Famous Love Story in the Seventies
The Love Story
I am going to be quite frank with you, I am not one that is really into love films and/or stories per say. Unless it is more realistic and not like a fairy tale. However, there are a small number of Love stories that really inspired me. The fairy tales ones are just too good to be true, I assume it is far and few between. Blessed are they that are the few.
I am using Love Story as an example to make a point about love. Being a young teenager when that movie was released on the Silver Screen in 1970. I really don't remember a whole lot about the movie except that someone passed away, and I ended up crying my eyes dry because of the greatness of their love for eachother, as well as the loss.
Then there was this phrase that became really popular back then among the teenagers of that time and that phrase was: "Love means never having to say your sorry." Well of course after hearing this you weren't supposed to say your sorry because if you did, then that meant you really didn't love one another. Silly as it sounds but teenagers of that decade took that phrase quite seriously, and literally.
If you never have to say your sorry then you should not hurt the other person, then you won't have to say your sorry. But you know even if you don't intend to hurt the one you love, it is most likely that at some point you will. Sometimes being human is just the way, and no matter how much you love that person it just happens during our journey.
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Love Story - A Movie Played by Ryan O'Neal and Ali MacGraw
This (Love Story) won seven academy awards. It was nominated for Best picture, best director, and best actress. It also won an Oscar for Francis Lai's Original Music Score.
What Do You Think - Does Love Mean You Don't Have To Say Your Sorry?
I shared how I felt about the meaning of; "Love means never having to say I am sorry", now let me share about my own personal experience in this life category.
Being married to a man for almost 20 years and yes I know I have used this example in some of my other lenses. But this is a common example that a lot of us are facing today. My now ex husband never once told me that he was sorry for his part in our failed marriage, instead he basically told my children that it was my fault.
He was the one that had an affair, he never once told me; the mother of his children that he was sorry. Maybe he wasn't in love with me anymore, but the fact remains is that I am the mother of his children and I deserved respect for staying with him, and remaining faithful for all of those years. Instead the new woman now gets all of his respect.
I didn't ever get an apology from him during this dark period in our marriage, although they both were sleeping with each other well we were still married. Not one apology! There are many kinds of love, love for a friend, child, partner, etc. Well I still love my ex, and only because he is the father of my children, plus I spent a good amount of my life with this man. But I am not in love with him anymore. I care about what happens to him, this is the kind of love I am talking about.
I think if he would of told me that he was SORRY for all the heartache he put me through, things would be different today. If only he said how SORRY he was. But not even the slightest attempt, I never heard him apologize. Yet putting blame on me to my two children we had together? Regardless of my concern with his well being these reasons are why I can't and will never respect him as a man.
"Love does mean that you have to say your sorry."
Being In Love
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It takes Love and Strength - To apologize
It is necessary for both people (in a traditional relationship) to be willing to apologize when you hurt the other person involved. Because if not then resentment can easily build up in that relationship.
I don't care how strong your relationship may be, you have to be willing to say those two and/or three specific words; I'm sorry - I am sorry. Because in the long run that marriage or relationship will most likely end in shambles if you don't.
It is so silly (when you think about it), I never heard of anyone basing their relationship on a mutual understanding that no apologies are needed, that is crazy, if that is the case it sure has to be rare. Saying I'm sorry can sometimes be just as necessary not only when we hurt someone but when we are saying the beautiful three letter statement; I love you.
I don't see anywhere where it says that you have to apologize in the Bible, but there are many scriptures that say that you need to forgive, as well as be forgiving.
Sometimes The Hardest Thing To Do Is To Say I Am Sorry
I think that the hardest thing to do for a lot of us is to say I am sorry. Sometimes we do need to say I am sorry if we want to be forgiven.
We have all done things in our lives to make us feel ashamed or bad internally. Maybe you have hurt someone without meaning to? The best thing we can do for that person is to go to them directly, ask that person to forgive us, and let them know how sorry we are.
Even if the relationship is done and over with. You can now allow the opportunity for healing if you at least make the effort to show you care. This is by asking someone you hurt for forgiveness, and letting them know that you are truly sorry.
Now if you're one of these people who are only sorry because you got caught, well that to me is not genuine. That 'type of sorry' is only selfishness and pride, not concern for the other person. To me that is not really being sorry.
Mark 11 v 25
And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins."
We also forgive so that our prayers will not be hindered: Even if that person says they're sorry or not. If we want our sins to be forgiven then we must ourselves forgive. Just like I must forgive my ex, even though (again), he never said he was sorry. If he did, like I said things would be different between the two of us today. Instead 19 years (rounding two decades) of knowing and caring for someone was all thrown away.
Love Does Mean You Have To Say I am Sorry
Ok you had a misunderstanding
Well here is another way of getting out of the doghouse, buy her or him a gift that shows them how much they mean to you, also showing one is sorry this way. I know that sometimes words just can't always express the way you feel but actions can help. :)