Why do we argue?
Why argue, when you can always agree to disagree and simply share information? Let's see who can play the best 'Devil's Advocate' here, shall we?
We argue because we feel passionate about something, or defensive, or angry! It stimulates the brain cells, makes you think, but can also make you say things you don't mean. If you can keep your head and manage an educated and informed argument then all well and good. If it's done with humour then you can get away with a lot more!
Apparently, when the way you are, and the way people experience you, are the same thing, you feel peace - and hence find no need to argue, especially in light of the fact that there are no misunderstandings.... So we argue because we are divided within ourselves and rarely operate from a true centre; it's got nothing to do with the other person being right or wrong.
Aside from arguments intended to get something we want, when there is no "win" to be gained from an argument I think we do it to validate ourselves. Bringing someone to our side of an argument makes us feel smart, and capable and better than that person, whether we were thinking that or not. So, I guess compulsion to argue may go back to a primitave need to feel worthy and important.
I think the most typical cause of argument is a combination of the "brilliant idea" and the response:
When one comes up with something they think is either revolutional or just plain genius, but it is met with a negative response like "No, my idea is better," then the sparks start to fly. If the one listening were to say, "That is a brilliant idea . . ." to start with, then this mostly disarms the originator of the idea, and gives him/her closure. If it so be that the listener believes he/she has a better idea, he/she would be wise in asking, "So how would you justify the use of ________, and what would happen if you changed A to B?"
I think a person needs some type of comment that affirms their competency, no matter what follows next. If not, it's fodder for arguments.
People argue- because some people are just clueless and have no real concept of true reality and must be at least told the truth.
2.While others argue because they enjoy the conflict and using their mind to put forth an ide, its like excercize for the brain.
3. Some people are just di(ks and fight because they are @$$holes.
4. Others are brought up with different views of which they are intolerant to others views.
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