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An Adopted Child Writes A Letter: To My Birth Mother Who I Never Knew

Updated on March 12, 2014
The adopted child sixty-three years later
The adopted child sixty-three years later
The author and his adopted family.
The author and his adopted family.

Setting the Stage

I was born on October 13, 1948. It was a Wednesday at 2:10 p.m. that I entered this world. Two days earlier the Cleveland Indians had defeated the Boston Braves to win the World Series four games to two. Three days earlier the Soviets had launched the first successful missile to reach space. Seven days earlier an earthquake in Ashgabat killed over 110,000 people. In nineteen days Harry S. Truman would defeat Thomas Dewey in the Presidential election despite newspapers claiming that he had lost.

The world continued doing what it does on October 13, 1948. Millions of kids headed off to school, parents headed off to work, the sun shone (my fantasy), the weather weathered and I was put up for adoption. I would spend the next nine months in eight different foster homes; by the end of June, 1949 I was undernourished, under-nurtured and blind when I was adopted by Evelyn and Dale Holland in Tacoma, Washington. Two weeks after the adoption I gained my sight. The rest, as they say, is history.




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My Letter to My Mother

Dear Mother (Who I Never Knew):

I thought I would take a few minutes and tell you about the son you gave birth to; since chances are great that you will never read this I guess this letter is more for me than you, a cleansing of sorts to put things in perspective and bring some closure.

I was adopted nine months after you gave birth by Evelyn and Dale Holland of Tacoma, Washington. They were in their twenties when they adopted a blind child who had been bounced around from one foster home to another, eight times in fact, and they gave me a home and a loving environment in which to grow and thrive. Sure they had their problems; what young couple doesn’t? There was never a moment, however, during my upbringing when I doubted their love for me. They both worked hard and did everything in their power to provide a loving home. They pampered me, as most parents will, and they made sure that I attended the best schools that they could afford, often going without so that I would have the tools and opportunities to succeed. They are both dead now; dad died of a heart attack when I was twenty and mom died of cancer in 2003 and I miss them both greatly. The lessons they taught me and their words still live on today and I find myself recalling those words and lessons and I smile. Like most kids I often turned a deaf ear when they tried to teach me something but in the end the lessons stuck and have guided me throughout my life.

I had a good childhood. I was small for my age but finally grew to a fairly normal size. I was a happy child with good friends and a great neighborhood to explore and a safe environment that fostered learning and love. I was sickly as a child, seemingly catching every flu and cold bug but I managed to avoid the horrible diseases that so many caught during the Fifties and Sixties.

Once I had traversed the landscape of childhood my body grew strong and impervious to any disease so that today I look back and marvel at the body you gave me. I am sixty-three now and have been blessed with a body that seems to know no limits or restrictions. I have only been to the hospital once, for a back operation, and considering what I put my body through over the years it is nothing short of a miracle that it continues to function as well as it does.


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Tough times, Mom

I have made mistakes along the way, Mom. I have been divorced twice and tripped and stumbled often as I found my way through life. When times got tough and I ran out of answers I turned to alcohol and I fought that disease for decades. I am happy to report that I have now been sober for five years and I am the happiest that I have ever been. I have a twenty-seven year old son, Tyler, who is a great kid and I love him very much. I am engaged to the most wonderful woman (Bev) who has shown me more about love in the past four years than I ever knew in all the years prior.

I was a school teacher for eighteen years; I have always loved children and it turned out I had a special talent in a classroom, a real passion to pass on knowledge to my students. Besides teaching I have had twenty other jobs to put bread on the table and each job taught me something about life and responsibility. Today I write full time and I have found the same passion for writing that I once had for teaching.

I have never tried to find you, Mom, as so many adopted kids do. I decided a long time ago that you had your reasons for placing me with an adoption agency and that I respect those reasons, whatever they may be. It is not for me to judge you; you did what you thought was right at the time and I can never know why you made that decision because I wasn’t there and I am not you. There is no blame in this letter. I was adopted by two people who loved me and gave me the best upbringing a boy could ask for; to blame you when I was given everything I needed by my adopted parents would be silly of me.


