12 Ways to Stay Sane as a Stay at Home Mom
Staying sane as a full time mom IS possible!
With Nearly 7 years under my belt as a full time stay at home mom to four kids age 6 and under, I feel I have really been put through the wringer and have come out all the better for it. Yes, being a full time sahm is challenging, yes I've wanted to pull my hair out at times, yes I've raised my voice in exasperation a few times, but along the way, I've found these 12 ways have kept me from becoming crazy while caring for these little ones. And you too can benefit from these 12 ways. Hang in there mom! You are NOT alone, I repeat, you are NOT alone.
1. Ignore the Naysayers
Stay-at-home moms may be criticized more than any other child-rearing person out there. And guess what? Who cares! People who think you sit at home and relax all day long have absolutely no idea what they are talking about, and it's best to just not worry about it. Once you start doing this, you'll be far better off.
2. Get Ready for the Day
It sounds silly: get ready for the day. If you are a stay-at-home mom, you know all too well that this is simply not as easy for us as it is for the rest of the world. Do yourself a favor, though, and just do it. Go ahead and put on an uplifting show in the morning so you can get yourself ready for the day. You'll feel better.
Many assume that stay-at-home moms can exercise whenever the heck they want. Not true, however, workout with the kids and workout by yourself, it's a MUST. Here again, just do it! It's not only good for your mind and body, your gym may even offer free child care. Get and stay fit, whatever the cost is, it's worth it. Often getting the body I want takes hard work and is painful. Push through the pain.
With pure drinking water. The benefits are endless. The reasons are there. Water gets everything clear and working. Forget all the other beverages out there, and do what's good for your body. As a former Dr. Pepper addict, I am saying it's possible to ditch the bad stuff and stick with water. Soon water will taste sweeter and will be something you crave. I can honestly say that I am not addicted to those other drinks anymore, the juice and sodas. (now if only I could kick the baked goods habit)
5. Have Weekly Get togethers
Be it playgroups, church, baby classes, or support groups, join in on the extracurricular fun. Any kind of outside group will not only provide your baby with socialization, but it'll also give you a chance to have semiadult conversations with others. Be sure to choose your friends wisely. Birds of a feather flock together.
6. Nap Time
Nap time is sacred in a successful stay-at-home mom's world. My kids never really had a set schedule for nap time. It was always changing, and created an interesting twist to the word routine. But, if your child is a napper (once mine hit 2 years...they stopped napping) utilize that time for whatev. Ha, or get needed rest!!! Sleep when the baby sleeps, SO true! I've found that a 20 minute nap (ensuring kids are safe and occupied with something) helps tremendously.
Staying at home with your children does not, I repeat, does not mean that you should be their sole means of entertainment. Teach your children the value of independent play. Everyone benefits from a child being able to play alone for a few minutes — heck, Mama might even be able to get stuff done. Kids need this time. They amaze me with their creative minds. Don't get me started on all the kindergarten changes that are going on in our schools!! Making all day kindergarten and taking away recess are just ploys to get mothers out of the home and little kids on interruptive medication.
8. Embrace the Chaos
The thing about it is that at some point (or nearly ALL the time), there will be chaos. And that is OK. You don't need to be the perfectly clean, your house does not need to be spotless, and dinner does not need to be on the table when your spouse gets home. If you can accomplish that, great! But if not, don't beat yourself up! Be grateful in all things.
9. Seek Like-minded Moms
It's no easy task staying at home all day with the kids, and other women going through the same feelings can be your best medicine. I tend to stalk out other mothers at the playground, some of my favorite friends have come from this. One in particular that comes to mind. We had SO much in common, and all because I opened my mouth to speak to her.
10. Have supplies on hand
Being in a house with a small child (or more) means that anything can happen, and you'll keep your sanity if you expect the unexpected. That means having ample cleaning supplies, medical supplies, and crafting supplies, as well as food and provisions. We are the CEO of the home. The manager, the brain, the heart. Without us, total mayhem.
11. Don't Take yourself too seriously
I find myself caught in a stupor of thoughts focusing on all the things I'm doing wrong, or all the things I'd like to do, but can't, because of lack of funds. Then I find my life slipping away with one long frown. I've reminded myself to SMILE and MAKE myself laugh. It always helps.
12. Don't Beat Yourself Up!
This one thing has plagued me SO much during motherhood!! Those persistent thoughts of, "I'm not good enough, I should have a cleaner house, I should have more energy, my kids need to not be so boisterous, it's all my fault, I didn't read to them today or with them, I didn't make my bed, I didn't earn any money today, I have so much laundry to do, I haven't vacuumed in a month, I haven't swept this week, I forgot to pay the bill on time, I didn't switch the electric account and now our power is out, I haven't potty trained my daughter yet, I didn't plant beautiful snapdragons in the front yard yet; like my neighbors have, I don't have the car I want to drive...the a/c is out, battery's funky, oil is leaking, leather seat is ripping, speaker is broken, transmission is being weird", etc. etc. for infinity.
Recently I went to a women's conference for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. One of the talks specifically said in the beginning of it and the end of it, "DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP"! I truly think we have these consistent thoughts, "beating ourselves up", because the enemy of our soul is trying his darndest to make us feel guilty and get us down. Why else would the Creator of us all write, "Pray always without ceasing, lest ye enter into temptation."? I don't believe we were meant to live here on earth to murmur and complain and criticize about life and ourselves, afterall, it is written, "Men are that they may have JOY." Satan certainly wants us to be miserable like unto himself, and he truly is miserable, I know from experience (another post for later). On the other hand God, the Eternal Father, our Heavenly Daddy, and His perfect Son, Jesus Christ, want our eternal happiness with them. Satan is SO incredibly jealous of Jesus Christ. He does ALL to destroy Christians because of this rage and jealousy. It's malicious, wicked, evil, cunning, crafty and disturbingly disgusting. God wants our happiness, true lasting eternal happiness.
Take these points into account and choose to be happy.