The Truth About Jodi Arias and Travis Alexander
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Jodi and Travis Truth vs Movie
Most people have heard about the "fatal attraction" murder. CNN does all it can to deliver the image of Jodi Arias as an evil woman who's presence is spooky, and who's psychological imbalances are evident in her demeanor. The Lifetime movie, Dirty Little Secret, portrayed Jodi as an obsessive, pushy freak, who used an overly sexual presence manipulate men. The facts are nowhere near the myth that is growing with every year that the case become less intimate and more legendary. The problem is that a case as intriguing as the Travis and Jodi stirs the imaginations of all who learn of this "fatal attraction" female stalker case.
It is rare that we see a murder being committed by a beautiful young woman to begin with but then we find Travis Alexander, a handsome young successful man on his way to becoming the next Tony Robbins to be equally intriguing. Both of these two seemed ideal in many ways. They both had beauty, youth, health and intelligence going for them. The initial question we have is, what went wrong? As we ask that question unfortunately all the "woman scorned" movies that we have seen, the Play Misty for Me, and Fatal Attraction stir our imaginations into turning Jodi, the killer, into a monster, while turning Travis Alexander, the victim, into a perfect guy.
The facts of Jodi Arias and Travis Alexander are that neither one of them was a monster or a saint. They were human and examining their real stories makes it easier to truly understand what went wrong.
The Lifetime movie about Jodi and Travis did not portray Jodi in an accurate light at all. Those who knew Jodi have stated that she dressed nicely, but not sexy, and that her behavior was calm and collected, not hysterical. Travis, was portrayed in a more conservative light than that of his actual character. While Travis was Mormon and had expressed his desire of being married and living a life geared towards family values, he also struggled with his ego and his private desires.
Travis Alexander with His Grandmother
He had been raised by his drug addicted parents until things became unbearable.He was fortunate to be rescued by his grandmother, a generous and caring Mormon woman who began taking Travis to church with her. It was during this time that teenaged Travis began to find himself. The Mormon church gave Travis a sense of direction, responsibility and most importantly, he no longer felt inadequate. Travis had such a bad childhood that he naturally felt out of place around kids who had been raised with caring parents. He knew that he was never taught right from wrong or introduced to the social graces that most children learn through example as part of growing up.
Travis was a determined student who wanted to better himself. He thoroughly wanted to make a complete turn around in his life. His older siblings battled substances and seemed to be following in the pattern that one might expect from such poor parenting, but Travis wanted to change his life and then pay it forward by helping others change their lives for the better. Although he was a hard worker, Travis found himself flat broke in his early 20s. He briefly toyed with getting a college education but he hated going to school. Travis was searching for some way to make a fortune without going to college.
Travis wanted wealth not just for the sake of having money, but for the inspiration of it. He wanted to prove to himself and others that one did not need a college degree to be successful. He also wanted time. Travis did not like the idea of working all day and night just to pay for things. He believed that there just had to be some way of making money and having spare time in life. Most people dismissed Travis' ideas about wealth and time as the fantasy of a young man in his 20s vocalizing his dreams, but then Travis met Chris Hughes.
Chris was a moderately wealthy man who had a wife and three children and did not punch a time clock. Chris was living the life that Travis wanted to live. To Travis' delight Chris was willing to help him out. Chris was an associate with Legal Shield, a reputable multi-level marketing company, and basically anyone who is willing to pay the$150 to sign up is in the position to earn six figures passively. Travis struggled to come up with the initial fee and then put all of his efforts into becoming rich through Legal Shield.
Travis was soon earning a handsome income and bought a five bedroom home, along with a brand new BMW. He also took exotic vacations in which Legal Shield picked up the tab. Travis was living better than most doctors live within just one year. With his mounting wealth Travis was attracting bombshell girls. He had always been attractive to the opposite sex but his appeal was quickly growing with his income. Travis also began working out and taking better care of his appearance once his life was in full swing. In 2006 Travis was happy, wealthy, and on his way to the top.
Jodi Arias with Her Sister
Contrary to the media image of Jodi Arias there was nothing strange bout her. She was creative rather than book smart, and spent much of her free time drawing and taking photos. Jodi had become so interested in photography that she actually picked up side jobs through word of mouth for weddings, baptisms, and special events. She had left high school without graduating and found herself drifting in her early 20s. Jodi made most of her money as a waitress in upscale restaurants. She was a reliable and hard working girl who was very good in the customer service industry. Jodi had been in several relationships with men and none turned out the way she wanted. With her slim figure and pretty face, Jodi could easily get male attention, but Jodi craved an old fashioned family man.
In 2006 Jodi was lost and restless due to the fact that her latest long term boyfriend had told her that he did not wish to marry her and have any other children than the one who he already had. Upon digesting this information Jodi knew that she needed to move on in some way and after someone handed her a Legal Shield DVD to spark her interest in the company, Jodi decided to go to Las Vegas convention to help jump start her new career. Although she was a good waitress she had no intention of being one all her life. Jodi had ambitions of becoming a real estate investor.
