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5 Important Things My Mum Told Me
Hope Faith and Love
A Mother's Legacy
My mum died many years ago now and there have been many times over the years since that I have sorely missed her input into my life in so many ways. I loved my mum, I really did. She was a kind, gentle, generous and loving mother who gave of herself unselfishly to raising her family. I am and always will be comforted that a mothers love never dies even when they pass away as there are always memories left of love and laughter and jewels of wisdom to be remembered. My mum left me a legacy of faith. Faith in God and faith in myself to be a mother to my own children and the faith to go on even when life is hard.
There are many things I remember about my mum but only remember a few things that she actually told me as she showed me mostly about life and motherhood. These are the five things I remember her teaching me about life.
1 Love Will Hurt - loving and being loved can really hurt. When you are in a relationship whether it is a spouse, partner, children or friend love at times can be painful. A harsh word, an unkind act, a broken promise. When our partners don't live up to our expectations; when a loved child disappoints or a close friend lets you down, love hurts. But better to love and be loved and experience pain than to never experience either.
2. Never Give Up - life can and often is tough. Pain and hardship touch many lives and families and few on their journey in life are spared. Whether it is the death of a loved one, an accident, loss of job etc or just the humdrum of life where you are stuck in a rut and everything becomes a chore. But that's life, it's often not what it's cracked up to be. It's how we come out of life's hardships that either makes us or breaks us and finding strength and determination to never give up is the key to emotional health and well being and develops resilience in us.
3 You Can Do It - Mum always gave me the courage to believe that I could do what ever I needed to do in life and I still remember her telling me those exact words 'You can do it' When I became a wife and a mother I could always hear mum's voice telling me that I could; be a good mum; breastfeed my babies; take care of a home and raise my kids. Hearing her words in my mind many years later gave me the strength and will power I needed to take care of my family in times of extreme challenge like when my five year old contracted double pneumonia; my youngest daughter coming through a car accident where the paramedics couldn't believe she survived the impact; or going through one of Australia' s harshest droughts in the countries history with four small children and having to buy water to survive and every drop is precious. With her words echoing in the back of my mind it brought comfort and determination.
4 Have Faith - Belief in a higher power, gaining strength outside of yourself, an understanding that the world about us was designed and put together by the creator. Mum was a Catholic by birth and heart and even though she gave up the practice when her family priest refused to marry her to her non Catholic chosen spouse, she remained faithful to the personal practice and ethos of her faith, raising us kids to believe in God, read us bible stories and taught us to pray.
5 Where There is a Will there is a Way - Two years ago I was standing opposite and beneath the famous neon lighted sign in the middle of London's Piccadilly shopping precinct waiting for the lights to change to cross the road and looking up at the sign I couldn't believe the fact that it said 'Where there is a will there is a way' How often have we heard that said. It is still a great reminder to fight for something you believe in, to look to find a shred of hope when it all seems dark, to be determined to make it work no matter what it takes. To never give up in the face of adversity.
I am grateful to the legacy left by my mum, grateful that she persevered against the odds, grateful that she showed me how to live life to it's fullest no matter what it throws at you. Grateful that she showed me how to love.
These things matter in life. They matter a lot...