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12 Parenting Tips | Raising Boys to Be Gentlemen

Updated on June 5, 2014

What Not to Forget To Teach Your Boys

By raising our sons under the principles of respect for others and respect for self, we are giving them an edge with which to soar into the future.  These are the principles of becoming gentlemen.
By raising our sons under the principles of respect for others and respect for self, we are giving them an edge with which to soar into the future. These are the principles of becoming gentlemen. | Source

Quote:

"Gentlemen respect the rights of others. They are honorable men.”

― Ellen J. Barrier

Catch and Release

As we release our boys into the world, let us give them the appropriate skills to help them succeed in life, as gentlemen.
As we release our boys into the world, let us give them the appropriate skills to help them succeed in life, as gentlemen. | Source

Raising Boys with Principles of Good Behavior

Collecting parenting tips on etiquette is likely not the first thing on people’s minds as they rise to the challenge of raising boys. Yet every mother wants her son to grow into a gentleman, and every father has the chore of being role model to their little man. Making parents proud, our kids soak up the lessons we teach them like sponges.

However, sometimes in all the frenzy of raising kids, we forget to teach the lessons that make that difference in herding young men into adulthood not only as wonderful people, but true gentlemen as well. There are many reasons why being a gentlemen can help a man in life as evidenced by sources like The Child Development Institute in the article The Importance of Teaching Manners to Kids. From work pursuits to social pursuits to family pursuits, having well manners and a thoughtful and gentile demeanor is a thing of beauty. What must we not forget to teach our sons as we usher them into the next stage of life? The answers lie in the mere basics of empathy, respect, and self-respect ingrained within at least a healthy peppering of social grace.

Important in Every Age

Parents have long recognized the value of raising boys to be gentlemen.
Parents have long recognized the value of raising boys to be gentlemen. | Source

Raising Boys Into Gentlemen: An Old-Fashioned Ideal?

Is teaching manners to our sons an old fashioned ideal? Perhaps, but I do feel as well, that it is a desirable tradition that should not be thrown by the wayside. Who will teach our kids the etiquette of how to be a proper young man if not their parents? Yes, it is our duty in raising boys; but, where to begin? I feel, it is in the wee years of our young son's lives. There are simple things we can teach, and model for them in our own actions and interactions, during their toddler years, elementary and then at adolescence that will have them growing into model citizens and gentlemen of the future.

Quote:

"A gentleman can live through anything."

- William Faulkner

Arming Our Sons with Good Principles for the Future

As parents, we want to protect our sons from trouble from the earliest of times.  This is why we try so hard to raise them right.
As parents, we want to protect our sons from trouble from the earliest of times. This is why we try so hard to raise them right. | Source

Raising Boys to Be Gentlemen: Why It Still Matters

Our sons are the fathers and protectors of the future. Men play an important role in our society, of course, and they will as well, play an important role in teaching their own sons values one day that will forge and define a modern order. Raising our boys well helps society as a whole and ensures our children a better chance at happiness, as people that can function well in their relationships and dealings with others. Don’t let manners become obsolete in this new, already too rude and indulgent world. Our kids need to hear the “no’s” of how to act and how to play the game of polite society. I feel that this is part of a winning formula for success for our boys. Authorities like CLise Etiquette for Professionals agrees in the article Five Essential Manners Your Child Needs to Succeed, underlining that knowing how to be polite can have ramifications that reach far into the future toward getting and even keeping a job.

In today’s world, there is too much competition for the things that we want and need such as spots in college enrollments and positions available in the workforce. Having that edge toward making a good impression, as well as possessing a defined charisma can certainly make that difference for a young man in the job market. As well, understanding empathy and practicing respect can fortify the personal interactions our boys as adults will need - to be successful in marriage and then parenting, themselves. Here are some parenting tips for raising boys that may help them, someday, achieve that advantage.

