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5 Things Teens Really Want From Their Parents
What do teens really want from their parents?
Dealing with a teenager can sometimes be really rough. It requires a lot of work from both parents and teens to fill the gap between generations. It's hard to understand the needs of a teenager, as they evolve and change every single day. But what do teens really want from their parents?
Teens are just between their childhood and their adult life. They go through a lot of changes, physically and mentally, and sometimes they feel lost. It's very important for a parent to understand his child, to love and to support him, to let him grow up, and to assure him communication is the best way to deal with these changes. The “No one understands me” problem comes from the lack of support and communication in most cases, and it's the most common reason for rebellion.
Along with teenage years comes the need for space. Most parents refuse to cope with the idea of their children growing up, they suffocate them and they cross their personal boundaries. Desperately trying to control their child, they violate their right to privacy and follow their online activity or make them feel embarrassed in front of their friends by setting absurd rules for his age.
Trust is a very important tool in the relationship between parents and their teenage children. Being trusted determines the teenagers to take more responsibility for their actions. Every single teenager wants to be trusted and treated like an adult. However, teenagers have to learn that trust is valuable, it's hard to achieve and easy to lose. Also, being treated like an adult comes with responsibilities. Parents should not try to always protect their children, but to let them learn from personal mistakes and take the consequences.
Parents often try to minimize their weaknesses in front of their children. They also tend not to recognize their mistakes. The power of the example is not something to play with. By recognizing their mistakes, parents could get closer to their children, be seen as friends, set a connection. Teenagers can only learn from their parent's mistakes if these are recognized. Parents have to make sure to let the children know about the consequences too.
As a child is growing up he has to face a lot of questions. A parent should make sure that he is the one to provide the answers to most of these questions, as these answers are going to define the child in his adult life. A stable bond between a child and his parents leads to healthy teenage years, and later to a healthy adult life. Getting wrong answers from other people to the vital questions that appear in the teenage years may lead to rebellion towards the parents and a lot of bad decisions.
The relationship between a child and his parents is the first thing that defines him as a person. Parents have to be careful, yet not suffocate their children or oppress their personality.