The best advice I got from my parents was to be an "eagle" not an duck. Ducks fly in flocks when the eagle flies high, on their own, proud of its uniqueness and makes its own decisions on what direction to fly. In other words, do not go with the bad crowd to be popular with peer pressure and embrace yourself for whom who you are and don't seek validation from complete strangers. This stir me away from drugs, booze, and other illegal activities. Granted I am a very shy person by nature but I am myself, liking music from the 70's not today's pop charts, love ferrets, and Superman, and even though I look one big immature middle age man. I do not listen to people to tell me to grow up. I am who I am and make no apologies.