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Excellent point. Both introverts and extroverts are more comfortable with those who are like them. Some folks view introverts as being arrogant, standoffish, passive, untrustworthy or boring in (social gatherings).
Most times it's just shyness.
I have seen Extroverts that came across as arrogant and untrustworthy. I consider myself an introvert and one time was called boring LOL. I have learned to speak up when needed but do like my quiet time to myself.
I have seen extroverts being totally bombastic,even inconsiderate of others. They believe in the premise of talking aimlessly,seeking attention.Many extroverts believe that they are smart-this is until they communicate.Then all the mystery is...GONE.
I'm introverted and I disagree with being "shy". I'm not shy at all :) I'm just not interested in small talk and being loud etc. but I don't consider myself "shy" either. I'm confident, just prefer to keep my own company or with a few I know well.
Unfortunately, we introverts are perceived as less intelligent because we don't rabble on in conversation. Many people perceive quiet & introverted people that way. When we reveal how much we know, they are surprised that we actually know so mu
Agree with you. Introverts like us prefer listening, to talking. We will listen, and think. And, we only like to speak, when we actually think that it is something worthwhile to say.
My experience mirrors yours pretty much to a T Lisa. I'm perceived as being smart, but kind of distant or antisocial by many. The ones who were annoyed by my lack of small talk never thought I was stupid, just quiet and to myself.
Love this answer. It's a common belief that all introverts are shy or insecure somehow and that isn't the case. I can hold conversations with strangers - if I must, lol, but I prefer a lot of solitude with little bits of people time :)
Good point. A manager may need to ask the introvert for input. I work for an engineering firm and most of the engineers are highly specialized, and introverts. They don't talk unless you ask them for input.
It ALL depends. At one of my jobs, there was a person who was always THE FIRST for input; however,she was deemed stupid.While I hardly stated anything,the plumb assignments ALWAYS went to me.The supervisor informed me that I was THE SMARTEST one!
I hear you Grace!
Unfortunately the "perception" a lot of people still have is introverts keep quiet because they either don't know anything or they're not "driven".
Many people simply "dismiss" introverts or treat them as if they're "invisible".