that my son's condition could not be caused

      by abuse, nor did he show any emotional or physical signs. He'd had regular appointments with full trunk exams. His receptionist told me that abusers don't seek medical treatment but avoid it, and I was very actively seeking, looking for answers. Know that even though your ex may try to alienate you from the kids by cutting off all contact that this is illegal. Just because your ex says you can't discuss the case with the kids does not mean that is the case, either. Record all phone calls between you and the kids and you and the accuser. Keep a log. Check the laws about recording calls for your state(s) online. I paid $300/HR for my lead council 8 yrs ago, and that firm, who normally dealt with professional athletes, gave us emergency status and dropped everything as soon as I called. They pulled files and got to work even before calling me back, before money was promised, much less collected. They already had advice and action planned. My ex paid $13k for a 2 person firm (1 was on probation for ethics violations), who practically gave the case to my lawyers. Even poor representation is expensive. If the person falsely accusing you has or may get an attorney, you need to get out there and meet with every decent lawyer in your area. Once they've talked to you, they can't represent the side opposing you - conflict of interest. That was one thing they had us do, and we had to pay for a couple of consults, but most are free. If you don't have money to defend yourself, you really don't want to be up against a great attorney. The system for alleged child abuse really is guilty until proven innocent, and those who make the false accusations will get their reward come the final judgement day. My heart goes out to all of you. I've been there!

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      Parent 5 years ago

      Unfortunately its nice to see others with the same problem, I now know Im not alone on this. So, Im being accused by my own child of sexual abuse. I didnt realize the seriousness of the situation at first, my child is just young, then it all took a spin. CPS and the local authorities investigated the situation and some how deemed me unsafe, all of a sudden I felt like I was in a bad dream. I was light headed and it was almost like tunnel vision or a cloud. The last thing a parent wants to think is their own child has been hurt in any way but, to be the parent who has supposedly brought harm to your own child makes you want to die inside. This has caused a terrible break up of our great committed marriage and tore our family apart. It is by far one of the hardest things to prove on both sides therefore the solution has to be CPS's judgement. There are no criminal charges against anyone after their investigation but so much more lost because of it, now it is one parent deciding to not allow the other parent any involvment in their lives, they have now moved on and become a new family. Even after all the time that has gone by it still hurts me inside and makes me depressed when I think of what I have lost and for what reason? I have not moved on like they have, its not that easy for a parent to just forget about and stop loving their child. I, to this day still, continue to have faith they will learn the truth and come back to me but I am so scared its too late. I have slowly given up on the fight and considered living out the rest of my life as a sucker, the worst part is I dont know who Im supposed to be mad at. There are some of the most amazing parents among us who deserve nothing less than to spend the rest of their life with the ones they love but, sometimes its those amazing parents who dont get to live that experience. Its sad all the innocent people out here can feel guilty about the same thing, I respect the parents who NEVER give up on their child. If 60 percent of reported abuse cases are false, what do we need to do as parents to prevent this from happening to our children when they have kids of their own? I wish you all good luck on your problem and only God can judge.

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      stressed out mom 5 years ago