Spending Time in the Trenches of Raising Our Boys and Girls

Taking time to teach our kids manners is a worthy pursuit and something they will always remember about their childhood
Taking time to teach our kids manners is a worthy pursuit and something they will always remember about their childhood | Source

Being Other-Centered

Raising boys - and all children - to care about the feelings of others is a lesson that begins early on.
Raising boys - and all children - to care about the feelings of others is a lesson that begins early on. | Source

Parenting Tip #1: Raising Boys to Care About Feelings

As toddlers, we learn to care about feelings. From the very beginnings of life, parents must try to teach their kids that they shouldn’t hurt others’ feelings; that they should become other-centered - even if it is a difficult lesson to grasp in the first five years of life! Repetition will help! And pretend role playing! For example, a parent could model the drama: “You bit me and it HURTS!!! I am going to cry…..” (pretend crying ensues with best acting forth!). “How does that make YOU feel?” As you put forth valiant efforts such as these to impart on your children the value of such things, remember that in general, the ability to be other-centered is one of the greatest lessons you will ever teach. The video 6 Tips for Teaching Kids Respect at the bottom of the page offers some helpful parenting tips for raising boys and girls toward this end.

Little Girls

Even when little girls can be really annoying, it is never o.k. to hurt them.
Even when little girls can be really annoying, it is never o.k. to hurt them. | Source

Parenting Tip #2: Raising Boys to Never, Never Hit a Girl

From early on as well, boys must learn it is never, never, never o.k. to hit a girl… even if this girl is an adversarial little sister. This may not seem fair to little boys, but it is a lesson that will ensure they understand hitting a girl can land them in jail later in life (see the very emotional video below, The Importance of Teaching Boys to Be Gentlemen: Stepping Up) and of course, is simply just a violent behavior tolerated on no level by society. Related to this – if you do make a girl cry, you should at least feel a little badly. Whether or not this is just some good old Catholic guilt, I think it goes far later in life toward becoming a gentleman…… Of mention also, kids will learn soon enough that if they tell a girl in kindergarten she is overweight, their mamma is going to come down hard and quick on them, and their momma. NEVER make fun of others for how they look. It certainly is not gentlemanly. As well, it solicits phone calls from other parents that you do not want to get as a parent; trust me.

The Importance of Teaching Boys to Be Gentlemen: Stepping Up

Forging the Future

Lessons we teach our boys now, will stick.
Lessons we teach our boys now, will stick. | Source
Our young sons are professionals of the future.
Our young sons are professionals of the future. | Source

Parenting Tip #3: Raising Boys to Shake a Man's Hand (Firmly)

It is easy to forget to teach your kids little behaviors like shaking a man’s hand when you meet them or greet them. When my neighbor sees my sons, he always extends his hand for a manly shake showing camaraderie. I feel it fosters gentlemanly contact with other men for the future, which is an important lesson to learn for boys. Greet other men, and friends with a firm handshake and direct eye contact. It exudes not only politeness, but confidence and a winning personality. When it is time for your son to get a job, he will be happy he learned this bit of etiquette. First impressions are everything and a boy who knows this lesson, seems quite together indeed.

Parenting Tip #4: Raising Boys Not to Mumble When Speaking

My sons are shy. They mumble and they look down when they meet people. I am trying to teach them to look someone in the eye when you speak to them and to speak loud enough so they can hear you. It is showing that you are interested in what they are saying and that you are happy to be engaging with them. It is a likable quality of gentlemen and it is very simply, polite. It also showcases, confidence, which is a magnetic quality in any man when showcased to the right degree.

Lessons to Teach When Raising Boys:

  • Shake hands with men
  • Make eye contact
  • Hold doors for people
  • Say please and thank you
  • Offer to help when you see someone in need
  • Give up your chair to the elderly
  • Respect authority
  • Treat women with respect
  • Don’t use vulgarity in public
  • Be clean


Parenting Tip #5: Raising Boys to Hold Doors

This tip for raising boys is a big one. I caught my oldest son walking through the door of the grocery store without holding it for the rest of us that followed, including an elderly woman. I had to think to myself: “You need to teach him that is impolite.” Now I have him approaching doors first and holding them for women, as well as passing them back to men coming in behind him. I am glad he knows this is the proper thing to do and what boys need to be conscious of as they become gentlemen. If I had not taught him, he would not know! As a little boy, it is of course, ok. But as a growing young man, it will begin to show as uncouth if not instilled as best practice.

