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5 Things You Should Never Say to Your Children
Think About What You are About to Say
Our Kids Can Push Our Buttons
I know that everyone gets stressed from time to time and being a good parent can be quite difficult. All of us have said things that we wish we had not. Our children are precious gifts from God, but they can “push our buttons” sometimes. The parents that care enough to take the time to read this are never going to say some of the horrible things we’ve heard some parents say, but here are my top 5 things you should never say to your children.
#1. I am Going to Leave Without You!
This one has to be my pet peeve. I hear parents say this quite often. When you are ready to leave and your child is not, you tell them you are going to leave without them to make them mind. Imagine being 2 or 3 years old. The world is still a big and scary place. You are telling your child that you, their parent and protector, are going to leave them all alone in this stranger filled place. Do you really think this is a good thing to do? Make you child mind by disciplining them, not by scaring them to death!
#2. Just Wait Until Your Daddy Gets Home
Wait until your daddy gets home. Why? What are you, chopped liver? You are basically telling your child that you do not have the power to discipline them. You just took away your own authority. When a child misbehaves, the discipline should happen right away. If you wait until daddy gets home, the child may have even forgotten what they did wrong. Not only that, but you just made daddy the “bad guy”. Now, every day when daddy gets home, they are going to wonder if they are going to get in trouble for something.
#3. Because I Said So
This used to drive me crazy when I was a child. My mom would say it all the time. When I would ask why I couldn't do something my mom would simply say because I said so. If I were to ask again, my dad would say not to argue with my mother. I didn't mean to argue, I just wanted to understand why. Take the time to explain to your child why you made the decision you did. Once they understand why, there should be no reason for asking again. Plus, they are missing out on a learning experience.
#4. I Don't Care
Really? You don’t care about what they are saying to you? That is what your children think when you say this. Your children believe what you tell them. I know that when we say this, we don’t really mean it, but your children don’t know that. If you are busy, tell them you can’t talk about it right now and you will talk to them about it just as soon as you can. Don’t tell the you don’t care.
#5. Leave Me Alone
Maybe you have had a bad day and you are trying to cook dinner or study and your child wants your attention. Saying, “Leave me alone”, is just like taking your hands and pushing your child away. It can be very hurtful. Explain to them that what you are doing is important and you need to finish what you are doing before you start something else.
Have you ever said any of these things to your kids?
Be Thoughtful to Your Children
We know we have heard other things said by parents that are absolutely shocking and that we would never say! “I hate you”, “I wish you were never born”, or “Why are you so stupid”, anyone who can really say these things to their children, doesn’t need to have children. Be thoughtful to your children and just think about what you are about to say, before you say it.
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