      I HAVE HAD 5 unanouisted visits concerning first my 17 year old daugter 2 times false crazy stories. She was out on the street homeless and selling drugs. that social worker saw our house and new it was false, closed it out. She is a troubled teen who got in trouble 2 summers ago. she went for a intake where they felt she needed counsling which is paid by the state. We do have insurance but i felt it wasn't a big deal. Since that they wanted to clos her case out, however she didn't go there enough. So i started taking her. I have fibromyalgis and dics degented disease, for 9 years i have been seeeing a rhumatoligist who prescribes meds. I can't take most pain meds because i through up from them. The alligations is i abuse my meds . He has never seen me under the influence and said so. However they asked for my medication and counted them to see if i was abusing them it was taking as prescibed he had nothing . Something recently happened when my daughter was in her session with her drug counsler who by the way knows me from 10 years ago. She called dyfs and said a bold out lie about how i souned slurry on the phone, and that my daughter had some kind of memeory of me not walking right 8 years ago. They have never seen me incapacitated on every visit. I refused to come in for a drug eval because i how the system works they will say u need to go through all there bullshit. they want to speek to my doctor and get my records from the pharmacy i refused, because they will try to make a case against me for child abuse. 10 years ago i had a car accident with my daughter in the car. they told me i couldn't drive with them. I had a court date however nobody could stay with the children there twins, called my lawyer he said he would take care of it,the judge ordered them to be removed. At that time i was engaged to my now husband who they said could stay in the house if he goes for a intake, he did then they were to be transfered to my sister who is a therapist, they lied it took weeks ,the girls were traumitized. my husband was told just come for some evaluations. Which he passed with flying colors that turned into 9 months . They made me jump through hoops ,everytime they would put upon something else i had to do i became pregnant developed many illness because of the stress. finally after my son was born had a new judge and granted me the children back home, but the scumbag lawyer had the balls to want to take my newborn thank god this judged got pissed at her and said no! It's all about the mighty dollar from the sate no one polices them. Now i'm walking on egg shells because who knows they said ther starting to make a case against me! Ihave a lawer i told the case worker from here on in speak to my attorney! the system is broken and needes to be changed.

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      darryl 5 years ago

      i got locked up for child endangerment for no reason, my gf said i wasa a great father to my son, so i sat i jail for 3 days, the judge dropped my charges for no evidence, now my gf wants to move back with me in my house, and her mom is just threatning to call cps for her moving home, can i get my son taking away from us over that? the cps lady even told my girl there really is no case against me, but will we be ok and be able to keep our son. id really appreciate feed back , and also there was no violent crimes,

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      CJohnson 5 years ago

      To Darryl: Tell the "mother-in-law" that you intend to press charges against her if she wrongly accuses you again and causes any more legal trouble for you without evidence or cause. If she calls your bluff, do it.

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      aadams 5 years ago

      I have been investigated 12x by DCF in Florida. One accusation was made by an ex fiance' because I ended our engagement. The rest have all been made "anonymously" by my own mother and ex husband. Each case I have been found not guilty. What do I do? I use to be a teachers assistant and because of all of these false accusations, I will not be allowed to work with children anymore I have been told. Can I sue the state of Florida? I know my mother and ex husband are behind all of the accusations, but I have no proof. My ex husband has NEVER paid me a penny in child support and is doing this to try to get custody of our son. Child support enforcement is of no help. Apparently because my ex husband lives out of state when they send a letter to the address I have for him (that I know is correct) he and his gf send it back to child support enforcement saying that he doesn't live there-and they believe it! I am in need of real help. I am tired of these charges and get no help from child support enforcement. If my ex was locked up, he wouldn't be able to make these accusations!HELP!

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      Richard 5 years ago

      I am now going through the agonising process to wait to see if I am going to be charged with the sexual abuse of my sons. I'm on bail for it and so is my lodger !!

      My ex has accused me of this before (though I did not find out until 2 years after), just to keep my son out of the country. She then, within 48 hours of telling the court she suspected abuse - gave me unsupervised contact with him !! And THEN, had another child with me.

      Now she says my son is showing overly sexualised behaviour by rubbing himself on her furniture - he's 4 now. Added to this she says she had seen him do this on three occasions. However, I think this is a lie, as she went to see her solicitor after this supposedly happened 3 times to give me more time with my sons ! Makes no sense. Also the claim came 34 minutes after her friend verbally accused me at the garage, and she later sent a threat of injunction by e-mail for something else(still have it) prior to Police putting one in !

      According to the Police, my son claims he does not like my lodger and runs around the house and to get away from me and the lodger, he hides himself in a lockable cupboard. Police searched house - took away my pc and memory sticks (wont find anything that a single man wouldn't look at) - then the Police confirmed there is no lockable cupboard in my house. They asked had I watched porn with my kids !

