About 8 weeks ago i started to learn modern jive and fortunately i found a great instructor and classes, however now with some experience behind me, I am comfortable dancing and know what i am doing is correct.
However I have found many (older) women want to lead or are stiff/tense and it is very frustrating to dance with these women and they are always adamant that they are correct and they completely mess the dance sequence up. These women are very slow in their moves and the dance is just not enjoyable
I now just stop and no longer dance if the woman starts to lead and wait for them to realise i have stopped.
The other negative is young women not wanting to dance with older men, however these young women are in the minority.
so ladies think about how you are dancing and ask yourself, am I being an active follower or am i trying to control the man again and lead this dance.
being a great follower is just as difficult as it is to be a great lead