Your son today
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I love you

I guess I wanted you to know that I love you and I wanted to thank you. You so easily could have opted for an abortion. It certainly was not unheard of back in 1948; there were ways to have it arranged and in many ways it would have been the easy solution for you. Instead you carried me for nine months and then endured the physical pain of giving birth and the emotional and psychological pain of giving your son away and I know without any doubt that you must have suffered greatly in doing so.

So I thank you, Mom; you gave me birth and in doing that you gave me a chance, and sixty-three years later that boy you gave life to is a happy and fulfilled man who is surrounded by love. That is an incredible gift, Mom, and I will forever love you for that gift.

I hope you are alive and well; if not I hope you had a good life, a loving life, a life filled with wonder, in short the same kind of life you gave me.

Love always,

Bill

Author's note

This was written a year ago. I still have not tried to find my biological mother, but my son, who is also adopted, did find his birth mother six months ago and it was a lovely reunion. They are now getting to know each other and making up for lost time.

I will forever be grateful to my birth mother for giving me the greatest gift she could have given me.....LIFE!

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

"Helping writers to spread their wings and fly."

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      Bill Holland 11 days ago from Olympia, WA

      Aww, thank you Nicole!

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      Nicole Kiddie Granath 12 days ago

      Yes, I suppose it was meant to turn out the way it did. Your positive outlook and focusing on goodness and truth in it all is a blessing!

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      Bill Holland 12 days ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you N Kiddie! I actually did the Ancestry thing, but didn't come up with much...a possible first cousin, but no one aware of my adoption or who the mother would be....any possibles are dead. Oh well, life is good!

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      Nicole Kiddie Granath 13 days ago

      That was a beautiful letter that you wrote to your birth mom. This topic is of great interest to me because my husband was adopted at birth. He met his birth mother several times; I met her once. They lost contact, which was not his choice. He has two wonderful and loving parents in his adoptive parents (my in-laws). Just recently, he did a DNA test on Ancestry.com and actually had the amazing blessing of learning who his birth dad is. Prior to this, he had no idea. Now they are talking back and forth, but have not met in person yet. Maybe someday they will. We are still amazed that he was actually able to find his birth dad after all these years, at the age of 30 years old (he asked for the Ancestry.com kit for his 30th birthday). Adoption is such a wonderful thing. I love your positive outlook and how you thank your birth mom for giving you life. I hope you will be able to find her someday, if it's meant to be. Perhaps check out that DNA kit on Ancestry.com if you want. You might be surprised who you find. Best wishes.

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      Bill Holland 3 weeks ago from Olympia, WA

      Sending you hugs, Keystan! You did what you felt was best for your child, and I respect that. In time the pain will lessen. I wish you nothing but happiness, as well as for your son.

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      Keystan gail davis 3 weeks ago

      As a birth mom who recently placed my 4 month old son for adoption, due to unstable environment, wanting best for my baby, I placed him. Having bonded with my baby boy!, I'm struggling everyday with a, broken heart and Bill your story touched my heart! I'm fact i cried reading it. I hope one day I reunite with my son. He's all I think about! I cry so much. I didn't know I had this much tears. My life is not the same. The adoption forever altered my very being. Your letter gave me hope that I will see him again so thank you so much. Your a great writer!

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Natalie! It is cathartic for sure. I remember shedding a tear or two when I wrote that.

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      Natalie Frank 2 months ago from Chicago, IL

      An amazingly touching piece especially for those of us who are adopted. I think it's incredibly cathartic to write such a letter even if you never do look for your birth mother. Thank you for having the courage to share it with us.

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      You are very welcome, Shannon. :)

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      shanmarie 2 months ago

      It isn't a story I typically share because it's usually irrelevant. But reading your story reminded me of how it's a story that's really all too common. I know of others like you who chose not to search. I'm sure it is an intensely personal decision. Luckily for your fans and family too, you are alive to share yours. So I thank you.