      The evidence against me is that my son also thrusts his hips into the air. Police asked me why, and I said dont know. Was only when I got home I realised I did ask him to do this - when I changed nappy I say 'bum up' to get the nappy underneath. Have tried to get back into see the Police, but they have sent file to CPS (crown prosecution service). I tried to talk to them for 7 weeks after the accusation first came to light.

      The whole thing is a joke- not seen kids now for 6 months.

      I have evidence of this lady lying, committing perjury, fabricating evidence and falsifying evidence, committing fraud by not declaring her previous names - I even divorced her ! I have evidence of her claiming I was trying to pass a sexual disease by not wearing a condom, she is on benefit - but spends £2,000 a year on flights whilst claiming council tax from local government office.

      In a way I hope it does go to court to show what an true liar and devious person she really is.

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      Jen 5 years ago

      my sister is a drug addict. Shes using in front of her 2 year old son and taking him for drug rides at 3:30am. She has been stealing from everyone to get money for drugs so now alot of people are after her. She has a few felony charges pending as well. I called DCF hoping maybe they will forse her to go to a rehab treatment center. DCF went to her house and found that it was all now they will start random drug test. Now......she made a false report on me! I'm a teacher so this wont look good when a school runs a cori/sori check. DCF did come to my house but didnt believe a word she said. He knew immeditly is was bogus. Does anyone know if i can sue her for this? This is going to follow me around with every teaching job i apply for. I live in MA

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      dyfs 2 5 years ago

      about 10 mths ago my kids were taken from me by dfys becasuethe kids aid my ex was hittin them and i drank to much at the time we were in a shelter now i have gotten things together and a new bf and because of his past n his familys past with dyfs they say he couldnt be around my kids alone so i got a day job then his crazy ex calls dyfs on me still with a dyfs case open n only one child in my custody still fightin for the other two.well my middle child the one i have likes to lie n he tells his school my bf hit em and now they took my child back in custody again i dont know what to do sumone help me please

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      rachel 5 years ago

      This week my 7 year old was have a temper tantrum and didn't want to go to school and wouldn't get dressed. I grabbed her arm and said she had to get dressed because she would be late for school.

      after school I picked her up and she said mom I was upset and told my teacher her hurt my arm when u grabbed me. I talk to the principal who reads me the report(mind you no one called me from the school)

      they said the had to call children and youth and when they came to school they took pictures of my daughters arm but the report said she had nothing on her arm. I'm in hysterics literally. i have been charged with nothing so far we received letters from c&y stating they wanted to speak with my husband and kids not me. I'm a wreak!

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      Oh Good Grief! 5 years ago

      Do not let CPS workers enter your home without a warrant. Don't listen to their threats and lies. CPS cannot kidnap your child without a court order or evidence the child is in immediate danger.

      Do not meet with social service workers in your home or at their office. As soon as you know allegations have been made, immediately take your children to your pediatrician for a physical. This is to document your children's actual physical condition. Meet social workers at your lawyers' office. If they insist they must tour your home, require that they make an appointment. When they arrive, have someone follow each worker with a video camera. Restrict their access to places and things that do not relate to your children. (They have no business wandering through your bedroom, your home office, your closet or anywhere that is private and does not relate to the children's well-being.)

      The reason why CPS acts out so badly is because naive, decent parents let them get away with things that are totally illegal. Come on! You know full well that these people are not legally entitled to wander through your home and interrogate your children on a whim.

      Just say no, and mean it! If you won't stand up for your children and insist that their rights be respected, then you are not a fit parent. Never forget that children have Constitutional rights too. Your duty as a parent to to defend their rights. CPS workers consistantly trample children's rights, creating horrible trauma and broken lives. Read the 4th Amendment and think about how CPS treats children's bodies, belongings and homes. You know what CPS does to children is wrong. You are your kids only protection from these scum - so be strong!

      Protection from unreasonable search and seizure:

      "The right of the people to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects, against unreasonable searches and seizures, shall not be violated, and no Warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by Oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the place to be searched, and the persons or things to be seized."

