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Expectation Vs. Reality

Updated on November 22, 2011

When I was in her womb, she read that,

“Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed.”

I came into this world without any expectations!

When she held me first in her hand,

I heard her saying, “I expected a boy!”

I grew up, went to school and when the teacher saw my score she said,

“I expected more from you!”

When my friends left me, they told that,

“Their expectations about me were wrong!”

When I became an engineer, my father said,

“I expected you to practice Law”

When I went for an interview, their question was,

“What’s your expectation about the company?”

When I started working they said that

“I didn’t meet the clients’ expectations!”

Everybody around me made me feel that,

“Life is full of expectations!”


Now I started expecting!

When he held my hand in his hand,

I heard my heart saying, “This is not the hands of the heart I expect!”

When it came to life after my marriage,

I felt that it was not the same as I expected!

My manager said that I performed well,

But his rating was not what I expected!

When my friends came together for a party in my house,

“They didn’t behave as I expected!”

Everything around me now made me realize that

Life is not just expectations but expecting the unexpected!


Now I started expecting the unexpected!

But wouldn’t expecting the unexpected make the unexpected expected?

Everything again in every walk of life remained expected!

Though, my expectation about my expectations in life kept changing,

But the reality, “Life is so constructed that an event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation”, never changed.

Then I started to think why expect anything at all in life?

But now, after so many expectations, I realized that,

“Man's real life is happy, chiefly because he is ever expecting that it soon will be so.”

Expect but accept what comes your way - life will always be happy!


You may have turned up to this page with different expectations, but the reality might not be as what you expected and that’s life. I wanted to explain this hub with my pictures of expectation and reality but the reality turned out to be different. But still expect to share some of my edited clicks on Expectations vs. reality. Hoping that this will meet your expectation!!

Be natural

We try to be natural in every walk of life. But it so happens that we tend to mix some artificiality in our nature to meet others expectation. (Tried to explain this using a natural and artificial flower).

Your expectation is to be natural
Your expectation is to be natural
There is always artificiality in life!
There is always artificiality in life!

Life is a mix of sugar and spice

There is always expectations in life. We expect that life will convey only sugary(good) facts to us. What we assume is that we always hear only the spicy(bad) things. We always forget the reality that life is a mixture of sugar and spice (good and bad). Have tried to explain this using chocolates and green pepper!!

Life is a mix of sugar - Expectation
Life is a mix of sugar - Expectation
Life is a mix of spices - Assumption
Life is a mix of spices - Assumption
Life is a mix of sugar and spice - Reality
Life is a mix of sugar and spice - Reality

Match-making

Marriage is a crucial stage in one's life. We expect to pair up with the person who thinks like us. But the reality is that we usually get a person who thinks totally different from us. Have tried to explain this with cards.

Get paired with like-minded people - Expectation
Get paired with like-minded people - Expectation
Opposites attract - Reality
Opposites attract - Reality

Time and money

We expect to have money every time and go behind it but we always forget the reality that time is money.

Money every time - Expectation
Money every time - Expectation | Source
Time is money - Reality
Time is money - Reality | Source

Well the reality is that from the time u wake up in the (early?)morning nothing meets your expectation. You want your teeth to glow after you brush, but reality makes u tight lipped. You want to work from home but you need to go to office. You want to go in car to office but you start a bike. If you go by car and get jammed, you think better I had a bike. You want to spend time with family but you end up in front of the idiot box. You get examples for expectation vs. reality in every walk of life. How you take it matters? Just wanted to summarize with a quote:

"Don't lower your expectations to meet your performance. Raise your level of performance to meet your expectations. Expect the best of yourself, and then do what is necessary to make it a reality."

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    • sankari.nayagam profile imageAUTHOR

      sankari.nayagam 

      6 years ago

      Thanks Wayseeker for your nice comments! But my expectation was a comment from you for the hub (Small things make a big difference) I have written for your question - "What is the most important lesson you feel you need to teach your children?", but the reality is you have opted for one of my favorite hub of mine. Thanks for taking time to read and commenting!

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      wayseeker 

      6 years ago from Colorado

      I love the way you have woven your thoughts together here. I've seen a few of these hubs round about--where the authors use a version of poetry mixed with prose mixed with great pictures that have meaningful captions. It makes for a fun reading experience to point out some important points about expectations. We really do have to be careful with them!