Table Manners are Important

How cute is this rude baby?  Such manners won't be cute for long!
How cute is this rude baby? Such manners won't be cute for long! | Source

Quote:

"Courtesy is as much a mark of a gentleman as courage."

– Theodore Roosevelt

Boys Teaching Table Manners

Parenting Tip #6: Raising Boys to Use Their Manners

You need to teach little boys (and girls) to always say please and thank you. This requires much repetition, as reinforced in the cute video to the right on teaching children table manners, but is worth the effort when you see it coming naturally to them when out at interactions. As well, I remember my parents saying to my brothers, “What are you going to do when you are on a date at your girlfriend’s house and her mother serves you something you don’t like?” The answer is, you say it is good and thank you for making it for me, even if you don’t love it. That is the polite thing to do and recognizing and appreciating a host’s efforts toward preparing and providing a meal is a warranted lesson in gratitude as well. Believe it or not, kids don’t just learn these things from osmosis and raising boys and girls to do them proactively is a much better fortune than having them trial and error it out! Also, my mother-in-law taught her boys how to hold a fork and knife and cut their food. This was something I never learned, but wish I had! I’m happy my husband passed it along to our kids, while I shovel food in my mouth like a barbarian!

Up His Chances

Some day he's going to like this girl.  Give him the best chance to make a good impression as a gentleman.
Some day he's going to like this girl. Give him the best chance to make a good impression as a gentleman. | Source

Parenting Tip #7: Raising Boys Not to Use Vulgar Language

Boys in middle school may think it is cool to use vulgarities including things like “frickin” and “crap” (two of my youngest’s choice favorites). While I understand that among friends, this may fly, but boys need to understand in polite society and most situations around girls and adults, it IS inappropriate to speak that way and that people do make judgments on who you are and who your family is by how you represent yourself verbally. As well, if you have a son that uses the Xbox, like I do, this rule should be applied here as well. Admittedly, I have a lot of work to do in this department (and others!)…..

Sportsmanship

Good sportsmanship is a quality of gentlemen.
Good sportsmanship is a quality of gentlemen. | Source

Parenting Tip #8: Raising Boys to Be Good Sportsmen

In raising boys, it is important to instill good sportsmanship. They have to learn how to be a good loser and a humble winner. It is a likable quality and shows good character; even if you are fist pumping a win in your head!

Better Relationships

Appreciating right behavior and caring about others will go far in helping your son finesse future relationships, as well as choose the right ones!
Appreciating right behavior and caring about others will go far in helping your son finesse future relationships, as well as choose the right ones! | Source

Frogs, Snails and Puppy Dog Tails - Our Little Boys!

Even though they can get a little dirty, we still love them!
Even though they can get a little dirty, we still love them! | Source

Parenting Tip #9: Raising Boys to Take Care of Their Body

As our kids reach adolescence, it is important to teach them how nice it is to smell good and not bad; that brushing teeth and taking showers are desirable pursuits and need not be argued. People like you better when you are clean and this will surely come in handy as boys try to succeed in life as gentlemen. One should also dress appropriately when it is a situation that calls for a bit of fancy attire. For example, there are times where a button down shirt or polo shirt and nice jeans may be appropriate over those pajama pants you’ve been wearing everywhere for three days now. Maybe owning some loafers in addition to sneakers might be of use on holidays. Another honorable mention in the raising-your-boy department: stand up straight when talking to someone. Just stand up straight – it exudes a healthy bit of confidence and allows that person to trust you just that little more.

Respect

Raising boys to have respect for elders and authority is a critical effort that can only help them in years to come.
Raising boys to have respect for elders and authority is a critical effort that can only help them in years to come. | Source

Other Resources for Parenting Boys:

  • Miss Manners.com – A site that provides the abc's of good parenting and etiquette - you can even ask questions!