      When you allow CPS workers to BS their way into your home, you permit them to violate the 4th amendment rights of every single person who lives there, plus anyone who may have stored their belongings with you. If you want to discard your own 4th amendment rights, go right ahead. Just don't discard anyone elses rights. Your spouse's 4th amendment rights are not yours to discard, nor are your children's. It is also wrong of you to discard the 4th amendment rights of elderly parents or friends who may be visiting or sharing your home. Say no! It's the right thing to do. If more people said no, CPS would stop pretending they were entitled to abuse people with impunity.

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      Rachel 5 years ago

      Thank you for replying.I Told my husband we should talk to an attorney but he said we shouldn't have to, since I didn't harm our daughter.

      Yes I agree but when you receive letters stating your the "perpetrator" then I beg the differ!

      My husband thinks that if we get lawyers involved it's like like admitting you have something to hide.

      My daughter had nothing whatsoever on her arm nor did the report from what the principal read to me state there was anything on her arm.

      They went on an upset child who woke up on the wrong side of them bed, who didn't want to go to school that day.

      The principal said the c&y worker was there for a matter of 5 minutes.

      If they thought the child was in immediate danger wouldn't they remove her from the home that day? This happened 5 days ago .

      one again thank u for all ur help

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      Old Fashioned mom 5 years ago

      I despise CPS and feel that it should be abolished and started from scratch. I have been falsely accused several times by my husband's ex wife, and people in the neighborhood who did not like me. My kids told the CPS worker that I am a great mom, but they still had to have their pics taken, interviews done, etc.

      I think there should be some serious stipulations put in place for someone to become a social worker in the first place.

      1. Have their own children.

      2. Take a common sense test.

      3. Know how to hook an older kid up to a lie detector! lol

      4. Be married (maybe even with a crazy ex to deal with, too!)

      Most of htese people are overworked, underpaid, and under appreciated, but that creates an attitude of "I could care less what is right, just get it done". Other CPS workers feel superior to the parents they deal with. I think these people should ALL be required to have real world experience wtih their own kids and husbands. Period.

      I no longer fear being falsely accused, but for those going through it - I send my prayers to God and please be emboldened by the fact that He only allows you to go through what He knows you can handle! I pray for those kids who are lying and being threatened into lying, that they would understand the hurt and pain and that those threatening them would stop trying to control people in this way because they are literally ripping families apart!

      I hope things change really soon!

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      jay 5 years ago

      My girl friend mother of are kids had dcf called on her.on are youngest girl age 5. She burned her hand on a heat lamp. So dcf went to school and talked with both kids. Then came to are house went threw it top To bottom. and we told them she had a doctor appt. they said yes looks good everything is fine. Now they called saying the burn looks like it was held there r u f in kidding me. So they want a copy of doctors appt and want us to sigh a release form. Should we just say no and pull her from pre school. She doesn.'t have to go and they won't leave her alone in school stripping them to look at them when we r not around and It's a man that did it. Where r my rights

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      ObK 5 years ago

      My daughter made a disclosure that I touched her privates while I was touching mine. She is now 8yrs old and has been in my care since birth till CPS took her away march 2011... I haven't seen my daughter since then and courts want to place her in her mother's care. I cannot afford a lawyer and have been battling with this with 3 different public defenders so far... I need help. Email:

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      Steven Law 5 years ago

      Burden Of Proof

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      tara proffitt 5 years ago

      I fell out with a neighbour because she used me and my kids to get out of her house because she wasnt happy about it and lied and made accusations that i was loud and drilled at stupid o clock in the morning? I heard from my neighnours she was twisted and would do any thing but never knew she would go to the child services when i confronted her she screamed and yelled at me infront of her 2 yr old daughter and promised me should would get me back for calling her a bad mum... She made accusations saying i smaked my son round the face and swore and manhandled them.This angered me because i know im a great mum and to hear this totally puts u down.The child services have got on to was has happened but still doesnt make me feel better i want justice for being wrongly accused aand sickens me that they waste their tym with inocent people while kids are being abused....

