It is not in the capacity of everybody to get out of the shackles of love of their own life and do something in a big way for others. Few succeed that way, and then at the cost of a personal life, family and many other little pleasures. I appreciate their courage. For me, to be useful to others is a more day to day affair in the smaller circle of acquaintances, friends and sometimes complete strangers I meet on the street. It is just lending an ear to a friend, colleague, the house-help or the lady at the grocery store- patiently listen to the trouble they may have, or the joy they may want to share. Sometimes there will be that little request - phone number of a good pediatric, or a legal adviser and I can effortlessly hand over. Sometimes, when I am taking a cab to the office and the cab driver is woe-begone about some hassle with the traffic police and I call up a friend who is in the department and request to help out. Sometimes when there has been a row over some minor misunderstanding between a team member and the HR and I step in and mediate to ease out the feelings, leaving both parties happy and reconciled. Finally, whenever I can I will save and give that little something, in old toys, clothes, blankets, some money to the needy- through those I know will take the trouble to take it to those to whom it will matter.