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Dance Moms reality show...WTF!!!

Updated on August 18, 2011
Abbey Lee Miller Dance instructor in Dance Moms
Abbey Lee Miller Dance instructor in Dance Moms

Lets be truthful now...America is hooked on reality shows big time and I have to admit I am one of many that watch these shows. However I can say I'm picky when it comes to reality shows I don't just watch one because it is a reality show. So that being said I recently caught a glimpse of the new reality show by the name of Dance Moms I was intrigued for 2 reasons first I wanted to see if the moms in this show were your basic run of the mill stage Moms we have often heard about and seen on other reality shows and second because my niece has been taking Dance classes for years now and again I wanted to see how "real" the show was. I started watching and lets just say that my jaw dropped and remained that way until I was able to tear myself away from this horrific train wreck! But let me didn't surprise me!

This one's worse cuz it involves children!

Why ...oh why oh why oh why...did they have to make a shock value reality show that directly involved innocent little girls in their sweet frilly little pink costumes being cracked by an emotional whip from their trusted teacher to their neurotic mothers...WHY? Why you ask...I'll tell you why! Because Hollywood and media everywhere has run out of True Writers , Good Ass writers who would write a great , entertaining pilot that would lull us into submission as we enjoyed...ENJOYED...a good show on television. But now a days it seems that the only way to stay on top in the television world is to shock us and disgust us and blow us away with fear and the dark side of human nature. Welcome to the 21st century I guess where Television will scare the wits right out of us and make us want to hide under our beds until the second coming of Christ!

One of the little Stars from Dance Moms reality show
One of the little Stars from Dance Moms reality show

I'm...speechless but have a lot to say!

The feelings inside of me are whirling around like a Tornado and I'm trying not to sound like a lunatic but it's hard not to! I have 4 Children (All grown up now) and 4 Grandchildren and 2 step Grandchildren and I'm all for extra curricular activities. My Sons joined little league and My Daughters joined their many little groups in school here and there and it was nice to see them excel in the little ventures they would set out to accomplish. But this show has made me think it would be horrid to expose my child to this type of forum. Yes competition is healthy up to a point but this is sheer abuse to keep up ratings and that is pure disgust! What is happening to the little girls in this show is horrific and I hope the producers will supply them with a lifetime of therapy because it is hard to see that this is not going to affect these young minds in a negative way for the rest of their lives! No wonder more and more Parents are home schooling their children and taking on the extra curricular activities themselves so as not to expose them to a society that is becoming a horror.

What really blows me away...

Here's the thing...what really gets to me is not so much the instructor in this show , yes she is crude and abusive and lacks understanding and affection for her students. You watch her and simply say "well, people just don't have to expose their children to people like this and that's that" and remember this Woman now is not only a Dance Instructor she is a television actress who is expected to act in a shock value way to keep up the shows ratings so that being said she is paid to be a horrid person however there is no excuse for the Mothers in the show at all! I caught an episode a couple of weeks ago that showed one of the little girls who had an injury to her hip and her mother had taken her to a Doctor to get it checked out. The injury was substantial and the little girl was in pain. The Doctor suggested it would be a bad idea to have her continue with dance at least for a little stint...her Mothers reply was "We cant drop out now, she has a solo" to my horror we got to see how the Mother continued to push her child regardless of her physical pain to rehearse over and over again doing flips and contouring her body that you know must of really hurt...a lot!!! WHAT THE F! The show continues to show these Mothers putting their own messed up values in front of their own child's needs and's totally unbelievable and disgusting! Shame on them all! What are they really showing these little girls and what are they really teaching them? I shutter at the thought and hope that when these girls are Mothers themselves they Will not harbour the same values their own Mothers did.

Just wanted to add...

