Bullying in Elementary School
How to Help a Child Who is Bullied in School
I discovered all I know about bullying from my son, who was the victim of bullying in his previous school when he was in Kindergarten. At the age of 5, my son endured many long months of torturous bullying that I hope no parent ever has to go through with their child.
He was teased, pushed, spit on, tripped, kicked, and verbally threatened by a bully who was 8-years-old. Luckily we were able to diffuse the situation quickly by moving him to a private elementary-middle school, but the damage of the events took a toll on my son's self-esteem that I wish I could have prevented.
Bullyig,especially in the elementary years, can harm a child's self-confidence and lead to depression/and or anxiety. Many young children are unable to cope with a bully and will internalize what is happening instead of blaming the bully for his behavior.
By definition, bullying refers to a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment by the use of force or coercion to affect others, particularly when habitual and involving an imbalance of power (U.S. Department of Justice)
In 2010, 77% of all children in elementary schools in the United States admitted to being bullied at one time or another in their lives...and approximately 14.4% suffered physical injuries from being bullied (U.S. Department of Education).
Because of my son's elementary school experience, I want to share insight into how parents can help their children to deal with bullies. Learning how you can help your child cope with a bully is important so that it does not affect his social/personal life including school, sports, and play time with other children, his academics, or his self-confidence. Included are some printable anti-bullying coloring pages for children to color.
Bully Prevention Tips
Safeguard your child from bullying and strengthen his self-esteem
Dr. Joel Haber has years of experience working with families to understand the causes of bullying including what types of children bully and why certain children are bullies, targets of bullying, or bystanders. In this book he offers step by step advice to help children build resilience and confidence against those who bully by learning the early signs of bullying before it gets out of hand.
Helping Children Who Are Bullied in Elementary School - Step #1
Offer love and support
When a peer is bullying your child in elementary school, your child will have a lot of mixed feelings about the situation.
He may have trouble dealing with the bullying, and feel embarrassed, angry, or even frustrated about the problem. What he needs is for you to listen to him. Help him to talk about the bully and what he thinks about it. Offer him lots of love and encouragement about the situation. Tell your child that you are there for him and want to help.
Supporting your child through this time means keeping your anger about the situation to a minimum and simply hearing him out. Although you may want to go to the elementary school and deal with the bully yourself, this isn't going to help your child. You must love and support him in a way that allows him to deal with the situation of bullying on his own so that he can learn to handle other situations that arise.
You'll be instilling confidence in your child by encouraging him to talk it out and finding solutions to the bullying himself.
Anti-bullying Coloring Pages
Make kids aware of bullying and how to protect themselves and others
Help kids understand what it means to be bullied by promoting bullying prevention through coloring pages. Kids will love coloring these anti-bullying pictures and parents and teachers can education children by explaining what it means to be bullied and how to prevent bullying. Click on the picture to be taken to a printable link where kids can learn about bullying through fun coloring pages.
Bullying Where You Live
5 States That Have the Highest Occurences of Bullying...
2. New York
Helping Children Who Are Bullied in Elementary School - Step #2
Teach children to stand up to a bully
Help your child deal with a bully at elementary school by encouraging him to stick up for himself against the child who is causing him trouble.
Allow your child to come up with a plan for standing up to the bully. Give him examples of what he can do to stick up for himself, but allow him to do what is best for him. Encouraging your child to stand up to the bully at elementary school will help him to build confidence to tell the child to leave him alone.
Suggest ways that your child can deal with the bully and ask him which one would be best for him to do. Your child needs to feel comfortable standing up for himself so it's best to allow him to use whatever method works for his personality. Explain how standing up for himself will take care of the situation and stop the bullying from happening.
When your child knows there is an end to the problem because of his actions, he will be more apt to stand up for himself against the bully in his elementary school.
How Will You Know if Your Child is Being Bullied?
Are there signs that your child is being bullied in his elementary school? Yes, there are and they are easy to discover when you know what to look for...
Warning Signs that Your Child is Being Bullied at School
Helping Children Who Are Bullied in Elementary School - Step #3
Help children to ignore a bully
Some children do not do well with confrontation and are best to learn to ignore the bullying behavior.
If your child is like mine, he is shy, sweet, and would rather not deal with bullies in his elementary school. This is perfectly okay. Allow your child to avoid confrontation with the bully by helping him find ways to ignore the bullying behavior. Teach him that it's okay to not respond to the bully, turn his back from the behavior, or simply walk away.
Ignoring the bully's behavior DOES NOT make your child weak. It just allows him to deal with the situation at school in a less confrontational way. However, this way of dealing with a bully takes a bit longer and could be tough for your child because he will still hear the bully's words and see his actions. But, if he is able to stay strong and pretend the bully does not exist, the bully will eventually give up when he does not get a response out of your child.
