Complaining versus Complimenting
My girlfriend, who is a chronic complainer and who would probably kill me if she saw this (that's why I'm not showing her...and you don't either) helped me understand this world we live in a little better. She is not alone in her complaining ways, unfortunately most of the world does it, and as a society we just sit back and allow it. Should we not beat these people down with a wiffleball bat, like as if they were a pinata, with the hopes of knocking a good attitude into them?
Have you ever noticed that if you're in a public setting and one person starts to complain, just for the sake of argument let's say a fast food restaurant, the other patrons in line will chime in and they'll all have a big to-do about the whole thing, patting each other on the back as to say right on and as a sign of support...in some strange way the complaining brought these complete strangers closer together, it gave them a common ground if you will. Now on the flip side to that, say there's someone in that same fast food line praising and thanking the employees for a job well done, I can pretty much guarantee they will standing along...no one will say a word and no one will have their back.
These lovers of complaining are the same people who will tell you they don't watch the evening news because it's too negative...it just doesn't make any sense to me. As a society, why is it we love the doom and gloom...we won't stop to help a fellow motorist on the side of the road changing a flat tire, we'll speed by...but don't let there be a wreck on the side of the road, we'll stop traffic to a crawl just so we can get a good look at the carnage.
Is it because we are lazy, we all know it takes no effort to complain and to be negative that comes naturally, but to compliment and to be positive takes effort, we have to work at it.
The next time you see someone complaining, try to refrain from joining in...if you feel the overwhelming need to say something, say something positive. Be a leader...not a follower...just because everyone else is jumping off a bridge, doesn't mean you have to.
This has been a Mele minute...and that's one to grow on.