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10 Ways to Tell If He Likes You

Updated on October 8, 2015

Certain behavior tells you so much about another person

Wondering if a guy likes you is one of the worst feelings in the world. This is usually a circumstance where you are interested in him, but refuse to make a fool of yourself to find out if he likes you as well.

Instead of fretting, find out for sure if he does. There are ways to make this happen simply following a few guidelines.

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What is he saying or not saying with his actions.

Picking out whether a guy is interested in you or not is not an easy task. There are times when there is a feeling of sure certainty he is reciprocating the same feelings you feel. Though, there is no guarantee. Therefore, there is always the slim possibility signals are crossed. What was perceived as one thing turns out to be another. The latter is not as good as the former when it comes to your feelings. It is great when the potential for error is decreased. One way to make this happen is to know what to look for when a guy is interested in you.

It’s tough to know exactly what to say and do in these situations. To avoid an awkward experience or an embarrassing situation find out for certain what his feelings are when it comes to you. Is this a "just friends" relationship or something more? If you are not able to ask him directly, use this guideline to make certain of what his thoughts are when it comes to you.

  • Body language

    Body language says more than words ever reveal. Body language communicates all sorts of thoughts and feelings. Most people never realize it. In reality 70% of what is conveyed to another person during a conversation regardless of words being spoken.

    If this form of communication is showing other individuals three out of every four things being felt, noticing what is being expressed it is extremely important. What is being said and the meaning behind the words is sometimes at odds with each other based on body language.

    Not saying anything, but constantly making a physical contact via touch, for example, the shoulder or arm, speaks a definite hint. Getting in close physical proximity at every opportunity are both actions which indicate how much he likes you. A terrific example is offering to ride to the game with you instead of Jim or Tammy.

    If he is posturing relaxed whenever you are around, but seems to be having a difficult time pulling it off says he is attracted. This is the anxiety of being at odds on the outside with what is being experienced on the inside. Trying to pass this one off, generally without a lot of success says he is attracted. He is hoping you notice and understand what is being transmitted.

  • Speech

    Along with body language what is he saying verbally? Sometimes it is not what he says, but more how he says it. He typically starts a conversation to get your attention when he likes you.

    Is he smiling while he talks? Giving you eye contact while he speaks? All of these little things while speaking signify more than a casual greeting with a stranger. He is crushing on you.

    Pay attention to speech patterns and what he is trying to say whenever he initiates a conversation with you.

  • Where do you stand with other girls

    Be aware of how he treats you when other girls are around. Does he pay the same amount of attention to these females as he does to you? If he is crushing on you the focus of his concentration is you regardless of other girls in the vicinity. Additionally, he treats you with the respect a lady deserves at all times.

    . A bundle of nerves

    Most men have a difficult time expressing feelings verbally to women they feel physically drawn to. He generally stumbles around with a conversation trying with much difficulty to focus on what words to use while chatting.

    They become a little fidgety because they are a bundle of nerves and are trying not to embarrass themselves in your presence. He is nervous, but wants to appear relaxed. In so many words he wants to tell you he likes you without sounding desperate or “uncool”.

  • Imitating you

    This is a surprise for lots of folks. When a guy mimics you or starts to copy gestures you use, he is interested. Simple things like pretending to bite his lip the same way you do is a way to break the ice. Additionally, he is saying he is paying attention to what you do and likes it. Mimicking is done with a smile and a teasing manner you enjoy.

    Compliments come easy

    Compliments are a more transparent way to say has a crush on you than mimicking. Saying how nice your hair looks, how wonderful you smell or even noticing a new pair of boots you are wearing says he finds you attractive. Not only in a superficial physical sense, but he wants you to know he is paying attention to everything about you.

  • The man who notices the smallest things, like a new pair of earrings or a bracelet is really paying attention to you. Compliments are nice to receive and show he has great manners as well.

    Comfort levels develop

    Generally after a couple of initial contacts or conversations a man begins to feel more comfortable around you. When he has a general comfort level being in your company it is a definite sign of attraction. He is comfortable in your presence because he is fond of you.

    Men are nervous the first couple of encounters, but if you put him at ease the more he is with you it says something about the chemistry growing between you two.

