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Blame-An Addicts Best Friend
The first step in my recovery is taking responsibility for my actions
The Power-Who Has It?
I heard a comment on tv today and it got my attention.The comment came after a question. The question was..Will you change? The responce was...I'm not going to change, no body did it for me. There are some things that raced through my mind that I would like to share with anyone who is dealing with addiction. Whether it has to do with alcohol or drugs. They both consume us as we consume them. This is quite interesting and in my opinion ...worth the read.
These are the questions I have about this comment......What does anyone have to do with you changing? You mean they determine who you are? Who you can be? They control your destiny? Your life? WOW! That means, everything you do is for them/because of them. Not you...THEM. You are choosing to get back at them by giving them All the Power in/and over Your Life! WOW again!!! I would never allow anyone to have that kind of control over me. No Way!
So maybe you feel you are hurting them by your actions or in-actions. Who's actually getting the short end of the stick? YOU! You are the one who's going to pay the ultimate price. The price they pay will never be equal to your consequences. You are taking someone else down with you and the sad part of it all is that it doesn't change anything. You have chosen your destination and only you.
So I don't see a win win situation here. No body wins. No body comes out a winner and you may lose your life in the process. Sound promising? Selfishness, anger and revenge will get you nowhere except on a one way ticket to....
If you have children, who do they blame when your gone? What are they going to say about you (their Mom/Dad)? Will they say how proud they were of you? How wonderful of a parent you were? Or.....Do they have to live with Your Choices?. What will they carry throughout their lifetime?
YOU need to make this end or it never will. FACT! YOU hold the power and the outcome. No body else does or ever will. You can either give hope or leave everyone else without it. Hope for life and for the ones who want you in it. Your choice. No one can have hope if you decide you have none to give. So whats it gonna be???
I have a 3 part series on alcoholism. Even if your a drug addict your still addicted, so if your ready to face the harsh truth about your behavior and the effects your addiction is having on others then I would start here. There's no better time than NOW. Before it's too late. God only know...This may be the last chance you will ever have. With God's help, you can be on your way to recovery. God Bless You!
Part one, two and three
Here are two hubs on Forgiveness "How To Truly Forgive and We Are Forgiven.