I just want to bring this out into the open and off my chest. I'm not being a "Drama Queen" as they call it but Cant we understand that what we do to our children now affects them for life and shapes them into the Adults they will become? These are our future Doctors, Lawyers, CEO's you name it...they are the future and as such we have a huge responsibility to teach our children how to become well adjusted Human beings that function on kindness and empathy and know how to love and cherish one another instead of teaching them how to be sociopaths and rip each other apart. While these types of shows dwell on the dark side of life and make the ratings and the money for now we are using our children as props and possibly molding them into people who will continue to behave the way we taught them to. Wake up everyone...a message has to start somewhere and Television influences so much and so many...that's the end of my Momma Drama now if they decide to make a show where we take horrid people like that terrible Boss we have or snooty A--holes who think they are better than everyone else and treat others like crap and people in power who push others around for their own entertainment and put them in situations where they have to adhere to an instructor like Abbey lee Miller THAT I will watch!

In conclusion...

Needless to say I have watched my last episode! At least I have the power to say I'm not going to put myself through the abuse and uncomfortable, disturbing feelings I get when watching this crap. As for those girls unfortunately they don't have the power to say "no more" as I have but one day most of them will and probably harbour a lot of resentment towards the very same people that should have protected them from stuff like this in the name of fame and fortune. As for Lifetime the network that has aired this unscrupulous show it is doubtful that they will pull it off the air at least for now. It is doing exactly what they want it to creating controversy and giving that "Shock value" that they all hunger for. I can tell you this though eventually it should be cancelled with a capital C! And I think one day it might probably be...hopefully anyway.

Love your kids and help them grow positively with and affection, understanding and most of all unconditional Love! And never ever allow anyone to make them think that they are loved based on their performance and achievements...peace out!

What can I say?


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    • spirit929 profile imageAUTHOR


      4 years ago from Upstate NY somewhere over the rainbow

      Don't ever lose hope...if you believe it will happen it will. I didn't have 2 nickles to rub together but I had an opportunity to lease the restaurant. I did everything myself with help from friends and family whom helped paint , clean and whatever else I needed to do. I then met with my local economic development center which you can usually find by calling your city clerks office. I met with tem and talked, they guided me in submitting official business plan and so on...I researched did my homework, worked on stuff that gave me a I didn't give up. Eventually I was granted a loan through their was called a micro loan since it was less than 15000.00 yet it was enough to get equipment I needed and licenses and such. If you truly want this then just do it...go as far as you can and don't give up! Good luck with it! If it's your passion it will happen...remember the saying..."if you build it...they will come! ;)

    • Craeft profile image


      4 years ago from Grand Blanc, MI

      (Sorry to take this off topic of the original article)

      Just wanted to say Congrats on the Restaurant. I am trying to get capital for a microbrew pub but I don't see it happening. :(

    • spirit929 profile imageAUTHOR


      4 years ago from Upstate NY somewhere over the rainbow


      Thanks for commenting. I haven't been on for a while but lately something has been directing me back. I just started a business ...actually a restaurant and it's only 2 months old...with that said I have been MIA because of that. Im glad you enjoyed the piece. I write from the heart, probably why Im always in trouble...LOL. With that said I totally agree with you! Reality shows are scripted and prompted to create discord and drama...otherwise ratings would go down. But when they have created a reality show using children with very big dreams and fragile minds and throwing them in the path of money hungry lions for ratings and drama is nothing short of child abuse! I guess you can say those are my 2 cents on it... Thank God you both didn't have to go through anything like this! And Kudos on your views of the whole thing!

    • Craeft profile image


      4 years ago from Grand Blanc, MI

      I know this thread is old, but I just came across it.

      Well written and I couldn't agree more.

      My girlfriend and I are both ex dancers. One of my degrees is in dance and she stopped due to medical reasons (MS).

      We both watch this show. Well... technically, she watches it (she's hooked) and I usually put on my headphones and play a flight sim.

      When the show first came out, it wasn't too bad because they showcased the incredible talent of the dancers. Then it was nothing but drama and I was disgusted. While my girlfriend continues to watch the show, I can't do it. It repulses me. The exploitation is disgusting and I know that if I had kids and their dance instructor were anything like the hypocritical, rude, disheartening, confidence crushing Abbey Miller, I would pull them immediately and then consider legal action. It is a disgusting display. I'd like to see her do the moves she expects them to do.