Parenting Tip #10: Raising Boys to Respect Elders and Authority

Kids in this day and age are somewhat losing this lesson. For some reason, they seem to think they are smarter than the adults that are in authority over them. This includes family members, like mothers, fathers and elderly relatives, but it also needs to be extended to teachers and bosses when it comes time for them. Kids must learn to respect authority. They have a lot to learn from people above them and they need to just shut-up, put-up and learn with politeness. People have a lot to offer, even for the most hot-shot, self-inflated of growing youths. Boys especially benefit from knowing that humility is a winning quality of gentlemen.

Of side note here, I would like to mention that parents must try to think twice about calling every teacher/coach or principle that your child encounters to bail them out of trouble they might have encountered. If a teacher says something to teach your child, or if a coach does something to offend you or your child, just think about it before you jump down their throats. Depending on the scenario, maybe the lesson that one must respect authority might be the better one to go with. Someday, kids will have bosses and they will not be able to fight “The Man” by telling their mom.

Additionally, kids should learn early on to respect their parents. They are your parents. Listen to what they have to say, even if you don’t agree and don’t be disrespectful. It is a commandment, for God’s sake! As well, you should teach your kids to respect their friend’s parents and their property. Having parties and trashing houses is not something gentlemen, or nice young girls, would do. As well, for the younger kids: you don’t go in people’s refrigerators on play dates! You’d be surprised how often this happens in today’s day and age. This may be something to mention to your child before it happens and they learn the hard way that this is a sign of disrespect.

I am a bit sad that kids no longer use Mr. and Mrs. to address friends’ parents and neighbors. I think this is a tradition that should not be retired and should still be considered important when raising boys and girls alike.

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition...

When raising boys to be gentlemen, using repetition is best.  "Use a napkin.  Use a napkin.  Use a napkin!"
When raising boys to be gentlemen, using repetition is best. "Use a napkin. Use a napkin. Use a napkin!" | Source

Lend a Hand!

The willingness to help others in need is the mark of true gentlemen.
The willingness to help others in need is the mark of true gentlemen. | Source

Parenting Tip #11: Raising Boys to Offer Help

This principle is kind of extending the caring for others to a later stage. Help the elderly. Teach your boy that if you see a pregnant woman or the elderly struggling or looking for a seat in a crowded room, get up off your butt and offer them your seat! If someone is carrying a heavy bag and you have some muscles to offer, do so please. If a man is changing a tire in front of you, don’t just stand there… lend a hand! “What a great boy you have there!” is what you will be hearing from people, after such incidences play out. It is important to teach young boys that helping others is not only the right thing to do, but will win them the respect and admiration of others and someday, they just might need a recommendation or a favor themselves. It is part of being a man.

Treat Her Like a Lady

Some day, our sons will need to rely on the principles of chivalry they were raised on as children and young men.
Some day, our sons will need to rely on the principles of chivalry they were raised on as children and young men. | Source

Parenting Tip #12: Raising Boys to Be Chivalric

Treat girls with respect: they are people! Perhaps this doesn’t seem like it needs to be mentioned, but I really think it does. How will young men know when it is time to date that they have to treat girls like a lady if they have never been introduced to this concept, as in the video below where etiquette class prepares boys to be gentlemanly to girls. I may be a bit outdated here, but I still feel it is worthwhile to teach boys to open the door for girls, offer their coats, respect their decisions and values, and yes, I think they should probably pay when a date occurs (at least the first few!). Girls have to have the babies someday, so the least boys can do is learn to treat those ladies right early on! It will save them pain in the future of having to learn this on their own and in the end, it will only help them as they navigate love relationships.

School Sends Boys for Etiquette Classes

All Boys Are Sweet To Begin With...

