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Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar, From "19 Kids and Counting" 7 Basic Needs of A Husband and Wife

Updated on September 18, 2014

Duggars on Marriage Advice

If you have watched television in the past few years, you most likely have heard of the Duggar family. They are the family who have 19 children. Their reality show, "19 Kids and Counting", features Michelle and Jim Bob Duggar, with their 19 kids, their son-in-law Derick Dillard, daughter-in-law Anna Duggar, and their soon-to-be son-in-law Ben Seewald.

The Duggar's and their kid's spouses are fundamentalist Baptists. They do a lot of touring going to churches and seminars explaining how their family works. This information is taken from a seminar they gave at a church.

While I like the Duggars, I do not agree with everything they say, and sometimes only a little bit. This would be one of those where I agree with only part of they say. Before you read the next sentence, I do like them, and respect them. However, what personally bothered me the most is on the sheet that is located in the references of this article, is that in bold, underlined, and arrowed words: "All marriages are savable. Divorce is out of the option". Has she ever worked at, or even past a domestic violence shelter?

Sometimes, even Christian men change, and can become abusive towards his wife and child. A wife or husband could do horrible things to their child. People can change drastically after marriage. Sometimes, people who are even very strong in their faith, may loose it, then they may walk away. 1 Corrithians 7:15 says "But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace."

This is the rest of what they believe are the basic needs of a husband and wife.

7 Needs of a Christian Wife:

1. A Christian wife needs the stability and direction of a husband who functions as the head spiritual leader of the family.

2. A Christian wife should know that she is meeting all the vital needs in her husband’s life and job which no other woman can meet; she's talking about being with him in the Biblical sense.

3. A Christian wife must see and hear that her husband loves and adores her, and that he is joyous and grateful for who she is as a person.

4. A Christian wife must know that her husband is diligently protecting her in areas in which she is weak.

5. A Christian wife must know that her husband is happily setting aside private time for intimate and loving conversations with her.

6. A Christian wife must know that her husband is conscience with her presence even when he is busy with other matters and responsibilities.

7. A Christian wife needs to believe that her husband is happily investing in her well-being so she can live a fulfilled and peaceful life.

7 Needs of a Husband:

1. A Christian wife should respects him as a man.

2. A Christian wife should accept her husband as a leader, and believes in the responsibilities and authority which God has given to him.

3. A Christian wife should continue to work on her beauty, both inward and outward beauty.

4. A Christian wife should lovingly and respectfully appeal to him when he is going past his limitations and needs wise counsel.

5. A Christian man and husband requires good quality time to be with himself and with the Lord.

6. A Christian wife needs to be grateful and thankful for all that her husband has done, and will do for her in the future.

7. A Christian husband needs a spouse who will be praised by other people for her character and her good works.


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    • Amanda Roddy profile image

      Amanda Roddy 

      4 years ago

      I think it contradicts the Bible's teachings on appearance and they often leave out 'husbands love your wives'. They also believe a wife should always be available in the bedroom. Marriages benefit by doing whats best for them, not following some formula.I would hate some naive couple would take this advice to heart. I believe both partners are equal.

    • redmondunmore profile image


      4 years ago from Florida

      If it works for them then I say, okay, but personally I can't imagine having so many children. They look happy and that's all that matters to me.

    • favored profile image

      Fay Favored 

      4 years ago from USA

      They've covered most of the basics. It seems to be working for them. I'm sure each married couple could add a few more of their own in the mix.

    • CatherineGiordano profile image

      Catherine Giordano 

      4 years ago from Orlando Florida

      I'm single now, by choice. I prefer it and I find I am happier. But most people are happier married, at least those who have good marriages.

    • shara63 profile image


      4 years ago from Delhi

      Nice family, since i love children i likeded your hub about this family with all their 19 children...God Bless them!

      All religions say the same things for leading a happy married life..and both the partners shud follow these principles accordingly...but fewer set examples and so they lead a happy & peaceful married life. Different people may opine diffrently here, but i'm completely in a view that Duggar family is an example of successful marriage... and i'm sure, many others can also be benfited if they take some lessons of them.

    • Sandra Eastman profile image

      Sandra Joy Eastman 

      4 years ago from Robbinsdale MN

      Marriage is a tough go all the way around but with so many kids I must give them kudos for continuing to work on their personal relationship

    • jtrader profile image


      4 years ago

      I think their marriage advice would benefit people of any religious or non religious background. Most of these address our basic needs as people, regardless of our faith.


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