Well when I was in grade school, I was struggling. My mom didn't see me as a failure but wanted to get to the root cause of my poor grades. Did find out that I am learning disabled-I have dyslexia. But she was encouraged by the teachers that I would catch up-I would have to put in more extra work. And I did that. But if I was a different skin color-I think the teachers might have had a different attitude about me.