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7 Facebook Rules Every Parent Needs to Follow
Facebook Rules for Parents
Our kids live in a digital world and more and more parents find themselves online, in the Facebook world, with their teens or preteens- heck I’ve seen them even younger on Facebook.We are now communicating with our children and sometimes, even their friends, on a day to day basis via Facebook.This is something I didn’t even know would be possible when I was a kid...we were just starting to explore the whole internet itself.Things sure have changed.Facebook is a big social party and everyone is invited no matter what your age is.It’s important that as parents, we lead by example. There are ways that I expect my children to behave on Facebook, so as a parent I’m obligated to do the same.
7 Facebook Rules for Parents
1.Don’t post embarrassing moments about your child.Even if they don’t have a Facebook account, it can be really embarrassing for a child to go to school and find out their friends know about their personal, embarrassing moments.Can you imagine when you were in school and walking into class only to find out Johnny’s mom had slipped and told him that you had ‘wet the bed’ over the weekend.It can be mortifying for children to have these moments shared on the internet. Even if you are looking for parental advice, go somewhere more private, or message a personal friend.Don’t post it on Facebook.
2.Be mature. I’ve seen many parents blast or mock other people on Facebook.This is a big "No No!".As a parent we try to teach our kids that bullying and harassing are never okay, but everyday adults do it to each other on Facebook.Lead by example, if you have a conflict with someone keep it off of Facebook.
3.Never post anything negative about one of your child’s friends or enemies.This is the internet and no matter how safe you think your Facebook is, you aren’t being a protective parent by posting negative things about children, no matter what the case.If your child has a problem with another child you need to take the right steps through the school or by talking to the other parent, but don’t post it on Facebook, This is not only negative and detrimental to your child but can get you in trouble as well.
4.Bragging is good but can also be seen as embarrassing to your child. Keep it classy by posting accomplishments with pride and maturity.
5.Always be aware that your child is watching. If your child has a Facebook account, especially make sure that you only post things that are appropriate for your child’s eyes and ears.Family decisions and family turmoil don’t need to be up on Facebook for the world and your child to see.If you are having trouble at home, such as with your spouse or another family member, Facebook is not the place to chat out your problems.Your child doesn’t need to find out that dad and mom are having marital problems via the internet, so be careful what you post.
6.Watch what your friends post as well. Make sure that the people you have on your friends list are well aware that you are a parent and your child may likely see what they post on your wall.If you aren’t completely sure that all your friends will be careful what they post on your wall, then make sure you have your privacy settings fixed so that you can first review what is posted on your wall before you let the world see it.
7.Don’t discipline on Facebook. If your child is in trouble, talk to them, don’t write on their Facebook wall that they are grounded.Keep the discipline between you and them.A parent/child relationship is a sacred bond and although Facebook is a fun social place, the most important part of your relationship is sacred and should be built and nurtured on at home, not for the public to see at all times.Think of Facebook like a reality TV show, capturing all of your special moments and embarrassing times for the world to see and judge, not always that fun.So make sure you, as a parent, follow certain rules to make your relationship and your child feel secure and private.
Teach Your Kids
Facebook has integrated many different ways that we have to be examples for our kids.It’s important we, as parents, are aware of this on a daily basis and use this to our advantage by teaching our kids to enjoy the digital world, while also being respectful and kind to the people in it! Happy Facebooking!