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      Bill Holland 2 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Shannon, thank you so much for sharing so much of your family's story. The foster system, although well-intentioned, is grossly underfunded and understaffed,and the kids are the ones who will suffer with that formula. I simply won the lottery and got out sane and unharmed...it could have easily gone the other way.

      Thank you so much for reading and for your kind words.

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      shanmarie 2 months ago

      I did know you were adopted and actually don't know how I ended up on this hub. I thought I was clocking on the latest chapter of The Great Unknown. Although I am not adopted, this article touches my heartstrings on a personal level.

      My grandmother went nearly her entire life not knowing who her biological father was. She was adopted and raised by a man who married her mother when she was still an infant. But the man I knew as my great-grandpa was not biologically related and her mother took the secret of who was to her grave. That secret ate at my grandma and a decade or so ago she started trying to find out more information. A couple years ago she finally discovered who he was and that she has at least one half-sister. I can't imagine being in my late 60s and early 70s finding out about siblings I never knew existed. Thanks to one of her other sisters who flew her out to meet her long lost relatives, she can say they have met. Of course, her dad is gone, though.

      Also, my brother is adopted. His biological mother is my mother's cousin. She stayed off and on with us while she was pregnant and essentially abandoned him with us. My parents decided the best for him was to adopt him. He always knew he was adopted and questions answered as they naturally arose. As an adult, he has had a relationship with his biological mother.

      My husband spent time in foster care and some of his sister's were adopted. From what I hear about the foster system, I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

      And that's why I feel so strongly that his granddaughter belongs with her family and not in foster care or way off with people deemed family who never knew the baby's mother or anyone else in the family. There are questions that will arise that only family can answer. Money can only buy so much And live is priceless, but it can't replace thrive of actual family. I have seriously began to wonder whether CPS and the foster system are truly about family or in it for the money.

      Thanks for sharing your story. So many people can either relate directly or through knowing others. I've always enjoyed your work. I hope you continue with your passion for writing. I'll be looking for more of your work on Amazon.

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      Bill Holland 9 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Bodylevive, welcome back to HP. Thank you for your kind words. I hope you do, one day, write about that story you mentioned.

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      BODYLEVIVE 9 months ago from Alabama, USA

      Wow! What a tender story, I feel ya. Beautifully written. I know someone who was raised by a family member but really wanted nothing to do with the birth mother because the birth mother gave the child up shortly after birth simply because she didn't want the responsibility of raising a child. One day I'll write about that.

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      Bill Holland 11 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Happy Thanksgiving to you, PS, and that wonderful family of yours.

      love and hugs heading your way

      bill

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      Patricia Scott 11 months ago from sunny Florida

      hi bill

      just stopping by to wish you and Deb and all of your family a blessed and Happy Thanksgiving ....love ps

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      Bill Holland 13 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Charu, thank you so much for your kind words. Yes, I have closure, and I am happy....and I'm so happy you found value in this. Blessings to you always.

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      Charu Bhatnagar 13 months ago from India

      OMG Bill, first of all Thank you for sharing this with us, with all. I hope by doing so, you found your desired closure. You are a fantastic, inspirational writer that I know. But this Hub since the first line I started to read was no doubt different. This was so much more than a hub, a letter or an autobiographical story. The words and feelings in here are evident of it. I am glad I found this hub. Once again thanks.

      P.S.: I The positivism and feeling of gratitude, in here is a lesson I will try and never forget.

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      Bill Holland 16 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Boomer! I surely do appreciate your kind words.

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      Boomer Music Man 16 months ago

      I just love your article. It's so nicely written. Kudos

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      Bill Holland 22 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Rabadi! I appreciate your kind words.

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      22 months ago from New York

      Beautiful letter, Bill this is very touching! You have a gift and I can't wait to pass it along to others. I am following you :)

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      Bill Holland 23 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Bill, you are very kind. This is the hub that really got the ball rolling for me....the response from the writing community was incredible....so I'm glad you found it and I'm glad L'amour had you in the right frame of mind before reading this. :) Thank you my friend...so very much.

