Dance Moms reality show...WTF!!!
Lets be truthful now...America is hooked on reality shows big time and I have to admit I am one of many that watch these shows. However I can say I'm picky when it comes to reality shows I don't just watch one because it is a reality show. So that being said I recently caught a glimpse of the new reality show by the name of Dance Moms I was intrigued for 2 reasons first I wanted to see if the moms in this show were your basic run of the mill stage Moms we have often heard about and seen on other reality shows and second because my niece has been taking Dance classes for years now and again I wanted to see how "real" the show was. I started watching and lets just say that my jaw dropped and remained that way until I was able to tear myself away from this horrific train wreck! But let me say...it didn't surprise me!
This one's worse cuz it involves children!
Why ...oh why oh why oh why...did they have to make a shock value reality show that directly involved innocent little girls in their sweet frilly little pink costumes being cracked by an emotional whip from their trusted teacher to their neurotic mothers...WHY? Why you ask...I'll tell you why! Because Hollywood and media everywhere has run out of True Writers , Good Ass writers who would write a great , entertaining pilot that would lull us into submission as we enjoyed...ENJOYED...a good show on television. But now a days it seems that the only way to stay on top in the television world is to shock us and disgust us and blow us away with fear and the dark side of human nature. Welcome to the 21st century I guess where Television will scare the wits right out of us and make us want to hide under our beds until the second coming of Christ!
I'm...speechless but have a lot to say!
The feelings inside of me are whirling around like a Tornado and I'm trying not to sound like a lunatic but it's hard not to! I have 4 Children (All grown up now) and 4 Grandchildren and 2 step Grandchildren and I'm all for extra curricular activities. My Sons joined little league and My Daughters joined their many little groups in school here and there and it was nice to see them excel in the little ventures they would set out to accomplish. But this show has made me think it would be horrid to expose my child to this type of forum. Yes competition is healthy up to a point but this is sheer abuse to keep up ratings and that is pure disgust! What is happening to the little girls in this show is horrific and I hope the producers will supply them with a lifetime of therapy because it is hard to see that this is not going to affect these young minds in a negative way for the rest of their lives! No wonder more and more Parents are home schooling their children and taking on the extra curricular activities themselves so as not to expose them to a society that is becoming a horror.
What really blows me away...
Here's the thing...what really gets to me is not so much the instructor in this show , yes she is crude and abusive and lacks understanding and affection for her students. You watch her and simply say "well, people just don't have to expose their children to people like this and that's that" and remember this Woman now is not only a Dance Instructor she is a television actress who is expected to act in a shock value way to keep up the shows ratings so that being said she is paid to be a horrid person however there is no excuse for the Mothers in the show at all! I caught an episode a couple of weeks ago that showed one of the little girls who had an injury to her hip and her mother had taken her to a Doctor to get it checked out. The injury was substantial and the little girl was in pain. The Doctor suggested it would be a bad idea to have her continue with dance at least for a little stint...her Mothers reply was "We cant drop out now, she has a solo" to my horror we got to see how the Mother continued to push her child regardless of her physical pain to rehearse over and over again doing flips and contouring her body that you know must of really hurt...a lot!!! WHAT THE F! The show continues to show these Mothers putting their own messed up values in front of their own child's needs and wants...it's totally unbelievable and disgusting! Shame on them all! What are they really showing these little girls and what are they really teaching them? I shutter at the thought and hope that when these girls are Mothers themselves they Will not harbour the same values their own Mothers did.
Just wanted to add...
I just want to bring this out into the open and off my chest. I'm not being a "Drama Queen" as they call it but Cant we understand that what we do to our children now affects them for life and shapes them into the Adults they will become? These are our future Doctors, Lawyers, CEO's you name it...they are the future and as such we have a huge responsibility to teach our children how to become well adjusted Human beings that function on kindness and empathy and know how to love and cherish one another instead of teaching them how to be sociopaths and rip each other apart. While these types of shows dwell on the dark side of life and make the ratings and the money for now we are using our children as props and possibly molding them into people who will continue to behave the way we taught them to. Wake up everyone...a message has to start somewhere and Television influences so much and so many...that's the end of my Momma Drama now if they decide to make a show where we take horrid people like that terrible Boss we have or snooty A--holes who think they are better than everyone else and treat others like crap and people in power who push others around for their own entertainment and put them in situations where they have to adhere to an instructor like Abbey lee Miller THAT I will watch!
Needless to say I have watched my last episode! At least I have the power to say I'm not going to put myself through the abuse and uncomfortable, disturbing feelings I get when watching this crap. As for those girls unfortunately they don't have the power to say "no more" as I have but one day most of them will and probably harbour a lot of resentment towards the very same people that should have protected them from stuff like this in the name of fame and fortune. As for Lifetime the network that has aired this unscrupulous show it is doubtful that they will pull it off the air at least for now. It is doing exactly what they want it to creating controversy and giving that "Shock value" that they all hunger for. I can tell you this though eventually it should be cancelled with a capital C! And I think one day it might probably be...hopefully anyway.
Love your kids and help them grow positively with and affection, understanding and most of all unconditional Love! And never ever allow anyone to make them think that they are loved based on their performance and achievements...peace out!