you can't.....it isn't normal neither does it make any sense. I was taught that growing up and best believe the people who were teaching it wasn't living it. There are always exceptions to the rule and if this is a special situation you wont have to "wait". Sex wont be the main focus of this relationship because you will be engulfed in so many other aspects of the persons essence. Then your sacrifices ie: patience and trust wont even be sacrifices. Other than that it's a waste of time and you waited decades for what?
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