5 Points to Keep in Mind, While Choosing Your Baby's Name
- “I read in a book once, that a rose by any other name would smell as sweet, but I've never been able to believe it. I don't believe, a rose would be as nice, if it was called a thistle, or a skunk cabbage.”
― L.M. Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables
- “Nicknames stick to the people, and the most ridiculous are the most adhesive.”
~Thomas C. Haliburton
- “Tigers die and leave their skins; people die and leave their names.“
The name, is the most important thing in your personality. Choose your baby’s name wisely.
I had a friend in my school. Whenever, her name was called for attendance in the class, the whole class used to laugh, only to be silenced by the teacher. I remember my friend's face, in those moments---red with embarrassment.
She often used to complain to her parents.
'What kind of name, you have picked up for me! I hate it!"
I have a cousin-----a boy, whose name sounded, as if it was a girl's name. By the time, he was 7 years old, he was so much fed up of his friends teasing him, just because of his name, that he demanded to his parents, that his name, may please be changed.
What I am trying to stress here is, that we must consider few things, before naming our babies.
- Can the name, you have picked up for your child, embarrass her/ him, when she/ he is grown up?
- Is the name too common?
- Has the name some meaning?
- Is it too difficult to pronounce?
- Would the child be bullied, due to his name?
5 Points To Consider, While Naming Your Child:
1. Does the name has some meaning or significance?
In India, there is a tradition to keep the name of the Gods or Goddesses, as the child's name. People avoid keeping names of negative characters from the mythology.
It is believed, that good characters inspire and imbibe, the same good characteristics in the child.
That's why, you are often asked a question, 'What is the meaning of your name?'
Nobody would appreciate, a name with no definite meaning.
Children often feel embarrassed, if their name is meaningless.
2. Mind the gender:
Many names do not sound clear, whether it‘s a boy or a girl. In many communities, it‘s not the first name, but the second name, which makes clarity, about the gender.
When the child grows up, he or she finds it very annoying, when people get confused about the gender, when they read the name. And, it is only after meeting the person, that they realise, they have misunderstood the gender.
3. Pick up a name, which is easy to pronounce, and easy to spell:
How frustrating it is, if people mispronounce or misspell your name?
It should not be like this, that only the parents can pronounce the name.
It can be very annoying for the child, if his or her name is mispronounced, in a gathering.
Sometimes, the children develop, some symptoms of low self esteem, due to this.
4. Do not pick up a 'too common' name for your child:
How boring it is for a child, to share his or her name, with at least six others, in the class?
I remember, having at least four Abhisheks, and three Priyankas, in my class. In such case, you can either distinguish them by their sir name, or name them, as one, two, three and so on-----!
The child then starts feeling less important. Having an extremely common name, makes the child feel stressed.
5. Name should be appropriate for the adulthood:
You may call your child by cute names, when they are babies, but it‘s so awkward for them, to be called by the same nick names, or cute names, when they are grown up.
I have so many examples in the family, who hate to be called by the same names, given to them, by their parents, or uncles, or aunts, or grannies.
The cute baby names sound lovely, when the child is smaller, and should be dropped, once they grow up.
Name change, legal process, source: You tube
Have you ever felt embarrassed, about your name?
Zodiac sign names, Source: YouTube
What’s in a name, doesn’t seem to be the correct phrase. There is a lot in a name.
Someone had said once, "What's in a name?”
Well, a lot!
- It‘s a matter of great pride and pleasure, for the parents, to choose a name for their baby. Therefore, give proper thought to all these recommendations, before naming your child.
- Like you are proud of your child, he or she should be proud, and not embarrassed of the name given to him or her by the parents. Because name is the most important for your identity, for your lifetime, and even after.
- When the child grows up, and somehow he or she is not happy about the name----change it!
- It‘s allowed in every country, and every religion. You just have to follow the simple legal process.
- There is a practice to keep the names of the children, after consulting the Astrologers or Numerologists. This is just to ensure a healthy, happy and prosperous life, of the child, when he or she grows up.
How to change your name legally in India, source: You tube
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2014 Chitrangada Sharan