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Complaining versus Complimenting

Updated on February 8, 2013

My girlfriend, who is a chronic complainer and who would probably kill me if she saw this (that's why I'm not showing her...and you don't either) helped me understand this world we live in a little better. She is not alone in her complaining ways, unfortunately most of the world does it, and as a society we just sit back and allow it. Should we not beat these people down with a wiffleball bat, like as if they were a pinata, with the hopes of knocking a good attitude into them?

Have you ever noticed that if you're in a public setting and one person starts to complain, just for the sake of argument let's say a fast food restaurant, the other patrons in line will chime in and they'll all have a big to-do about the whole thing, patting each other on the back as to say right on and as a sign of support...in some strange way the complaining brought these complete strangers closer together, it gave them a common ground if you will. Now on the flip side to that, say there's someone in that same fast food line praising and thanking the employees for a job well done, I can pretty much guarantee they will standing along...no one will say a word and no one will have their back.

These lovers of complaining are the same people who will tell you they don't watch the evening news because it's too negative...it just doesn't make any sense to me. As a society, why is it we love the doom and gloom...we won't stop to help a fellow motorist on the side of the road changing a flat tire, we'll speed by...but don't let there be a wreck on the side of the road, we'll stop traffic to a crawl just so we can get a good look at the carnage.

Is it because we are lazy, we all know it takes no effort to complain and to be negative that comes naturally, but to compliment and to be positive takes effort, we have to work at it.

The next time you see someone complaining, try to refrain from joining in...if you feel the overwhelming need to say something, say something positive. Be a leader...not a follower...just because everyone else is jumping off a bridge, doesn't mean you have to.

This has been a Mele minute...and that's one to grow on.

MJM

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    • MichaelJohnMele profile imageAUTHOR

      Michael John Mele 

      5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @SmackOfHam so very true my friend...people are strange.

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      SmackOfHam 

      5 years ago

      I think it's easier to criticize than appreciate - we control our own perspective and its up to us to be tolerant, if not positive, about what life throws at us.

      Enjoyed your post!

    • MichaelJohnMele profile imageAUTHOR

      Michael John Mele 

      5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @epigramman I couldn’t agree more…we do have a lot of negative some beaches walking around…a bunch of “glass half empty” mofos. Too bad it’s not legal to go around whacking these fools with a giant mallet…just like as if we were playing a game of whack-a-mole.

      I don’t know if the world has gone AWOL…but common sense sure has. People really need to reevaluate what’s important in life and stop whining about nonsense.

      Thank you again so much for the kind words and positive feedback…I’m not going to lie…it’s very nice to hear and never gets old.

      It’s hard to believe that someone actually likes the way I write…and what I have to say…it blows my mind.

      Hopefully one of these days it will all pay off and I’ll actually make a living doing this.

      So hello to your cats for me…I love those furry little bastards.

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      epigramman 

      5 years ago

      I think most people , Sir Michael, complain in order to justify their feeble existence on earth.

      I know in terms of human pyschology that people tend to dwell on the negatives in life. Well look at the first 15 of hard news on tv whether it's local or international - it's all gloom and doom and in the workplace people would rather 'gossip' or talk behind each other's back then to compliment them face to face or say something nice.

      I remember years ago a silly parents' group complained about Barney the Dinosaur because he was an unrealistic role model and that he was too nice - too nice , what's wrong with that? Maybe they should let Charles Manson out of jail so we can all follow him again, lol.

      I think the world has gone AWOL with its priorities.

      I love the wit and humor in your writing because with all great writers it speaks of the truth and reveals so much like a reflection in the mirror.

      I am sending to you my warmest wishes from a cold rainy week here in lake erie time ontario canada 12:35pm from Colin and his cats

      and Michael, you write the best 'editorials' in Hubtown

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      Elena 

      5 years ago from London, UK

      Thank you for encouraging us to respond to complaints with positivity. It's the best. Good karma too.

    • MichaelJohnMele profile imageAUTHOR

      Michael John Mele 

      5 years ago from Seffner, Florida

      @BeccaBunnyBoo my girlfriend understands...she's cool...she knows how I feel and she just goes with it.

      @fpherj48 people are just crazy...am I right. I say the next time we come across one of these chronic complainers we slap them upside their heads mid-complaint...you with me?

      @midget38 amen to that my friend...I couldn't have said it any better.

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      Michelle Liew 

      5 years ago from Singapore

      Agreed, Michael. Let's refrain from joining in the complaining. It stops the negativity!! Excellent point!!

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      Paula 

      5 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Ahhh....funny Michael. Yes, tis true, my man....Nothing can bring 2 enemies together quicker than a 3rd and common enemy.....Let me help you. Think: One man, versus...Ex-wife & current Love interest.......they may hate each other in the beginning.......but just piss off woman #2....and you'll see them become the best of friends!!! But they won't be jointly extolling your virtues. ....Up and funny

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      BeccaBunnyBoo 

      5 years ago from Seffner,FL

      wow....

      I would hate to be in your shoes...once your girlfriend sees this!!

      My boyfriend goes on and on .....with his complaning..so I understand!! maybe we should hook them up?? they would probably complain about it...lol

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      BeccaBunnyBoo 

      5 years ago from Seffner,FL

      hum......who's your girlfriend??

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