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      Bill Russo 23 months ago from Cape Cod

      Gee Bill, I am trying to read this article but the allergies are kicking up real bad today. My eyes are watery and it's making it hard to see the printing on the screen. Well it could be Louis L'amour's fault. For the last couple hours I have been engrossed in "Reilly's Luck" which is a yarn about a four year old boy abandoned by his mother and adopted by a poet/gunman/gambler named Will Reilly. I am not admitting anything but it just could be that this old heart was affected a bit by chapter 10 when the gambler is killed in ambush by three men with shotguns, leaving the boy alone again at the age of 14. Seriously Bill, it's a bit of an interesting co-incidence that I put the book down when I did and found this hub right afterwards. The watery eyes? It was you and not Mr. L'Amour - though I do admire his work. Your piece was informative, pensive, and not in the least maudlin. I always take away a valuable lesson from your work, though you never preach. I think that quality is one of the many reasons for your well deserved success. Thanks for writing.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you ladyguitarpicker...that's a nice way to look at it.

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      stella vadakin 2 years ago from 3460NW 50 St Bell, Fl32619

      This was a great story. You were lucky you had 2 good mothers. I would always tell a child if he was adopted, it just makes him or her more special.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Charito! I'm glad this touched you. That's what I hope my writing does to those who read it.

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      Charito Maranan-Montecillo 2 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      Reading your letter brought a tear to my eye, Bill.

      I'm a mother (now a widow) with a grown-up son. Even if I had more kids, I would never give them up for adoption, no matter how poor I was.

      And if I did adopt a child, I would never tell him about it.

      Anyway, I'm happy you had the strength to thank your biological mom. She had the heart to let you live.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      and thank you again, Sujaya!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Sujaya!

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      sujaya venkatesh 2 years ago

      very touching Bill

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      sujaya venkatesh 2 years ago

      very touching Bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Bobby! I greatly appreciate your kind words, my friend. Have a superb week of writing and living.

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      Robert Morgan 2 years ago from Hutchinson Island, FL - Myrtle Beach, SC - Scottsdale AZ

      Hello, Bill, another amazing hub. You have overcome many challenges and all I can say is I'm glad they happened, because now we have you, as you are. I got caught up on yours a Bevs Youtube channel, thanks for sharing. Anyway, hope you are having the best day ever. Blessings, Bobby. Voted up of course.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Jelly, and welcome to HP. I appreciate your very kind words. I hope to see much more of you.

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      Jelly Baby 2 years ago from United Kingdom

      Good Morning Billy

      What a lovely tribute to your mother. I'm sure wherever she is, she is proud to have had you. What an interesting life you had and so glad to see that despite your tough beginnings, you made it into a good man. Enjoyed reading this. Very well written. Thanks.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I was very fortunate, Jill. I was born under a lucky star. :) Thanks for reading.

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      Jill Spencer 2 years ago from United States

      You were so fortunate to have landed safely in the arms of a loving couple. I'm not surprised you decided to adopt, too, and pass it on.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Missy, thank you for your very kind words. Courage? I don't know....maybe it will help others. Wouldn't that be a wonder? :)

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      Missy Smith 2 years ago from Florida

      I admire your courage to write this. I am not adopted, but I know a few people who are adopted, and adopted to good parents, and instead of appreciating the love they wanted to share and did share with them, they instead blamed them for loving them basically. It was amazing. So, I feel it is great that you appreciated the loving parents you had.

      I think I loved your film the best. There is no control over anyone but ourselves. It is pointless to try to change others. I can see through how you speak; you were indeed a great teacher. Thanks for sharing! :)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I appreciate it, Payal. Thank you!

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      Payal N Naik 2 years ago from Mumbai

      Very touching!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Reynold, thank you sir! I had a lot of help and guidance along the way.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      From one adoptee to another, thank you, Bobbi!

