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A Mothers Lessons for her Children
They used to say ‘educate a woman and you educate a family’. It is strongly believed that mothers have the most influence on children while they are growing and while fathers have their important role in the upbringing, mum’s influence tends to overshadow dads.
Values, Lessons...growing up
We all try and do the best when it comes to imbibing values and helping our children grow into good human beings. Some lessons which can be taught (in no particular order of importance) while they are growing are –
1. Be respectful, practice good manners and chivalry, treat all as equal, and don’t discriminate.
2. Accept differences – in people, in backgrounds, in upbringing, in views, in cuisine, in traditions, in attire, life is all about the potpourri of people. Don’t shirk from those who look, speak and behave differently from you.
3. Read- keep yourself aware and up to date! Embrace knowledge and yearn for more. Be ready to learn at every stage of your life, it is a lifelong course.
4. Don’t lounge or sit around – get up, wash your face, brush your hair, get perky, have that spring in your step. Clap your hands and do it all for no reason!
5. Interact with positive people, mix with those who you look up to, and be humble to learn, be patient and calm. Be kind and gentle.
6. Travel – if you can afford to, see different places, wander, get out of your cocoon and comfort zone, see the world and experience its riches.
7. Be independent – learn to do everything yourself, fix that flat tyre, cook up the dinner, do the laundry, keep your house beautiful and clean, be mobile, know your finances and taxes – you’ll be a freer person and a happier one too!
8. Give to the less fortunate, donate with an open heart, be charitable, be kind to the poor and homeless.
9. Be thankful and say your daily prayers, realise that you have a lot for yourself in this life and not everybody is as lucky.
10. Share, communicate, speak it out, have family or friends with whom you can say anything without thinking.
11. Have a good laugh, take things lightly, brush aside negative comments and forget harsh words spoken by silly people.
12. Work hard, study well, be qualified and go for that career!
13. Learn to cook – else you’ll be frustrated. (hungry, eating junk and unhealthy)
14. Don’t procrastinate.
15. Have a variety of hobbies, life will present you times when things will be boring and everything will seem mundane. Pick up on a new interest when this happens.
Even when we try, children turn out sometimes very different from the way we expected them to. Life has a way of surprising parents when their very own off springs develop into contrasting personalities in spite of the fact that the home environment and teachings provided to all of them were the same.
But then those are some of the mysteries of life and complexities of human nature. As parents we can only try, what the children do with their lives and the personas they project is ultimately and solely their choice....