Can't 'make' a person do anything sir. Can't polish a turd so quit trying to make out to be a different person than what you are.
Talk about the things that you two are doing. Met her in the fruits and vegetables? Ask a question about food.
Library? - books
Racetrack? - cars
bar? - drinks
bus stop - bus schedule
on the street? - directions
Controlling bullies always want to "make' somebody do something.
Unless you have a gun in your hand - that ain't happening....