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5 Important Things My Mum Told Me

Updated on October 23, 2012

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A Mother's Legacy

My mum died many years ago now and there have been many times over the years since that I have sorely missed her input into my life in so many ways. I loved my mum, I really did. She was a kind, gentle, generous and loving mother who gave of herself unselfishly to raising her family. I am and always will be comforted that a mothers love never dies even when they pass away as there are always memories left of love and laughter and jewels of wisdom to be remembered. My mum left me a legacy of faith. Faith in God and faith in myself to be a mother to my own children and the faith to go on even when life is hard.

There are many things I remember about my mum but only remember a few things that she actually told me as she showed me mostly about life and motherhood. These are the five things I remember her teaching me about life.

Life Lessons


1 Love Will Hurt - loving and being loved can really hurt. When you are in a relationship whether it is a spouse, partner, children or friend love at times can be painful. A harsh word, an unkind act, a broken promise. When our partners don't live up to our expectations; when a loved child disappoints or a close friend lets you down, love hurts. But better to love and be loved and experience pain than to never experience either.

2. Never Give Up - life can and often is tough. Pain and hardship touch many lives and families and few on their journey in life are spared. Whether it is the death of a loved one, an accident, loss of job etc or just the humdrum of life where you are stuck in a rut and everything becomes a chore. But that's life, it's often not what it's cracked up to be. It's how we come out of life's hardships that either makes us or breaks us and finding strength and determination to never give up is the key to emotional health and well being and develops resilience in us.

3 You Can Do It - Mum always gave me the courage to believe that I could do what ever I needed to do in life and I still remember her telling me those exact words 'You can do it' When I became a wife and a mother I could always hear mum's voice telling me that I could; be a good mum; breastfeed my babies; take care of a home and raise my kids. Hearing her words in my mind many years later gave me the strength and will power I needed to take care of my family in times of extreme challenge like when my five year old contracted double pneumonia; my youngest daughter coming through a car accident where the paramedics couldn't believe she survived the impact; or going through one of Australia' s harshest droughts in the countries history with four small children and having to buy water to survive and every drop is precious. With her words echoing in the back of my mind it brought comfort and determination.

4 Have Faith - Belief in a higher power, gaining strength outside of yourself, an understanding that the world about us was designed and put together by the creator. Mum was a Catholic by birth and heart and even though she gave up the practice when her family priest refused to marry her to her non Catholic chosen spouse, she remained faithful to the personal practice and ethos of her faith, raising us kids to believe in God, read us bible stories and taught us to pray.

5 Where There is a Will there is a Way - Two years ago I was standing opposite and beneath the famous neon lighted sign in the middle of London's Piccadilly shopping precinct waiting for the lights to change to cross the road and looking up at the sign I couldn't believe the fact that it said 'Where there is a will there is a way' How often have we heard that said. It is still a great reminder to fight for something you believe in, to look to find a shred of hope when it all seems dark, to be determined to make it work no matter what it takes. To never give up in the face of adversity.

I am grateful to the legacy left by my mum, grateful that she persevered against the odds, grateful that she showed me how to live life to it's fullest no matter what it throws at you. Grateful that she showed me how to love.

These things matter in life. They matter a lot...

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      Mary 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Nice of you to visit & comment Glen much appreciated..I agree that if we are lucky enough to have a stable childhood with a mum who loves us & teaches us to value and appreciate life we are very fortunate for sure..cheers

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      Glenn Stok 4 years ago from Long Island, NY

      Inspirational words of wisdom. You had a wonderful mother and this is a great tribute to her. It's nice to be fortunate enough to have had a parent who provided the kind of input needed to understand an appreciate life.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thank you so much froggyfish for your kind comments...sorry about your mum...it's a wonderful legacy to have a mum like that...

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thanks so much sunshine...you are so right it is such a circle of love...cheers

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      frogyfish 5 years ago from Central United States of America

      What a beautiful legacy...and tribute to your mother too. Mine passed to heaven earlier this year...and I am reminded so many times of the hope and strength she lived. Lovely, touching hub!

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      Linda Bilyeu 5 years ago from Orlando, FL

      A beautiful tribute to your mother. I also live by those 5 same rules, which I've passed on to my daughters and granddaughter who by the way at times have to give me a reminder at times. It's a circle of love:)

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Oh! gosh Minnetonka, 9 is so young to loose your mum, I'm so sorry, I hope those memories are precious for you...thank you so much for your visit, comments and votes & you are so right a mothers love never dies...cheers

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Oh! Thank you so much James, you are very kind...she was a great mum...gosh I haven't been over your way for a bit my friend, it's nice to see you...cheers

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      Linda Rogers 5 years ago from Minnesota

      What a touching tribute of your mother. She sounds like a wonderful person and mother and her memory will always be with you. I lost my mother at age 9 and still have many memories of her. A mother's love never dies. I hit many buttons on this lovely piece.