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      Reynold Jay 2 years ago from Saginaw, Michigan

      I was deeply moved to find out all of this. The main character, Tammy Wurtherington in The Wuthrerintgon Diary was raised by an aunt and never new her mother. It is wonderful that you turned out so well!

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      BobbiRant 2 years ago from New York

      I'm also adopted so I can relate to this great article. I really liked reading this one. Great work.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dana, thank you so much! I love being a writer because it gives me a chance to connect with complete strangers and to find that we are all so very similar. Your comment just reinforced that point. Blessings to you and thank you for your kind words.

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      Dana Tate 2 years ago from LOS ANGELES

      Hello billbuc: I stumbled on this amazing hub and was deeply moved. There are many adopted people who focus on the fact that they were given away by their birth mother instead of understanding there may have been circumstances that caused them to make that decision. Although I don't understand that pain for those who are hurting, I wish them healing and acceptance. The pain I'm sure your birth mother felt brought a joy and blessing to the parents who raised you. The fact that you received your sight two weeks after being adopted- well- all I can say to that is what a beautiful God we serve. Not only were you blessed but you passed on the blessing by adopting a child of your own. Congratulations on your sobriety many of us have struggled with one thing or another but blessed are those who over-come. Last but not least. Your video on acceptance was right on point we exhaust ourselves on worrying about the things we cannot change but must strive to try and change the things we can. This hub was a blessing to read. Thank you for sharing.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Lizzy. I'll take a look.

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      Liz Elias 2 years ago from Oakley, CA

      I found these two sites that nail down your birth day-of-the-week:

      https://www.mathsisfun.com/games/dayofweek.html

      http://www.dayofbirth.net/

      The first is a straightforward calculator that tells you the day of the week after you enter your dates; the second offers a personality trends synopsis. Interesting. ;)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hi Lizzy! Thank you for your kind words. I believe I was born on a Tuesday....not entirely positive on that. Oddly, I'm used to being the youngest in my class...my parents debated holding me back a year....no idea whether they made the right decision. LOL

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      Liz Elias 2 years ago from Oakley, CA

      Wow--so very touching. What a beautiful tribute. You show a great strength of character, and I admire that. I wish you all the best going forward.

      (Interestingly, we were born in the same year; I am 9 months older than you, (unusual for me; I usually find myself being the youngest in a group), having been born in March of 1948, and also on a Wednesday. I wonder if a survey would show writers tending to be born on Wednesdays? ;-) LOL )

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you letstalkabouteduc....you are right, of course. It may be the most unselfish act of them all, and I'm so proud of my birth mother for making her decision.

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      McKenna Meyers 2 years ago from Bend, OR

      It's great that we're finally honoring mothers who give children up for adoption. It's no longer a secretive, shameful act but brave and unselfish. I'm glad you have a wonderful life, Bill, and can share your talents with others.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Aesta, thank you so much for your kind words. This letter was important for me to write...forgiveness is a powerful tool which helps us to build new lives. :)

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      Mary Norton 2 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      If there is one thing I fully appreciate about HP, it is meeting you and reading your hubs which did so much in encouraging me as a person. Reading this, I amazed at how you have become. In a way, you are a birth mother to many aspiring to become writers. I have a friend who adopted 3 kids and gave them the best home a child could ever have. They still have a hankering to meet their real mothers. I will share this with them. Like you, they can write a letter and be healed.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      bio, that is such a personal decision. This is one of those cases where you just have to follow your heart. If it's important to you then do it, but be prepared for a letdown just in case, because more often than not that's what happens. :) Best wishes to you.

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      bio located 2 years ago

      Bill, what about your biological father? I'm adopted and was raised by two wonderful and loving parents. I've always had the burning desire to locate both my birth parents AND I can say today that I've located my birth father just yesterday through a 1st cousin I connected with on a DNA website. I haven't reached out to my bio dad as I haven't found the words to write. What do you say?

      Thx

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Test indeed.

