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9 Reasons to be a Stay at Home Mom

Updated on April 22, 2015

Decisions Decisions!

Hello controversy! I know so many moms and families that struggle with the decision whether or not to stay home with their children. It isn't a black and white decision...there are so many factors that play into this decision. Can your family afford it? Are you willing to give up your career? Are you sacrificing your independence? Identity?

For me this decision was agonizing, but ultimately I decided if I was blessed enough to have the decision I would chose to stay at home with my children.


Reasons to Stay at Home

For those of us blessed with the option to stay at home, I say ‘stay at home’ and here is why.

1. You aren't always in a hurry. Even though things can get hectic and crazy at times, I don’t feel rushed into insanity, while I am a stay at home mom. When I was a working mom I always felt behind, and now I feel like even though I may not always be ‘caught up’ I can actually take a breath and enjoy moments without worrying about the workday ahead of me.

2. I love my 'job’. I feel so lucky that just being there for my kids is part of my ‘job’. That I get to count crayons, make play-dough and get sticky and messy with my kids. Although this part of my job can become monotonous, and sometimes I feel like my brain is going to turn into Jell-O, I also feel that we are building memories together and a strong family foundation that cannot be replaced.

3. I get to pick my kids up from school, or at least be the first person they talk to about their day. Most kids only say it once, well at least willingly, how their day went. I love being the person to hear all about it. Not only does it help me feel more connected to my children, but I can also hear about any problems they may have had during the day and I can help them try to solve them.

4. It’s not a huge emergency if one of my kids doesn't feel well. I don’t feel the pressure of work when my kids are sick, which is a huge reason I am at home with them now. My son has asthma and he has had more than one scary encounter with this illness. My husband and I both had to miss many days of work when he was ill and there were even times he had to stay with someone else (which tore me apart). Being able to focus on my kids and their needs, sick or not, is something I feel more in control of as a ‘stay at home mom.’

5. Having time for my marriage. My husband at I were like ships passing in the night when I was working. We barely had time to have a conversation in person, most of them took place on lunch hours or on quick breaks at work. Staying at home has helped me reconnect with my husband and nurture my marriage.

6. Going to the grocery store, having coffee with a friend, and exercising are all things I actually enjoy instead of rushing through (well sometimes the exercise is pushing it). But the point being, I get to stop and ‘smell the roses’. The life of a working mom is sometimes so crazy busy that those important moments pass you by too quickly and the true enjoyment of being a mother is often forgotten.

7. Raising my kids my way. My kids have the rules and rewards that my husband and I decide on. I feel like we are more in control of what they learn and who they learn it with. When I was working I had a great group of friends and family that helped to watch my kids, and even though I know they are wonderful, I wanted to be the one to teach my kids how to behave, and when they had questions I wanted them to be able to turn to me more often than not.

8. Not eating on the go. I have time to cook healthy meals and teach my children to choose healthy foods even if they take a little longer to prepare.

9. The kids can now join more activities if they choose. When I was working it was so hard to keep my daughter in dance and girl scouts that I dreaded the day my son became old enough to want to do extracurricular activities. Now that I am no longer working, I look forward to the day he can play sports or do whatever activity he chooses. I can’t wait to watch him excel in his interests and look in the stands to see his mommy right there cheering him on.

If you have the option take it....

At the end of the day, if given the choice, stay at home. Before I left my job my boss said to me "you will never look back and say "I spent too much time raising my family." He was very right. However, I do want to acknowledge that I have friends that work and they are wonderful mothers, and they do what works best for their family. It is ultimately up to each family to decide what is right for them. I have finally found what is right for us and we have never been happier.


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      Denise W Anderson 

      4 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      This is a great overview of the kind of things a person has to consider when deciding to work or stay home with their children. We came to that crossroads many times while our children were young. Even though finances were tight, when we weighed our options, they were heavily in favor or me staying at home due to all of the expenses we "wouldn't" have! The benefit of being the first line teacher weighed the heaviest in the balance, however. I have never regretted my decision to be a stay-at-home mom!


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