Let your child know that ignoring the bully should work, but will take time, so that he does not give up on ignoring the bully.
Bullying in Elementary School - It affects more children than you may think
Is your child currently being bullied in his or her elementary school?
Boys Who Bully Could Grow to Be Abusive
Young boys who bully other children in elementary school may grow up to carry this aggression into their relationships with their wives and girlfriends, becoming abusive as adult males. Check out this link for more information...
Boys Who Bully May Grow Up to Be Abusive Men
Why Do Children Bully Other Children? - Is bullying a learned behavior? Or just a need for control?
Research has shown that bullies are aggressive children. These children view violence as a way to interact with other peers. For some children, bullying is a learned behavior, stemming from either their parent's actions or imitation of other aggressive peers. In any case, understanding why children bully can help to prevent your child from being mistreated and protect others who are being bullied in elementary schools.
Bullying can make children feel isolated, leading to depression
Children Who Are Bullied in Elementary Schools Often Suffer from Depression...
Does your child have any of these signs of depression?
-Frequent complaints of headaches, stomachaches, or other physical ailments
-Increased irritability, anger, or hostility
-Sadness or disinterest in things they found to be pleasurable before
-A change in eating or sleeping habits
-Higher rates of anxiety or clinginess
-Poor performance in school
-Low energy or boredom
-Talk of running away from home
-Thoughts of suicide
Helping Children Who Are Bullied in Elementary School - Step #4
Teach children that there is strength in numbers
Explain to your child that chances are, if he is being mistreated by a bully in his elementary school, other children probably are too.
Encourage your child to talk to other kids that are being bullied. Help him to form a bond with these elementary students and get them to support each other. Tell your child that a bully will have a harder time mistreating many children than he will one at a time. Help your child to encourage other elementary school students to walk in pairs or groups whenever possible to avoid the bully's mistreatment.
Motivate your child to get the other children to all stick up against the bully. Let him know that if all the children stand up to the bully at his elementary school, he will be less likely to continue his bad behavior. Even if your child connects with only one other child being bullied, encourage him to do so. Tell your child that he does not have to deal with the bully alone and should try to convince other students to get together against the mean kid at school.
When your child sees others being treated badly and forms a bond with them, he and the other elementary school children will gain the confidence needed to take care of the situation.
Help Children to Stick up for Others
Helping Children Who Are Bullied in Elementary School - Step #5
Encourage children to ask school faculty for help
Help your child to understand that teachers, the principal, and other elementary school faculty are there to protect him against bullying at school.
Tell your child that speaking to an elementary school faculty member can help to fix the situation he is having with a bully at school. If your child is shy or nervous about speaking to an adult at his elementary school, encourage him by making an appointment with a teacher or principal and going with him to meet the school official.
You should, however, encourage your child to do most of the talking as he knows the situation with the bully at his elementary school best and needs to learn to talk to others when he has a problem. You can simply be there to support him and listen in case he has trouble talking about the bullying at school. Encourage your child to tell the elementary school teacher or principal about incidents that took place when the bully caused him trouble. Help him to give examples so that the school faculty can better remedy the situation.
Explain that the elementary school official will not bring up your child's name (due to confidentiality) so he needn't be scared about getting in trouble with the bully.
Anti-bullying Hotline Number
If you or someone you know is being bullied, and it seems nothing is getting done about the situation, there is an anti-bullying hotline number you can call that is staffed by educated professionals who can offer support. The program is called B.R.A.V.E. and the number is
For more information, please read the article: Anti-Bullying Hotline Unveiled
Steps Children Can Take to Stop Others from Being Bullied
Disciplining School Bullies - How should schools handle children who bully?
Some people believe that bullies should be suspended from elementary school for a few weeks or more. Some argue that bullies should be transferred to another elementary school or elementary school district. Others even say that bullies should have to undergo psychological evaluations and receive mental health treatment before being able to return to elementary schools. What is your take?
When Bullying in Elementary Schools Ends in Death
Bullying not only harms a child's self-esteem but it can also end in tragedy. Many children who are bullied have lost their lives to suicide, reckless behaviors coerced by bullies, and even physical abuse from bullies. These websites offer heartwrenching details about children who were bullied to death...an epidemic referred to as Bullycide.
Bullycide: Jared's Story
Bullycide in America
Is Your Child a Victim of Bullying at School?
If you're concerned that your child may be getting bullied at school and you'd like more information, here's a great article that can help.
Bullying and Teasing: No Laughing Matter
Do you know a child who has been bullied in school? Or are you the parent or a teacher of a child who is being bullied? Bullying is a widespread concern and needs to be addressed in all schools. While most elementary schools implement and carry out a "No Bullying" school policy, there are many schools who need to take a serious look at this issue.