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50 Reasons to Thank Mother
Have you ever taken the time to reflect on how good a woman your mother has been, and concluded that you haven’t thanked her enough for the many ways she has been good to you?
This has been happening to me lately, so I allowed the Thanksgiving breezes to blow through my psyche and bring some details to the surface. Here are fifty reasons, among others, that landed in a list on my page.
Knowing that some of my reasons to thank my mother will remind you of some reasons to thank yours, I invite you to read with your pen in hand and your notebook before you; you can make your list at the same time you read mine, and soon you will have documented a precious list of reasons to thank your mother.
Gifts She Gave Me
"All that I am ... I owe to my angel mother." - Abraham Lincoln
My mother was not talkative during my childhood. She never told me, but I knew she loved me because of the precious gifts she gave me, and I thank her.
- (1) The gift of life;
- (2) Adequate care and comfort in less than ideal circumstances;
- (3) Good food;
- (4) Appropriate girlish attire;
- (5) Makeshift toys;
- (6) The habit of worship—singing, praying, Bible reading;
- (7) Health checkups;
- (8) School all the way to completion;
- (9) Bus fare always;
- (10) Books to read;
- (11) Necessities she bought for me when she could not afford to buy for both of us;
- (12) Daily chores which fed my sense of responsibility;
- (13) Safe surroundings;
- (14) Investments of time and money toward making my life better and easier than hers;
- (15) Protection (never leaving our island till I was old enough to leave home);
- (16) Altogether, a happy childhood free from abuse and adult concerns.
Values She Taught Me
Spending Time Together
Funny how grateful we become for the values we've been taught when it's our turn to teach them to our children! We stop taking them for granted.
- (17) Hard work and independence for which my mother was my first model;
- (18) Respect for her, for myself, for everyone else and for God;
- (19) Appreciation for family, especially on my father’s side;
- (20) Good manners (courtesy);
- (21) Personal hygiene;
- (22) House cleanliness despite its size, and the quality of furniture and furnishings;
- (23) Responsibility to share, especially with family members who had more needs than we had;
- (24) Punctuality, which sometimes require setting out clothes and other necessities the night before the event;
- (25) Gratitude—writing thank you letters for gifts;
- (26) Excellence in knowing and reciting my poems;
- (27) Resource management (like washing my white school socks on Friday night to make them ready for church the next day);
- (28) Commitment to show up, barring illness, when and where duty calls;
- (29) Wisdom, allowing her mother’s input in raising me;
- (30) Kindness; (Once a week, every summer of high school vacation, she had me visit a certain neighbor to find out what I could do to help her and the children.)
- (31) Loyalty, reminding me not to buy from the city stores what I could buy from the neighborhood store;
- (32) Contentment, being happy with who I am and what I have.
Privileges She Denied Me
- Overprotective Parenting – Some Of Its Side Effects
Some over protective parents tend to restrict the teenager's independence and also feel justified in doing . . . However, parents must realize that overprotective parenting has certain side effects.
My mother's parenting during my teenage years may be considered over-protective by some standards. Still, when I see the self-defeating habits which some young people display today, I thank my mother for being the best parent she knew how to be.
Anyone could tell from the following scenarios that she had good intentions; and in retrospect, I have no complaints.
- (33) After watching me playing with a male neighborhood friend (both of us preteen) who chased me and grabbed me in his arms, she told me never to let anyone play with me like that again.
- (34) Another boy visited often to exchange books we both loved to read. She advised me not to allow him in the house when I was home alone.
- (35) I would have loved to run through the sugar cane field with my friends after school; she convinced me that I would get cuts and bruises.
"Best Mother" Poll
Have you ever referred to your mother as the best mother in the world?
- (36) I bought four fashionable pairs of shoes at a great discount; she made me return them. “Don’t take more than you need,” she told me.
- (37) I bought a slinky, straight forest green dress which I thought looked good on me. “Too revealing,” she decided. I never ever got to display that sexy look.
- (38) She denied me the right to relax for the entire summer vacation. She had me become an apprentice to a seamstress.
- (39) She never gave me the freedom to go where I wanted with whom I wanted, without submitting the details. This unreasonable restriction continued for as long as I lived with her.
- (40) The greatest privilege I think she denied me was the right to argue my point when we had different opinions. I didn't even know I had that right.
Legacies She Established
In My Mother's Yard at Christmas
My mother has established several beginnings on which I now build. In some instances, life would be difficult without these foundations. They are all legacies of love and I thank my mother.
- (41) Whenever I do repairs or improvements on the house we live in, I give thanks to be able build on what my sensible, responsible mother started.
- (42) Whenever someone reminds of how beautifully my mother kept her house and yard, I am motivated to repeat her performance.
- (43) After being away for more than half of my life, my mother’s church affiliation and her good citizenship record influence the kind acceptance I enjoy on my return to the neighborhood. Most people only know me as her daughter.
- (44) In my youth, my mother sent me to deliver Christmas dinners to her elderly aunts on Christmas Day; last Christmas several cousins delivered dinners to our house.
- (45) Occasionally, I call my children to remind them that I am praying for them; my mother reminded me in her letters.
Opportunities She Still Offers
There are Many Hats to Inherit
My mother is now in her 80s and diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. Our mother-daughter dance continues with some unique opportunities for me.
- (46) The honor of giving personal care to the one who cared for me;
- (47) The chance to develop the kindness, patience and compassion with which she cared for her mother;
- (48) Witnessing the value of some basic long-term habits like seeing her never forget to wash her hands and say her grace before meals;
- (49) Becoming her advocate, and looking after her interest, the way she once did for me;
- (50) The chance to express my love and thanks like I should have been doing all along.
These fifty reasons may provide conversation for fifty nights—one reason at a time.
© 2015 Dora Isaac Weithers