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      getting-hosed 5 years ago

      I"m a father of a 4yr old girl. I just got full custody of her. She was living with her grandma, (the mother's mom) for the last year.

      I've been with my daughter every single weekend for the last year and about a month after the custody battle, I took her in during the week and set her up in a preschool. Within two weeks of taking her full time, the grandma says my daughter is telling them that daddy hits her. I now have a temporary protection order on me and can't see my kid, and after reading all this, I fear going to jail. My child has not been injured by me and I hope this gets resolved. But I'm sure by now my daughter is being taught how to lie and I don't know if I can take it.

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      Distraught Mom 5 years ago

      I won custody of my children after an 8 year abusive marriage. About two years later I let a relative in my ex's state babysit them and when I returned they were gone. 

      They were able to put a restraining order on me (without anything on me.  No police involvement, nothing) and a little over a year later he was granted custody... two months after he was investigated for child sexual assault. (I got supervised visitation). 

      I was forced out of the kids lives for a good 8 years (courts allowed him to come to my home and harass me. Calling me a child molester in front of my neighbors) while he is repeatedly investigated at least 3 more times for molestation and a dozen more for neglect etc. He always puts the blame on someone else (me, a neighbor, another relative etc).I have yet to be investigated for anything. 

      When I do see my two youngest (the oldest moved in with me at 15 has since moved out) at there dads, he calls them f***** b******. He pulled my one daughter out of school at 15 to babysit his children from other marriages (I have no other children. My tubes were tied while I was with him... At 24). 

      My children are almost all grown. There is not a whole lot I can do besides try to be there for them which is almost impossible because of all the lies he told them about me.  The damage has been done. My reputation has been horribly marred and lives have been turned upside down. And even though I can prove that they slandered me, hurt me and my children, no one will do anything. It's like " it's ok. We destroyed there lives. Who's next?!?"

      Oh, and I believe this was orchestrated by my mother who left my dad for my ex one after our divorce was final and who used to  work for the county that allowed this to happen. She is currently involved with CPS herself. My nephew was taken from my sis (2years ago) who has lived with our mother for the last 10+ years and put into foster care for being abused. She (my sis) has actually been investigated and charged. 

      I recently sent all my docs to the exploited children division in the US asking for help.  I have already tried the FBI civil rights squad, judicial review board and CPS authorities (who ofcourse has done nothing) so we will see how this goes!

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      Distraught Mom 5 years ago

      I won custody of my children after an 8 year abusive marriage. About two years later I let a relative in my ex's state babysit them and when I returned they were gone. 

      They were able to put a restraining order on me (without anything on me.  No police involvement, nothing) and a little over a year later he was granted custody... two months after he was investigated for child sexual assault. (I got supervised visitation). 

      I was forced out of the kids lives for a good 8 years (courts allowed him to come to my home and harass me. Calling me a child molester in front of my neighbors) while he is repeatedly investigated at least 3 more times for molestation and a dozen more for neglect etc. He always puts the blame on someone else (me, a neighbor, another relative etc).I have yet to be investigated for anything. 

      When I do see my two youngest (the oldest moved in with me at 15 has since moved out) at there dads, he calls them f***** b******. He pulled my one daughter out of school at 15 to babysit his children from other marriages (I have no other children. My tubes were tied while I was with him... At 24). 

      My children are almost all grown. There is not a whole lot I can do besides try to be there for them which is almost impossible because of all the lies he told them about me.  The damage has been done. My reputation has been horribly marred and lives have been turned upside down. And even though I can prove that they slandered me, hurt me and my children, no one will do anything. It's like " it's ok. We destroyed there lives. Who's next?!?"

      Oh, and I believe this was orchestrated by my mother who left my dad for my ex one after our divorce was final and who used to  work for the county that allowed this to happen. She is currently involved with CPS herself. My nephew was taken from my sis (2years ago) who has lived with our mother for the last 10+ years and put into foster care for being abused. She (my sis) has actually been investigated and charged. 

      I recently sent all my docs to the exploited children division in the US asking for help.  I have already tried the FBI civil rights squad, judicial review board and CPS authorities (who ofcourse has done nothing) so we will see how this goes!