No matter how our boys behave, we still love them!
No matter how our boys behave, we still love them! | Source

In Conclusion of Raising Boys

All we really want as parents is the best for our children. They are sweet from the earliest of times and will remain our babies throughout life. In raising boys with good manners and teaching them the proper etiquette of gentlemen, we are making the road ahead for them much easier. They will be liked by others, respected and will have winning qualities that help them to succeed professionally. They will know how to love and be loved and they will understand how important two ways of respect is in dealing with others that are both friends and future lovers. A true gentleman is a boy to be proud of and is a boy that will have to struggle just a little less toward achieving happiness and their goals; it is one advantage we can give them to travel through life with. Good luck in your teachings and enjoy raising your wonderful boys!

Ushering Sons Into the World

It is parents who send our sons forth, into the future, toward success.  Let’s give them the skills they will need; let’s teach them how to be gentlemen and then swell with pride.
It is parents who send our sons forth, into the future, toward success. Let’s give them the skills they will need; let’s teach them how to be gentlemen and then swell with pride. | Source

6 Tips for Teaching Kids Respect

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      Amie Butchko 9 months ago from Warwick, NY

      No need to rush it! Independence will certainly come and it can be nice to have him near you longer, under your influences as he grows toward manhood!

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      peachy 12 months ago from Home Sweet Home

      my boy is still a mamaboy, at age 9, I wish that I could make him grow up like any other boys around the neighborhood, become more independent

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      Amie Butchko 12 months ago from Warwick, NY

      Gosh! Courtesy and respect are important for life success... and to be a good parent. It isn't easy, but I'm trying!!!!!!! Thanks for reading!

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      Robert Elias Ballard 12 months ago from Zirconia, North Carolina

      An excellent article! Seems much has been in teaching basic courtesy and respect.

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      Amie Butchko 12 months ago from Warwick, NY

      Hi Paul. Thanks so much for reading and feeling this conviction. I, as a parent, wrote this hub a few years ago now, I think, and it is ironic because as kids grow, these principles get even harder to uphold in this crazy world of technology and other "advancements." It is so important to stay strong and remember how communicating with your kids and relaying messages you feel are personally important is. Thanks!

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 12 months ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      Thank you for sharing an excellent article which everyone should read. In today's world, it is more important than ever for parents to teach their boys to be gentlemen. Popular social media certainly seems to be doing the opposite as evidenced by the obscene language in songs and words used on the Internet. We also see and hear extremely bad manners and actions toward women in popular dance and rap music. I am sharing this hub with my HP followers.

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      Amie Butchko 2 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Thank you, Cyndi! Raising kids is really hard! I love my kids and I find the older they get, the more hard work we have to put in to keep them being gentlemanly and ladylike. I know it will all be so worthwhile toward their happiness!

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      Cyndi Gibson 2 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      I want my daughter to marry a perfect gentleman, so it is only fair that I raise my three sons to be gentlemen. I appreciated the fact that the author pointed out that not only are well-mannered boys appreciated, but the character they build today will help them build their future as men.

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      Amie Butchko 2 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Peachpurple, you are absolutely correct! We mothers love our boys, so. It is a gift to do right by them.

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      peachy 2 years ago from Home Sweet Home

      boys will be boys but mommy strict rules, boys can turn out a gentleman after all

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Dear Jackie, I so loved your comment and agree a dad's influence is so very important. Thank you for reading and your wonderful insight.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I raised a perfect gentleman and he is really outstanding in this and I did what I knew to do of course but I think a father is the best influence in raising a boy to be a gentleman. I suppose it could be whoever guardians the boys but I naturally think fathers would be at the top of the list since most do grow up to be like their fathers.

      Great article, well done. ^

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      You are very sweet thefedorows. Thank you for reading! You are the future!

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      thefedorows 3 years ago from the Midwest

      Another beautiful and well-written (and meaningful) hub! All of the tips you included were right on. Men who demonstrate them, at any age, stand out (like my husband)! What a privilege to be able to raise up the next generation!

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      You are doing such a great job, momsdoworkathome! It is very hard to be diligent about teaching kids these things, and it is so easy for such lessons to fall by the wayside. You have my respect! Good luck to you and your beautiful family!

