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A Fleeting Gift

Updated on March 24, 2012
A mother's "Gift"
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"Gift"

She was long overdue. Jendyose (alias that means "I have done well to produce a child") had lived the nightmare at least four times before. She had conceived. She had felt the child move in her womb. Then the child had died within her. She felt that she was a failure, a non-person in her society, where womanhood was defined by giving birth. She was mocked by the ladies in her village and scorned by her in-laws. This time would be different.

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She Reached Out and Grasped her Tiny Hand

Jendyose went to the hospital. She had a cervical suture put in place to help keep the child in the womb. She prayed that all would go well and waited. About 26 weeks along she started feeling contractions and she was transported to the hospital. The cervical suture was removed and after a very careful delivery her baby was born. Jendyose named her Gift. Her heart soared. She touched her tiny daughter's hand. In a small village her beloved daughter was placed in a six bed neonatal intensive care unit, her mother at her side.

Gift did quite well for about Four Days

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Jendyose was a devoted mother. She sat for long hours at her daughter's side. The doctor and nurses did what they could. She was given oxygen and I.V.'s and medications. A nurse monitered her vital signs and oxygen saturation. We watched and prayed.

A Fleeting Gift
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A mother's Love, A Father's Fleeting Gift

Around day five I could sense that Jendyose was distancing herself from the child. She knew the inevitable. As a nurse, I knew that there was little that was going to be done physically for her child so decided to minister to her mom spiritually. I shared that her daughter was a very special gift that God had sent into her life to let her experience the joy of being a mother and that this time would be short. She needed to touch and feel the things that a mother touched, to know that joy in her heart while her child was with her. God had allowed her to be validated as a woman in her community. She had a child. Their relationship might be fleeting on this earth, but they would meet again someday. Jendyose went back to her child and loved her to the end. They only had 5 or 6 days as mother and daughter, but it was a special time. She watched as the life drained from her little one and our hearts broke to see the pain. But this pain was not empty as with her other children who had died in the womb. This time she was a mother who touched and felt and experienced her child. I pray that she will some day be able to have a life-long relationship with her own child.

The following is a prayer that I wrote for a child with an incurable heart problem in my first year as a nurse in the neonatal intensive care nursery. It expresses the same poignancy that I felt when Gift died.

PRAYER

O God, my heart cries for this little child of yours,

this little wisp of life so soon snuffed out.

Only an hour or so he was with us,

but life was so precious for the moment.


I couldn't stand to see his bruised body

lying there on a start white bed,

so I rocked him Lord.


We rocked as his heart rate fell

and his life dwindled.

It was hard to see, Lord, and I cried.


He is with you now, Lord.

Care for him with more tender hands

than those who cared for him here.


Love him for me, Lord. Amen LBJ 1976

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thanks Ruth. I thank you for your kind comment. Lenzy

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      ruth 5 years ago

      great and touching. wonderfull hub

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thank you Laurel. It was a difficult subject but one that I don't believe gets much coverage. I'm glad you appreciated it. Lenzy

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thank you Horatio. I wrote the poem out of a feeling of desperation when I felt that there was nothing I could do as a nurse to help in the situation but care for the child as the mother would have had she been there.

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      KoffeeKlatch Gals. Thank you for the sweet words regarding my hub. Simply relaying the reality of an intensely emotional experience can be powerful. I'm pleased that you appreciated my ability to convey it. Lenzy

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thank you, Dr. Bartram. I'm glad you liked it. I appreciate you taking the time to read it. Lenzy

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      Laurel Brunvoll 5 years ago

      Beautiful article! Thank you for sharing such a difficult subject with such sensitivity and compassion.

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      Horatio Plot 5 years ago from Bedfordshire, England.

      What a moving piece of writing. Love the poem. Congrats on the nomination.

      Horatio

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      Susan Haze 5 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Very powerful and moving hub. You brought me to tears. Up, beautiful and awesome.

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      drbartram 5 years ago

      A moving article. I loved it.

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thank you ripplemaker for the thoughtful comments. This was a hub that I had to write to celebrate the fleeting moments of a mother and daughter's special relationship as well as the love of a heavenly father whose ways are sometimes beyond my own understanding. Thanks. Lenzy

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      Michelle Simtoco 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      I am teary eyed and my heart is full. Love shared in such a powerful way is such an inspiration. Thank you so much. Love and light...

      Congratulations on your Hubnuggets nomination. To read all about it and vote, this way please https://hubpages.com/community/The-Good-the-Bad-an... Best of luck!

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thank you bdegiulio. I appreciate the support.

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      Bill De Giulio 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Lenzy, you got my vote. Best of luck.

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Please feel free to link to this hub. It is a time that always touches my own heart which was broken for this woman. As a nurse, physical healing was so desired and prayed for, but spiritual healing was essential in her life and mine.

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      Donaisabella 5 years ago from Fort Myers

      I cried Lenzy. I would like to link this to a hub I wrote about preemies and their families. So sad for the poor mother and baby. Thanks for sharing.

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thank you for your encouragement. It was a special time, a tender time that I will never forget.

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      breathe2travel 5 years ago from Gulf Coast, USA

      What beautiful encouragement given to the mother. Had she not loved her child fully, she would have lived with regret. Your words stirred her to embrace her time with her child, to glean joy from every moment. She will ever be grateful for those days.

      What a sad account of loss.

      Up & beautiful.

      Warmest regards~

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      I was involved in a missions clinical month in Uganda for my nurse practitioner program at Baylor. We also spent three years in Uganda, but this was after we left as missionaries there. Thank you for your thoughtful comments.

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      Bill De Giulio 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Lenzy, What a touching, yet heartbreaking story. Where did you experience this? Was it on your trip to Africa?

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      Lenzy 5 years ago from Arlington, Texas

      Thank you Nasus. I was a moving experience for me. I believe that we too often forget to try to meet the spiritual needs of our patients, which may be the most important.

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      nasus loops 5 years ago from Fenland

      This is a wonderful hub. So moving and shows that even the most brief time together can be the most powerful.

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