    A little teasing

    Teasing is perfectly normal and expected while trying to catch your attention. A teasing tone or gesture every now and then along with joking or laughing is a sign he likes you. Being drawn to each other with the same sense of humor is always nice. If the teasing is something you both enjoy, it is a positive sign of attraction.


    Truly listening to you when you speak is pulling you towards him. He asks for your opinion and understands you. When he listens and "gets" you, he is trying to catch your eye because he likes you.

    He values your thoughts and what you have to say.

    Wants to know the real you

    Wanting to know the real you is part of the attraction he feels. He is fascinated to know what you like and don’t like. What is your favorite color or flower? All of these things are of interest to him because he is captivated by you.

    In conclusion

    Most women will look at a man and see indifference when he is really interested. Finding out for sure if he likes you is certainly not difficult when you know what to look for. These are ten of the best signs he is attracted to you and in most cases trying to catch your eye.

Are you currently in a relationship? This is not always a simple yes or no.

Looking for another one of those obvious signs? A huge sign saying "I like you" is if he asks if you are in a committed relationship.

No one wants to know your relationship status unless they want to be in one with you.

With relationship status all over the web on countless social media sites, the question is irrelevant in lots of cases. Though, the courtesy of asking and waiting for an honest answer is terrific. A simple yes or no is not always the right answer. More explanation is needed for lots of females.

Physical touches are obvious signs of attraction

Physical contact through touches like lightly laying his hand on your arm or asking to hold your hand is an obvious sign of attraction.

Generally the opposite sex is just as nervous as you are when it comes to physical contact like holding hands. Do not be surprised if both of you have a little touch of sweaty hands.

A general definition of stalking behavior

Stalking is defined as harassment both physical or cyber/internet. These behaviors are unwanted by the person receiving the attention. The main goal of the stalker is to induce fear or psychological distress.

Physical injury is likely to occur because stalking behavior escalates in most cases. If you feel you are being stalked, men and women alike, contact your local law enforcement authorities. They will investigate and take action as needed.


What not to do to find out if he likes you and you like him

1. Never flirt with a friend of his to try and make him jealous

2. Spread a hurtful rumor about him to get his attention. This is negative attention you never want and will never lead to a positive and healthy relationship between the two of you.

3. Totally ignore him when he makes an effort to talk to you. Ignoring him totally will send the message you are not interested.

4. The silent treatment because of nerves is not a good sign. Even if you are too nervous to talk, at least smile back and make eye contact

5. Never decline when he asks you to a dance or party. If you honestly are not able to go for a good reason, share the reason with him. Start the relationship out with as much honesty as possible.

These are five actions not to do if he likes you and you like him. Stay away from these.

Did you know there is a scientific method established to discover if he likes you or not? This is Amazon providing lots of advice for women on the subject.

When he is crushing on you

Ever see a guy looking around, searching a crowd or a room and stops when he finds you. A smile spreads across his face. This is definitely a man with you on his mind. Take it as an enormous sign of crushing.

There are times when words are simply not enough. Consider eye contact, body language, whether he is influenced by the personal feelings of friends or families or even the social surroundings are all variables or risks. Odds are increased or decreased depending on how many or few of these are present. The ideal situation is none of these things matter. In fact, it all comes down to you and him in the ideal world. Though, real life and actual living are not always taking the same path in countless circumstances.

Stalking is not a crush or liking someone. Its against the law

Stalking is a crime and is reported to the police to handle whenever it occurs. Stalking is not liking or crushing. Liking someone is a relationship where the attention is reciprocated by both parties.

Men stalk women and women stalk men. Stalking is not limited to one sex or another.

Men do stalk other men-usually when one is in a higher position in society or work. Basically the pecking order.

Women do stalk other women-typically women involved in affairs will stalk their lover's wife.

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Did you ever send one of those notes in grade school that said check yes or no if you like me or not?

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      Angela Joseph 3 years ago from Florida

      Nice tips to know when someone is interested. Thanks for sharing!

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      mecheshier 3 years ago

      You are most welcome smcopywrite

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      smcopywrite 3 years ago from all over the web

      thanks for reading. it is always wonderful to get feedback. whether its good, bad or ugly it helps us all to become better writers.

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      mecheshier 3 years ago

      Great Hub with a lot of useful information. Thank you for sharing. Voted up for useful and awesome.