My answer or assertion would be thus: I believe in soul mates, however I also believe in cause and effect/ripple in the pond. Microcosms and macrocosms. Concentric discipline in spin. We are therefore like neutrons, ions, electrons, etc... We, in our own dynamic world alone, are like planets even... Destiny is a man-made word so I will not or cannot answer that. It is like asking "What was before the "big bang" question. I apologize if I am circling the issue here... I cannot, admitedly, say from experience that life is like a membrane on some plane of existence. I say Chaos Theory... It is your best bet. Your question begat more questions LOL... Sorry if this was too long! Sincerely, Matt.