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      Razz 5 years ago

      I'm a 35yo female and was accused of touching a 4yo girl by the mother!, the girls mum was my mate....Her BF (was also a mate) tried to kick my door in injuring my husband , then said he was going to kill me and burn my house down! I didnt know what to do so i went and got a polygraph...I passed with flying colors...The mother (ex mate) is still going on with it and I now want to sue! Apparently there is no help or justice for me!!!! No Sorry, No Closure! to sue and maybe go to the news is all i have now but dont know how to go about it! :(

      It sucks!

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      LAUREN 5 years ago

      Currently, my ex-husband and I share custody of our 4 year old daughter. She spends 2 weeks with him each month, and the rest of the time with me. My ex husband and I signed a custody agreement, saying that our daughter would live with me and my new husband when she starts school, because he wanted to move to Atlanta, and he knew her living with us would be better for her. Well, his plan to move to ATL fell through, so he bought a house where we live instead. After that, he called and said that "WE WILL be renegotiating the custody agreement because the schools in my area are better than the schools in your area." I told him that was pure conjecture on his part, and there was nothing to renegotiate. A few days later, I got a call from him saying that our daughter "flinched" every time her grandmother moved around her, and that my daughter said that "mommy hits her in the forehead". He said he is contacting CPS to get an investigation going. This is absolutely not true, and if anything, he has had the past two weeks with her to coach her. After reading these stories, I am seriously about to have a nervous breakdown. Haven't heard from CPS yet, as it has only been one day since he said he was going to file a complaint. I am seriously afraid that I will end up serving jail time based on her coached interview. It is apparent to me that because my ex can't afford to fight for custody in a court room, he is trying to paint me as an unfit mother so he can win custody without having to pay a dime.

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      Mike 5 years ago

      I had my son over the summer. Everything was great, so I thought. Currently, he's being evaluated for autism and has already been diagnosed as having ADD. He gets very out of control at times and can be a handful. Over the summer, he would tell me about things that allegedly happened at home, things that his mom was doing. Well today, 5 months after he went back home, I was being interviewed at home for allegations made against me by my son. He told his therapist that I lock him in a closet, I threatened to cut his head off, and I put Icy-Hot on his face as punishment. Only truth is the Icy-Hot, but he asked what it was and if you ever use it on your face. I said no, he said why, I explained and he insisted on asking why. Sort of when you intentionally give your child something extremely sour, just to see their reaction. Never knew he would say I did it to punish him. The problem is, I can't say he's a liar given his mental medical history. I'm worried for various reasons. I told the CPS rep today that I'll do whatever it takes to see that he gets help. I've never been to one of his therapy sessions, but if I need to go, I will. There's no proof or evidence against me, even the CPS rep told me that(which is kind of reassuring), however I've heard stories about this and conviction is involved. I have a 2 year old with my fiance', and we're happy. My son is also a big part of this family. My entire life can be ruined due to these accusations. Not only could I lose my son, but I could also be considered a danger to my daughter as well. I know he has mental problems, but his mother isn't helping matters by letting him listen to Insane Clown Posse and taking him to their concerts(he's only 8.) He's now branding knives at her and talks about cutting heads off! It's apparent that he tells us what he thinks we want to hear. Daddy doesn't love mommy so I'll say bad things about her to him, and vice versa. I was going to use what he told me to pursue full custody, however with these allegations, how can I ever know if what he's told me is true? What can I expect? Supervised visits(in which I agreed to if it was required,) restraining order, or even jail time?

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      Rita 5 years ago

      I feel so sorry for all the parents who have been falsely accused. I myself have been falsely accused several times by my children`s father and his family. All my cases have been closed. I think we should all write letters to the legislature about provided us with some protection from false allegations. Also, there should be some kind of repercussions for the people who make these false claims. Never under estimate the power of the pen. Together we can make a difference.

