Do you love them for what they are?
Do you spend time with them and listen to them? Do you listen to their dreams and fears? Do you let them have "me" time?
Have they got enough to eat at table with you and some proper manners? Do you dress them in proper clothes like you would wear yourself? Do you let them treat you with distance and with respect?
What are they going to be when they grow up? Can you bear that?
How passionate are you about what to change and what to keep? Honestly, do you respect them or do you, be honest, despise them? They already know the truthful answer to this.
In simple language, do you really care and love them for what they are and for what they are going to turn into?