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A Letter to My Kids
A Letter to My Kids
By Tony DeLorger © 2010
As a parent, you of course want only the best for your kids. You want them to succeed in life and above all find happiness and contentment. Apart from nurturing them, trying to be a worthy role model and guiding them through all the difficult landmarks of growing up, you can only hope that all you’ve taught them sticks.
Some years ago while writing a novel I had an idea to write a letter to each of my children. I would give it to them at a suitable age, hoping that it would somehow remain a legacy of my own experience and thoughts on life. If not fully grasped at the time, perhaps it would be later as their lives unfolded. I want to share that letter with you.
I have never been a particularly intelligent soul, at least if I am, I have shamefully under-utilised my potential. Anyway, as your adult lives unfold, I give you these thoughts to consider. They are but the conclusions of a being, that having stumbled through life, now has been afforded the opportunity of experience and dare I say with trepidation, wisdom.
Life is about choices. There are no right or wrong ones, just the resulting consequences. What we do with them is always up to us. Those choices then create new sets of consequences; thus life continues in a cycle of cause and effect.
Life of course always has a few surprises in store for us, some may call them predestined, karmic or whatever. But regardless of what is put before us in life, it is always our choices and their eventual consequences that determine the detailed blueprint of our unique lives. Blame therefore, is not a relevant concept.
Here on earth, we are given our little playground and I believe an omniscient eye is always watching over us with great interest and hope. But it is we alone, with our own hands that mould and shape our experiences; the importance lies in how we deal with them.
If one day, when your life is all but spent, someone comes up to you and asks..
‘If you had to do it all again, would you do anything differently?’
Say...NO! Because the mistakes we make in life, we make because we need their consequences. How we then respond, defines who we are. It is never what we do, but how we do it that is important.
Whatever has happened or will happen in this life, I want you to remember one thing. Each one of you, my children, have been the love, the joy and the purpose in my life, and will always be.
I hope these words find your heart and that you will be kind to yourself in life. May you be blessed with children as I have been and find true happiness, regardless of circumstance.
I love you.