      Nice work,

      wayseeker

    • sankari.nayagam profile imageAUTHOR

      sankari.nayagam 

      6 years ago

      Thanks pinto for your comments!

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      Subhas 

      6 years ago from New Delhi, India

      Your line "Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed" is too touching. Great article.

    • sankari.nayagam profile imageAUTHOR

      sankari.nayagam 

      6 years ago

      Thanks CloudExplorer for your nice comments!

      Do keep suggesting about the font usage in my hubs! In fact I thought I should use only lighter font but somehow I thought when I make it bold, it will have more emphasis. I try to work ahead of schedules like you, but still couldn't make it always. Anyway thats expectation and reality! Thanks again for such nice comments!

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      Mike Pugh 

      6 years ago from New York City

      Nice hub, but I must say If I were you i would try going with a much lighter font starting out instead of bold, because it was tough for me to start reading.

      I love your idea's, morals and thoughts on life as a whole you've share with us. Working to hard to catch up to things all the time is not a good thing at all. Nor is bring your work responsibilities into your home either.

      I prefer to work ahead of my schedules so that life can simply fall into place. Awesome hub either way. Voted up & I loved the imagery displayed here as well.

    • sankari.nayagam profile imageAUTHOR

      sankari.nayagam 

      6 years ago

      Thanks Somethgblue and punamdharkar for your comments!

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      punamdharkar 

      6 years ago from India

      Very well said. Simple and thought-provoking. I think you have a great talent for flash cards to explain concepts graphically. Well done. Keep it coming.

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      somethgblue 

      6 years ago from Shelbyville, Tennessee

      I've always found that writing my thoughts down help me to clarify them, after all if the expectation is that someone at some point might read them, then you want your thoughts to make sense.

      Yes, it can be very difficult not to have some expectations and perhaps then the lesson is faith.

      Who said the purpose of life is to be happy . . . I have found the pursuit of knowledge to be quite gratifying, it is a trail that never ends and often times leads one to a beautiful view.

      Of course it has many false summits and that is a lesson in it's self.

      The pursuit of knowledge and ultimately the truth seems in the beginning like a destination, but one soon learns that like life it is not the destination that matters but the lessons we learn on the journey!

      I enjoy writers that are willing to take a stand and write about what they believe in, of course the expectation is that you pick one of mine and hopefully leave some wisdom behind . . .

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      Ruchira 

      6 years ago from United States

      Brilliant hub sankari.

      Blessed am I to be following you.

      Keep enlightening us...Cheers!

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      ALAGADURAI.A 

      6 years ago

      Very nice sivasankari everyone has to think over it to be happy in reality.

    • sankari.nayagam profile imageAUTHOR

      sankari.nayagam 

      6 years ago

      My expectation was to give you all my thanks when you posted your comments for the hub, but the reality was that I was with my family network for Thanksgiving and was not able to give my thanks to this network on time!

      Thank you all for such wonderful comments! Hope and wish that your expectations always become real!

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      ramya 

      6 years ago

      mathini finally i read one of ur post....thnk u hd already posted sme good quotes..bt i read only this..adhav hs given me 5mts to finish this ..he wants to play gamesa....superb mathini....thnk u can publish all this into a book...or if everythng goes well i shall help you to bring this into a handmade book...superb creativity....carry on...

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      Manoj Kumar Srivastava 

      6 years ago from India

      Sankari, You have the intelligence and method of a scientist and a heart and creativity of an artist. This is evident amply in your hub. Voted up dear.

      Namaskar and warm wishes,

      MAKUSR

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      vasantha T k 

      6 years ago from Bangalore

      It is interesting .voted up Best wishes

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      jayshree 

      6 years ago

      Awesome Sankari !!!!

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      saisarannaga 

      6 years ago from Chennai in Tamilnadu, India.

      I never expected that this hub will be so wonderful and beautiful. I enjoyed the entire presentation and hats off to you. Keep posting such thought provoking articles.

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      Kamalesh050 

      6 years ago from Sahaganj, Dist. Hooghly, West Bengal, India

      Brilliant. Wonderful thoughts and lovely presentation.

      Voted Up. Best Wishes, Kamalesh

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      carriethomson 

      6 years ago from United Kingdom

      hi i love this piece of work!! vote up sure!! and following rite away!!

      carrie

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      msivakumar 

      6 years ago

      Good one. Started of a prose poem and ended with a great inspirational quote. Surely unexpected !!! Good reality check ! Keep up the good work.

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