Scenario, this child is an excellent student and a teacher's pet. In fact, he/she is THE SMARTEST in the class and teachers love him/her. He/she is a nice child who is not a bully; however, the other children find this child to be particularly unlikeable even though this child is nice to everyone. Even this child's "best" friend dislikes him/her because of his/her good characteristics.The other children barely tolerate this child, many even hate him/her. In high school, I actually knew a young woman like that. She was brilliant;however, she had no friends and the other classmates hated her.
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The saying goes better to reign in hell than to serve in heaven. It is better to be disliked for who YOU ARE than to be liked for who YOU AREN'T. So many children try to lower their standards to appease other children with quite disastrous results.
There are some children who are disliked thru no fault of their own. There was a classmate in high school whom most of the kids didn't like. She was constantly made fun of. She was a nice girl-she was prodigious brilliant-this created jealousy/envy.
This is unfair and shouldn't be true, but kids with the social skills to "tone down" their "brilliance" and not make it their "whole identity" tend to do better socially.
Children shouldn't have to alter their personality or intelligence to fit in. If other children DON'T like them for who THEY are, too bad. Why please others, it is OTHERS' problem, not the child in question.
Agreed, but I don't say "alter personality" - more, just alter some of the things one says and does around/toward others that can alienate them enough to increase the chances of finding a close friend with whom the kid can relax and be himself more.