As luck would have it, Jodi impressed the young motivational speaker, Travis Alexander to the point of being asked to a special dinner for top earners. Travis was attracted to Jodi physically and being the confident man he was, invited her to the exclusive black tie dinner . Jodi told her team that she did not want to go because she was already in a relationship with another man, but after some persuading by Travis Jodi went.
The Jodi Arias movie portrayed Jodi pursuing Travis, the real Jodi was being pursued by Travis at this stage of their relationship. Jodi felt awkward, because her heart was fragile at this point, but somehow, Travis had impressed Jodi after their exclusive dinner and long talk that Jodi left Las Vegas thinking of Travis. Whatever happened between the two that first night seemed to turn Jodi's life around completely.
She became distant with her boyfriend and kept herself ready for a new relationship with Travis, who called Jodi and immediately scheduled a meeting. Its hard to nail down exactly what was happening with the two in the first months of their meeting but one thing stands out as true, and that is the fact that Jodi was thoroughly smitten with Travis. When he was nice to her she was happy, when he was ignoring her she was destroyed. Those who were regularly in the company of Travis and Jodi at Legal Shield were regularly saying that Travis was abusing Jodi. Some of the older men acted as a father figure, telling Jodi that she needed to stay away from Travis because he was not good for her. Many of the women within Jodi's Legal Shield team felt sorry for her because she was so tormented by Travis. In fact, he had offered to help her out with her Legal Shield business, but nothing came of it. Jodi had wanted to learn how to be a better business woman and now she was spending all of her money traveling from California to Arizona in effort to stay close to Travis.
Jodi at PPL Convention
The Jodi Arias Crime
Those who know Jodi still have a hard time believing that Jodi committed the crime by herself, yet there is no evidence suggesting that anyone else could have been there. Jodi simply snapped. It seems that she must have been stewing for a few months. Gathering evidence of Travis being unfaithful, lying and then doing all she could to keep him in her life. Even if the only way she could keep him calling her was to resort to being his sex toy. In the total of two years that Travis and Jodi knew each other Jodi's role in his life went from casual date, to girl friend, and then degenerated into his "dirty little secret." From Jodi's perspective she had envisioned herself being married to Travis after falling head over heels in love with him during the short time in which he was pursuing her. She had trouble getting him to commit to her and when he placed her on the back burner once and for all Jodi was hanging around and doing all she could to get Travis to see that she was worthy of being his wife.
It must have been tormenting. Travis needed to be straight with Jodi, that he simply did not have strong enough feelings for her to make a commitment and Jodi needed to come to grips with that reality. It seems that intellectually Jodi was becoming aware that she had no real chance with Travis yet she simply had to keep trying. Jodi had spent almost two years putting every ounce of her energy into winning Travis. She had spent all of her earnings traveling back and fourth from California to Arizona, taking trips with Travis in effort to bond with him, and keeping herself well dressed and groomed. Finally, Jodi found herself deep in debt, having her car repossessed, and no better off in life than she had been in her teens. Jodi's heartache and despair was turning into anger and vengeance.
Now, instead of dreaming up ways of luring Travis to fall in love with her she was plotting a way to do away with her torment by eliminating Travis Alexander for good. If Travis were nowhere on earth, Jodi would not worry about who he was with and waste her time trying to win him back. Her obsession with Travis Alexander would be over.
She changed her platinum blond hair just in case someone would see her driving through Arizona. She also brought gas containers with her so that there would be no evidence of where she had been. Jodi cooked up an elaborate set of stories to tell friends, family and police when the body of her ex lover would be discovered. On her long drive from California to Arizona, Jodi turned her cell phone off. This would make it impossible for police to track down her exact whereabouts during the days in which Jodi was on the road. One can only wonder what ran through Travis' mind when he saw Jodi as a brunette for the first time. Somehow Jodi had entered Travis' home and spent hours with him in his room while two men who rented rooms from Travis had no idea that Jodi had ever been there. After having sex with Travis and allowing him to photograph her nude with his new camera, Jodi's plan went into action. She used Travis' camera to photograph him in the shower, but apparently the photo shoot was just a ploy as to what Jodi really intended to do. She began viciously stabbing her ex lover in the back, and after a savage attack, she continued to slash his throat and shoot him twice.
Why did Jodi attack him to such an extent? The reason for this is probably a combination of things. One being that Jodi's fear of getting into trouble for what she had done ran through her mind and she thought, through the rush of adrenalin, that if she were savage enough no one would suspect her. Another reason may be that all the rejection, all the wasted tears and humiliation was taking over to even the score.
Either way, Jodi is responsible for a major crime. She is ultimately responsible for not seeking out counseling, and instead, plotting a murder. This is ultimately what makes Jodi Arias different from other women who have suffered in similar ways. Her act of eliminating Travis was a selfish act in that all of the Alexander family were deeply hurt, as were all family members, friends and business associates connected to her.
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