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      TEst

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      Joy56 2 years ago

      Well done mum for giving birth to an amazing person..... I know the decision you made could not have been easy.. If we are ever in paradise.... I know you will meet each other.........Sons are so precious

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh, Liza, thank you. I'm not sure how brave I am to do this. I consider myself pretty lucky. I've heard far too many horror stories about the foster care system, so I think I won the lottery. As far as sharing personal things with you all, I just hope that my experiences can help others. I know you understand that.

      You are a kind human being and I'm glad I know you.

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      Liza Treadwell Esq aka Liza Lugo JD 2 years ago from New York, NY

      Bill, this is absolutely beautiful. I love it. You are indeed blessed. I'm touched that you would share something so very personal with the world; and I'm honored to be among those who now know you in this way. You are a brave man and an inspiration.

      Voted this hub "up," and "beautiful."

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sara, thank you for such a lovely and heartfelt comment. Truly, your words are beautiful and they touched me.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kalinin, I never knew either of them. Thank you for taking the time to read this, and for your warm wishes.

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      Sara Sarwar Riaz 2 years ago from Michigan, USA

      I truly admire the positive and optimistic semblance that you have discovered in this poignant situation. It is quite evident that your adoptive parents inculcated pertinent moral values in your upbringing, to have raised an individual bearing such humility and aplomb. As a mother of a little boy myself, I can only attempt to fathom the plight and mindset of your biological mother when she gave you up for adoption. As you had rightly stated, she could have opted for an abortion but chose to give you life instead. Parting from the child a woman carries and nurtures within her own existence, is the hardest thing she could do… I hope and pray that she found her peace in life as you did. Needless to say, she would be proud of the person you grew up to be, despite the angst and hardships surmounted.

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      Lana ZK 2 years ago from California

      Very moving, Bill. I hope that on some metaphysical soul level your mother heard you, and knows how much you love and still miss her. Did you ever have the same connection to your biological father?

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you amazmerizing. I appreciate your kind words. I have had many years to gain that understanding and maturity...was it always easy? Probably not, but I was never bitter over it. Life has been good for me.

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      amazmerizing 2 years ago from PACIFIC NORTHWEST, USA

      What a lovely story you have and the maturity to understand her situation is not always easy... and seems to be even more difficult for men to understand. I guess thats biological. Great read! Thank you!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Daphne, thanks for sharing your story. The health issue thing is definitely something to consider. All I can assume is that my birth parents were very, very healthy. For that I am grateful.

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      Daphne D. Lewis 2 years ago from Saint Albans, West Virginia

      Being adopted, when I saw this hub, I had to read it. My foster home experience (9 months) was much different than yours, and I think I was somewhat spoiled. It is wonderful that loving parents found you, too. Many years ago I found my birth mother but have never contacted her. Those records were sealed at the time of my adoption and the need to know probably arose more from the fact that I was told I couldn't access them. Due to some recent health issues, I now am considering contacting her in the event that hereditary issues should be known for my daughter. We'll see... Thanks for the post!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Adventure. Tough start? I guess, but not as tough as many, and it all turned out fine. Life is good, my friend.

      Merry Christmas!

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      Giovanna Sanguinetti 2 years ago from Perth UK

      You had a tough start to life Bill and I am very sorry about that. Your letter is very touching - you show that you have a big heart and I hope you find your birth mother. Merry Christmas xx

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      Dr.Anisha.S.K.Deepesh 2 years ago from THIRUVANANTHAPURAM, KERALA ,INDIA

      Bill, its a great hub..I feel so love to your birth mother, for giving such DNAs to you for your endless love and compassion to the whole world..and that attitude of saying "life is not bitter" inspires. Life is beautiful ..Now its more for the reason that i could meet you, your unknown birth mother, your parents...Love to all..I couldn't possibly hold my tears ..Thank you

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, John. I appreciate it.

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      John2332 2 years ago

      Indeed a realy cool letter thank you!

