What are the 10 worst things that a parent can do to an underachieving child?

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  1. gmwilliams profile image83
    gmwilliamsposted 9 years ago

    What are the 10 worst things that a parent can do to an underachieving child?


  2. DDE profile image44
    DDEposted 9 years ago

    Don't show love
    Degrade them
    Constant  underestimating a child
    Don't show interest  or don't pay attention
    Lose respect for the child
    Don't  show appreciation
    Constant nag
    Avoid communication

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Definitely!  Negative and/or little reinforcement causes children to be underachievers. They feel that if they receive only negative reinforcement, why bother?

  3. caseymel profile image89
    caseymelposted 9 years ago

    Tell them that they can never achieve their goals and that they will never amount to anything.

    1. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Now, HOW MANY parents do this on a constant basis and yet they wonder why their children are underachievers or nonachievers?  Self-fulfilling prophecy in action.

  4. simondixie profile image76
    simondixieposted 9 years ago

    Don't allow the child to sense that you are (in any sense) disappointed in him or her.  That advice is for parents, teachers, or anyone who has ongoing contact with that child. Not showing disappointment doesn't mean you put up a front with the child. Instead, a parent or teacher should engage in some honest soul-searching. This kind of introspection requires that we, parent or teacher, are completely honest with ourselves. First, children are not underachievers because they want to disappoint anyone. In all probability, they need additional help with the area they are struggling with. They do need to know that their parents love them unconditionally. I struggled with math all through elementary, middle, and high school. My parents told me, "Just do your best. If you have tried, and your best is a failing grade, you have done what we asked." This advice caused me to attempt to do things that I thought were extremely difficult, and sometimes I wasn't sure I could accomplish my goals----but my parents removed the fear of failure with those words. I have continued to set goals that appear difficult, and I am grateful that my parents let me know early in life that their love wasn't contingent on bringing home high math grades.  (I know I answered this question with a positive answer rather than saying what parents should NOT do....this feels better to me).
    Hope that's okay with others who read my answer.

    1. simondixie profile image76
      simondixieposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for giving my answer this rating....it is so important that we (teachers, parents, etc) give children positive praise and feedback when they earn it----and give them the help they need in weak areas.

    2. gmwilliams profile image83
      gmwilliamsposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      Definitely, we must encourage and appreciate our precious children.  They become what we EXPECT of them.

  5. mindyjgirl profile image82
    mindyjgirlposted 9 years ago

    I Had a teacher call me stupid once and I never came back to his class, he never took the time to help me learn how to solve the problem. Do not ever tell someone they are stupid or call them names, they get enough of that at school from the kids and teachers.  I passed all of my classes with flying colors, my parents taught me the value of hard work and gave me lots of love so, I made it through alright. My motto is a Native American blessing: May your heart always be young and your dreams live forever!

  6. adithgeorge profile image71
    adithgeorgeposted 9 years ago

    There are many worse things parents can do to their underacheiving child.They will depromote him and will make grounded.They might take his pocket money and bonuses and will not send him for other events.They will start to think that he is of no use.Do remember that every child is unique and he has hidden talents.


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