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A Mother Can't Be A Father

Updated on September 6, 2013

A Mother Trying To Play Both Roles

There are times when a mother is forced to be everything to a child. It may be that she has divorced or separated or it could be that her spouse has died. What ever the case may be, she is forced to handle her part and some of the part of what her child's father. She can not be a father but she can be a pretty good mother. I think this is where mothers go wrong. They try to be both in the absence of a father. This causes them great frustration because inside they try buy they know that they can only be what they are, a mother. Mothers have great roles and fathers do as well. When we come to grips with the fact that we should be the best of who we are by staying in our own lane an appreciating each others role, then children will get what they need from the best of both worlds.

The Role of a Father in the Life of a Son

Fathers have a great role to play in the life of a son. I am a true believer that children will do what they see parents do. When they are born, parents are their first teachers. The fathers role is to be a good example that a son can follow. He should also teach his son how to be a gentleman by doing things like opening a door for a lady when she enters or exits out of a room, house, or building. Boys can also be shown basic things from a father like how to handle himself in ordinary everyday situations. A father can show a young boy how to survive and how to be a great provider for his family.

The Absence of a Father

The absence of a father is detrimental in the life of a boy. In some cases the son has been known to be too attached to his mother and in some cases may even have ways that are somewhat feminine. If the child does not have an older brother or maybe an uncle that he can look up to then he might even be confused and have no one to relate to. Maybe he plays sports and he sees his friends fathers there to support them but he does not have the same support. This can cause him to have low self esteem and definitely feel left out. The void of not having a father figure around can be very hard on a boy.

In some cases the child will even hang with the wrong crowds in order to feel that he fits in. This is why it is so important for fathers to be responsible even if he may be separated or divorced from the child's mom. The best way to keep children from involving themselves into much of what's going on in the streets in to be there to keep them out of the streets. By being present in the life of a child, parents automatically increase the child's self esteem. There is nothing worse than feeling that maybe there is something wrong with me because my father doesn't want me. There are children that actually feel this way. A child that is supported by a parent is in fact, a happier child.

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The Things a Mother Can't Teach a Son

About Sexual Feelings

Mothers can teach their sons many things but I think that all can agree that there are just some things that a mother can't teach a son. I absolutely do not feel that a mother can truly teach a son about sexual feelings that may occur once they get a certain age. I feel that only men can tell exactly what they are feeling. It is a conversation that mothers can have with their son but I really feel that this conversation would be a little bit easier coming from a father.

A Strong Male Role Model

Every male needs a strong male role model to look up to. Mothers can play a very important role in their sons life but as far as really showing a young man what it takes to me a man. I just do not think a woman can. I feel that there are just certain things that a woman just can not show a son like how to be masculine and how to conduct himself as a man. Women's perception of how men should think and act is totally different from how men really think. A woman can teach her son how she feels a man should be but a positive male influence can be the example that a young boy needs.

Girls Need A Father Figure Too!

A girl without a father when she is old enough to date can often get involved in relationships that are not good for her. Every father with a daughter should take the time to talk to his daughter about the warning signs of dating someone that is not good for her. He knows what to look for in a good man especially if he is a good man and treats her mother well. She can also look at how he treats her mother and allow that to determine how she should be treated in a relationship.

Some men are prone to mistreating a young woman if he knows that her father is not around. Having a father is a since of protection for not only the daughter but the son as well. Fathers can stand firm in shaping the outcome of many situations in his family.

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    • Afhak Armani profile image

      Afhak Armani 

      8 months ago from Pakistan

      good one

    • VictoriaSheffield profile imageAUTHOR

      Author Victoria Sheffield 

      5 years ago from Georgia

      Thanks so much for commenting!

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      Bill Holland 

      5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I was a single parent for a number of years...heck, I still am and my son is now 28 yrs old....it is a tough job for sure and the single parent never really can cover all the bases of two parents. Great points made here.

    • VictoriaSheffield profile imageAUTHOR

      Author Victoria Sheffield 

      5 years ago from Georgia

      You are absolutely right!

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      Devika Primić 

      5 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      It is difficult for one of the parents to play both roles a child needs both parents or someone to be there for them when needed interesting topic.

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