      John / http://gewinn.land

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Besarien, that is very kind of you to say. Thank you so much. I'm sure she did what she felt was necessary. It turned out okay for me, so no complaints on my end.

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      Besarien 2 years ago

      Hi Billybuc! This is a wonderful letter. As a mother to a son, I can not imagine what terrible hardships she must have faced in order to find putting you up for adoption thinkable, never mind her best solution. She would be awestruck by the teacher, the writer, the person you have become.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Michael. I'm all about love and gratitude, my friend.

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      Michael W Smith Jr. 3 years ago from Florida

      Hey Billy,

      Awesome post! I hear your pain and the love that you have found in your heart that has helped you to overcome it. Thank you for this gift.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Ruthie! I can't think of a single reason to be bitter. Life is good.

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      RuthieDenise 3 years ago

      This is very good. I'm glad you harbor no bitterness.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Harishprasad, thank you so much. This is why I write, to make a connection with my readers on a very human level.

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      What a wonderful hub you have created for all of us to savor. Really heartfelt and very soulful ! This is a very lovely and affectionate letter from you to your dear mother, each word so passionate. Bill, I loved reading such a great stuff. Voted up and shared.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Nancy, and I hope you one day can find your granddaughter. Some of us, quite frankly, are just lucky. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michelle, thank you so much. I understand what you are going through. It is not easy at all...I hope it becomes easier with time my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Kylyssa!

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      Nancy Carol Brown Hardin 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      It's odd to read this about your adoption billybuc, when I just finished editing my story about trying to find my granddaughter. It just struck me as I read your story, that I truly hope our little one was as lucky as you were and had a good, loving home. This is a beautiful story and I voted it all the way up. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt Hub.

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      Michelle Scoggins 3 years ago from Fresno, CA

      Hey Bill thanks for sharing a part of your life with us. I have no experience with adoption personally but have raised my husband's daughter and the relationship with her biological mother is not a positive one I hate to say. So I am glad that your experience with adoption was positive and has afforded you great wisdom.

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      Kylyssa Shay 3 years ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

      I think this is absolutely lovely.

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      Jaye Denman 3 years ago from Deep South, USA

      Bill - First...Happy Birthday to you! I'm confident your birth mother would have been proud of you.

      This is a beautiful letter to your birth mom, and your birthday is a good day for more people to read it. My own mother was adopted (her birth mother died when she was a baby), and she always felt that being chosen by parents was absolutely wonderful because the child knows she (or he) is truly loved. In her case, she was certain her birth mother also loved her, but that is probably true of many (perhaps most) adopted children. For whatever reason their birth mothers allowed them to be adopted, that decision was likely made from love.

      Voted Up++++

      Jaye

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Daisy!

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      Daisy Mariposa 3 years ago from Orange County (Southern California)

      Bill,

      Happy Birthday!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      OhMe, I am very happy for you and your adopted daughter. I love happy endings. :) Thank you for your kind words.

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 3 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      This is so beautiful and I certainly enjoyed reading your letter to your biological mother. Our daughter is adopted and her birth parents found her on Facebook. We have all become friends and it has been very positive for everyone. I know that is not always the case so very thankful that it worked out the way it did.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Alicia, thank you for sharing that lesson you learned, and for your kind words about this article. It took me a lifetime to learn what you have learned at a relatively early age. Good for you.

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      Alicia Alarco-Hernandez 3 years ago from Old Bridge, New Jersey

      I really enjoyed your article especially your video. The serenity prayer is one of my favorite prayers that I learned going to Al-Anon and has provided me with comfort. It's a working progress staying focus on myself and not worrying about my loved ones who I see falling but you said it well, we can only control ourselves and that takes all of our energy. I practice Let Go Let God. Thank you for sharing

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Kate! It's always nice to meet a fellow adoptee. :)

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      Kate Freelance 3 years ago

      I enjoyed this article. I can empathize and relate to an open letter to somewhere being adopted myself.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Nicholas! This was one I was hoping would have an impact on the lives of others.