We lived in Hawaii for four years, and we miss it. Anyways, the attitude is so different in Hawaii compared to East Coast U.S. Hawaiians are so laid back, and it's no big deal to them to be a little late for meetings or what not. There are a lot of other problems on the islands too though, but I found the preschools there a little lacking even. We weren't there long enough to start in the main public schools, but there are a lot of good Christian schools that I knew who had some of the same problems there. Problems that aren't necessarily as bad in other areas of the country.
I actually think the system tries to parent the parent too much and passs too much judgement on the parent, as well as tell parents how to raise their children. And the thing is, not all parents are deadbeats or bad. A lot of parents truly love their children, but the children still have problems that teachers want to pass off as lazy parents or as a disorder. I get tired of teachers not listening to parents. However, it goes both ways in many cases. But the school system seems like they want to take over the role as parent in too many cases, and it is so frustrating and arogant to think that they know a child better than the child's parents.
Don't get me wrong, if the child is being abused, the parents are coming into the school on drugs or drunk or have told of abusive situations at home, the school does have a right to say something and take further action if needed. But too often, parents who are good parents get grief from the system.
Thanks for your comment, and good luck. If you survived Oakland (we lived in Seaside for a while as well), you can survive Hawaii. Hang Loose.