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      James A Watkins 5 years ago from Chicago

      I really enjoyed getting to know your Mum just a wee bit. Her advice to you is extraordinary. I agree with her 100%. Thank you for sharing this with us.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thanks so much for dropping by Christy - my mum was a great mum & I no I am one of the lucky ones...cheers

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      Christy 5 years ago from The Deep South

      Beautiful words and what a legacy she left you. You are some blessed women!

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Oh that is so nice of you to say epigramman...I knew when I wrote this that it would resonate in the hearts of many who have/had a loving relationship with their mums and our mums have such an influence on shaping us at so many levels... I can only hope my influence on my girls has been half as good as my mums on me... it's really nice to meet you here and I will stop over at yours again soon...hugs (although a bit chilly at the moment brrr) from cronulla beach sydney...cheers

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      epigramman 5 years ago

      ...well this hub subject and tribute has such special meaning for me as my mum was my best friend and had left me with a lot of her wisdom and profound philosophy - some of it which only makes sense now but of course better late than never - and a big part of the reason of why I am who I am is because of my mum - love your writing here because it strikes me as a pure labor of love and shows how special you are also - no doubt as a mum to your daughters too ...... sending you warm wishes and good energy from lake erie time ontario canada 7:30pm

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      We sure do Mar, and so glad I found you here...we have been blessed to have mamma's like ours...Thank you so much Mar for your kind words & votes, I can't wait to sit down together for coffee and relax @ the cafe and have a good chat...with ice cream of course:) Hugs from down under...

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      Maria Jordan 5 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Oh carter,

      Make that one more thing we have in common... A Momma who has given us the wisdom and life lessons needed to get through life's journey in a beautiful and fulfilling manner.

      This is written from the heart, filled with love and ever so inspirational.

      Voted UP and UABI. Hugs, Maria

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thank you mejohnson for dropping by...I am lucky to have had such a great mum...cheers

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      mejohnson 5 years ago

      These are 5 great lessons that you learned from your mom. I agree with each one. Thanks for sharing them.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Oh thank you Lesley, it's so nice to meet you, and you are so kind to say that...I loved writing this one...cheers

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      Movie Master 5 years ago from United Kingdom

      A beautiful, beautiful tribute to your mother, thank you for sharing these words, she must be very proud of her daughter.

      Best wishes Lesley

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      Terrye Toombs 5 years ago from Somewhere between Heaven and Hell without a road map.

      Carter, this is one of the most beautiful and helpful hub I have read thus far. Your mom did an excellent job passing on some very good lessons to you. How could she not be proud of you. You are a wonderful person and it's been a pleasure getting to know you through your writing. :) Thank you for sharing such a lovely part of your life.

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Oh Mike, thank you and I am a proud girl for sure...but just so grateful to have had a mum that loved me no matter what...I am doing my best to pay it forward & to my grand babies now...thanks for dropping by Mike I really appreciate you...

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Hello kashmir56, thank you for such kind words...and I def know she was proud of me, I could see it in her smile...

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thank you KDuB03..such a nice thing to thank me for sharing this...appreciate your visit...cheers

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      mckbirdbks 5 years ago from Emerald Wells, Just off the crossroads,Texas

      This is a wonderful tribute. The love of a mother passed down to her daughter who in turn will pass that love down to her daughter. It forms a chain, a bond, each generation draws strength from the last. I see pride in every word.

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      Thomas Silvia 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      WOW this is so beautifully written and such a great tribute to your mom . I'm sure she is very proud of you and smiling down at you !

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      KDuBarry03 5 years ago

      A great tribute to your mom and a great way expressing it via sharing the morals she has shared with you. Sometimes, these lessons are overlooks but when they aren't, they make the greatest impact on your life (positively, of course).

      Thank you for sharing this!

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thank you Janine for your votes, kind words & continual support, I am very grateful...cheers

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Aww Billy you are sweet to say that, thank you so much...it's no wonder you one the vote:) you are too kind...cheers

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      Mary 5 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Thank you so much for your kind words, glad you enjoyed my hub... and very nice to meet you...cheers

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      Pete 5 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Wonderful hub demonstrating the importance of leaving a legacy behind. You are the beneficiary of the legacy left by a wonderful woman and you have shared her story beautifully here.

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      Janine Huldie 5 years ago from New York, New York

      This was an absolutely beautiful tribute to your mom. I am truly sorry she is no longer here anymore, but sounds like she raised a wonderful, young woman and for that alone I too being Catholic, I have faith wherever she is now is smiling down on you happy. Have voted and shared too!

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm pretty darn sure your mother is proud of you right now. Beautiful tribute!