The People You Can't Take Out in Public
Let's Keep It Real
Let's have a brutally honest moment here: there are some people you can't take out in public. Yes, I said it. We all have special people in our lives that we love very much, but you just can't take them anywhere. They are proned to starting fights, being an embarrassment in some way, or just being plain obnoxious.
These people can be a part of your life in a number of different ways. Perhaps you have relatives you would consider the "black sheep." Maybe you have some really cool friends, but when out in certain situations, they are a complete embarrassment. You may even have co-workers who you must socialize with, but they drive you nuts.
I would like to create a fun list for you and you can determine if some of your family members, friends, and co-workers fit into these categories. You may even find that you are one of these people!
This is the worst type of person to take in public. Some people want to fight about everything. They want to snap at the cashier at 7-11, they yell out the window at other drivers, and they believe other people are "looking at them the wrong way." Apparently, looking at someone the wrong way is worthy of a punch in the face. Trust me, this is important information for anyone to learn.
Quite frankly, the only way to handle this type of person is to tell them, "We are not going to start any problems on this trip. If you start, I am leaving you there." If they begin to pick a fight, walk away. If you drove, leave them. If they drove, take a cab. It is as simple as that.
If this is a drinking buddy, perhaps the issue is actually the alcohol. Some people want to fight the second they get some liquor in them. The simple solution: don't drink with these people! There is no reason for you to go to jail just because Bubba wants to argue over who won the Super Bowl in 1973 with some dude at the bar. If no alcohol equals no fights, just don't drink with your feuding friend again.
Picky eaters are lovely people until you go to lunch with them one day. That is when an ugly side of them emerges. All of a sudden, the food critic comes out and so does the annoying behavior. Here is example on how this might go down at a restaurant:
Waitress: Can I take your order?
Picky Eater: I would like the chicken and broiled vegetable salad, except I don't want the vegetables broiled. That is weird. Can you substitute that with something else?
Waitress (now looking annoyed): We can substitute it with vegetables from a different salad. Why don't you order the other chicken salad?
Picky Eater: That salad has tomatoes. Who puts tomatoes in a salad?
Me: The entire world puts tomatoes in a salad. Would you order? I am starving!
Picky Eater: Never mind then. I will have the chicken sandwich, but can you remove the tomatoes? Also, please don't use mayo unless it is fat free. Is it fat free? Oh, and I hate onions. Do onions come with that?
10 minutes later the ordering process is still going nowhere. By this time, I am willing to start eating the ketchup out of the bottle on the table. I am also thinking about how much of a tip I am going to have to leave this waitress to make up for my picky eating companion.
End scene! (I will imagine you are clapping at this point.)
As you can tell, I have experienced this in the past. The best way to avoid this is to allow the picky eater to choose the restaurant or just simply not go out for food anymore. It is just not worth the trouble.
OK, I am going to admit I can fall into this category sometimes. Perhaps that is why none of my friends invited me anywhere this weekend. Gasp! It is OK. I consider myself an entertainer rather than an oddball, but whatever.
Your oddball friends are the people that are an embarrassment in public. Perhaps they like to race carts down the aisles in Walmart. Maybe they insist on always getting a balloon at restaurants and then playing with it. They may even decide to dance with a mannequin at Macy's when a great song begins to play. Maybe your friend believes she is the next Lady Gaga and dresses the part. Oddballs are everywhere and they can be fun. However, there is a time and a place for fun.
When the fun goes too far, the embarrassing moments begin. It's best to set boundaries on what behavior will be accepted before going out. Also, it is easy simply to avoid some situations. If you know the cart racing always occurs at Walmart, don't go to Walmart with them. Or maybe you just want to invite them over to your place and not take them out anywhere. That is always the safest way to go.
P.S. When racing the carts at Walmart, always do a test run first before committing to one cart. A bad wheel will make you lose the race everytime! Don't ask me how I know this.
The Price is NOT Right Contestants
You cannot shop with some people. It is just as simple at that. There are some people that begin whining about perfectly reasonable prices before they really get through the door at any store. There are other people that do not clearly read ads or sales signs. The person will see an item obviously shelved in the wrong area, yet insist on getting a lower price that is clearly wrong. They will throw a fit at stores to get their way. It is humiliating to be caught out with a person like this.
In this situation, you must try to reason with the person. When they are going off on a cashier, try to take them to the side and remind them this person probably makes just minimum wage. Of course, there are certain people who do not care about others. Their only quest is getting their low price. This is because sometime in the past a manager gave in to them, allowed them to have their way just to shut them up, and now they try it wherever they go.
When this occurs, I explain to the person throwing a fit, "I will not be seen in public with you anymore unless you calm down and shut up. You are embarrassing me, and you should be embarrassed as well." Then I walk away. It is tough love, but it is the only thing that may get through to them. Sometimes even that does not work. Some people are just simply nuts.
Help Out Your Friends
So now that I have completed my examples, I hope you realize pretty much the only real solution is walking away. When someone is in "their zone" it is often too difficult to reach them. You must always tell them why you are leaving, but make sure to keep up your promise once you say you are walking out.
Just because a person can be obnoxious does not mean they will always be that way. Some people seriously do not realize how embarrassing they are at times. Once you confront them or even walk out on them, they may see the errors they are making. People are capable of change and many people want to better themselves. Always give people a second chance, but don't let their bad behavior bring you down for too long.
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