      With that said, we all know that reality TV is scripted and it is written for the aspect of the drama... but nonetheless, this is one show I can not only NOT get behind, but I look forward to its inevitable demise. Sadly, this is the type of rubbish American audiences enjoy. What a sad sad state in which we live.

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      6 years ago from Tampa Bay, FL

      I love the dance world, but Dance Moms isn't the best show about it. However, there are some good things out of that show. For instance, In the episode "Abbygeddon," the girls traded in their bra tops and booty shorts for black leotards and pink tights for ballet. It reminded me of doing the same but with cutesy leotards that are frilly and colorful when I was young.

      As for Mrs. Lee Miller, let's just say that even the teachers at, say, the Vaganova Ballet Academy in Russia are much nicer than her.

      Great Hub!

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      Nicole S Hanson 

      6 years ago from Minnesota

      I've watched this show as well, and it's always another drama after another. I guess that's why they've got themselves a TV show.

    • spirit929 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Upstate NY somewhere over the rainbow

      Hi diydiva

      thanks for commenting. Yes it's true these girls are incredibly talented and impressionable as well. My concerns are not that there is a show about dance schools or Dance students , I have a niece in dance and love to go to her shows. My concerns are that these girls are young and impressionable and what they are seeing and experiencing is totally damaging. There is comstructive critiscm and teachers who teach a positive competive spirit but what these girls are learning I believe is totally negative and destructive. There should be a show about students who strive to become Dancers and show their achievements and dissapointments as well but with an awesome teacher who really has their best interest at heart.

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      Kay Mitchell 

      7 years ago from California


      I completely see how anyone watching this show would FREAK OUT! As a former dancer and instructor I love the show. I do not agree with a lot of the drama and immaturity of the mothers and Abbey but, the young girls are extremely talented. Not all of the young girls are asking to quit, actually most of them seem to truly enjoy what they are doing. Regardless great work on a controversial subject. Keep hubbing.

    • spirit929 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Upstate NY somewhere over the rainbow

      Dear Seeker,

      Thank you so much for your comment! As you probably well know I feel the same way unfortunately however cheap and corrupt these networks have become in the end Television shows influence audiences and with that there should be a moral responsibility to say the least! But networks do not know the words Morality and responsibility.

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      Helen Murphy Howell 

      7 years ago from Fife, Scotland

      Excellent hub that shows how unscrupulous tv networks and even more unscrupulous parents are abusing their kids for the sake of ratings. The mother who made her wee girl dance with a hip injury should have been reported to Social Services - or the American equivalent - for child abuse and neglect and the TV producers and that psyco piece of shit of an instructor should be charged with child assault!

      For me personally - I switched off to reality TV quite a long time ago. I hate it!! In the UK at least, the reality shows are cheap crap TV. And you're right, they put in the shock value either because they can't get good writers who would do a great script or else they won't pay writers - the latter is more likely since it's cheaper!

      The damage that is being done to these young children is appalling! Both the show you mention and that other horror show ('something and tiaras', can't remember the full title now, about the wee girl beauty pageants) should be banned.

      This was a really great hub and here's hoping the public en-masse will take it into their own hands to decided that enough is enough and have the show pulled. Sometimes I really despair about what our society is turning into, when, as you say, our kids are used in such a horrible way, just to get a TV show on air!

    • spirit929 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Upstate NY somewhere over the rainbow

      Hi Victoria!

      They should shut this show down! The mother's should be doing a lot more. Their priorities are all out of whack! Your absolutely right!

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      7 years ago

      abby should be letting the parents control there children she should shut her mouth!

    • spirit929 profile imageAUTHOR


      7 years ago from Upstate NY somewhere over the rainbow

      Hi Dexter!

      Thank you! Yes it would only make you crindge anyway. Thanks for stopping by haven't seen you in a while!

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      Dexter Yarbrough 

      7 years ago from United States

      Great information and great message and advice, Spirit. You saved me from watching this. And I thank you!


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