causes them to always end up last? What makes altruists even being disdained by their own family members? Will altruists learn to say no & mean it?
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"The minute I change who I am because of what other people think of me is the minute I truly do become weak and foolish. " < So agree!
Yes,, there are altruistic people who ALWAYS put others FIRST. They have no concept of self. They GIVE, GIVE, GIVE & always pulling THEIR weight while others......DON'T!
That is not altruism; that is foolishness. No one has inexhaustible supplies; a wise, truly altruistic person knows that. Elie Wiesel said he will never forgive Bernie Madoff.
Exactly, however, there are altruistic people who GIVE, GIVE, GIVE & wonder why people disrespect them.Also, the same people adopt passive-aggressive ways because they are taken advantage of.They refuse to set boundaries. They won't/can't say NO!
YES, but there are altruistic people who refuse/can't say no. That is what perturbs me. Others sense that & go for the proverbial jugular. At least selfish people can say NO, let others fend for themselves or.....DO WITHOUT.
++++++++, great answer indeed!
You have made EXCELLENT points which I agree with. BTW, 4 children aren't a large family at all. I was thinking of how kind people have to always rescue those who NEVER pull their weight e.g. adult siblings & other extended relatives.
You are awesome Paula, I admire this. My sons and husband see me as a cornerstone in my family, the rock and it is in no way weakness to put our children ahead of ourselves. Many of us do it and still find personal fulfillment as well.
Christin...LOL thanks. after half a century, we become the literal translations of altruism. The line of "Before Me" has GROWN, plus my charity & volunteer work. One of these days, I'm getting a haircut & a pedicure! I'm a mess! U're awesom
Paula has GREAT words of wisdom. She is beyond awesome. So are you, ChristinS!