Tips to Dealing with Gossiping People
He Said She Said - Tips to Stop Gossip
Nearly everyone is into some type of gossip now days. Getting the latest news on someone and what they are doing is more popular now than ever. The media has a huge audience of viewers on the topic of "gossip," many of us watch a few of these shows to get the updates on who is doing what. One particular show is "The View," and I still watch this show from time to time. Most celebrities become more famous after media gossip about them. And this gossiping of one celebrity can go on for a couple of years, until they find someone else to take the shine of the ex-gossipee (is this a word?).
Don't you like it when celebrities that have been gossiped about actually get on a show and tell the facts, and truth about what everyone has been gossiping about? Half of the gossiping could be true and the other half not even close to the truth, due to rumors.
One story that some people couldn't believe was about Oprah and her best friend Gale. It seems that the Enquirer Magazine and the T.V. media were in cahoots, of spreading this rumor about Oprah and Gale. ≈ "Oprah and her best-friend Gale are lesbians, they're gay, they are together as a couple, they're lovers?" When I first heard this gossip, I never believed it anyway. "But who cares, it sold magazines, right?" "Why not start a gossip column about someone famous, and televise it nationally?" "The famous person aren't human, they can take it." "Besides they have fortune, fame, riches, and celebrities status." "With all that they have, they will get over it." ≈ (Sarcasm) ≈
Dealing with Gossip
The top media gossip topics can be about; Angelina Jolie, Kim Kardashian, Chris Brown and Rihanna, Britney Spears, Miley Cyrus to Lindsay Lohan. After a while somehow it has becomes normal to listen to the latest gossip, on celebrities and others. When was the last time you heard about a celebrity getting into trouble, and you started to pray for them? Praying to God about someone's problems or circumstances should be a normal human reaction, right. Many people pray for celebrities, Britney Spears being one of them. My heart felt for this girl, going through what she has been through. But she bounced back, now that's resilience. I'm happy for Britney Spears; she was brought up as a child in the Christian faith. And just like Whitney Houston (rest in peace), many of her fans prayed for her to get her life and singing career back on track, amongst other things. We should pray for our fellow Christians and pray for your enemies as well.
Many of us have experiences with gossip in our personal world as well. Don't you like it when someone asks, "How are you?" Then you answer them out of politeness, and may even go into detail of "how you are really doing." But you don't quite know yet that you just told a gossiper something that they can run-and-tell. It's amazing how the word gets back to you, and then it sounds twisted.
Practice Positive Gossip
The motto is, "if you can't say something nice, then don't say anything at all." Is there anyone out there that has something kind to say about someone? Saying something positive about a person is boring to some people. Say for instance, "Tommy went to college and got a degree as an Auto Mechanic." "But Tommy also put his son out the home, at age 15." Which story would you like to spread over the phone, in-person, or in the media, about what Tommy has done? Well this is a tester, because if you told a gossiper about Tommy getting a degree they may be nonchalant about it. But if you told them that Tommy put his son out the home at age 15, you would probably get a better reaction. With a negative gossip subject, you may get a reaction of interest, like a "tell me more," "tell me more" (reaction).
The question is, "who do we tell our problems or situation to?" Who can we confide in? Well if you have someone that you can trust; then tell them your problems. Also if you need to communicate about a problem that is affecting your health or your mind; then certainly talk to someone you trust. And mainly tell your problems to God in prayer, because you won't have to worry about God gossiping about your business to someone else.
The Gossip Craze - Dealing with Gossiping People
Also I cannot forget about the Wendy Williams show, this woman began her career with gossiping, and actually gets paid for it. I admit liking this show too; the Wendy Williams Experiment and her talk show. Although sometimes when I'm watching her show, "I am shaking my head, like I can't believe she said that." But I don't turn the channel, because this is labeled as entertainment. Everyone likes her famous saying, "How you doowen?" I hope she is asking this, because she really cares about how someone is doing, or maybe she wants to know just to stay updated on the latest gossip.
The few names of a gossiper:
- Jabber jaws
- Idle talker
- Hackling hen
- Chatter box
- Can't hold water
- Mouth all mighty
Stop Gossip - Dealing with Gossiping People
Gossipers seem to thirst after more and more gossip. Could this be why they call it "juicy gossip?" There are gossipers that can't take anyone gossiping about them, but they feel just fine talking about other individuals. If they can dish it, they should be able to take it, right.
Furthermore, it's been said, "bad news travels fast." Not only that, but bad news is exaggerated too (in my opinion). So next time someone asks you, "how are you." You tell them as many positive things as you can, about your life. Then possibly, you'll see if they'd keep coming back for more conversation. If they come back for more of your conversation, then they are truly a friend. But if they only want to hear the dirt, then they are just "thirsty for gossip."
Most of those who are a gossip tend to go by what they think they heard. The gossiper usually doesn't have the truth or the facts; they just want to send gossip from one gossiper to the next gossiper. If we all go by what we heard then the truth wouldn't be necessary. But we have to go by the truth in order to be free: free from lies, rumors, exaggerations, history books, and other false truths.
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Flip The Script - Dealing with Gossiping People
Give someone an ear-full of positive gossip, and then tell them to "run-tell-that." Some people like hearing about other people’s advancements, achievements, promotions, graduations, certificate degrees, good health, and anything positive. The positive gossip is the way of communicating with others.
Many of us cannot keep a secret so we shouldn't listen to secrets, if that's the case. If you can keep a secret and give advice at the same time, that is a good quality to have. Have you ever heard the phrase "if they talk about others to you, then they would probably talk about you to others?"
Webster's dictionary definitions of a Gossip:
- Gossip- idle talk about others, regardless of fact; idle talk or writing; one who talk thus; to talk gossip; to chat
- Gossip- an idle tattler; idle talk. To prate; to run about and tattle.
What the Holy Bible/Scriptures says about Gossip:
◊ You shall not go about as a talebearer among your people; nor shall you take a stand against the life of your neighbor: I am the Lord. Leviticus 19:16
◊ A talebearer reveals secrets, but he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter. Proverbs 11:13
◊ The words of a talebearer are like tasty trifles, and they go down into the inmost body. Proverbs 18:8
◊ And besides they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house, and not only idle but also gossips and busybodies, saying things which they ought not. 1Timothy 5:13
(New King James version Bible)
Idle gossiping is a waste of time, can't get anything out of it to help your life to be better, unless you're Wendy Williams (the queen of gossip). Some individuals like to hear positive gossip like when someone has went from bad to better. I always look at the bright side of every situation, even gossip.
Finally, there are many things that can ruin friendships, and gossiping is one of them. There are ways that you can turn a negative gossip conversation into a positive gossip conversation, just tap into it; practice positive gossip.
© Sabrina A. K.