in the family, oftentimes depriving them of a normal childhood/adolescence that oldest/older children in small & medium families have & enjoy?In large/very large families, parents often abdicate their parenting duties, forcing their oldest/older children parent younger siblings. Oldest/older children are THE REAL, even UNSUNG parent in large/very large familiesTHEY'RE the ones who also MUST be secondary breadwinners. Oldest/older children in large/very large families exemplify PARENTIFIED children.They're ADULTS & PARENTS from childhood while their "parents" are parents in name only.
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Thank you Lisa. Oldest/older children in large/very large families have it TOUGH. They are parentified children. Thank you again Lisa &Feinique for your statements. Why do so many REFUSE to acknowledge this or iare in denial......
Mr. Suits, RIGHT ON!
Good question, I liked it.
Being the oldest/older child in a large/very large family is akin to being a slave or a forced laborer. You have to be there 24/7/365! It is a VERY SAD "life" really. I feel sorry for such oldest/older children!
True it can be, but If I'd not stepped up my brothers and sister would have ended up in foster care. And I would not have allowed that. If I/we were to struggle, then we would do it together and I could see them grow and rep the rewards later.