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How To Talk To A Girl With Ease

Updated on May 26, 2015

How To Talk To A Girl Without Getting Tongue Tied

Do you suffer from lack of confidence and have trouble talking to girls? Do you never know what to say or even how to approach a girl? Do they seem like aliens to you and so out of reach?

You are not alone. I used to be just like you, I had so much trouble talking to girls I could never find the right words to say. I used to get a big knot in my stomach and would usually get tongued tied and end up getting the brush off and feeling such a fool.

I was an only child so of course I did not have any sisters. In fact the only females in the family, apart from my mum, was my gran and some elderly spinster aunts. So when I was growing up I rarely had much to do with girls.


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When I started school, things didn't get much better. I was quite small for my age and still very shy so naturally most girls never gave me a second glance as they were busy looking at the good looking or cute boys. I was beginning to think that I would never learn how to talk to a girl with ease!

Until one day one of the girls in my class come and sat next to me and started talking to me. I was completely stunned and for a moment I could hardly breathe, let alone understand what she was saying to me. Then it dawned on me that she was asking me for some help with her homework! Her name was Debbie, she was very cute with red hair and green eyes.

Debbie was such a nice friendly, down to earth girl and we soon become good friends. It was around this time that it dawned on me that girls are just the same as boys! Well not exactly, but you know what I mean - girls are just people!

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Girls Are People Too!

After me and Debbie became friends things became a lot easier and I stopped being SO nervous around girls. I learned how to become more relaxed and to treat them as normal people.

In fact soon after me and Debbie become friends, I found myself hanging out with not only Debbie, but Debbie's friends as well. I think because I was still quite shy and softly spoken that girls felt safe and unthreatened by me. Soon I realised that talking to girls can be so easy! Being around Debbie and her friends really gave me some insight into how girls think and what they like and dislike about boys and their chat-up lines.

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I think one of the most important things I learnt from Debbie and her friends is to just be yourself and you can talk to girls quite easily and naturally. Don't be pushy and brash. Don't try to pretend be someone you're not. If you start lying from the start you are going to get caught out in the end.

The best way to talk to a girl is to just try and relax and be yourself. If you see a girl in a pub or club (or even in the street) that you are interested in, just smile at her. If she smiles back, say hello and ask her name. She may well ignore you if she is not interested, if so just move on. Don't get hung up on it or all bitter and twisted. There are plenty more girls around and all have different preferences.

If she does respond favourably and tells you her name, just keep the conversation casual and natural. Maintain eye contact but don't stare! And whatever you do be sure not to stare at her chest, girls really hate that and find it a big turn off! Maybe pay her a compliment (but nothing too cheesy). Ask her about herself and be a good listener, girls love to talk about themselves. Be sure to listen to what she has to say and look interested. If she sees you are not really listening to her or your eyes are going all round the room, it is a sure way to annoy her and put her off you for good!

If all is going well ask her if she could meet you for coffee some time and give her your phone number, then it is up to her to call you and it leaves her in control. If you made a good impression on her, she is sure to call you in the next few days!

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Once I had got used to being around Debbie and her friends and spending lots of time talking to girls, I suddenly realised that I really LOVE girls and talking to them. So I wanted to learn more and more. In the end I made it a sort study (and a very enjoyable one too)

So I started looking on the internet finding out everything I could learn about girls and how to talk to them and make them interested in me. Now I am going to share with you the best guide that will teach you how to talk to girls.

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So don't waste any more time being shy and all alone!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Do what no name said! And to relax just remember "what if instead of being embarrassed, I was confident around girls?" think about that statement, and hopefully you'll realize you have complete control over yourself.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      a girl asked me in which class i study.me being a 'C' section student, answered 'A' section.it was like my brain didn even realize it was saying the wrong thing !

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Im to shy to talk to girls at all what do I. Do

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      When i talk to girls i tend to freeze up and forget everything i was going to say and i blow it big time

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Well this here is a good thing for man to know and it really work wow and if it work for me it well work for you.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Can nobody here understand that u just relax and u will be just fine when talking to a girl?????????

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I start asking all the wrong questions and scared to talk when their friends shows up

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I can talk to girls that I'm friends with, but if I like a girl I'm not friends with, I find myself to be quite nervous and usually miss the opportunity.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      i always make girls feel like missing me, cos i always play with them fun games like volleyball, dancing..etc and making them laugh, but sometimes i hide myself not to play with them just for 2 or 3 days... so guess wat when i see them later... they hit me and seem like they like me at that very moment, they want take a long talk with me with their eyes dilated, its like they haven't seen me for so long...anyway that moment i know they miss me..

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @anonymous: i have the same problem

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I hat how awkward I got around girls thr I like. Ones that I'm friends with or one that I'm not interested in is not a problem at all. But when it comes down to a girl i like... I screw up big tina or usually don't do anything... And it's happening at the moment to :/

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      I can tlk to a gurl but I just don't not what to say

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Well a LOT of girls think I'm cute but sometimes I want to say something to them but since I'm foreign I mess some words up, so I made my own way of attracting them,I act fun and do something exciting then I stay alone and they notice me and start talking to me, I don't act tough by they think I am tough so most girls look at me a lot and smile a lot when I look at them. Some girls asked me if I had a girlfriend and when I said no she started asking why and that she thought I was cute and it always gave me a nice, worm feeling inside.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      my problem is when i talk to girls i get lost of words and i don't know how to start a good conversation, especially if she is a very good looking girl,because the more shes beautiful,the more its harder to talk to her. there's a girl i my class and i want to talk to her but i don't know what to say,shes very beautiful and clever,and really hard to get.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      i forget the words

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      TomHunt LM 4 years ago

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      i feel very shy

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      omg this dude is just like me im pretty small and im so shy girls just think of me as cute (because im cute) i have the confidence to talk to them but i have no idea what to say to a girl

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      WOW...this is useful...i'll keep that in mind.:)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      i like u

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      PUABill 6 years ago

      Definitely the key is to just be yourself, relax and not try to act like someone else.

      Thanks for this article from PUA Forum

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      anonymous 7 years ago

      Your so right i am just not being myself i am just to shy I just really need to brake it.