I have LONG been an advocate of this thinking............
A woman does not CHANGE her name when she marries................she simply adds to it.
I would perfer to always use my Family name, IF it did not offend my husband for me to do so.
I was a person, before him, and if he leaves this world before me, I will still be someone.
If I was a "JONES", when I married a " Smith", I did not "become" a Smith, I remained a Jones, with the AUTHORITY to use the name of my SMITH husband.
I still am, who I was, now, I am even more! This was the gift my husband gave me on our day or marriage.
There are times when I use the name of my hubby, the name of my family, and there are times when I use a combination of the two..................
otherwise, WHO would I be, without my hubby?