A MOTHER'S HOPE: MOMMY & BABY/ASHLEY'S DEDICATION
Mommy and babies
Double Tragedy: One Mom's pain
A MOTHER'S HOPE FOR HER BABY
“Come to the edge.”
“We can't. We're afraid.”
“Come to the edge.”
“We can't. We will fall!”
“Come to the edge.”
And they came.
And he pushed them.
And they flew.
Guillaume Apollinaire, 1880-1918
No one knows what it is like to lose a child unless you lost a child, this I know. I have seen how it is affected people first hand, for the life of me I just didn't get it. That is until, I lost my own daughter while pregnant. That I would never wish for anyone to experience, the pain is on going. You learn to live with facts despite the grief and pain. My heart sank as I read that one of the victims of the Aurora Movie Massacre had not only lost her six year old (two years older than my Maria), but as of yesterday she miscarried the baby she was carrying due to the injuries she sustained during the attack (she was shot in the neck and abdomen).
I could not help, but think, what a monster? My heart sobbed for her, this complete stranger. I know the pain I felt was horrible, when I lost my child, but I had to push forward for Maria. This I must say before I go any further, the worst thing you can say to a mother that has lost her child is, "You still got ______ to take care of.
At least you got other kids. You are young, you can have more kids, etc." This only causes anger and resentment, because in her eyes (maybe some feel different, but for me this was the case and a lot of women I have spoken to in the situation agree.) it does not matter how many kids she has, no one can replace the child that she lost.
Then, to add insult to injury she is also most likely going to be paralyzed, because of the injuries sustained during the shooting. Why James? Why? I look at this innocent little baby girl eating her ice cream. I see this beautiful young woman with her whole life ahead of her and now the doctors are hoping that she regain the use of her arms again. I even think of the baby that could of been and I wonder why?
The only word we have heard him utter was yes, when the judge asked him about wavering his right for a preliminary hearing. Even more sorrow at the fact he will not be charged for the death of the unborn child, because he can only be charged for those deaths of people that were alive or born on the night of the shooting. Which raises the question, when does birth began in gestation or during the day you are born. If it begins during gestation, then the unborn baby should be added to the number of deaths that resulted from the massacre.
If you consider abortion murder, has he not murdered her baby by pointing that gun towards her abdomen? Ashley's aunt was present at his last court date and described him as a, "persona of evilness." Do you disagree? How does a juror or judge turn a blind eye to this, because of a legal technicality? Meanwhile, Ashley lays paralyzed, knowing her six year is dead, and now has lost her 8wk gestation unborn child. The world she once knew that included her smiling six year old and the hope she had for herself and her unborn baby went up in smoke with the dreams of many other movie goers.
They did not go to the theatre looking for a fight, they went to see a movie premiere. Some of them, that was the last thing they ever did. We can not erase the horror of that night for any of them. It has been described as the worst massacre in American history, it is not to be taken lightly. I apologize for my tone, I can not imagine Ashley's struggle, before this article takes on a tyrannical tone, I will digress and say, "Let us keep Ashley, her family, her friends, and fellow movie going victims and their community in our prayers, our thoughts, and our well wishes." God Bless you Ashley and your beautiful babies, for none is closer to a Mommy than her babies.