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      Katina Davenport 3 years ago from Michigan

      I believe children learn from our example and from what we expose them to. Children in today's society seem to have lost the manners we learned so long ago. I had a waitress tell my husband and I that we have the best behaved and we'll mannered children she has encountered in a long time. My 2-year-old told her please and thank you the entire time. My daughter did too. Being a young lady or gentleman is taught. So, if parents aren't teaching then surely they could grow up to be someone that is rude.

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Very good point, Fiddleman. We do need to be the best example we can to our children. It is true in today's day and age, that things get so overscheduled for kids, that us parents forget to teach basic manners as we just try to keep up. I think it is important to try to remember that kindness is an important thing to teach! Thanks so much for reading and adding to this discussion!

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      Robert Elias Ballard 3 years ago from Zirconia, North Carolina

      An excellent write at a time when old school teaching seems to have disappeared. Teaching boys and girls for that matter common principles of courtesy and respect for their peers and elders lies with parents. As a grandparent who has 2 grandsons, I am constantly reminding them to be nice. Kids learn by example and what those little eyes see in us, they will do.

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Thank you so much, teaches12345. I really appreciate your reading and commenting. It means a lot to me that people still think this is an important subject for parenting!

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      This is a great article and every parent who has a son to raise needs to read this and keep it handy. Very well done and excellent advice!

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Thank you so much, AVailuu. You are right! These principles certainly do apply well to all children. Please and thank you do go far in life. I will remember what you said as I teach my children to use these words!

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      A. Cristen Vailuu 3 years ago from Augusta, Ga

      I think the majority of your tips can apply to all children, not just little boys. Manners are vital to the integrity of our culture, and it's sad to see them dying out more and more with younger generations. I was raised to believe that a simple "please" and "thank you" will take a person a long way, and it's proven to be true. Being considerate of other people is good for everyone and displays a sincere awareness for one's own surroundings.Nice article, I enjoyed reading!

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      DDE, that is so nice that you raised your son to be a gentleman! I am still working on mine, as they are still growing. It is a lot of things to remember to keep on top of, but I know it will be worth it!

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Awesome tips to raise boys to be such gentlemen these ways sound helpful. I did raise my son to that gentleman.

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Thank you, Suraj. What a great compliment. I really loved picking all the pictures. Very nice of you to read and thank you again so much for commenting.

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      suraj punjabi 3 years ago from jakarta

      Wow..hate to say this but I wished my parents taught me all that! I really loved this hub and the images you chose. I will definitely instill these lessons if I have a son one day, or send him to you! (Kidding!)

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Great sentiments, Denise. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts on our wonderful crop of boys! Future children and wives, especially, will certainly benefit from gentlemanly habits!

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      Denise W Anderson 3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      Chivalry is not dead! Boys need to be taught proper behavior in order for them to be successful in life. It doesn't happen automatically. We, their parents, need to take the time to do this. Not only will their future wives thank us, but our grandchildren as well!

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Thank you for stopping by!

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Thank you so much Cyber Shelley. So appreciate the support!

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      sujaya venkatesh 3 years ago

      amy thanks for the dose of input

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      Shelley Watson 3 years ago

      What a really marvellous hub with all the right priorities in the right place! Up, interesting, useful, and shared.

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      So glad you did, VVanNess! It comes through in your writing that he is a great guy!

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      Victoria Van Ness 3 years ago from Prescott Valley

      Very nice! Very inspiring. :) I'm so glad that someone wrote this article. Men being taught how to be gentlemen is definitely a lost art. I just happened to get lucky with my husband.

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      Amie Butchko 3 years ago from Warwick, NY

      Thanks so much, Inspired Heart. We are soul sisters!!! Thank you so much for reading and liking the hub. The pictures were so fun to choose and that video was so emotional!

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      Yvette Stupart 3 years ago from Jamaica

      This is an awesome hub! It really tugged my heart, as a mother, teacher, counselor, and above all as a Christian. We must do all we can to reach our boys, to help achieve their God-given destinies.

      I loved the videos, especially the one on teaching boys to become gentlemen. Thank you Amie for posting on such an important issue.

      Blessings.