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      Matthew Dawson 5 years ago from United States

      Great Advice and yes false allegations of child abuse are horrific for the parent who loves there child. However investigators are highly trained to get to the bottom of all cases. You offered sound advice great Job Voted up!!!

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      Johnd506 3 years ago

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      cat 2 years ago

      ive been going thru a dss case for almost three years. we were falsely accused but they took them anyway. for a year we fought to get my children back. took parenting classes, mental evaluations, counseling, homeservices. what did i do i forgot a doctors appointment thats all they could dig up. no drugs no alcohol no anything. ive always kept a job had food made sure my kids had everything they needed. out of all these people that actually abuse their kids i get called on by someone who got jealous because my kids father wouldnt go out with them. after we finally got them back they made every excuse to keep the case open to monitor us. the moment they found out im pregnant come in and take my kids again saying i was hiding a pregnancy from them like the moment i found out i should have called them and told them all about it. now im fighting with them again the judges so far have told them they dont have a case but since they never provided me with a service they wanted me to complete they get to keep them til i finish it. they havent been providing the service still i had to petition them in court to make them do it so i can get my kids back . i think the courts should step in and say if they dont provide the service in a certain time and youve done everything u were suppose to then the case should be closed. so now that i have made them do the services all of a sudden new allegations come up now the childrens father apparantly sexually abused my daughter. how i dont know since he hasnt had unsupervised visits with his children in over two years. oh yeah that right they made it up because they have never wanted my children to come home because their to busy trying to make money off of kids. this is taking place in cherokee county gaffney sc i wont say her full name but the intials r dw the whole case she has done nothing but change her story or flat out lie about everything.

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      Annamous 2 years ago

      I feel so sorry for all the parents who have been falsely accused. I myself have been falsely accused several times by my children`s father and his family. All my cases have been closed. I think we should all write letters to the legislature about provided us with some protection from false allegations. Also, there should be some kind of repercussions for the people who make these false claims. Never under estimate the power of the pen. Together we can make a difference.

      How would you feel if it were the police that made the alegations up on you. Your child wondered off like 3 year olds will do if you turn your head for a minute and you call 911 for help and they arrest you for child neglect.

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      mw 17 months ago

      A month ago I layed down to take a nap with my 2 year old daughter we took a nap the same time everyday I had been sick also so I had my brother come over to help me out he decided to nap also I locked all doors even chain locks before I layed down . I woke up to my brother yelling the cops are at the door at that time I noticed my back door was open chain was broke off also. when I opened my front door cops were there and many more people in my yard the chef in my town is also my sisters brother in law who was there also who was treating me like a criminal they said my daughter was outside in front yard by road with are dog the chef notices my brother who has a past history of drug use and makes a allegation to CP's who they said they has to call that there were possible meth use in my house which was false they asked me and my husband to do a drug test I felt like a criminal I told them I wanted my attorney we took drug test both of us past a week later I was arrested and charged with endangered to child felony 2 which is false clasification after a month cps dropped my case they said they seen no need for them to be called the chef police made a false allegation

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      Aleisha 17 months ago

      I have been dealing with Social Services since november of 2015 because my daughter decided to lie to her teachers about my boyfriend scratching her instead of telling them the truth about them being cat scratches instead of my boyfriend scratching her.

      She has now been telling them we are beating her and making up excuses and even more lies which has now made it where DCYF is not trying to open a endangered child case on us because my child is trying to seek attention. My daughter bruises easly, so she herself can put all of the bruises she gets on herself and she will constantly go "Mommy and daddy hurt me"

      I have looked through my states laws and found out they ahve done a lot of illegal stuff and violated my parental rights especially going to my daughter's school without my knowledge and then taking pictures of her bruises without any type of medical examiner there.

      I don't know what to do right now, I don't sleep, I can't find a pro bono lawyer in my area who could possibly take my case and I was already told if she cried wolf one more time she would be taking away. I need help, a lot of help.

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      steven 14 months ago


      Plz. Forgive me for saying this

      But the person that said dss won't strip search you child is a lie or don't know what he or she is talking about. They will and have done it more then once

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